#internalized acephobia

[ace-culture-is]

Ace culture is seeing (former) online queer friends talking about aces as if they are just "spicy straight" who should stop complaining. Even worse for demi people. "Congratulations, you're just normal." Ugh, get fucked so hard.

The irony is that I have always had difficult considering myself queer to any degree, like it didn't feel like a word that applied to somebody who had such few consequences from their sexuality. And most of the bigotry against me has been other gatekeeping queer people. Fuckin' amazing.

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[suzukiblu]

Thank-you sentences for a dragon melon; "it's not fine anymore". (( chrono || non-chrono )) tw: internalized acephobia.

Kon ignores his phone all week, and definitely ignores the group chat. It’s not–it’s– 

He should just leave it, probably. Cassie and Tim and Bart are gonna want a just-them chat to, like, talk and plan dates and be cute and flirty and fucking sext in, probably, and–and he might as well just . . . just leave, and let them have that. 

Though they probably already made one anyway, given Tim’s whole general, like . . . Tim-ness, so really, it’s just that he doesn’t wanna . . . that he doesn’t know how to . . . 

He has to lie to them every time he sees them now. And there was–there was already stuff he wasn’t telling them, because like, fucking obviously there was or he never would’ve been included in Cassie and Tim’s dumb little adorable presentation thing, they would’ve just–just borrowed Bart for it and told him they’d talk to him later, or . . . or something like that. If they’d known, they wouldn’t–they wouldn’t have–

They wouldn’t have asked him for it, if they’d known. 

They wouldn’t have thought they wanted him, if they’d known.

[beesinspades]

something something ace people often being told they're not human for not experiencing sexual attraction and/or not wanting sex, something something vash seeing his sex-averse asexuality as yet another thing that makes him even more different from humans than he already is because of it

[aroaceconfessions]

i used to be so proud of my aroaceness, and i was so confident in it, but intrusive thoughts made me doubt myself and i tried getting in a relationship. it didnt end well. its almost a year later and he's still not over it and i feel horrible. i feel like i've regressed in my self acceptance. i wish i wasnt aroace. it would be so much easier.

Submitted July 10, 2023

[otoshigo]

Summary: Trying to thwart the political machinations of the upper echelons of Hell, Lucifer and Alastor enter into a mutual partnership. The boundaries get blurred over the course of a year as they continually have to work on 'making it work'. Nobody ever said that fake relationships would be easy.

A/N: I really enjoyed playing with the time jumps with this one. Kind of using en media res in order to reveal things slowly. Kind of like a mystery book. I also really enjoy examining relationships that may have more conflict but be more honest, and how that can actually be a good thing. ...In this case, way more conflict with these two.

[stopallsnowblind]

Because contributing to the Harry Potter fandom is leaving a bad taste in my mouth at the moment, here’s a little snippet from my much-neglected Stucky fic for WIP Wednesday:

CW for a bit of internalized acephobia

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“‘He may be my person, but, Nat, come on,’ Steve insists on a groan that somehow still manages to be a whisper. ‘There’s no way that I’m his. You know that, and you know why.’

Natasha narrows her eyes - she can’t stand the way Steve talks about himself at times like this. Like he’s broken. Unworthy. Unloveable.

Nothing could be further from the truth. But after years where versions of this same conversation have run them in circles, Natasha has nothing to say that he hasn’t heard and brushed aside many times over.

Still, she has to try. ‘No, I don’t know, Steve. Why don’t you tell me what you see, because it must be quite different from what I do.’

‘Natty,’ and, oh, he’s whining now. Because he knows she’s seeing exactly how scared he is, and how he’s using these same old excuses to hide from what he wants.

‘No, don’t do that,’ she insists. ‘It’s bad enough you’re hiding from Bucky, which will only hurt both of you in the long run, for the record. Don’t hide from me, too - you know I’m here forever, nothing you could say will change that.’

Steve murmurs, ‘You and your tough love,’ his blue eyes rolling in a way that should come off as sarcastic but is mostly just fond. ‘You’re right, you know you are. But I have so many limitations in what I can give him, Nat, and he deserves everything.’

Natasha’s heart clenches when she hears how his voice shakes on the last word, her hand flying up to wind a lock of hair around her fingers in an old anxious habit she had thought long broken. She may have asked for this conversation, but she doesn’t want to hurt him. She knows she could tell him all of the way in which he’s the best person she knows, how he deserves every good thing, but that’s never gotten her very far before.

So she tries a different track. ‘Has he told you that?’ Natasha asks with a confident raise of her eyebrows, so very sure that Bucky would never actually do so.

Just as she expects it to, the sadness on Steve’s face gives way to confusion. ‘Told me what?’

‘That you’re not enough,’ she retorts bluntly, lowering her gaze to examine her chipped manicure as if she doesn’t know exactly what kind of bomb she’s dropping. “He hasn’t mentioned, is he seeing someone else? Since he has all these needs you think you’re not meeting, surely he’s splitting his time between you and some other guy. Or gal? I don’t actually know if he has a preference, come to think of it.’

‘Nat, listen…’

‘No, you listen.’ Dropping the act, Natasha leans in to fix her best friend with her most piercing stare. ‘These assumptions you’re making, the conclusions you’re jumping to? They’re not based in fact at all, which would be bad enough even if you were only hurting yourself. But you’re also doing a massive disservice to Bucky by denying him the choice. Doesn’t he deserve to be able to decide for himself?’”

[dorklyelectric]

Asexuality is a funny thing trying to cope exist with

Sliding through the pipeline of turmoil like an ice rink baby

[newwwwusername]

Heartbreak High (Netflix Reboot) - Darren/Ca$h - Pride Month Prompt 18 : Internalized Acephobia

Prompt : In which either an asexual character struggles with internalized acephobia and either their partner or a friend helps them

Everything seemed fine.

Darren and Ca$h were just cuddling in bed. Darren wasn't making any moves to advance things anymore because the pair had worked past that.

Darren liked Ca$h for his personality. Sure, his looks helped, but if the boy didn't want to have sex, they weren't gonna force it, especially now knowing there was a word for what Ca$h was.

But the stillness made Ca$h want to cry.

"What's wrong?" Darren asked. They could tell something was off.

"I'm sorry I'm broken" he said and that's when the dam broke and suddenly Darren had a sobbing drug dealer in their arms.

"Hey, hey, hey" they tried to soothe, rubbing his back. "What's this about?"

"I'm sorry I can't give you what you want" he sobbed. "I know what you want and I don't- I don't know what's wrong with me"

"There's nothing wrong with you" Darren told him earnestly. Ca$h went still.

"That's not what you said before" he muttered and Darren winced.

"And I was wrong for that" Darren told him immediately. "And I'm sorry I said that. It was horrible and... Completely out of line, okay?" they asked, getting a weak nod in response. "You're not broken and there's nothing wrong with you. And I'm happy that I'm with you"

"Even though we don't have sex?"

"Even though we don't have sex" Darren nodded. Ca$h took a second and wiped away his tears.

"Sorry" he said, feeling a bit embarrassed for breaking down randomly like that. Darren smiled.

"Don't even start"

"I love you"

"I love you too, idiot"

Do not repost on other sites! If you want to participate in this month's challenge, there are 30 LGBT-centered prompts that you can find here

[shoe109]

Gamers I really hate being asexual. Like I get it’s internalized acephobia and I’ll have to work on it but this shit is not fun at all.

[ace-culture-is]

Acespec culture is constantly questioning whether you are "ace enough" and being afraid that you're just faking your whole experience then having a random conversation with allos that ends with them talking about their sex life and realising you don't feel the urge they seem to have to do the do or being weirded out by how normalised it is to talk about sexual experiences without the sex thing being a joke, thus realising the trueness of your aceness.

(This is not against sex favourable or positive aces, all aces are valid, I'm just explaining my experience to know if someone else has ever felt the same)

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[monkeyfishgirl]

Excited to report asexuality's finally made it big enough to draw the ire of rat king JK Rowling 🖤🩶🤍💜

[jeans-marrow]

Can we give it up for the one and only, Yasmin Benoit

As we were saying, you can't fight aphobia without fighting terfs.

Her first response to JK + The Tweet under the cut

[aroaceconfessions]

Aspec people are normal.

That's it. Done. There, I said it.

I won't tell you to "stop wishing that you could just be normal" or whatever. It doesn't affect me, and it's none of my business why you think that. Even though I disagree with you.

But — as far as I'm concerned — aspec people are normal if "normal" isn't just defined as a meaningless statistic, and we should all just collectively stop fucking pretending that it isn't.

It's normal as in perfectly healthy. It's normal as in not unnatural at all. It's normal as in "it's derogatory to call things abnormal for whatever reason so we aren't gonna do that".

And even if it weren't I would tell you that actually I don't want to be normal. I wouldn't want to be normal even if you fucking paid me. Go ahead, feel free to try.

Look. If you're aspec, and that's something about yourself that's actively causing you distress, then I'd advise you to maybe look into why that is. But don't pretend the rest of us are broken because of it. If you maintain that you are, you're saying so are we.

Take the time to reflect on exactly what you're saying about yourself, especially when it'd be applied to other people. If you wouldn't say it to another person sharing the same trait, then that means the negative thing doesn't apply to you either.

I hope putting it into perspective helped.

(Please stop, I promise you're okay.)

Submitted April 29, 2023

[castanea-tourn]

JK Rowling going on an anti-ace rant on international asexuality day was not on my 2025 bingo card but it honestly should have been

[a-little-ray-of-fantasy]

Hey, instead of listening to awful women judging us ace people as some sort of degenerates, it's best to focus the day on resting, staying with your friends and eating tons of garlic bread.

Garlic bread is the best weapon to use against such an awful attitude: you'll have a dragon breath that will scare it away.

And it's delicious any day, every day. :9

Signed: an awkward biromantic asexual person who loves garlic bread

[prince-liest]

It Begins (TM)

(Probably will edit and post intro chapter later tonight, then chapter two of two yet to be written but fairly outlined at some point in the future +^+ I've been wanting to write this one for a while.)