#its a spectrum

[itsaspectrumcomic]

As a writer, what are some elements that you would want to see included in a romance between a female autistic character and a male character (who grew up with a sister who is autistic? This is also a bit of a forbidden romance and I’m trying to plan this out well to be very respectful and good representation of the autistic community (idk if that’s the write phrasing so forgive me if I’m saying it wrong). I’ve already started research, but I just need maybe a few ideas/suggestions. thanks!!!

Firstly, remember that no autistic person is the same so his sister being autistic doesn't mean he'll know everything about it or what it's like to be autistic. It would be nice to see some representation of how different autistic people can be by showing differing traits in his sister and the female love interest - eg, differences in masking, different sensory issues, different ways they stim, different ways of enjoying special interests etc.

You could show her struggling with aspects of dating culture (going out to bars which are loud and overstimulating? No thanks) and taking things literally (eg, being asked if she wants to go for coffee and saying no because she doesn't like coffee when the guy is actually trying to ask her on a date.)

Show that she is liked for her autistic traits, not despite them. Maybe he likes that she's very honest, or enjoys listening to her talk about her special interests. Let her be a fully 3-dimensional character wither her own likes, dislikes, goals and interests, and try not to fall into stereotypes.

Definitely don't treat it as if he's some kind of hero for dating an autistic person or for 'dealing' with her autistic traits! Like with any disability, that would be very disrespectful. Also I hope the forbidden romance aspect isn't because she's autistic? I'd need to know more context to know how I feel about that.

If you're not autistic yourself, please do get a sensitivity reader who is, whether that's a friend or a professional.

Speaking of good autistic representation - have you seen the show Dinosaur that came out recently? It's about an autistic woman and her relationship with her sister who's getting married, and it has a storyline where she starts dating the guy at her coffee shop. I love how she was portrayed (she stims with her hands in exactly the way I do!) and it's very funny and warmhearted, plus the lead actress is autistic herself, so if you're looking for inspiration definitely check it out. It's on Hulu and BBC iPlayer :)

[iamshmolphrog]

cough cough, ahem.

AUTISM is not like THIS:

with the "bad" autism on one side and the "okay" autism on the other

AUTISM is like THIS:

A SPECTRUM! IT'S AUTISM SPECTRUM DISORDER!

[snowheartsz]

i think everyone keeps forgetting that aroace people can still have sex/fall in love, as oxymoronic as it sounds. aromantic/asexual-ness is a SPECTRUM!!! your favorite red-haired overlord can be a tumblr sexyman/fall in love and STILL be aroace

[garashir]

sorry not sorry but arthur morgan and dean winchester are the same character

[autism-4k-hd]

i love you people who have stereotypical autistic symptoms

i love you people who have non-stereotypical autistic symptoms

i love you people who have "high-functioning" autism

i love you people who have "low functioning" autism

i love you people who have issues masking

i love you people who are masking most of the time

i love you people who don't tell everyone about their autism

i love you people who tell everyone about their autism

i love you people who figured out later in life

i love you people who found out early on

i love you people who can't get a diagnosis for any reason

i love you people with "a little bit" of autism

i love you people with "a lot" of autism

i love you people with autism

[cyarskaren52]

There's a lot of going on over the Christmas season - it's understandable to get overwhelmed. Happy holidays and take care of yourself <3

[gods-favorite-exorcist]

Being both asexual and Hypersexual is so strange, cuz one day I'll be disgusted by the concept of kissing and the next day I'll be the horniest mf you'll ever meet

[xxalphaclownxx]

i am unwell i just watched all the nemma scene packs i could get my grubby little hands on and was just repeating ‘nemma’ over and over like it was gospel, progressively getting louder, and i think thats the shipping experience, no?

[hannaxjo]

headcanoning all my favs aromantic because why tf not

[i-never-grew-up]

Hehehehehehehehe I'm all stimmy hhegehehehehehwhqhwiqbev jqvsjalwkwbqjabwbwbw

[itsaspectrumcomic]

A 2pm appointment can take all day when you're autistic

[im-just-that-gay]

I'm not on a first name basis with my sexuality

[crazywolf828]

hi there! i was wondering if you could give me some help on my sexuality? I'm genderfluid. i am romantically and sexually attracted to men only when i have an emotional bond with them. however, i am sexually attracted to other genders regardless of an emotional bond, but i am not romantically attracted to other genders in any way. so i guess im demiromantic towards men and demisexual towards men - are there specific labels for this? im also only sexually attracted to non-men (*regardless of emotional connection*) - are there also labels for this? ty!

Oh anon you asked the wrong person for labels... Like I just recently learned what gnc stands for😅 but! I will say, while I don't know if there's an actual term for it (if any of my followers know feel free to tell me) but you could be demiromantic towards men, aromantic towards non-men, and at one point you say you are sexually attracted towards men (if you have a bond so demisexual) but then you say you're only sexually attracted to non men (making you asexual towards men).

I know all of that is super confusing, but everything you've described is congruent to the ace spec, so I highly recommend looking into different ace identities.

[sumechiayuu]

Bruh I remember back in like seventh grade this girl mentioned her autistic brother and I said “oh I have it too” and she said I was lying cuz I didn't act like her toddler brother. Girl, I did not go to speech therapy for years in school, get ostracized for being weird, struggled with social interactions, AND get diagnosed at 3 just for me to be accused of faking?

[sugasthreedollarkookie]

Alayna's Pride Celebration!!

Hello lovely people of my Tumblr, HAPPY MOTHERFUCKING PRIDE!!!

As a somewhat closeted (to the parents) bisexual woman I have decided that I will be hosting a celebration for pride month!

Rules

Only one emoji per ask, but ask away. Fr spam please!

Ask anon or as yourself

Don't spam same question in asks please.

All people are allowed, even if not following.

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🌈 - ask any question and I will answer honestly.

🦄 - give me your zodiac (big three if possible) and you favorite type of music and I will ship you w someone. Please specify gender preference and fandom!

🍎- games : would you rather, t or d, 20 questions, ect.

🍊 - ask this and give me a controversial topic and Ill let you know my opinion.

🍋- give me your name and I'll tell / show you what it reminds me of.

🍒 - send this with a storytime.

🍇- send this and a prompt/ idea and I'll write a short drabble. Specify who, pronouns, fandom. (see request info for list if not sure) and genre ( fluff, nswf, swf, ect)

🍉 : give me some stuff about you I'll give you a song that it reminds me of. And / or song recs + the aesthetic and vibe you give off

Some gorgeous moots : @n0agranger @georgeweasleylol @georgeweasleysdarling @numbfory0u @george-fabian-weasley @georgeandiareinparis111 @harrypotterandthefandomaccount @hogwartscastle @halloweenskellington @jung-koook @jigglypuffsvevo @love-me-a-good-prompt @like-fairy-tales @lunar-witches

[ktchen]

Do we have any factives? No. Do we have fictives that are introjects of fictional characters /and/ real people? Ya