#neuroticism

[wanderingmind867]

I don't want to be neurotic or insecure or anything, but I'm worrying nobody (or next to nobody) has seen my posts. And that's upsetting, because I've probably made at least 5-6 new posts today. So for my own peace of mind, can you tell me that you've seen my posts today. At least people saw them will make me a tiny bit better. I'll probably still end up wishing my posts had more notes, leading to me futilely reposting the same thing over and over. That seems to be a trend with me.

[theemotionmachine]

The Big 5 Personality Traits: A Framework for Understanding Our Differences

Dive into the Big 5 Personality Traits to gain a better understanding of human personality and individual differences. Discover how characteristics like Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism shape who we are and the choices we make in life.

Learn more here!

[eelhound]

"To attack gentleness is an unnamed crime that our era often commits in the name of its divinities: efficiency, speed, profitability. We try to make it desirable, exchangeable, institutionalizable, so that it does not upset everything. We kill gentleness with gentleness. We make it into a contaminated drug, the need for which is inculcated in us.

The Dostoyevsky of The Brothers Karamazov summons gentleness in the scene of 'The Grand Inquisitor.' The Inquisitor knows that no one can bear Christ's return; he will therefore take upon himself the decision to condemn. Christ never departs for a moment from his gentleness, and it is that alone that defeats the power and the certainty of the Inquisitor. It comes to convert the forces of mortification, opening another path to the truth other than terror. Humans do not want the freedom that you offer them, says the Grand Inquisitor to Christ; I, who am conscious of this, offer myself as a sacrifice to that freedom, depriving them of it and taking the full burden. Humans prefer servitude; they want to be guided and discharged from the exorbitant choice of their existence.

We see here that Freud had read Dostoyevsky, for what else does the obsessional neurotic do if he doesn't avoid at all costs paying the price of a freedom that he does not want? As often in Dostoyevsky, it is on the edges of baseness, betrayal, violence that gentleness becomes revealing. The beings who lavish gentleness are suffused with it like a fever that contaminates their interlocutors far from their usual territories. In their incapacity to be in the world otherwise than in this failure appears an unprecedented relationship to freedom. Because gentleness appears first as a failure. It infringes all the rules of social etiquette. The beings who demonstrate it are sometimes resisters, but they do not carry on the fight where it usually takes place. They are elsewhere. As incapable of betraying as they are of betraying themselves, their power comes from an act that is always a way of being in the world. And the passion that arises from it comes from the emotion that only gentleness may liberate: it is another living."

- Anne Dufourmantelle, from Power of Gentleness: Meditations on the Risk of Living, 2018.

[leonelmolinari]

Gray

Neurotic is my favorite song of his week lol

The middle part where he does his long notes it's kinda... Sad? Like he's letting out all his anger by crying or smth, and idk it's kinda sad TvT

But it kinda makes sense, Neuroticism is a dimension of vulnerability or emotional sensitivity that predisposes the person to be more emotionally unstable, especially in the face of negative emotions. These people experience emotional pain in an excessive way.

And it starts with the lack of emotional support or exposure to traumatic events during childhood.

[spaceylittleprince]

Neuroticism-Oil Pastel on Paper

[theproblematicpessimist]

the only way to live is to almost die every day.

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[rchetypal]

“But despite our individual consciousness it unquestionably continues to exist as the collective unconscious—the sea upon which the ego rides like a ship. For this reason also, nothing of the primordial world of the psyche has ever been lost. Just as the sea stretches its broad tongues between the continents and laps them round like islands, so our original unconsciousness presses round our individual consciousness. In the catastrophe of mental disease the storm-tide of the sea surges over the island and swallows it back into the depths. In neurotic disturbances there is at least a bursting of dikes, and the fruitful lowlands are laid waste by flood. Neurotics are all shore-dwellers—they are the most exposed to the dangers of the sea. So-called normal people live inland, on higher, drier ground, near placid lakes and streams. No flood however high reaches them, and the circumambient sea is so far away that they even deny its existence. Indeed, a person can be so identified with his ego that he loses the common bond of humanity and cuts himself off from all others.”

Excerpt From Collected Works of C.G. Jung, Volume 10: Civilization in Transition Jung, C. G., Hull, R. F.C., Adler, Gerhard.

[solliewriter]

All the Monsters

Monsters are your worst fears manifested into a single creature. It is the thing which hides within all of us. It haunts our nightmares and transforms our daily activity with its shadow. Someone once said, Honesty is good, all the while stabbing knives into your back. Ever since then, you’ve always smiled and whispered “It’s fine” while feeling the scars tug your skin. Someone once said, What’s…

[unimatrix-420]

We are presently dealing with the accumulation of a whole society that has worshiped its light side and refused the dark, and this residue appears as war, economic chaos, strikes, racial intolerance. The front page of any newspaper hurls the collective shadow at us. We must be whole whether we like it or not; the only choice is whether we will incorporate the shadow consciously and with some dignity or do it through some neurotic behavior.

-- Robert A. Johnson, Owning Your Own Shadow

[ablueorangeintheocean]

The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock

T. S. ELIOT

S’io credesse che mia risposta fosse A persona che mai tornasse al mondo, Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse. Ma percioche giammai di questo fondo Non torno vivo alcun, s’i’odo il vero, Senza tema d’infamia ti rispondo.

Let us go then, you and I,

When the evening is spread out against the sky

Like a patient etherized upon a table;

Let us go, through certain half-deserted streets,

The muttering retreats

Of restless nights in one-night cheap hotels

And sawdust restaurants with oyster-shells:

Streets that follow like a tedious argument

Of insidious intent

To lead you to an overwhelming question ...

Oh, do not ask, “What is it?”

Let us go and make our visit.

 In the room the women come and go

Talking of Michelangelo.

 The yellow fog that rubs its back upon the window-panes,

The yellow smoke that rubs its muzzle on the window-panes,

Licked its tongue into the corners of the evening,

Lingered upon the pools that stand in drains,

Let fall upon its back the soot that falls from chimneys,

Slipped by the terrace, made a sudden leap,

And seeing that it was a soft October night,

Curled once about the house, and fell asleep.

 And indeed there will be time

For the yellow smoke that slides along the street,

Rubbing its back upon the window-panes;

There will be time, there will be time

To prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet;

There will be time to murder and create,

And time for all the works and days of hands

That lift and drop a question on your plate;

Time for you and time for me,

And time yet for a hundred indecisions,

And for a hundred visions and revisions,

Before the taking of a toast and tea.

 In the room the women come and go

Talking of Michelangelo.

 And indeed there will be time

To wonder, “Do I dare?” and, “Do I dare?”

Time to turn back and descend the stair,

With a bald spot in the middle of my hair —

(They will say: “How his hair is growing thin!”)

My morning coat, my collar mounting firmly to the chin,

My necktie rich and modest, but asserted by a simple pin —

(They will say: “But how his arms and legs are thin!”)

Do I dare

Disturb the universe?

In a minute there is time

For decisions and revisions which a minute will reverse.

 For I have known them all already, known them all:

Have known the evenings, mornings, afternoons,

I have measured out my life with coffee spoons;

I know the voices dying with a dying fall

Beneath the music from a farther room.

               So how should I presume?

 And I have known the eyes already, known them all—

The eyes that fix you in a formulated phrase,

And when I am formulated, sprawling on a pin,

When I am pinned and wriggling on the wall,

Then how should I begin

To spit out all the butt-ends of my days and ways?

               And how should I presume?

 And I have known the arms already, known them all—

Arms that are braceleted and white and bare

(But in the lamplight, downed with light brown hair!)

Is it perfume from a dress

That makes me so digress?

Arms that lie along a table, or wrap about a shawl.

               And should I then presume?

               And how should I begin?

 Shall I say, I have gone at dusk through narrow streets

And watched the smoke that rises from the pipes

Of lonely men in shirt-sleeves, leaning out of windows? ...

 I should have been a pair of ragged claws

Scuttling across the floors of silent seas.

 And the afternoon, the evening, sleeps so peacefully!

Smoothed by long fingers,

Asleep ... tired ... or it malingers,

Stretched on the floor, here beside you and me.

Should I, after tea and cakes and ices,

Have the strength to force the moment to its crisis?

But though I have wept and fasted, wept and prayed,

Though I have seen my head (grown slightly bald) brought in upon a platter,

I am no prophet — and here’s no great matter;

I have seen the moment of my greatness flicker,

And I have seen the eternal Footman hold my coat, and snicker,

And in short, I was afraid.

 And would it have been worth it, after all,

After the cups, the marmalade, the tea,

Among the porcelain, among some talk of you and me,

Would it have been worth while,

To have bitten off the matter with a smile,

To have squeezed the universe into a ball

To roll it towards some overwhelming question,

To say: “I am Lazarus, come from the dead,

Come back to tell you all, I shall tell you all”—

If one, settling a pillow by her head

               Should say: “That is not what I meant at all;

               That is not it, at all.”

 And would it have been worth it, after all,

Would it have been worth while,

After the sunsets and the dooryards and the sprinkled streets,

After the novels, after the teacups, after the skirts that trail along the floor—

And this, and so much more?—

It is impossible to say just what I mean!

But as if a magic lantern threw the nerves in patterns on a screen:

Would it have been worth while

If one, settling a pillow or throwing off a shawl,

And turning toward the window, should say:

               “That is not it at all,

               That is not what I meant, at all.”

 No! I am not Prince Hamlet, nor was meant to be;

Am an attendant lord, one that will do

To swell a progress, start a scene or two,

Advise the prince; no doubt, an easy tool,

Deferential, glad to be of use,

Politic, cautious, and meticulous;

Full of high sentence, but a bit obtuse;

At times, indeed, almost ridiculous—

Almost, at times, the Fool.

 I grow old ... I grow old ...

I shall wear the bottoms of my trousers rolled.

 Shall I part my hair behind?   Do I dare to eat a peach?

I shall wear white flannel trousers, and walk upon the beach.

I have heard the mermaids singing, each to each.

 I do not think that they will sing to me.

 I have seen them riding seaward on the waves

Combing the white hair of the waves blown back

When the wind blows the water white and black.

We have lingered in the chambers of the sea

By sea-girls wreathed with seaweed red and brown

Till human voices wake us, and we drown.

Source: Collected Poems 1909-1962 (1963)

[wanderingmind867]

The one thing I think I could legitimately see myself wanting to do if I had any political clout whatsoever: I'd seek to censor Scary Material. Maybe not outright ban it, but make it so much easier for people who hate it to avoid it. I'm talking abilities to completely hide scary things from your vision when you're online, I'm talking banning it from all the main cable channels, I'm talking about finding ways to minimise the damage horror can do to people with sensitive nerves. In some ways, it sounds like I'm saying horror should be kind of treated similarly to how people treat stuff like porn. And I guess I kind of am. If sexually explicit material is blocked by parental controls and isn't allowed to be seen on the airwaves, then horror shouldn't be either. It's as simple as that.

[llarryysblog]

How to cope with shame

Based on an article from psyche.co

https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-cope-with-shame-by-understanding-where-it-comes-from

• Given my history and what I know about myself, does it make sense that I would feel this way? and Given this, what would be helpful for me right now?

• Are there other ways to think about this? Am I making any sweeping generalisations about myself right now? Am I labelling myself in one specific, overly simplistic way?

• see if you can tap into the compassionate self

• Recognise shame as it arises in your life

• Understand the origins of your shame

• Try writing yourself a self-compassionate letter

• Acknowledge the different parts of yourself that are present

• Share in the context of safe relationships

[monotremer]

Sometimes I get so enthusiastic when I'm writing fanfic that I go on autopilot and stay up all night, think I’ve edited decently despite my sleep deprivation, and then just kinda post it as is and fail to catch a veritable ton of typos and accidental word omissions or just generally dodgy, overly repetitious words and phrases until I check later...and when I identify them, I freak out and worry I've somehow ruined my reputation and I frantically rush to fix them, even though I can be quite certain the only one realistically bothered by any of this is me XD Then I remember I can just make the (true) statement that I have ADHD and all is forgiven...or is it? o__O :P (My OCD is very bad at forgiving the results of my ADHD and my brain is a maelstrom of non-constructive self-critical nonsense!)

[sidebpoet]

i fear ive put immense pressure on myself to make all my movements and thoughts poetic or meaningful. everything i do must reach a certain standard of neuroticism for it to feel significant or worthy of doing. i’ve pushed myself into the bell jar.

[bwhitex]

Personality and Cognitive Quotients: Insights from Psychology

Introduction

The relationship between personality traits and mental abilities has been a central theme in psychology, offering understanding into how individual differences affect behavior and performance. Traditionally, intelligence was narrowly defined as the ability to reason logically, plan systematically, and solve problems quickly – typically measured by IQ tests. Multiple Intelligences Theory by Howard Gardner enlarged this notion by suggesting that there are many types of intelligences such as linguistic, logical-mathematical, spatial, musical, bodily-kinesthetic, interpersonal intrapersonal and naturalistic intelligences among others. This broader perspective points out that intellect is not one thing but a multitude of skills indicative of diverse ways people interact with their environment; thus far research has continued to dwell on these issues as well as relationships between Big Five Personality Traits namely Openness Conscientiousness Extraversion Agreeableness Neuroticism with different dimensions of intelligence also social functioning.

Openness to Experience and Curiosity Quotients

Closely related to openness is curiosity which can be measured using Curiosity Quotient (CQ) that describes an individual’s thirst for information or desire for novelty. According to von Stumm et al., (2011), intellectual curiosity – a major component of Openness has been found to significantly contribute towards academic achievement even beyond traditional cognitive abilities. Such curiosity encourages learners’ deep involvement with content leading higher level cognitive investments while at the same time enhancing creative problem solving skills. In other words it implies those who are open minded not only accept new ideas but also tend explore them more thereby widening their knowledge base and improving various aspects of thinking.This finding suggests therefore that fostering curiosity should be seen as strategy for promoting intellectual growth hence educational institutions should create environments which nurture investigative learning through asking questions.

Agreeableness Social Intelligence (EQ)

Agreeableness is characterized by empathy cooperation trust etc., all these traits have strong relationships with Emotional Intelligence (EQ). For instance Nusbaum and Zuroff (2017) conducted a meta-analysis which showed that higher levels of agreeableness were associated with greater emotional awareness as well better interpersonal skills. This implies that individuals who score highly on Agreeableness are more likely to be good at reading other people’s moods while also being skilled in dealing with them appropriately within social settings – thus this ability may help one succeed both personally professionally. Additionally having such an attribute means being able to understand others’ emotions easily hence it enhances communication abilities thereby promoting conflict resolution.

  Research Associations Between Neuroticism, Stress, and Agreeableness

Neuroticism is strongly correlated with stress sensitivity where many studies have shown that people high in neuroticism tend perceive daily events or situations more stressful than those low in neurosis. Moreover, it has been observed that individuals scoring at extreme ends of this trait dimension exhibit different patterns coping style when faced by same stressors; indeed high scorers often respond through negative affectivity such anxiety fear sadness etc., whereas their counterparts express positive feelings like joy excitement happiness. Furthermore apart from heightened reactivity towards negative aspects life due inability regulate emotions properly these individuals also take longer recover from adverse experiences resulting prolonged periods characterized by increased anxiousness along with further maladaptive behaviors aimed reducing stress levels.Research has established close relationship between these two variables so much so

On the other hand, EQ usually correlates negatively with neuroticism. Emotional regulation and awareness necessary for EQ are often compromised at higher levels of Neuroticism. People with high neurotic symptoms may find it difficult to understand or manage their own feelings as well as misinterpret others’ emotional signals hence affecting their social interactions adversely.

Neuroticism and Agreeableness integrated within EQ

It should be noted that when both agreeableness and neuroticism are considered along with each other in relation to emotional intelligence (EI); there can be complex interactions between these two personality traits towards EI. For example; an individual who is highly agreeable as well as very neurotic might have empathy skills on one hand but also fear evaluations or conflicts arising from such relationships due to extreme worry about them being maintained harmoniously thus creating mixed self management abilities where this person has good interpersonal skills but lacks stress coping strategies.

Conclusion

In conclusion, while it is true that agreeableness positively correlates with Emotional Intelligence (EQ) leading better understanding of others’ emotions and more improved relationship building; generally neurosis undermines this concept by making regulation process too complicated thereby impeding ability to cope up with stress among individuals having different levels of these traits. Such understandings are important because they help people design interventions which maximize benefits derived from being highly agreeable while minimizing negative impacts associated with high levels of Neuroticism in various areas like personal growth or professional development programs.However, combination does not always equal so; therefore we should know that there is no neat equation between them but rather a significant interplay between these components which greatly shapes individual’s emotional intelligence profile.

The study into how personality affects cognitive ability measures provides us with insights about human behaviour and potentiality. Such understanding enables educators come up personalized educational plans which cater for diverse personalities alongside intellectual capabilities. By recognizing strengths inherent within each personality type employers can create an environment conducive for optimal job performance while fostering good relations among employees. Ultimately this knowledge equips people to devise more inclusive strategies aimed at personal growth both at social dimensions such as friendship building or self awareness levels.Thus it can be said that the interrelationship between personality and intelligence is critical in our quest for success.

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[apollolewis]

Sometimes I really hate the way I am, to me things need to be in a specific order and be done in a specific order. The best example I can use is whenever I make something in a pan either cupcakes, brownies or a sheet cake the pieces have to be taken out in order horizontally. I will not be able to function if someone doesn’t follow this order. I’ve told my sibling this and they don’t, what a empath they are.