#queer woman help

[nocturna-iv]

PLEASE READ AND REBLOG‼️

I was recently in a car accident. I'm fine, luckily, trying to get out of the car I fell on my arm and for now, my wrist is swollen but I hope it's nothing serious. But my car ended up unrecognizable. In addition, the accident occurred when I was alone, and a couple of policemen forced me to pay them $300 so as not to arrest me with false accusations. I don't know if the insurance will cover everything because it was a terrible crash and maybe a total loss...

I'm in serious need of help. I'm a queer Latina and a writer. Currently, I don't have a permanent job and this totally took me out of my financial stability. I don't know what to do and I'm desperate.

If you can help me in any way possible, I would appreciate it. Believe me, in this situation a dollar could help me to have something to eat tomorrow.

If you can share this, I would really appreciate it.

P*ypal: Here

KoFi: Here

[briarrolfe]

Our 78 year old Italian neighbour Josie might not remember my name, and may never get my pronouns right, but the thing is: We Are Besties and I am totally obsessed with her. She blasts disco music 24 hours a day. She chain smokes. She is so obsessed with Vegemite that she cut a holiday visiting family back home short because she was seized by Cravings. She took her first ever selfie with me. She flirts with my fiancé. Once I had to rescue her from her finding a lizard in her toaster. She drinks her first coffee of the day at like 4 am. Recently she told me “if anyone tries to take you away from me… I will kill them” with total seriousness and I fully reciprocate it. She is a constant source of chaos in our lives. I would do anything for her and I love her with all my heart

[angel-archivist]

It's so interesting and so exceedingly frustrating how agab is being utilized now within the queer community as a way to isolate and sort nonbinary and genderqueer folks into binary boxes that determine their moral purity levels, and their authority to do and write and exist.

The way nonbinary writers are being put under accusation of fetishizing gay men while their AGAB is continually brought up in a way that feels like queer-space-approved misgendering.

The way feminist circles that are supposedly trans-inclusive will use the word AFAB in a way that implicitly but intentionally isolates nonbinary people who aren't AFAB from joining. It's for women*.

The way the language is already flawed and leaves out intersex folks from the conversations while focusing on a binary of sex that isn't truthful.

The constant obsessing over whether someone is AFAB or AMAB and whether or not that gives them the privilege to join, do, write, or be present in certain spaces really really concerns me. How are we supposed to dismantle a binary system of gender if we can't even move past forcibly assigning and focusing on people's genders assigned at birth?

[tuxado]

I've been friends with this trans girl girl for like 7 months now and I've been helping her make it through with her transition and understanding the new girl things the best I can at my age. But I really really really need some ways to get her into accepting she's cute. Cuz she really is I just don't think I'm doing a good enough job with making her happy.

[transboysoprano]

Sometimes I feel like I'm not trans enough because I didn't constantly fantasize about being the opposite sex when I was a kid. I recall moments of nameless gender envy and subtle mental rejections of my assigned gender, but I didn't "always know" like is sometimes expected of us.

But then I remember that now that I do know I'm trans, I really really do. Every moment I fantasize about having been born in a different body. It's not that I wasn't trans then, it's that I didn't know I had the option. Why would I make myself sad with thinking about what I can never have? Now that I know it's an attainable dream, I think I'm making up for lost time. And it makes me so happy to daydream about it that I know I can't be cis.

[twilight-skies]

Starting to think I’m closer to halfway between female and nonbinary than I thought…

[gardensprincess]

I feel really gross and fat. I want attention

[lgbtlunaverse]

Modern au genderqueer nmj but they talk about it in a way that makes them sound transphobic. What he means is "I use any pronouns/honorifics and I don't have a preference" what she says is "Oh I don't care about that stuff. Don't know why people make such a big deal out of it. 🙄"

[femninedelusions]

She’s so boyfriend and she’s so baby girl and I love her so much

[monorayjak]

I... it's getting hard to live like this. Hiding who I am to so many people. It hurts. I wrote a thing earlier today and I felt I summed up the feeling pretty well I think, reworded a bit to sound better:

"It feels like torturous self harm to be fully aware of who I am and yet imprison myself in a fortress of a false identity that's slowly caving in around me."

What I'm getting at here... I think... I think it might be time for me to come out to some people...and I really need some advice.

As of now, only four people IRL know about me, that's my therapist, my cousin (who was genuinely more like a sister to me), a friend at college (I knew they were extremely supportive and they had no connection to other people I know, so it seemed like a safe bet to tell her (I was right)), a friend I interacted with occasionally in high school who has since come out as trans herself (actually what got me to message her, saw her online and wanted to ask so I didn't misgender her or anything, and we got talking and I quickly realized she'd understand.)

At the moment, I'm still living with my mom, which is fine, I know she'll support me in her own way (she's queer herself, she has internalized issues, but she tries). I know my university I go to, despite having once been a "christian college," have opened up and been supportive of most of the students who do come out in one way or another. I know at least a few of the professors there who are absolutely trying to be supportive to everyone to the best of their abilities. My therapist knows, as mentioned before, but he is also... well, he ain't exactly a pro with gender and sexuality stuff (still a good guy, he just messes up what he's talking about here and there, like using masculine pronouns when he talks about a transwoman (largely I think its because he usually talks about them when they first started transitioning, and I don't think he thinks about gendering them correctly in reference to them coming out... if that makes any sense).

The issues... well, for one, I live in the bible belt. My extended family (who we are finally trying to cut ourselves off from now that the only think holding us together (my grandmother) is gone) lives all around me and the majority of them are.........well lets just say they really don't like my mom being gay, and one of them bullied a kid he was fostering because, in his words, "the kid's a fucking sissy!" Yeah... not a fan of that uncle. (In related news I am genuinely afraid of that man because he is very fucking clearly not mentally stable and has talked about killing himself and others before (while preaching at church!) and he is... really aggressive and has access to guns) I'm too poor to even consider leaving the state, and with... well frankly I'm a bit of a fuckup who really can't live on their own... yeah... fun times. Insurance may cover parts of things, but... honestly I don't even fucking know. Like I said, I know my mom will try to support me, but she is also... well, how do I say this? She tends to not know how to react to stuff. A large reason I don't talk about stuff with her is that she has a habit of turning it around into something about herself (not in a manipulative way, mind you. I just think she doesn't realize why it feels bad to tell her something like this and then have her break down a bit because I didn't tell her sooner or because she didn't work it out herself or anything like that). Basically, if I tell her, its either going to go one of two ways.

She reacts negatively and turns it around about herself and takes the moment to be hurt she didn't work things out or that I didn't tell her. (Literally once opened up to her when I was little (like 11?) about how much I hated myself... she said the next day she spent the entire night crying because she thought she failed... I understand what she was going for, but, honestly not something you should tell your kid who just opened up. Practically had it ingrained internally "If I feel bad, hide it. Because my mom will be devastated by it.")

She goes too supportive and expects me to be willing to open up immediately. Basically just forgetting she can't push me into being out and honest because it takes time to work up the courage.

Both of these options are... iffy. To say the least.

[evankinard]

the gay agenda is desentisizing my mom to gay people by showing her 9-1-1 episodes with all the queer characters where she can't help but like them and root for them

[stuffydollband]

Hey y’all! Your favorite trans, disabled, and kinda grumpy musician’s laptop seems to have finally given up the ghost, if anyone wants to donate toward getting me a new one so I can keep making music and writing and doing pretty much everything that I do other than taking silly little walks in the sun and annoying my neighbors

Venmo is JupiterZirkua

Also hey, ya don’t have to just donate! I’ve got soooooo much music available on Bandcamp that you can purchase too

[darby-draws]

💥🚨 New characters alert! 🚨💥

Darla and I quick designed a big friend group for Felipe! He's always hanging around different crowds of people, and we started to blend the General Menace squad with this friend group. But... We knew almost nothing about them exactly and it was hard to envision them! So we hopped into the sims and made 6 characters to split up between us! These are my three, Soren, Genesis, and Axel! (I just met them and I already love them so so much)

[vizthedatum]

My beautiful friend who has literally been there for me through some hard times earlier this year is going through some extremely hard times right now.

Please donate or share, if you can.

Copied from GoFundMe:

“… is a poor houseless trans woman in Pittsburgh, PA who recently got into an car accident in the car she was going to use as a home. The car is uninsured, the inspection is expired, the registration is expired, the front tires are bald, and now the front end is damaged. She needs money to get the car out of tow, repair it, make it street legal, as well as money for first months rent and deposit on an apartment. She is working part time but these expenses are far outside her reach to recover from. Any and all support is appreciated.”

[wanderous-widow]

I look like my avatar. I identify as a genderqueer woman.

If an answer with multiple names wins I'll do a second poll with those names.

PLEASE RB AND WRITE IN THE TAGS OF YOU THINK OF MORE COOL NAMES

[fairmerthefarmer]

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