#shadowwork healing

[moonhedgegarden]

Shadow Work Questions for BIPOC

✨How have societal expectations and stereotypes influenced your self-perception?

✨ In what ways have you internalized historical or systemic injustices, and how does it manifest in your daily life?

✨ Are there aspects of your identity or experiences that you may be avoiding or suppressing?

✨ How has the concept of “respectability politics” shaped your behavior and choices?

✨ Reflect on instances where you may have internalized prejudices or biases. How do they impact your relationships and worldview?

✨ How do you navigate code-switching, and what impact does it have on your authenticity?

✨ Consider experiences of intergenerational trauma within your family. What are its influences on your beliefs and behaviors?

✨ Reflect on any internalized messages about success, worth, and beauty. How do they shape your goals and self-esteem.

✨ Are there parts of your heritage or cultural identity that you may have neglected or rejected? Why?

✨ How do you handle and express anger, particularly in response to systemic issues or personal challenges?

“I am powerful. I am valuable. I am a force for positive change.”

[isleep-ingraves]

Hey, uh, shadow work community, could I get some advice?

I've been doing more shadow work as a part of my journaling for therapy. My goal for starting therapy again was to work on healing the trauma I have never properly addressed.

It's been really good and really healing.

My question though, is how do you remain kind and gentle to yourself during this process?

I feel like I'm sort of in the, "it's me, hi, I'm the problem," phase. And I had a very large and intense reflective realization today.

With this has ushered in a bit of self hatred.

I want this to be useful and productive, and I know it won't be if I don't find a way to be kinder to myself through this.

Do y'all have any thoughts/ideas/etc?

[thescorpionmonarch]

When it comes to parenting the inner child, you will make mistakes. That doesn't mean you are a bad self parent.

Your perfectionism with parenting the inner child to such a high regard and getting upset at yourself for not achieving that goal or not having the right info how to parent yourself is what makes you feel like you are crap at parenting the inner child.

You should feel like your inner child deserves the best self parenting that you may not have gotten. That's great, but I'm not sure it'll be that useful to attack yourself for mistakes in the process of learning how to do that.

You are just highly sensitive towards your inner child's needs. That's not a bad thing. Just don't let mistakes eat at you or make you feel like giving up or self sabotaging. You'll have another chance to improve at. Take breaks as needed. Then come back to it.

[lunarosetarot]

There’s beauty in the depths of your pain if you allow yourself to see it. To experience your heart yanked from behind your rib-cage, and still manage to catch your breath again

If not for the lows, how would we feel the highs? The duality of human existence is what allows us to fully embrace each for what they’re worth. If nothing, to remind us of our strength.

To be gutted, yet still remain whole. To be crushed, and still rise again, to feel as if life itself is ending, and still continue to live.. that’s beauty. It is through our emotions we experience the full spectrum of life, that is death and rebirth. Pain in life is guaranteed, but you can find the beauty in it. That’s up to you.

[artekosm]

There's many people I want to cut out from my life, am I self sabotaging or are they actually a bad influence on my mental health?

I have two different voices telling me

1 voice: Cut out almost everybody, focus on your personal growth, meet new people and change place!

2 voice: They are souls like you, you came from the same source, they are just reflecting different parts of yourself, mirroring in order for you to heal.

there's actually a third one;

You are the creator of your own reality so once you focus on your healing, change your mindset and raise your frequencies they gonna disappear automatically from your life, problem solved..(?)

help

[welcometomybrain818]

Scenes from a breakup part II

I went to Portland with C. Before flying, I felt fine not contacting you. I thought I was healed. I thought I was moving on. But I am nostalgic and soft, and Portland makes me think of you and the sweeter moments we had together. I wanted to contact you, but I knew it wasn’t a good idea for me. I wanted to contact you so badly, my fingers twitched. I thought about running into you and what I would say. I saw cars that looked like yours and they would pass and I would worry you’d seen me. That you’d be mad. Or sad. Or worse, passive. Numb. I didn’t want you to be numb. I wanted you to feel the extent of your feelings. I wanted you to be free. The trip was really lovely all in all, and it helped me process more. And I am grateful to C. I will always be grateful to C for supporting me through all of this. She makes me believe in true friendship. 

I posted some writing to my Instagram story and you saw it. I alluded to the idea that we were incompatible, which you absolutely know is true. You were the one who flagged it! I was willing to ignore it! To ignore all of my needs! To sacrifice so much of myself. Maybe that’s why you don’t see it, because I was so willing to shrink myself for you. You texted me to “check in”. We had a somewhat difficult exchange where I tried to be gentle and honest about my experience and you didn’t take it well. It was really hard for me to say anything to you, truthfully. To advocate for myself and speak my needs. It is still an uncomfortable practice. You sent me a flippant message, unwilling to express your experience or take on our ending and I could feel the malice in your words even if, to an onlooker they appeared benign. Later that day I was high and I saw you’d chosen to text me after all. I burst into tears because I thought the message was nice. Of course, I wasn’t entirely lucid. In my lucidity I could see how different our perspectives really were. How little responsibility you wanted to take for how you made me feel. 

I was on a third-ish date. It was a birthday party on a roof with strangers, which I always find fun. I brought my friend M with me. We were having fun and then my date offered me shrooms. I am normally quite intentional with substances, but this evening I had a sort of “fuck-it-all” attitude about things and figured a small amount wouldn’t hurt. I ended up having a full-on trip that started in a room full of strangers. It freaked me out. I lay on my dates’ bed with him and it was clear we were mentally in very different places. He was present in the room and I was off somewhere seeing wild visuals with my eyes closed, trying to figure out how to leave. At one point he held me very tightly against his chest and put his mouth on my nose. He made a popping noise that I found quite unpleasant. He expressed how much he liked me and I expressed how much I needed to go home. So he waited with me and I got into a Lyft. The entire time I was in the Lyft, I couldn’t stop thinking about you. About how much I missed you and needed to speak to you. I knew you’d know how to save me. So I called you and you were obviously very surprised but willing to help me. But your phone was low on battery and you had to drive home from somewhere far away so you couldn’t stay with me. You said you’d call me when you got home and sent me tips and music recommendations which was nice of you. I was extremely apologetic about reaching out because I knew I had violated an unspoken boundary. My trip was unproductive and existential. I was reckoning with the fact that I was ultimately alone and nobody could actually save me or make me feel saved. I waited until 3 AM for you to call me and eventually you texted me that we could talk but that you needed to “text the boys” first. This broke me. This tore me apart. Why did you say that? Why did you have to remind me I wasn’t your first priority? When I needed you? Why was that necessary? We talked on the phone for about an hour and caught up. It was clear to me after that call that you hadn’t really changed. What was I to expect from you really? But it surprised me when you told me you had been feeling mean, because I could tell, but I didn’t really expect it from you. And that gave me the clarity I needed to move on because I knew then that I couldn’t hold out for you. When we ended, you were so concerned about hurting me or saying something you couldn’t take back. And I realized after we spoke that I can have deep empathy and compassion for you. For your life struggles. For your pain. And I can also draw a boundary that protects myself, because I don’t deserve meanness or cruelty. I never did. I don’t deserve to feel small and I don’t want to allow that for myself anymore. You always said, “you deserve so much more than what you allow for yourself”, and after that night I understood how true that statement was.

I started to have dreams about you where you disrespected me. I felt so much anger towards some of the things you’d said or blown off. I felt frustrated that I hadn’t defended myself. Really, I was sad that I didn’t speak up for myself. But I was also furious. How dare you blame my reactivity in our relationship on my inner child wounds, as though you didn’t know you were kicking them up. As though it doesn’t take two to tango. How dare you complain about me to your friends right in front of me. How dare you suggest my boundaries are unreasonable. How dare you not take responsibility. So I really felt my anger this time. I wrote everything down I wished I could say to you. I screamed. I cried. And then I burnt it. I released it all. And I felt better after that.

The dreams changed. They weren’t about betrayal or your nonchalance with mistreating me. They were soft. They were gentle. They were about being held and hugged and kissed. And comfort. And I still miss those parts most of all. The fleeting tenderness. I started going to slow yoga classes and focusing on opening my heart again. I am realizing now that part of opening my heart again is understanding that the tenderness I seek, the comfort, the love, all of that lives within me. I can access that well whenever I need to. I don’t need to depend on anyone else to feel worthy of love, because I am love. It is not outside of me. I lay in bed and I realized I had reached a culminating point. Tears streamed down my face and a sense of peace came over me. I’m sure the grief will return in some shape or form. I still have shadows to address, but I knew that the fact that I’d started to focus on good things again, on the sweetest parts of me and you meant I was moving on in a new way. Giving myself permission to feel everything had opened a door to my future. A pathway out of bitterness. A pathway back to myself. 

[zodiacwarning]

Remember

I'm remembering who I was before my trauma. My true sense of self I had lost over the years. I'm channeling my inner child. It's not too late. I'm falling in love all over again. I remove everything that doesn't belong to my soul.

[manifestingalignment]

Taking Time For Shadow Work

I’m going to be taking time away from social media for shadow work, so this post will be my goodbye for a little while. What brought this about was I was watching a workshop video by Teal Swan, she was diving into some shadow work with a girl from her audience, and as I listened to what the girl was feeling and experiencing, I noticed a lot of those same traits and feelings within myself that I never really had the answers to before for why I felt that way. She always felt she needed to challenge other people, that she was always seeking answers and trying to find her purpose and she could never find it. She always felt let down by other people, that things in her life were always failing her, that she didn’t trust herself. 

These are a lot of the same issues I see within myself. The common issue that these feelings stem from was revealed in the video that it comes from growing up in an environment where you didn’t have any power and lacked a lot of control over your own life. I grew up in a very religious household and had a very controlled childhood. My dad especially was very hard hearted. My mom tried to soften him but she often couldn’t get through to him. I remember my aunt gifted me a furby for my birthday and I absolutely loved it so so much. It was my favorite toy. For whatever reason, it gave my dad bad vibes and he threw my furby in the garbage in front of me. It broke my heart. The same thing happened with other toys I grew really fond of. I loved playing the Nintendo 64 a lot growing up. My dad thought I loved it too much, so he sold it. I was forced to go to church growing up, whether I wanted to or not. I was told what to believe in, I was told what to like, what not to like. A lot of things I felt drawn to as a child I couldn’t play with because my parents associated it with evil in some way. Not everything of course, but I can think of many instances. There were some other things I think contributed to how I am today that are a bit too personal to post online, but I just think a lot of childhood trauma is starting to surface right now. So growing up, I often felt powerless, had a lack of control over developing myself and the things that I genuinely liked, I grew up always seeking others approval in order to like anything or be anything. I was molded to only interact and develop interests for the things other people approved of, I think it severely damaged my development for sense of self. And I think a lot of this has carried into my adult life, that is why I struggle so deeply with finding what I am truly passionate about or why I am always challenging others for power. It’s because I severely lack power within myself from my upbringing and I think the only way I am going to heal this part of myself is if I start from scratch, get totally away from social media, go into hermit mode, and really re-discover myself from a place of independence without any kind of positive or negative influence from other people. I need to learn how to source power and joy from within myself, and feel a sense of pride from my accomplishments on my own because I myself am proud of them. Not to try and make others proud of me for doing them. This is the lesson I have learned and now it’s time to put it into practice. ♥

I wish you all well. :) Thank you for following this account. I may be back in a few months, but I really can’t confirm the duration. I just gotta take this journey for me so for now this is goodbye. ♥

[spirituallyverified]

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[moonhedgegarden]

[sirenadeloceano]

How do you calm an anxious spirit, and let go of worry, and shame?

Get to the root of the issue, what causes the anxiousness, where did the worry and shame come from? Bring that part of you into the light, love that part of you, give it big hugs n lots of love for keeping you safe and let it know it’s okay to be here and you love it regardless. Then gently tell that part of you it’s okay for it to leave, that you are safe and you’ve got yourself. Embrace that side of you, that’s how you let go of it!

[ayla-dama]

[theesotericecho]

Healing the World, One Soul at a Time: A Plea for Self-Reflection

Written with the empathetic, nurturing heart of a Cancer and the intuitive, mystical perspective of a Pisces. Created and Written by David Sawin with The Esoteric Echo. My dear friends, as the waters of the world stir with unease, my heart aches with a knowing that too many of us are losing our way. We fixate on the storms that rage in the lives of others. The winds of judgment and the harsh…

[the9minds]

Good morning! Welcome to BLOOM. To my mamas, papas, and theytas, I have a new class opening up. I have 5 slots available and it will be a communal 12-week healing class that encourages you to feel and BE your true Self. This class is for you if:

1. Mama, Daddy, Uncle, Auntie, or Grandma (anybody really) dumped a heap of trauma on you and it's put a heavy helmet on your head that you are ready to take off.

2. The world has made you feel like a victim and you're ready to regain your understanding of power and true love within.

3. You are ready to step into a deeper understanding of your multiprismatic, multidimensional Self with gentleness, embracing your Real Self every step of the way.