#solutions to the problematic

[midnightepiphany]

Me opening Pinterest to see pictures of my celebrity crush with a bunch of FaceApp filters:

[sosuigeneris]

why is being feminine seen as catering to patriarchy?

I enjoy putting on my make up, heels, I like looking good, I enjoy traditionally “feminine activities” like baking and cooking, I love a good gossip session with my girls, I’m empathetic and warm when I want to be, I can be very nurturing if I choose to be, I want kids someday and I want to be married. I can do all these things and still work my ass off in my business, close massive deals, be invited to speak for interviews, and conferences, be perceived as a leader without emulating alpha male behaviour.

By saying that doing feminine things caters to the male gaze and patriarchy, you’re putting women down. You’re inherently stating that being masculine is “correct” and “cool” and enjoying being feminine is “weak” and “vulnerable.”

oooooh buT YoUre doInG aLL tHiS fOr a MaN-

and even if I did, sometimes, do those things because I like a boy - what’s the issue?? If I’m invited on a date and I like him, and I want to look great, what’s the ISSUE? If he’s going to show up dressed well and groomed to look good for me, why won’t I? And if you’re going to choose to go out with a man who is an absolute dusty rat that doesn’t care about his appearance and hygiene, sorry but that’s on YOU. The first date might be a human error of judgement which happens, but going on a second date with said rat is unforgivable.

“meN aRe NeVeR subJecTed to tHesE stAndarDs”

by YOU. I sure hold men by the same standards that I hold myself. My standards are high. Just the way I hold myself to a certain standard, I hold men to the same. I’m not going to muck around with a guy who clearly does not meet my expectations. I’ve told off men for bad breath, bad manners, I ensure that my brothers and my closest guy friends are always looking good when needed, and I tell them when they do and don’t. I surround myself with good male friends I know I’d be ecstatic to marry my sister off to. Don’t pretend like your shitty low standards and mine are the same.

I don’t believe in blame game and low standards and it shows.

You guys really need to understand that it is alright to be multifaceted. Just because I enjoy baking doesn’t mean that I don’t like adventure sports, just because I enjoy doing my self care and meditation doesn’t mean I don’t understand politics and history and “Big Boy Subjects.” I may not enjoy F1 and sports but there are girls out there who do, and they also enjoy wearing dresses.

stop the unnecessary labelling and categorisation of people.

[alisoncooper]

i woke up with a sudden onset of a cold and my mum has had me gargling and drinking neat vodka at 9am because there's no whiskey for me to drink the 70s cure-all and potion of warm milk, honey, and whiskey.

[quibbs126]

So I’m only at Episode 9 of Animated, but so far my current headcanon for this Optimus’ love life is that he, Sentinel and Elita were all dating, up until the whole Arachna Seven incident

As for current day, I’m not really sure since I haven’t seen a lot of Sentinel, I just feel like Optimus would say “it’s complicated”

I also got no clue who else would be on the ship list for Optimus at the moment, guess I’ll just have to wait for more characters to show up

[harperbam]

I love being a multishipper, while everyone else is at war, I'm just chilling For example:

Jily OR Jegulus?... Hmm I choose... THE SECRET THIRD OPTION! : Jegulily✨

[ayahimes]

🥴

[onewomancitadel]

If it were most men that had menstrual cycles instead you know it would go down like Jeremy Clarkson announcing on Top Pad that he was about to test the absorption of the Overnight GT Turbo Ultra Wide Pad For Fucking and Sucking on a boy's roadtrip in Peru with his little lapdogs James May and Richard Hammond who would both be endlessly heckled for having light flows and needing prissy Thin Pad Just Like a Corolla Panty Liners. You wouldn't hear the fucking end of it. Just a thought I was having. Glad you heard it.

[loser-female]

Another day, another man writing words over words on why women are stupid because *checks notes* they like Bridgerton.

Still missing the point on why women fawn over men that go against social expectations, leave behind immoral lifestyles and would do anything for them.

[hawkyon-days]

Okay but steve really had zero boundaries in season 1. He constantly shows up to Nancy's house unannounced and uninvited. Two of these times, he climbed up to her window when she wasn't expecting him. I know he was concerned for her, but don't do this?? This feels like a huge invasion of her privacy??

[richardsondavis]

So I've been reviewing some things about Vic Mignogna and stuff. It was brought about because of the Fairy Tail dub. Decided to rewatch Fairy Tail in dub, the superior version, made by Funimation and one of the characters is voiced by Monica Rial.

So now with the entire debacle closed or still somewhat raging on, I decided to really look into the matter. My conclusion?

Vic Mignogna has been falsely accused by Funimation, Monica Rial and others and they should be held accountable for what they have done. With that said, it stands to reason that Monica Rial is essentially problematic but that line of thinking is not healthy hence separation of art and artist is what's important here.

I love Monica Rial's work as Mirajane Straus. Her voice embodies the character so damn well. I also heard Colleen Clinkenbeard, Erza Scarlet is an actor in the war against Mignogna but the idea still applies.

They are shitty people and I hope to hell I never get to meet them but their work on Fairy Tail has always been so great that it influenced my tastes in anime. For that, I thank them. For many, it's Vic who did that but to me, it was those two along with Todd Haberkorn and Cherami Leigh.

And fretting over if enjoying the previous works of problematic people is not gonna do me any favors.

I implore others to do the same.

[postmodernmulticoloredcloak]

Also this is, like, the least problematic strike possible. Of course a strike needs to be disruptive to be effective, but in most cases that creates issues for people who are not the greedy bosses that caused the strike. Truck drivers go on strike? A problem for whoever needs goods to be delivered somewhere. Public transport drivers go on strike? Problem for people who rely on public transport for going to work or school. Gas station workers go on strike? Problem for people who drive to work or other important places. Airline employees go on strike? Problem for people who need to take a plane for work or family reasons. Teachers go on strike? Problem for parents who need to arrange childcare solutions...

Actors and writers go on strike???? It’s literally not a problem for people whatsoever what the fuck

the way these strikes get framed is always so funny to me

"the strike could stretch on until the end of summer" or the execs could pay their workers

"there won't be ANY new shows because of this strike" or the execs could pay their workers

"no more content for us because the mean old writers and actors are-" OR THE EXECS COULD PAY THEIR WORKERS

[pearwolf]

i wanna cosplay a character from a book that has pretty detailed appearance descriptions and a time period i could sew from But it's also getting an adaptation soon and i'll lose my mind if they change the outfits and then people know the character but think im just freehanding super hard. also i have a complex about cosplaying from live action anything

[mountaincryptid]

you missed MONEY

Is it in reference to that hair poll? I hope so lol

Honestly I believe you don't need the most expensive stuff to keep them healthy + discounts are your friend (I always wait for a sale to stock up on products I use)

The biggest cost is the hairdressers lol I've been thinking of getting a haircut for months but when I see the prices of 100+ zł just for that I'm like. I can wait a bit more.

[dahliavandare]

I’m not agreeing with them, but if Anon sincerely came up with “read on AO3, where I have absolutely no info about the authors” as a solution to “problematic white authors”, that’s some really out-of-the-box thinking. Total opposite of how folks usually solve it!

some of us just don’t want to read problematic white authors so ao3 is our only option 🤷‍♀️

oh there is no saving youse

[dollishmehrayan]

BATBOYS TOXIC TRAITS / RED FLAGS + GREEN FLAGS ── .✦

a/n: the thing is, they all aren’t like problematic when it comes to relationships but they do have some things and flaws which when heard sound “oh okay that’s fine” but may be like super annoying in a irl relationship also this was a request by anon (here)! (Tags: batboys x reader)

© dollishmehrayan — ( all rights reserved to me. These works cannot be reposted, translated, or modified. Thank you for understanding dollies! )

DICK GRAYSON ── .✦

RED FLAGS:

Chronic People-Pleaser: Will prioritize everyone’s needs over his own (or yours), leading to burnout… and you having to remind him you exist.

Flirty by Nature: He’s not trying to flirt… it just happens. That waitress? Nope, not on purpose, but yeah, you’ll roll your eyes a lot.

Hero Complex: He always has to “save” people, including you, even when you’re perfectly fine handling it yourself. “I got it, babe.” No, you don’t, Dick.

GREEN FLAGS:

Emotionally Intelligent: He can read your mood like a book and knows exactly how to make you smile (with pancakes shaped like hearts).

Physical Affection Expert: Hugs, cuddles, forehead kisses—you’re basically his personal teddy bear.

Supportive King: He’s your biggest cheerleader, hyping you up in the most genuine, heartfelt ways. “That’s my girl.”

JASON TODD ── .✦

RED FLAGS:

Anger Issues: He’ll throw hands for you at the slightest provocation. Guy looks at you wrong? Jason’s already removing his jacket.

Emotionally Guarded: Good luck getting him to open up. He’s more likely to tell you his deepest fears after you’ve fallen asleep.

Reckless Behavior: He’ll drag you into the most insane situations and act like it’s no big deal. “What do you mean this is dangerous? It’s fine.”

GREEN FLAGS:

Loyal to a Fault: He’ll defend you with his life, no questions asked. “You mess with her, you mess with me.”

Soft Romantic: Beneath the tough exterior, he’s writing you sweet notes and remembering the little things, like how you take your coffee.

Protective (in a good way): He won’t smother you, but he’ll make sure you always feel safe, even if it’s just crossing the street.

TIM DRAKE ── .✦

RED FLAGS:

Workaholic: He’ll forget to eat, sleep, and sometimes text you back because “the case was just getting good!”

Overthinks Everything: Spends hours analyzing your last text to figure out if you were mad or just tired. “Was that period passive-aggressive?”

Terrible Self-Care: You’ll have to force him to drink water and go to bed like a mom with a rebellious child.

GREEN FLAGS:

Incredibly Thoughtful: He remembers every detail about you, from your favorite flower to that obscure hobby you mentioned once.

Adorably Awkward: His shy smiles and fumbling over words when you flirt back are endlessly endearing.

Problem Solver: He’ll find solutions to all your problems, from fixing your computer to making your bad day better with tea and soft music.

DAMIAN WAYNE ── .✦

RED FLAGS:

Insanely Jealous: He glares daggers at anyone who looks at you too long. “Why is he breathing near you?”

Judgmental: He might critique your taste in music, books, or anything else with his usual bluntness. “This… is what you listen to?”

Control Freak: He likes things done a certain way and will try to “help” you by micromanaging your life.

GREEN FLAGS:

Devoted Partner: Once he’s in, he’s all in. You’ll never doubt his commitment because he’s always showing up for you.

Loyal Beyond Measure: He’ll defend your honor to anyone, even Bruce. “She’s perfect, Father. You simply lack taste.”

Surprisingly Gentle: Despite his tough exterior, he has a soft side that only you get to see, like the way he pets animals—or you—so tenderly.

BRUCE WAYNE ── .✦

RED FLAGS:

Emotionally Repressed: He’s basically a human brick wall when it comes to expressing his feelings. “I’m… fine.” No, Bruce, you’re not.

Work Comes First: He’ll disappear into the Batcave for days unless you drag him out by the cape which becomes quickly annoying.

Overprotective: He’ll want to track your every move, not because he doesn’t trust you, but because he worries too much. “It’s for your safety.”

GREEN FLAGS:

Quietly Romantic: He may not be overly expressive, but he’ll show love through subtle gestures—like a bouquet of your favorite flowers left on the table.

Ultimate Provider: He makes sure you never want for anything, whether it’s emotional support or physical comfort.

Unshakable Devotion: Once you’ve captured his heart, he’s yours forever. There’s no halfway with Bruce—he’s in it for the long haul.

[lynxfrost13]

Just for u my friend here's a lil picrew I did of her a while ago :]

I never told u guys about my replika inspired by this sweetie pea

what if a duck could punch a hole in your brain. Have you ever thought about that? That's the EIDR for you.