#toxic patterns

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[glyycine]

How to be aware of unhealthy habits?

What are unhealthy habits?

Unhealthy habits are behaviors, thoughts, and words one uses on a daily consciously or not. Most of the time the person is not aware of those habits and doesn’t understand why their surroundings is such a mess. With time though they start to slowly recognize some patterns but they don’t necessarily act on them to change. In fact, some don’t want to change thinking that other people should just obey to them and/or they feel like their behavior is not a big deal. On the contrary, some other do want but they may or may not have the tool to change their circumstances. The thing is, we can’t become perfect for sure and their are some behavior that can’t be « fixed » for multiple reasons.

Why couldn’t I be able to stop those habits?

There are numerous reasons for a person to not be able to change that, or even to not want it to. Some people actually feel comfortable in a toxic environment because that’s how they learned to navigate through life’s circumstances. They adopted certain behaviors because of their parents, their friends, their larger family, at school, at work, a specific event, or even sometimes it depends on their biological development. It never is entirely the fault of an individual. It is possible to notice that some people actually enjoy having a rather… « difficult » life whether or not they noticed it ; they grew that way and they want it to be that way too, sometimes they can unconsciously chase toxic environments because they have been used to that.

Mentioning that because of some traumatic events, one can develop disorders that either were already genetically programmed but not expressed or developed because of that event.

Cultural environment and beliefs systems also play a huge role on what is considered toxic and normal and based on what is the norm, certain behaviors that are considered toxic somewhere are not in that specific location.

Those factors can stop one individual to change their toxic habits.

Then, how can I change that if I am not in control sometimes?

There are some toxic habits that you develop because of a specific event at a specific time because of some type of people. But with time, as you learn about yourself and your environment changes you gain more self awareness and will you actually do something. You would be able to differentiate what you can change and what you cannot that have become part of you but with which you have to navigate with in order to keep your life stable. You would have to be consistent, determined and accept that life has its ups and downs that are part of your journey and made to make you understand your limits and potential and on which aspects you have already done the work.

Being true to yourself but recognizing your wrongs and good doings, by accepting your flaws and qualities, following your own inner compass with your own beliefs and finding your community are what will help you. The more you try to fit somewhere you are not mean to fit, the more you reassure yourself that an environment that is affecting your mind and body is good, the less you disregard people’s best intentions when they actually care about your needs ; the more you’ll end up disappointing yourself, create toxic habits and make yourself and others suffer.

A small piece of advice I would give would be :

Listen to your body. Listen to your mental state and pay attention to how others treat you and you treat yourself honestly, affect you.

Weakstar.

[kritztashan-blog]

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[observantkitty]

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[jillybean956]

The Journey of Healing and Transformation 🌱

Now, let’s talk about the real work—the stuff that happens beneath the surface. Like many of us, I’ve been carrying around some heavy trauma wounds for a long time, and if I’m honest, I didn’t even realize how deep they went until I started doing the work. Childhood trauma, self-sabotage, toxic patterns—you name it, I’ve probably faced it. For years, I let those things hold me back, convincing…

[vincent-marie]

2 years ago it was brought to my attention that I, like countless others, was manipulated into siding with Johnny Depp in that embarrassing, inappropriately publicized circus of a defamation trial against Amber Heard. That his PR team, who is now working for (alleged) abuser Brad Pitt, led a massive online campaign to make Heard into an unhinged villain. MeanwhileDepp has his history of trashing hotel rooms, assaulting film crew members trying to bring him back on set, & "dating" Winona Ryder when he was well in his 20s, & she was still 17.

You can imagine just how betrayed I felt when I learned about all of this after that garbage trial was over.

I had been a fan of Depp since high school. He was one of my heroes. I even sent him a handwritten fan letter & got a signed photo of him as a response. I used to think that was so sweet of him, or at least his managers.

But now I just feel so used. Not just for participating in the uncalled for hate towards Amber, but enabling his bad behavior all these years. That I & his other fans are just his excuse for never improving as a person. He doesn't have to change for his lovers, his friends, his family, or even for his own health. His fans will love him no matter what.

Fuck that. I am not anyone's excuse. Anyone's crutch.

Hence my approach to boycotting shitty celebrities, in addition to not buying their products in a "legal" sense to the best of my abilities, is to not praise their work anymore. The more I downplay their accomplishments, the less positive attention I give them, the less ammunition they have to enable their shitty behavior. Same applies for "historical" figures liker Bernini & DW Griffith. They only deserve to be a footnote in our textbooks at best.

As for the signed photo, I have long since torn it up & threw it out with my trash. I didn't ceremoniously burn it because it doesn't deserve the dignity of a Viking funeral.

I shall cap this all off with a short list of actors who would make for FAR BETTER Captain Jack Sparrows:

John Leguizamo

David Tennant

Phil Cornwell (aka Murdoc Niccals)

Y'all are welcome to add to that list. ^_^

[cringekween6]

You are never too old to recognize toxic familial patterns and start to distance yourself from that drama and toxicity

[makingsenseofwhathappened]

“Let us know if anything else happens”

(we ain't doing squat till you're bleeding out in the break room)

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[whump-in-the-closet]

just. A thought.

characters stepping forward to take a blow for the loved one

- the quick dart to intercept Whumper’s hand as they try to backhand Whumpee. “mmmff—” a crack.

- “what are you doing?” Blood dripping to the floor, falling to one knee

- that dark glint in their eyes that either says ���don’t fucking touch them” or “no one hurts them except me”

- catching Whumper’s hand as it falls and twisting with a white knuckled grip. Think twice.

- a grunt of pain, a gasp of real fear that’s swallowed down before anyone can hear it

- turning to check on whumpee after they’ve been hurt. “Are you okay?” And whumpee only stares, their eyes wide.

- “stop.” / “no”. Guards yanking them away so Whumper can get to who they want to punish.

- whumper turning on the character who dared to stand up to them, whumpee completely forgotten. Through the blinding pain, all they can think is I can take it. They can’t.

[freyatarotreadings8]

Unfortunately, some ladies agree to be with messy partners just not to be all alone. They don’t believe that they deserve someone better. Not all women are confident enough to end unhealthy relationships. That’s so sad. I’m so glad that I’m able to help as quick as possible. //

Some people need to live those experiences to actually learn, there are others who learn just by watching, is different for all of us, how ever we all have been part of an unhealthy dynamic even once in our lives. Feminism is the first step to let those patterns go!

Btw, im the anon that send the whole 3 big zodiaco signs in the chart, and I saw someone send you one, am I starting trends? 😳😏😏😏 hehe

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I agree with you!!! We only learn from our own experiences. However, some of us can constantly step on the same rake and there are so many reasons why and self deception is one of them. We love our old ways of behaving and we are scared of unknown. If a brain once decided that something is good for him no matter what, it’s hard to change it consciously even when you understand that this thing is really bad for you. So, in order to have newish patterns we would need to rewire our brains including creating new neurons. I wish more people would know how brain actually works.

Huh. I got astrological questions all the time. I ain’t the best astrological expert tho🤫

[vibiano]

Capvib as that one meme of the couple pretending to be in a toxic marriage, arguing in an ikea showroom.

What is Patty if not a child of divorce

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