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[theacecouple]

Wow we have @theacecouple back again with us tonight!! We forgot to advertise that, like, at all! But we're playing Tavern Talk again and that means it's ANDU TIME!! And let's be real, Andu is the real star of the show tonight. Ok let's go!

[theacecouple]

Q&A with award-winning activist

Yasmin Benoit

This week on our podcast, Yasmin Benoit announced the imminent publishing of her latest research project!

To celebrate, we'll be hosing a Q&A with her in a couple of weeks.

If you've ever had any questions about Yasmin or her work, now is the time to ask! Feel free to leave a comment on this post or drop us an ask.

Make sure to be on the lookout for her forthcoming research, and in the meantime, you can read her groundbreaking Ace in the UK Report here -> https://www.stonewall.org.uk/resources/lgbtq-hubs/ace-hub/stonewall-x-yasmin-benoit-ace-project

If you want to get inspiration for great questions, you can listen to this week's interview with her on your favorite podcast platform, Our Website (with full transcript), or YouTube (with CC) where we spill the tea on consulting for Sex Education on Netflix, acephobia from Rolling Stone while our community was mourning the tragic death of one of its members, racism in the Ace community and much more!

[theacecouple]

ace week acrostic

here's to the queer ones who find attraction irrelevant to their experience, pursuing not people but their own paths through a society that says, "you need a partner to be happy in life"

a group whose love is no less consequential, deep, profound, even as they call us less than human

where the black, grey, white, and purple invoke emblems of community at October's end, ever have we been, ever shall we still be, and know this: we are here and we are proud

[theacecouple]

Happy Ace Week to Us!

The Ace Couple Podcast just charted in our 60th country!!!

It's SO neat to see how far our voices have traveled spreading Asexual education, culture, politics, and community.

Just for funsies, here's a list of the countries in the order we charted.

If you're a listener of ours from any of these places, THANK YOU so much <3

Norway

Saudi Arabia

Luxembourg

Russia

Australia

Canada

U.S

Great Britain

Germany

Austria

Macedonia

New Zealand

Singapore

Netherlands

Japan

South Korea

Spain

Belgium

Hong Kong

Costa Rica

Iceland

South Africa

Denmark

Switzerland

Sweden

Philippines

France

Portugal

Macau

Finland

Italy

India

Colombia

Czech Republic

Ireland

Mongolia

Qatar

Vietnam

Kazakhstan

Poland

Slovakia

Nigeria

Panama

Argentina

Algeria

Malta

Brazil

Greece

Romania

Taiwan

Hungary

Estonia

Israel

Mexico

Oman

Slovenia

Cambodia

Croatia

Cayman Islands

Cyprus

P.S. These charts only include podcast platforms and doesn't take into consideration listeners who tune in directly on our website or on YouTube

P.P.S. We only need about 50 subscribers before we hit 10k on YouTube, so considering it's a secondary platform for the podcast medium, we're not doing too bad over there either :P

[theacecouple]

Ace Week continues! It's Disabled Ace Day! And @theacecouple is joining stream tonight!!

So seeing as they are apparently THE Asexual Dungeon Masters, who have coincidentally also enjoyed Coffee Talk, it's only right we play Tavern Talk, right?

[theacecouple]

fyi the doc asks u to sign in

Assuming you're talking about the Google Form we use to collect information for MarketplACE vendors, yes it does ask you to sign in and this is out of our control.

Google requires this in order to upload files and we do ask our MarketplACE vendors to submit a photo to represent their shop which appears on our website along their listing, as you can see here.

However, if privacy is your concern, we do not receive your email nor any personal information that is not typed directly into the form in the question fields.

This is what we see when we have a new response

And clicking on "View Response" shows us only the form answers exactly how you answered them.

This form is open to all Ace and/or Aro-owned small businesses. If you fill out the form, you'll be featured on our website alongside 175 fabulous aspec shops.

We also conclude every episode of our podcast by shouting out a featured MarketplACE vendor of the week.

Anyone interested can fill out this form here

[theacecouple]

TOMORROW!

October 23rd, 2024 is the 4th annual Disabled Ace Day!

Disabled Ace Day, which takes place on Wednesday during Ace Week, is dedicated to awareness, visibility, and celebration of the intersections of Asexuality and Disability and advocates for material and social support of Disabled Aces everywhere.

With a vitally important election coming up in the US, we will be talking politics tomorrow on the The Ace Couple podcast by discussing the laws that create marriage inequality in our country for Disabled people, for Asexual & Aromantic people, and for Black Americans.

Obergefell v. Hodges may have allowed for same-sex marriage at the federal level, but it does NOT mean that we have true marriage equality in this country.

We encourage Disabled Aces from around the globe to talk about your own experience, be it personal or political, to raise awareness this Ace Week.

Disabled Ace Day logo by Emmalee Larghi Dahlgren

[theacecouple]

You're welcome to add your shop @thesarahshay. We actually have two musicians on our MarketplACE already.

These include

Artemis Munoz- Bandcamp

and

The Milky Kiln- AKA Mik who's Ko-fi sells commissioned pottery with memberships and links to access their music creation as well.

We absolutely consider music to be art anything you do that does not perfectly fit in one of our commonly used tags can be typed in your shop description so it is still findable viable the search bar at the top of the Marketplace page.

Hope this helps!

Hey you, yes YOU!

I'm sure you're looking to support Asexual-owned businesses this Ace Week RIGHT??

Well, lucky for you, we have a MarketplACE with 165 of 'em!

Find Pride merch, video games, books, artwork in every medium, & SO much more. Whatever you like, there's a shop for you!

If you are an Ace or Aro-owned small business and you'd like to be featured on our website alongside all these fabulous shops (plus a chance to get a shout-out on a future episode of our podcast!), simply fill out this shop entry form ---> https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScPzGW7JbvMpyXoXtOAOfjZYPqj4LyBntuuNhI91wnLmX0zOA/viewform

[theacecouple]

Hey you, yes YOU!

I'm sure you're looking to support Asexual-owned businesses this Ace Week RIGHT??

Well, lucky for you, we have a MarketplACE with 165 of 'em!

Find Pride merch, video games, books, artwork in every medium, & SO much more. Whatever you like, there's a shop for you!

If you are an Ace or Aro-owned small business and you'd like to be featured on our website alongside all these fabulous shops (plus a chance to get a shout-out on a future episode of our podcast!), simply fill out this shop entry form ---> https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScPzGW7JbvMpyXoXtOAOfjZYPqj4LyBntuuNhI91wnLmX0zOA/viewform

[theacecouple]

Hey you, yes YOU!

I'm sure you're looking to support Asexual-owned businesses this Ace Week RIGHT??

Well, lucky for you, we have a MarketplACE with 165 of 'em!

Find Pride merch, video games, books, artwork in every medium, & SO much more. Whatever you like, there's a shop for you!

If you are an Ace or Aro-owned small business and you'd like to be featured on our website alongside all these fabulous shops (plus a chance to get a shout-out on a future episode of our podcast!), simply fill out this shop entry form ---> https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScPzGW7JbvMpyXoXtOAOfjZYPqj4LyBntuuNhI91wnLmX0zOA/viewform

[theacecouple]

Had a blast playing this as guests on the @acesplayingatattraction stream today!

Just picked up our own copy <3

Ace Week starts today!

From 10.20-10.26 Ace in Space will be -50% on both Itch and Steam!

#VN #lgbt #aceinspace #asexual #aro #indiedev #gamedev #datingsim #art #digitalart #drawing #illustration #indiegamedev #indiegaming #gamedevelopment

[theacecouple]

It's Ace Week kickoff time!

Today, Satan is joined by our ever wonderful and amazing friends, @baronvonmilk and @theacecouple for another route of @cadavercarnivalstudios' Ace In Space 🚀

Happy Ace Week!!!!

[theacecouple]

For the first time in history, we are pleased to announce that the state of Kansas is formally recognizing Ace Week!!!

[theacecouple]

10 Years

Our 10 year anniversary is coming up next week, and we're planning to record a podcast episode to discuss the life changes and milestones we've experienced together!

If we also did a lil Q&A, what questions do you have for an Asexual (ace-ace) married couple of a decade?

Leave a note or drop us an ask!

[theacecouple]

It's official! We got the state of Kansas to formally recognize Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week this year!

February 18-24, 2024 DON'T YOU FORGET!

[theacecouple]

It's official! We got the state of Kansas to formally recognize Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week this year!

February 18-24, 2024 DON'T YOU FORGET!

[theacecouple]

beautifully said. 💜

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Video description: A TikTok that starts with an on-the-street interviewer, which is then stitched by a Black man standing in his yard with grilling stuff behind him. He has short natural hair, glasses, and is wearing a dinosaur button up. Username @/sciencewithtyus

Subtitle transcript (thank you @ace-bard3-paladin1):

Woman: Do you have any advice for straight men?

Man: Hi ace man here. I actually do have some advice for straight men -- don't mind me I'm just outside, I'm getting the grill warmed up -- But yeah I have some things I think I can contribute to this conversation.

Now, you might be wondering to yourself "what could an ace person possibly contribute to this conversation?" But in a similar way in which women understand the patriarchy in the way they're subjugated under it more than men do, in the way that Black people understand whiteness more than white people can perceive it as a construct and how it's been manipulated in a way to impose forms of power on a systematic level, ace people often have to unpack and disentange the way that what desire and sex means in society -- and the way that often it can be compulsory in a way that it is assumed that we're all supposed to participate in it. So that's really important to think about what we're going forward in this conversation.

I first want to say that I think it's unfortunate because I feel like a lot of men have been sold this lie through western media -- television and even some forms of even literature -- that the quality of men's lives are not of any value -- of any substance -- unless it's on the condition of having some sort of romantic partner, or an individual of like, of substantial attractiveness. Which I feel like actually hurts a lot of people in the long term.

I find one of the major problems with advice that is given to straight men -- and many other men around the world -- is that it's given under the expectation that it will accumulate or accrue some form of social capital, and I find that that's incredibly dangerous for a lot of people out there, when it comes to this idea that you should do something only because it's advantageous -- but rather than the fact that you enjoy doing it.

You hear a lot of guys in, like, men's advice columns or podcasting "women love guys that do interesting things" and I'm sure there's definitely a sense of accuracy to that. But here's the question, though: is that like -- do you find that interesting yourself? Do the things that give you joy, and you will attract the people around you in proximity to the things that you share common interest with.

Don't take ceramics because you're trying to find your future partner, take ceramics because you think it'll be an interesting class that you maybe will end up actually enjoying for a long period of your life.

So aside from the basics that I feel generally benefits a lot of men -- like have decent hygiene, decent self maintenance -- you know maybe have a hobby, one or two -- once again it's not a competition, do it because you like it.

There's often one that I feel like is left out in this conversation, and that's like, live a life of substance, live a life for yourself, live for yourself. Not for other people, or in the hope of doing something in an expectation of getting something out [of] it. Do it because you like doing it, and radiate that joy.

I also think, because of the way toxic masculinity is internalized in a lot of straight men, in the way I think loneliness plagues a lot of men, you have a lot of people out there who restrain themselves from doing things that they would actually enjoy, under the perception of the fact that they are alone, and that something's wrong with them, or that they're lacking in their life. If you wanna do something, do it. Don't be afraid to do it by yourself. You wanna go to that concert? Go by yourself. You wanna take yourself out for dinner? Take yourself out for dinner. Live for yourself!