#Fear of Missing Out

[akindplace]

Maybe age should not mean much more than how long ago you were born. Instead of being a measure of accomplishments, of beauty, of desirability. You can be sick at any age. You can be exhausted at any age. You can be young and feel old and worn out. You can be old and feel more alive than you ever felt in your 20s.

Age should not measure a human being in anything but when they were born but I guess capitalism and the beauty industry depends on us believing that being young equals desirability, health and happiness and maybe that's why so many teens already feel like they are missing out before they get a chance to live and become wiser and people in theirs 40s are desperately trying to feel less obsolete and trying to maintain a face with no marks of life when wrinkles are just signs of how much your skin stood the tests of time and emotion and people in their 80s feel so left out of society because they don't have the same energy levels and can't maintain the same productivity.

Maybe your body should have signs of being lived on through the years. Maybe being a teen is just a confusing time in our lives instead of the best years one can ever live. Maybe life is what you make of it, but your age should never be an indication of much more than how long you have lived. Maybe this is a hot take but maybe, just maybe, the fear of missing out eats away at every generation.

[supratoyota-catboy]

Missing the bug race is the reason I have decided to retire from sleeping

there's only so much FOMO I can take

[annisrealandsoami]

I don’t have a proper review of it yet. Technically, my brother is watching it. That being said, I just watched an episode of Carol & The End of the World.

I’m not sure which one. I am not really sure why the world ending or whatever. I have no context, but I just started crying because of a random episode.

Donna, I think her name is, was visiting her family. She worked through most of their childhood. She doesn’t share their stories or feature in a lot of their memories. She feels like she missed out and she should’ve been there.

I relate to that, for different reasons. At the end of it, her kids tell her that she did enough. That she was still apart of it.

I don’t think that spoiled it. If it did, I’m sorry.

So yeah. I am most likely going to binge it later. You should probably check it out.

[bullshitpoetry]

Just because I can name the fear doesn't mean it will disappear.

[555eternalfabulist]

my fear of missing out comes way too late. i'm an introvert.. but does that mean i have to miss out on everything? teenage love? parties with friends? running around through the city, not caring about what others think? i feel like time is running away from me. i am 19 years old and i have experienced nothing.

social anxiety has ruined my life and the time is over, i can't change what happened. or rather: what didn't happen.

i can try to be better from now on but what about the time before?

[marioriobreskic]

As someone who suffers from sleep apnea looks back on bad sleep and attention hygiene

Late night movies, saturday morning cartoons, late night talk shows, erotica after midnight, clubs and discos.

There was a lot of missing out on sleep. I imagine that missing out on sleep turns us all into less of ourselves. I imagine that staying awake when you could easily fall asleep is a sort of poison for our minds.

Imagine being well‑rested.

Looking at the amount of sleep‑debt since 2021 (since that was the last time I reset the data my quantified self device has gathered on my sleep debt), I imagine the following as ideal:

become a cat for the time being.

What magic things will come from this? Let’s find out by going back to bed as soon as possible for the rest of our lives.

Call me Nemo. I am going back to sleep after posting this.

I think/believe that the following ideas are all true:

if I want to be more concentrated on what I do, I need to pay less attention to everything else.

the more I rest, the better my concentration is.

the more well‑rested I am, the kinder, smarter, and more stress‑resilient I can be.

All in favor of a better life, say Zzz

[howifeltabouthim]

. . . my hatred of weekends intensified. Only people who live their lives very routinely, who have never known abject grief, can love Saturdays and Sundays. For me there was a rickety lonesomeness to them. It seemed everybody had escaped somewhere I hadn't been invited to.

Lisa Taddeo, from Animal

[potatotalksculture]

Potato Essay: The fear of missing out?

Recently I’ve watched a video essay by one of my YouTubers of choice - Jacob Geller. In his video he talks about art that was made for no one.[1] One of the art works he mentions is a creation by Michael Heizer that took a lot of effort, cost a lot of money and is accessible to general public in a harshly restricted way. It also changed a great part of the natural landscape of the Nevada desert, where this artwork - City - is placed.

The reflection about the impact of Heizer’s works on the environment and also the politics of human handling of it stuck with me. Heizer often takes some natural resources to create he’s pieces, and that in huge amounts. For Levitated Mass, displayed in Los Angeles County Museum of Art, displaced a 340-ton boulder from Stone Valley Quarry to LA.[2] For Double Negative, a work one can see in the Nevada desert, he displaced 244.000 tons of natural material to create a void space in a piece of a rock.[3]

I could go on in my research. I could read up on his hubris and ego. I could look up the private donors who made those and other creations possible. I could jump down the rabbit whole of papers on the relationship between mankind and nature and capitalism and exploitation and …

But I’m on a train for a weekend get away. I like traveling by train. The soft rocking of the vehicle while passing through outskirts and woods and fields. I’d rather look out a window than concentrate on the screen of my phone, while I write this. I don’t want to miss what’s outside the window. I don’t want to run out of time to research Michael Heizers Art and the politics behind it.

Sources:

[1] Jacob Geller. Art for No One.

[2] Wiki

[3] Wiki

[b1nka]

Dependent

I needed you to live To breath To thrive in my life And you needed me just the same If both of us felt like that Who was it to blame?

They said we wouldn't last Their opinion went in one ear and out the other Too bad too sad All they wanted was to see us suffer

Or so I thought Or so had you thought Or so had we thought We're a joint person now We did everything together We found a way somehow

Us together was for the better That was our moto Our saying We both got fomo When we left eachother, shaking

Now you had left for good I didnt see that coming I still get fomo From when we were starting.

[aardvaark]

just want to say. it’s okay if you’re not ready for a relationship now. it’s okay if you’re not ready for sex. its okay if you aren’t ready to date. it’s okay if you aren’t ready at age 16, or 18, or 21, or 25, or 35, or 50, etc. maybe you will never want those things, and that’s okay too, but even if you do want them in your future? it’s still okay to not want them right now. you aren’t childish or falling behind your peers - in fact, there’s a lot of maturity in realising that you need to care for yourself first before you can let others care for you. life doesn’t end in your early twenties. there’s nothing wrong with not being ready.

[deadinquiry]

i cannot explain to you guys how freeing it is to close your social media sphere. ever since i remade instagram and only added people i care to see, my snapchat is regularly pruned for the same, and i don’t use twitter to speak to anyone i know irl, life is so much better. i have reddit tumblr & tiktok to look at things that interest me, and that’s it.

[anonymouscomrade]

FOMO and the battle pass system are worse than lootboxes THERE I SAID IT

[nomoremind]

It starts to hurt when your friends leave for college and start posting all the new friends they’re making. Especially when you barely talk anymore…makes a pal feel a little lonely

[junye8]

FOMO is so strong in this game when you have cosmetics that will never come back when season ends

Both collabs and ults

[ambertakoshi]

I’m scared of people

I’m scared of their true motives

Because they have done nothing but take advantage of me

I mean I’m scared but hopeful

Finding quality people is hard

[skipthepreface]