#Knowing OneSelf involves introspection

[artdivin]

Knowing OneSelf involves introspection, reflection, and a willingness to confront one's own thoughts, emotions, Patterns, and behaviors. It requires honesty and acknowledging one's strengths, weaknesses, values, and beliefs. To better understand OneSelf, it can be helpful to engage in practices such as journaling, meditation, or therapy. These practices can provide an opportunity for reflection and Self-discovery and can help one gain clarity on one's own thoughts and feelings. Ultimately, knowing OneSelf is a lifelong process that requires ongoing Self-reflection and a willingness to learn and grow.

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[allaboutthemoonlight]

Understanding the Difference Between Hard Work and Workaholism, and Self-Care Strategies for Avoiding Burnout

Hi friends,

In today’s post, I want to talk about the idea of hard-work vs workaholism and the resulting consequence of burnout. It’s a longer post today because I believe this is something that many people are dealing with, especially in this space.

In the self-improvement and personal development bubble, there’s a constant culture of ambition and striving for improvement. While the intention behind this can be rewarding, it can sometimes fall into toxic territory with constant encouragement of and sentiments such as “just work harder” or “you‘re not disciplined enough”, often leading people to exhaust and overwork themselves.

Due to this, I'd like to discuss the significance of distinguishing between hard work and workaholism — both for productivity and well-being. While hard work can indeed lead to success and fulfillment, workaholism can result in burnout and physical and mental health issues. Recognizing the distinction between these two and equipping oneself with self-care strategies is essential for leading a balanced, healthy life.

What is hard work?

Hard work can vary from person to person, and it’s the same for everyone. Generally, hard work can be described as dedicated and focused effort towards achieving a specific goal. This can mean anything from daily runs to train for a marathon to watching numerous youtube tutorials to learn how to code.

The point here is that, although hard work involves a certain level of persistence, discipline, and strong work ethic, there’s often rewarding outcomes as you know you’re making progress towards something you want to achieve.

Understanding if you’re a hard worker or someone suffering from workaholism dictates a high level of self-reflection and introspection. In my experience, hard workers are those who:

Have a clear understanding of what they want to achieve

Are action oriented and know the purpose behind their efforts

Have the ability to achieve a work/life balance

Are either intrinsically motivated and have a high level of identified motivation

Maintain an internal locus of control

Know when to take breaks

Being a hard worker is a significant skill, one that can lead to personal development, growth, and multiple career opportunities, these are facts that can’t be denied. However, in our current environment where an individuals worth is often determined by their accomplishments and successes, the line between working hard and being a workaholic has been blurred.

Understanding workaholism

Now that we’ve talked about what exactly makes a hard-worker, I want to uncover the other reality: workaholism.

Workaholism is an uncontrollable and compulsive need to work constantly. It comes from feelings of from anxiety, perfectionism, or a desire to escape personal issues. This includes:

Obsessively thinking about work

Struggling to relax or unwind outside of work

Ignoring personal relationships and self-care

Feeling physically drained with fatigue and insomnia

Multiple studies have explored the mental and physical impacts of workaholism, revealing impacts such as high levels of chronic stress, anxiety, depression, fatigue, cardiovascular issues, among others. It’s truly an exhaustive list of consequences, all of which can lead to burnout and emotional exhaustion. Beyond mental and physical health risks, the effects of workaholism can include professional issues. It’s ironic that overworking oneself can have a negative impact on your career, yet there’s a higher likelihood of decreased job performance and strained professional relationships as a result.

I think Jordan Peterson said it best: “You don’t want to do so much work that the amount of you do interferes with the amount of work you could still do”.

Here are some of the key differences between hard work and workaholism to keep in mind:

Purpose and Motivation: Hard work is driven by intentional goals and motivation, while workaholism tends to be more compulsive.

Work-Life Balance: Hard workers manage to balance their professional and personal lives, while workaholics often neglect their personal life and self-care.

Sustainability: Hard work is sustainable over time with breaks for rest and recovery, whereas workaholism leads to burnout due to its unsustainable nature.

Control Over Work: Hard workers can regulate their work habits and take breaks when needed, while workaholics often feel out of control and struggle to stop working.

Stress Levels: Hard work can be stressful but usually within healthy limits, while workaholism leads to chronic stress and health problems.

What is burnout and how can we prevent it

With all that being said, I want to move on to clearly defining burnout and how we can avoid it. Burnout is a work-related state of exhaustion where you feel extreme fatigue, have a hard time concentrating, suffer from emotional dysregulation and poor cognitive function, and mentally distance yourself from the people around you.

Burnout doesn't happen all at once; it's a gradual process that builds up over time, often linked to workaholism. When you’re constantly in a mental state of go-go-go or feel the need to work excessively, you’ll start feeling stressed out from trying to meet all these demands. Over time, if you don’t find ways to take breaks and rest to recharge, you’ll lose energy and find yourself in a state of burnout.

This all happens because burnout leads to emotional exhaustion, detachment from work and others in your life, and a decreased sense of personal accomplishment and motivation.

So how can we prevent this?

There are 5 domains in our lives that we can pay more attention to for preventing burnout: physical, mental/emotional, social, work, and personal/leisure.

Physical Well-being:

Find a form of physical activity you enjoy and do it regularly

Take short breaks during work sessions to stretch and move around

Maintain a balanced diet to sustain energy levels

Get enough each night to support brain function during the day

Mental and Emotional Well-being:

Practice mindfulness techniques and meditation to reduce stress

Practice gratitude daily to adopt a positive mindset

Use deep breathing exercises to calm your mind and body.

Social Support and Relationships:

Seek help when needed through therapy, counseling, or support groups

Make time to connect with family and friends outside of work

Set boundaries for maintaining balance by defining working hours and learn to say no

Workplace Strategies:

Try to opt for projects or tasks in your work that align with personal goals and preferences

Try to schedule meetings to obtain feedback from your higher ups so that you have clear measures on your performance can identity areas for improvement

Find ways to make your work fun to sustain motivation and satisfaction in your work

Leisure and Relaxation:

Schedule leisure activities throughout your day to recharge

Dedicate time to hobbies and interests outside of work

Spend time in nature to connect with the environment and reduce mental fatigue

Thank’s for tuning in.

As always,

L <3

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(article) I Want To Let My Voice Be Known” ONEW Interviewed - SHINee's softly spoken talent in conversation... | Clash Magazine

K-Pop veteran Onew strives to share his true self with the world, and his voice is central to this ambition. It is irrefutably his greatest strength, and subsequently, the title of his 2018 debut EP, which welcomes listeners to his discography with mellifluous invocation. 

The 35-year-old has led K-Pop quintet SHINee—dubbed the Princes of K-Pop—since their 2008 debut. Though he no longer sports the silky black side-swept bang, red bomber jacket, and exorbitantly large gold chains from ‘Replay’, the now-redhead has remained a stronghold in the group, both vocally and as a leader. As an individual, the singer is soft-spoken and possesses a quiet strength that allows him to lead by example, often putting his members before himself.

Paradoxically, his solo career has allowed him a step away from the chaos of it all and a moment to look inwards. Often, becoming a great artist requires the understanding of oneself, and the pursuit of personal happiness is Onew’s north star when it comes to this journey. “I’m thinking about how I can effectively express who I am,” he said, seemingly narrowing the daunting pursuit of happiness down to the feasible task of self expression.

He craves vulnerability, honesty, and growth—as an artist, he desires not to be known, but to be understood. Each song he puts out is a small part of himself: a piece of his journey, a documentation of how far he has come, and an expression of how much further he hopes to go.

Introspective by nature, he earnestly confessed that standing alone started off as a challenge for him. Bright, feathery, resonant, and soulful—all qualities his voice possesses. But when first starting out in the industry, he ruefully admits his voice was a sore spot for him. “At first, there weren’t any similar voices,” he shared, saying he struggled to find a role model whose voice reflected the qualities of his own. “There was even a time when I thought, ‘Is this all I can do?’—to the point where it felt like a kind of trauma.” 

As a young artist, getting to know your own voice and adjusting to life in the public eye—all while on the tail end of puberty—is a rather nightmarish affair. For many, the incipient frustration of such a situation is often the breeding ground for motivation. While time has been the primary aide throughout his journey, Onew has grown to feel at ease with his voice: he not only shares this sentiment with conviction, but has found a home in it. “My perspective has changed, and I think it’s become one of my strengths.”

He can irrefutably hold his own within any musical setting, and when he stands alone it’s especially clear that he trusts both his voice as an instrument and his ear as a tool. Whether taking the stage alongside his members or as a solo act, an ear-to-ear grin unfailingly graces his features whenever he’s performing. It’s hard to imagine him doing anything but, and he agreed, saying he “… probably would’ve done something that involved singing in some way” when asked if he’s ever considered a separate career path.

Consequently, finally having the chance to see his international fans live is a privilege that he doesn’t take for granted, and as he’s continued to make his way across the US, he’s seemed increasingly bemused by the amount of fans that have waited to see him. He reciprocates the energy with ease, and is especially looking forward to performing his most recent title track, “Winner,” for fans. “I want to remind everyone once again of the message that ‘everyone is a winner’,” he expressed. While some might perceive the sentiment as cheesily optimistic, it bears a simple truth: Onew lives to create, and to perform. “I keep saying that I want to perform and meet fans wherever I can, and I truly believe that I’ll be able to meet them anywhere.”

His artistry is something he takes great pride in, and he’s only just beginning to understand the full extent of his abilities as an artist, particularly as a soloist. There’s some aspects of the job that he’s still adjusting to, due in part to the establishment of his own company circa March 2024. With the support of a tight-knit team, Onew has begun to explore new parts of the creative process, which has, in turn, allowed him to reflect on how his solo process differs from that of his role in SHINee.

“I used to think the company played a big role in building a strong team, but ever since I started as a solo artist, I’ve been exposed to a lot of new things.” Not only is the singer a credited lyricist, but as of the release of his 2024 EP ‘Flow’, he’s also a credited producer. “It hasn’t been easy,” he confessed. “Everything that came with responsibility also felt like pressure at times.” But it’s the mutual trust he’s built with his agency that’s helped with making the adjustment. “…By having close conversations with my new company, I was able to broaden my perspective.” 

He is not to be underestimated, despite his soft-spoken nature—every performance of his is handled with the same level of diligence. While he’s generally attentive when it comes to his music, he’s recently found that, following the release of his first-ever English single ‘MAD’, English songs tend to  “…demand an extra level of care.” Much like beautifully fitted puzzle pieces, his honeyed vocals are apt for the relaxed acoustic R&B melody, and it’s the perfect piece to round out his discography thus far.

When it comes to his personal life, the singer is all about balance. He seeks out different means of expressing himself, and as of late, has enjoyed a good documentary when he’s not on the road. Meticulous as always, he seems to be waiting for the perfect one to happen across his television, but until then says he doesn’t “have any specific recommendations yet.”

Understandably so—time is a luxury for most idols, and since embarking on his first-ever world tour ONEW THE LIVE: CONNECTION, it seems he can seldom spare extra to do much else, including finding new music to add to his daily rotation. “I’ve been so busy preparing for my second full-length album, which is coming out in July, that I haven’t really had time to listen to new songs—[chuckles].” 

It’s incredibly difficult not to feel endeared by his amiable spirit. Like many artists, the singer has simply entered a new season, but even so, his hopes for those supporting him remain steadfast. “I hope someone can find happiness through my music.” 

Coming from anyone else, these words might easily slip through the fingers of those on the receiving end, their meaning potentially being written off as one of many expressions on a list of “idol-friendly phrases.” However, Onew’s sincerity bleeds through his every word—he muses over them when he speaks, unafraid of silence if it allows him the chance to be intentional with his language. 

Onew’s craft knows no bounds, and while there are many forms it might take as time goes on, one thing is certain—there is no part of his artistry that isn’t him.

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December 1, 2024

Grilling...

In the beginning, the therian and otherkin communities had a process to help determine who was and was not a therian or otherkin. Called "grilling", it was a form of introspection that involved other members questioning someone about their nonhuman experiences and guiding them to the right words that fit them. This was helpful for some because it gave them an outside perspective and introduced them to new information that they wouldn't have found otherwise because they wouldn't have even thought to look for it. Grilling encouraged people to really look into themselves and understand their experiences better, there were very deep discussions, whole websites dedicated to members of the community writing in intricate detail about their identities, and the sense of comradery was at an all time.

However, it quickly became a demonized practice due to the way some forums started to go about grilling. Around the mid 2010's, an atmosphere of "wrong = fake" grew around certain online sites and answers like "I don't know" were made to feel dumb and immature. This led to those who were being grilled, specifically younger children between the ages of 13 and 15 years old, feeling like they had to lie or were otherwise offended when told the terms they were using were not correct for them. They did not want to admit they were initially wrong out of fear of rejection or bullying by the older adults. Now, grilling is deemed the evil in the communities, and anyone who dares question others or insinuates that one may be using the wrong terms is a "gatekeeper" who must be silenced.

But there is no shame in being wrong. There is no shame in making a mistake. It is good and healthy to ask yourself the hard questions and admit the hard things to ourselves. If you are not honest with yourself, you will forever feel the burden of the lie. The truth is, we are not "policing" you when we say the word you're using to describe yourself is not the right one for you. We are helping you be your authentic self. We are guiding you to the freedom that the right word for you will give you. When you have the right word for who you are and what you experience, it opens up the box you put yourself in trying to fit into a word that isn't for you, allowing you to spread your wings.

Meeting the basic criteria of something is not a bad thing. Fitting the definition of the labels you use is important because it does not force you to be anything other than yourself. Grilling was and should still be a common practice in any community, because it helps the community and the individuals who think they might be a part of them know if it really is the right place for them without having to compromise any fundamental personal parts of oneself in order to "fit in". Please consider that when we're telling you that trying to change the definition of a label to fit your own desires to be included in that community it is damaging not only to the community you're trying to change but also to yourself because you are trying to be something you're not, we're not "gatekeeping" you. We are not hating you. We are not making fun of you. We are helping you. We are encouraging you. We are teaching you. We are looking out for you.

[gender-jargon]

[Image ID: The Revela pride flag by Gent (Gender-Jargon). The pride flag consists of nine horizontal stripes of the same size. From top to bottom, the stripes are navy blue, indigo, teal, light yellow, grey, light yellow, teal, indigo and navy blue. ./. End ID]

Revela: a gender identity related to self-exploration.

[PT: Revela: a gender identity related to self-exploration. ./. End PT]

Etymology

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From English, "Revelation", shortened to "Revela". Coined by Gent (Gender-Jargon), June 2024.

The root word "revelation" was chosen based upon the many revelations that occur in the process of self-exploration; becoming informed of that self-exploration is an option, the realization that one desires to explore oneself, the journey one takes when exploring oneself, the things that one learns about oneself while on said journey and what that ultimately means to oneself.

Elaboration

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Revela is an atrinary, outherine/diastine gender identity. Revela can be considered autonomine, autoine, rahuine and/or quesinine depending on the individual.

For a Revela individual, self-exploration is an essential experience, highly central to one's identity, heavily involved in one's concept of their gender and often a perpetual pursuit. Revela can be used to describe anyone who considers self-exploration to be a gendered experience.

Simply, Revela is a gender about getting to know oneself and all that it entails. Revela is similar to Alithix and Rahugender, but with some differences:

Alithix is about the pursuit of authenticity. Rahugender is about self-actualization. Revela is about self-exploration. All three of these can significantly overlap, but ultimately, each are distinct.

Alithix is about being true to yourself, Rahugender is about becoming one's "best" self and Revela is about finding out who you are.

Pride Flag

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The pride flag was created at the same time as the term by myself (Gent, GJ, 6/24). The pride flag consists of nine horizontal stripes of the same size. From top to bottom, the stripes are navy blue, indigo, teal, light yellow, grey, light yellow, teal, indigo and navy blue. The colors have the following meanings:

The navy blue stripes represents unknowability, mystery, boundless infinity and questions without answers.

The indigo stripes represents the vast frontier of the unexplored, knowledge that is not yet known and life's secrets.

The teal stripe represents the spirit of investigation, the act of learning, unfamiliarity and personal development.

The light yellow stripes represents burning curiosity, motivation, introspection and the process of questioning oneself.

The grey stripe represents the self.

[PT: The navy blue stripes represents unknowability, mystery, boundless infinity and questions without answers. The indigo stripes represents the vast frontier of the unexplored, knowledge that is not yet known and life's secrets. The teal stripe represents the spirit of investigation, the act of learning, unfamiliarity and personal development. The light yellow stripes represents burning curiosity, motivation, introspection and the process of questioning oneself. The grey stripe represents the self. ./. End PT]

The pride flag has it's stripes arranged so that the stripe representing oneself is central, with each stripe radiating away from the center symbolizing the journey of self-exploration.

[andruail]

stop telling people what to do, its dnd, its not real & that serious.

ok don't know which post this is about since i haven't posted anything in a bit, so i'll just say that speaking up about whitewashing ireena and the biphobia/erasure towards strahd isn't wrong.

i'm not sorry that it has apparently made you or others uncomfortable. speaking up about these things is important even if others may disagree.

i'm not telling people "what to do" with their dnd. of course everyone has the right to their own personal autonomy, it's just important to recognise and understand that the individual choices you make can still perpetuate harmful societal norms and attitudes. yes, even in your private fake dnd game. addressing issues like racism and other forms of discrimination requires introspection and personal accountability because meaningful change begins within oneself and extends to interactions in public spheres.

i would consider and think very deeply about how your private actions align with your stated public values. maybe consider why there might be a disconnect. why do you (general 'you') claim to support LGBT rights, yet continue to perpetuate biphobia/erasure? maybe reflect on the underlying beliefs or biases that may be influencing your behaviour, and challenge yourself to align your actions more closely with the inclusive values you claim to publicly profess.

the same goes for whitewashing and racism. reflect on why there may be discrepancies between your public stance against racism and your private actions perpetuating whitewashing or racial stereotypes.

also the thing with dnd (and by extension, fiction itself) not being "that serious" (which i assume you mean 'not real' or 'not influencing real life') is like. a common misconception. i know it's a form of entertainment for most people, but like every other form of fictional entertainment, it often reflects and reinforces our societal attitudes, values, and norms. fiction can and does shape our perceptions, attitudes, and behaviours, influencing how we perceive ourselves, others, and the world around us.

what this means is if you're perpetuating harmful stereotypes or discriminatory portrayals in your fictional story or games, they can contribute to the normalisation of harmful attitudes and behaviours in real life. this is why it's always important to critically examine and challenge harmful media (dnd) representation and also critically examine yourself and where your own biases may come from.

btw many gothic horror works have used the genre to challenge societal norms and conventions. horror is not an excuse to engage in private bigotry. challenging societal norms in storytelling involves more than simply depicting violence or discrimination; it requires thoughtful examination and interrogation of power dynamics, systemic injustices, and the ways in which individuals and societies perpetuate or resist oppression.

[1yyyyyy1]

What exactly is feminine and masculine energy acc to u and is it something simply inherent to the person? and not really a set of behaviors that are learned (and then fall in either of these labels)?

I do believe that "feminine" and "masculine" energies are a thing and are inherently presented in people to a polarizing degree, they are not related to biological sex and represent a specific way people approach the world in. Feminine energy is the energy of creation from within (internal regulation) and masculine energy is the energy of creation from outside of oneself (the material plane). I call them "yin" and "yang" to make more sense of these terms because, like I mentioned, they have little to do with biological sex or gendered presentation.

What I mean by these energies being represented to a "polarizing degree" is that different people will be born as and "specialize" in one or the other energy, as in, some people will be more "in their head" and introspective, favoring things like psychology and arts, and some people will be more business-oriented and enjoy material goods and physical labor, or, to directly influence the outside world. Despite the common idea that "feminine energy" is some kind of inaction, being and embodying it is not about "not doing anything" — on the contrary, it is about doing quite a bit, the process is just not visible to the naked eye and only gets externalized at certain points in time, like when I sit down to write down my findings after weeks of internal labor. It is true that embodying feminine energy attracts and provides you with the things you desire and I genuinely cannot elaborate more on this because, in my opinion, it is something you have to experience for yourself to fully believe in it being a thing because that is the only foolproof way to dissolve skepticism when it comes to metaphysics.

In regards to my latest post on energies and receptivity... Knowing that feminine energy attracts the desired outcome when a person is simply being themselves, women insisting that the main way to actualize it is by initiating near-transactional contact with men would seem counterintuitive seeing that the principle itself allows for a state of no-contact, like being engrossed in your hobbies, and the truth is that there is no contradiction between LOA's principles and heterosexual dynamics being the way that they are. I generally encourage people to look at the lifestyles of those who have a good grasp on LOA to understand that these people's market-like attitude towards relationships and the universe is not contradictory, like with rich women showing off their bodies to intimidate their rivals and keep "options" coming well into their marriage, that is the kind of lifestyle they wish to live for personal reasons and women consistently finding themselves in materialistic, superficial relationships points at just that. Women are in general rarely aware of the fact that they love the drama of hypergamy and that a lot of the time they take on a "masculinized", cutthroat approach to relationships because they like competition and the feeling of being the exceptional collectible item they have built themselves up to be, especially if it involves a man with an extensive dating history which in turn validates their "price tag" to themselves. In other words, women subconsciously manifest being in their masculine when it comes to actualizing their femininity and they fail to recognize that they have shifted the paradigm because they appear feminine both to the world and themselves, meaning that their advice is useless to those who wish to actualize theirs without turning it into a marketing strategy. This competitive mindset inherently puts the individual in a high-pressure environment and disconnects them from their empathetic side at the cost of improving their marketing capabilities, and a lot of the time women, in acknowledging that women's rejection of femininity oftentimes stems from trauma, act as if said traumatized women are completely unreasonable for continuing to live that way and pressure them into believing that their only way to actualize their potential is through interacting with those they know to be a danger to themselves. Dressing up and going on a date so that the man you are with gains status from being in your company is a masculine act because it is an externalized, premeditated exchange, which is why many "divine feminine" coaches can come across as competitive, abrasive and in general appear as if something is "off" about them — they are businesswomen operating in their masculine and cultivating a feminine appearance is their part of that business exchange.

It always seems pretty pointless to me to be calling people out without proposing an alternative solution, otherwise I would be admitting that I am powerless to change anything and am complaining for the sake of it, but, from my experience, feminine energy has little to do with men to begin with and is, rather, the imaginative component of LOA. The metaphysical principle behind attracting your desires is that the universe responds to your vibration when you think about and visualize things, with said vibration being elevated through cultivating peace inside and around yourself, and that you get rewarded more and more profoundly the higher your vibration is, but the more believable way to view this phenomenon is that embodying feminine energy is about being in tune with your intuition and not second-guessing yourself when opportunities come your way. This comes down to knowing who and what you are, what and what does not serve you and which opportunities will benefit you if you are to pursue the elevation your own well-being — and if this sounds like an easy task that could not possibly bring that much prosperity, I want to ask anyone who is reading this just how often they doubt themselves because I know that I rarely do.

I believe that I have attracted numerous things by simply curating my blog, and by "attracted" I mean "was handed in for no apparent reason in circumstances unrelated to my blog"; me sharing my writing is the "embodying" part of "being and not doing", that is, my blog is me being myself because a person who figures out how to improve people's and their own mental well-being and recites their findings in an accessible format is what I am. It is a stark contrast between seeking out public spaces or navigating the dating scene, which I personally do not appreciate because that is how you come in contact with too many unsavory people; and I do believe in attracting a partner energetically more so than direct effort in case anyone is wondering... The universe will always reward you when you are a "feminine energy" doing your "feminine energy" thing and there is no need to debase yourself by entering the heterosexual rat race for a chance at a sponsorship if it goes against your convictions, especially given the fact that you would have to be in your masculine for quite a while to achieve that. Again, cultivating feminine mannerisms and appearance for the sake of receiving goods from a man is a masculine act because it is an externalized business partnership.

Another misconception heterosexuals like to promote to validate their sadomasochistic dynamics is that men are the only sex capable of sensibility and leadership because they are supposedly not as emotional and that "logic" equals "reason" when that is far from being the case. Masculine energy being the "logical" one means is that it is predisposed to operating in the material world as opposed to internally, and while it is beneficial for actually tackling material matters, it is a mistake to assume that the only sensible decisions to be made are the ones that are void of emotion because reason is made up of both intuition and logic. For example, a person could take their surroundings into account and discern that being racist in certain circles will give them money and status (logic), but if they are not in tune with their emotions and are not aware of their sympathetic nature (intuition), they will suffer for this decision long-term and the distress experienced will cancel out any material benefit gained. This alone should give you a decent understanding of why neither thinking pattern is better than the other and that people being attuned to their emotions says nothing about their decision-making capabilities.

All of the above can sound a bit controversial because it goes against the common conception of what "feminine" and "masculine" energies are, and it can be intimidating to entertain the idea that you could in fact not need anyone but yourself because it is quite easy for society to convince men and women that they "need" each other without taking additional factors into account, like most people being sexually abusive, egotistical scum that only ever concerns itself with materialistic power struggles and drama and that relationships as of right now present a high risk of traumatization when entered, making self-reliance a very valid choice. The good news is that you do not have to listen to me and can always turn to the people who talk about the complete opposite of what is being said here to see if their advice works for you.

To conclude, you do not "need" a masculine partner if you are feminine and you do not "need" a feminine partner if you are masculine, and anyone who tries to convince you otherwise is a predator because they are attempting to manipulate your boundaries by forcing you to operate from a state of lack. Feminine and masculine energies are certainly complimentary, it is why both of them are represented in all people, even if to a different degree, and an individual's goal should genuinely be mastering both of them for their greater good instead of despairing over the idea that they are ought to be dependent on someone else for the rest of their life. While cooperation is important, I am less interested in promoting codependency and more in willing consent into existence.... It is possible to cultivate a balance between these two energies to harmoniously exist by yourself as a person if that is what you want out of life.

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Anon wrote: Hi MBTI-notes. INFJ here. Many thanks for your tremendous insights. Your analysis of unhealthy INFJ’s has been absolutely spot on for me. I can see that I can be incredibly, sometimes laughably, unrealistic, have great difficulty being present, and alternate between too cynical and too trusting.

However, despite knowing about the INFJ weaknesses for several years now thanks to your blog, I keep making these mistakes. Some feel harder to change than others - like the difficulty focusing that, in my case, seems similar to ADHD.

I am trying a variety of things including finding the right mentors to bring me back to reality and hold me accountable, DBT, and improvements to basic physical self-care like sleep. I might also consider getting on medications for bipolar I (a diagnosis I have received due to two manic episodes, although they’re not sure if I need to be on meds) or ADHD.

In your experience, what is necessary to successfully close the gap between simply knowing about my problematic patterns and actually changing them? I am really hoping that improvements in emotional intelligence via DBT will close the gap, and also am trying to be more systematic about maintaining and improving my interpersonal relationships. Maybe it will be a combination of many small things like mastering physical health and routines, realistic goals, the right mentors, discipline, etc.

(From the INFJ who mentioned bipolar I). As an addendum, I just wanted to mention that the two episodes definitely involved some psychotic thoughts and behavior, but it's unclear if they fit a traditional manic episode, as I've not experienced periods of little sleep but high energy. It’s quite possible that BPD is a better explanation due to a connection in both cases with a romantic interest. I just wanted to mention this in case it impacted your response at all.

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"Knowing" about problems means being in possession of the facts, so it comes mainly through observation and gathering information. A lot of people go through life not knowing how problematic their thinking/behavior really is until they get critical feedback or generate very negative consequences. Even then, perhaps they still can't admit to having a problem and they use defense mechanisms such as denial to avoid confronting the truth. Getting through these defenses can be an arduous process. Even though knowing is really only the first step, it can already be quite a difficult step.

If knowing is only the first step, it means it's not enough. More is required. Knowing is not the same as "understanding". Understanding comes mainly through developing self-awareness, which involves the capacity to perceive and evaluate oneself accurately and objectively. Self-awareness can be described as low/high or shallow/deep. To improve self-awareness usually involves going inward, through reflection and introspection, to discover the roots and mechanisms behind psychological issues.

If knowing is about grasping the facts, understanding is about being able to provide a proper explanation of the facts. For example, a lot of people feel low self-confidence very acutely but they have no idea about how it came to pass or why they suffer. When you don't understand your thinking/behavior, it means you don't know the causes of it, the motivations behind it, or the factors that contributed to its manifestation.

That said, when people know but don't understand their problem, they are still capable of some small self-improvement. Generally speaking, they'll seek out advice from those in the know and try to discover some common rules, methods, or procedures for dealing with the problem, which allows them to become more functional in daily life. However, while they can improve a bit, their growth tends to be limited because it remains unclear whether the solution they've found is the correct one. Perhaps they feel some relief or progress, but it doesn't really seem long-lasting. Why? Knowing without understanding means every "fix" you try is basically blind and random experimentation. If something works for awhile, you don't understand why. If something doesn't work, you don't understand what went wrong. This is one reason why self-help methods have a high rate of failure; they simply don't get deep enough into the problem, so self-awareness remains too low.

Using the example of low self-confidence to illustrate, different people suffer for different reasons. For Person A, perhaps it's because of fear of failure that creates too much anxiety to feel confident. For Person B, perhaps it's because they lack knowledge and skill, so they feel too incompetent to approach tasks confidently. Person B needs to improve their knowledge and skill through learning and practice in order to feel more confident. But this remedy isn't going to work for Person A. Regardless of how knowledgeable or skilled Person A is, they will continue to fear failure, because it is an entirely separate issue that remains unaddressed by Person B's remedy. If you were looking to the above two cases for inspiration, you wouldn't get very far without knowing YOUR individual reasons for suffering low self-confidence.

It sounds like you are still in the stage of knowing - gathering the facts about your issues in order to name/label them correctly. It's good you've gotten some practical advice for managing your issues. Using the INFJ functional stack to frame the issues also seems to have been helpful for improving your self-awareness. However, what I'm still not seeing is true understanding. You haven't yet discovered the underlying causes/mechanisms and aren't able to provide an accurate and objective explanation of why you suffer from these issues. In short, it's just harder to solve a problem when you don't know the cause or how it arose.

This is probably one reason why you're running into difficulty with getting clear official diagnoses. People often view an official diagnosis as "the answer", but oftentimes the label is just a way to describe a particular set of symptoms. It doesn't reveal enough about what's really going on underneath the surface. The process of talk therapy ought to be aimed at making better sense of the symptoms, so it's important to pair any pharmaceutical interventions with talk therapy.

I never want to discourage people from self-improvement. I appreciate your willingness to seek out answers. You asked me what might be lacking in your approach and I've given you my best guess. You've focused a lot on "doing" and "following", implementing some commonsense strategies like physical self-care and learning from good mentors. This is certainly a step in the right direction. But from the perspective of analytical psychology, you haven't done enough to go within to understand your own individual psyche. It is likely that working on your emotional intelligence through DBT will deepen your self-awareness. But, at this early stage, there is no way for me to predict if it will "close the gap". If you care about understanding yourself better, be willing to take your therapist's reflections and inquiries as deep as you can go with them.

[infodailyblog]

Do you know Where I Can Find Happiness?

Navigating the Path to Happiness: A Journey Within

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, the pursuit of happiness has become a universal quest. People often find themselves asking, "Where I can find happiness?" as if it were a tangible destination waiting to be discovered. However, the journey to happiness is more nuanced, often requiring introspection, mindful choices, and a recognition that joy is a subjective and multifaceted experience.

The Illusion of External Fulfillment

In a world driven by materialism and external achievements, it's easy to fall into the trap of seeking happiness in possessions, status, or external validation. Many individuals believe that acquiring more wealth, achieving certain milestones, or gaining societal approval will unlock the door to lasting happiness. However, this pursuit often proves elusive, leaving individuals feeling unfulfilled and yearning for more.

Cultivating Happiness from Within

True happiness, however, often lies within. It involves a journey of self-discovery, where individuals explore their values, passions, and innermost desires. Cultivating a sense of purpose and aligning one's life with personal values can be a powerful foundation for sustainable happiness.

1. Mindfulness and Present Living: Happiness is often found in the present moment. Embracing mindfulness – the practice of being fully present and engaged in the current experience – allows individuals to savor life's simple pleasures, fostering a deeper sense of contentment.

2. Connection and Relationships: Meaningful connections with others contribute significantly to happiness. Building and nurturing positive relationships with friends, family, and the community can provide a sense of belonging and support, enhancing overall well-being.

3. Gratitude Practice: Gratitude is a powerful tool in the pursuit of happiness. Taking time each day to reflect on the positive aspects of life, no matter how small, can shift focus from what's lacking to what is abundant, fostering a more positive mindset.

4. Personal Growth and Learning: Engaging in continuous learning and personal development can bring a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. Setting and achieving personal goals, no matter how small, contributes to a sense of purpose and progress.

Seeking Joy in the Journey

Rather than viewing happiness as a distant endpoint, it is crucial to recognize that happiness is often found in the journey itself. Life is a series of moments, and finding joy in the process of living can lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying existence.

1. Embracing Imperfections: Accepting that life is imperfect and embracing the ups and downs allows individuals to navigate challenges with resilience. Happiness is not the absence of difficulties but the ability to find joy despite them.

2. Balancing Work and Play: Striking a balance between work and leisure is essential. Overemphasis on professional success without allocating time for personal interests and recreation can lead to burnout and hinder overall happiness.

3. Self-Compassion: Being kind to oneself is a crucial aspect of happiness. Recognizing and accepting one's flaws and imperfections with self-compassion fosters a positive relationship with oneself.

The Ever-Changing Nature of Happiness

It's essential to acknowledge that happiness is not a static state but a dynamic and evolving experience. What brings joy at one stage of life may not necessarily do so in another. Flexibility and adaptability in the pursuit of happiness allow individuals to navigate life's transitions with resilience and openness.

Conclusion: A Personal Odyssey

In answering the question, "Where can I find happiness?" it becomes evident that the journey is deeply personal. It involves self-reflection, intentional choices, and a willingness to explore the rich tapestry of human experiences. True happiness is not a destination but a continuous exploration of the self and the world, guided by authenticity, gratitude, and a commitment to living a life aligned with one's values. As individuals embark on their personal odyssey towards happiness, they may discover that the destination is not a place but a state of being found within the depths of their own hearts and minds.

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What do you think about the page class?

the page is a class of development. they are protected by their aspect in a general sense, and must learn to take their aspect into their own hands and wield it with proficiency. jake, a page of hope, is able to circumnavigate confrontation by utilizing the way others tend to think of him, which is usually as being generally oblivious and incapable of reading situations. jake is, however, extremely cunning and very much capable of clocking the severity of situations, which is what predisposes him to such high amounts of social anxiety. his fear of messing things up or allowing himself to be corralled into an arrangement he hates colliding with his unwillingness to stand up for himself causes him to resort to the tactic of weaponizing the way his friends perceive him. if nobody expects too much of him, he can get away with a whole lot.

this, however, deeply eats into jake's self-esteem. he is deeply self-critical and doesn't believe in himself because he knows he's faking it, but he fears conflict to the point of paralysis so he will continue to fake it if that makes others happy. what this does though, obviously, is cause more conflict to happen in the first place because of his refusal to communicate his own feelings in the fear of them not being respected, and thus he doesn't believe in his friends either. by being surrounded by his hope, he lacks it at a core level.

what a page must do, then, is draw in their aspect from around them and learn what it means to them. they must wield it and practice it to develop themself to a higher familiarity with it. this usually involves deep introspection and admitting very difficult things about oneself, and taking active steps to improve. what this is to result in, then, is a very powerful warrior who has taken a grasp of their own destiny, wielding their aspect and curbing its influence towards or away from others. a fully-realized jake english could give someone a chipper smile and assert his belief in them and they would be nigh-indestructable as a direct result, as long as he believed in himself as well.

[mnrpardiman]

Socrates, a renowned Greek philosopher, is famous for his unique approach to philosophy and his enduring ideas. While he didn't write any works himself, his ideas are primarily known through the writings of his student Plato.

Here are some of Socrates' key ideas:

The Socratic Method:

* A method of inquiry and discussion that involves asking questions to stimulate critical thinking and uncover underlying assumptions.

* Socrates would engage in dialogues with others, challenging their beliefs and assumptions through a series of questions.

* This method aimed to lead people towards truth and understanding through reasoned argument.

The Importance of Self-Knowledge:

* Socrates believed that the unexamined life is not worth living.

* He emphasized the importance of introspection and self-awareness.

* He argued that true knowledge begins with understanding oneself and one's own limitations.

The Pursuit of Virtue:

* Socrates was deeply concerned with ethical questions and the pursuit of a virtuous life.

* He believed that virtue is the highest good and that it is essential for human flourishing.

* He argued that knowledge of the good is necessary for virtuous action.

The Inseparability of Knowledge and Virtue:

* Socrates maintained that knowledge and virtue are interconnected.

* He believed that a person who truly knows what is good will always choose to do what is good.

* Therefore, the pursuit of knowledge is essential for moral development.

The Limits of Human Knowledge:

* Despite his pursuit of knowledge, Socrates recognized the limitations of human understanding.

* He often professed ignorance, acknowledging that he didn't have all the answers.

* This humility allowed him to approach philosophical questions with an open mind and a willingness to learn.

It's important to note that our understanding of Socrates' ideas is filtered through the writings of Plato and other sources. However, his legacy as a philosopher and thinker continues to inspire and influence people to this day.

[dealsdart]

how to find the right woman: dating tips, attracting women and dating advice for men

Outline of the Article

Introduction

Understanding Yourself First

Identifying your values and goals

Knowing What You Want

Clarifying your ideal partner Understanding

Building Attraction

Where to Meet Women

Online dating platforms

Navigating the Dating

Process

Handling Rejection and Setbacks

Conclusion

Introduction

Setting the stage for finding the right woman involves laying a solid foundation of self-awareness and intention. Before embarking on the journey of dating and relationships, it's crucial to understand oneself deeply. This introspection involves identifying personal values, goals, and desires, which serve as guiding principles in the search for a compatible partner. Additionally, cultivating confidence and self-improvement is essential, as it not only enhances attractiveness but also fosters a healthy sense of self-worth. By setting clear intentions and understanding what one truly seeks in a partner, individuals can embark on the path to finding a fulfilling and meaningful relationship with the right woman.

Understanding Yourself First Identifying your values and goals

Understanding yourself is the cornerstone of personal growth and fulfillment. It involves delving deep into your inner workings to identify your core values and goals. Values serve as the guiding principles that shape your decisions, behaviors, and attitudes. They reflect what truly matters to you and what you stand for in life. By recognizing your values, you gain clarity on what drives you and what you aspire to achieve. Similarly, setting clear goals provides a roadmap for your journey towards self-improvement and success. Goals give you direction and purpose, helping you channel your efforts towards meaningful objectives. When you understand yourself first, you align your actions with your values and goals, leading to a more authentic and fulfilling life. This self-awareness enables you to make decisions that resonate with your true self, fostering a sense of coherence and inner harmony. Moreover, understanding yourself empowers you to navigate life's challenges with resilience and confidence, as you know who you are and what you want to accomplish. Ultimately, by embarking on the journey of self-discovery, you lay the foundation for personal growth, fulfillment, and a life that reflects your true essence.

Knowing What You Want Clarifying your ideal partner Understanding

Knowing what you want is the foundational step towards achieving any goal, and finding an ideal partner is no exception. It involves a deep exploration of your values, desires, and non-negotiables. When clarifying your ideal partner, it's essential to delve into both the tangible and intangible aspects of compatibility. This means identifying specific traits, such as kindness, ambition, or a sense of humor, while also recognizing the deeper qualities that resonate with your core being. Understanding your own needs and preferences is crucial in this process. It requires introspection and honesty with oneself to discern what truly matters in a relationship. Additionally, recognizing what you don't want can be just as enlightening as knowing what you do want, as it helps to refine your search criteria and avoid settling for less than you deserve. Ultimately, knowing what you want in a partner is about aligning with someone who complements your life in meaningful ways, fostering growth, mutual respect, and happiness. This clarity not only guides your search but also empowers you to recognize and appreciate the right person when they come into your life.

Building Attraction

Building attraction is a delicate dance of connection and chemistry, a symphony of gestures and words that ignites the spark between two individuals. It begins with the initial encounter, where a captivating smile or a meaningful gaze lays the foundation. Authenticity is the cornerstone; being genuine and sincere creates an irresistible allure. Engaging in meaningful conversations that delve into passions, dreams, and shared interests cultivates a deeper connection, fostering a sense of understanding and resonance. Vulnerability becomes the bridge that allows emotions to flow freely, creating an atmosphere of trust and intimacy.

Humor adds a layer of levity, sparking laughter that resonates deep within, forging a bond that transcends the mundane. Shared experiences, whether exploring new places or indulging in common hobbies, create lasting memories that bind hearts together. Attention to detail demonstrates thoughtfulness and care, making the other person feel valued and cherished.

Physical touch, when appropriate and consensual, communicates desire and affection, heightening the intensity of attraction. Gestures of kindness and generosity showcase character and evoke admiration. Building attraction is not just about superficial charms; it's about creating a magnetic pull that draws souls closer, weaving a tapestry of emotions and desires that intertwine seamlessly. It's a journey of discovery, exploration, and connection, where every moment is an opportunity to deepen the bond and kindle the flames of passion.

Where to Meet Women Online dating platforms

Online dating platforms have become a popular avenue for meeting women in today's digital age. With the convenience of swiping through profiles and engaging in conversations from the comfort of one's own home, these platforms offer a wide array of opportunities to connect with potential partners. Whether you're seeking a casual relationship or something more serious, online dating sites cater to various preferences and interests. From niche platforms focused on specific hobbies or lifestyles to mainstream apps with large user bases, there's something for everyone. Additionally, these platforms often provide tools and algorithms to help users find compatible matches based on their preferences and personality traits, streamlining the process of meeting like-minded individuals. Moreover, online dating allows for the exploration of different connections without the pressure of face-to-face interactions, making it easier for introverted individuals to initiate conversations and build relationships at their own pace. Overall, online dating platforms offer a convenient and accessible way to meet women, providing a virtual space where connections can flourish and lead to meaningful offline interactions.

Navigating the Dating Process

Navigating the dating process is akin to embarking on a thrilling adventure, full of twists, turns, and unexpected encounters. It's a journey where two individuals set sail on the vast sea of emotions, seeking compatibility, connection, and ultimately, companionship. As they navigate through the murky waters of initial attraction, they must skillfully steer through the waves of uncertainty and vulnerability, learning to communicate openly and honestly. Like skilled sailors, they adjust their sails, adapting to the ever-changing winds of expectations, desires, and boundaries. Along the way, they encounter hidden reefs of past experiences and emotional baggage, which require careful navigation and understanding. Yet, amidst the challenges, there are moments of joy and excitement, where sparks fly, and hearts race with anticipation. With patience and perseverance, they explore uncharted territories of shared interests, values, and aspirations, laying the foundation for a lasting connection. And just as every voyage has its destination, so too does the dating journey lead to the discovery of love, intimacy, and the fulfillment of the heart's deepest desires.

Handling Rejection and Setbacks

Handling rejection and setbacks is an essential skill in navigating life's ups and downs. When faced with rejection, whether it's from a job, a relationship, or a personal goal, it's natural to feel disappointed and even discouraged. However, it's important to remember that rejection is not a reflection of your worth or abilities. Instead of dwelling on the negative, use rejection as an opportunity for growth and self-reflection. Take the time to analyze what went wrong and what lessons can be learned from the experience. Embrace the setback as a chance to reassess your goals and approach them from a different angle. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who can provide encouragement and perspective during difficult times. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that setbacks are a normal part of life's journey. By maintaining a positive attitude and perseverance, you can turn rejection into a stepping stone towards future success. Keep pushing forward, stay resilient, and believe in your ability to overcome obstacles.

Conclusion

In the journey of navigating the complex realm of dating and relationships, one fundamental truth emerges: understanding oneself is the cornerstone of success. The process begins with introspection, delving deep into our values and goals. By clearly identifying what truly matters to us, we pave the way for authentic connections built on mutual understanding and respect. Moreover, knowing what we want in a partner allows us to navigate the vast sea of potential suitors with clarity and purpose.

Building attraction is an art that requires a delicate balance of confidence, authenticity, and genuine interest. Whether it's through traditional avenues or online dating platforms, the key lies in being true to oneself while actively engaging with others. However, the journey is not without its challenges. Rejection and setbacks are inevitable parts of the dating process, but they need not derail our quest for love and companionship.

Instead, they serve as valuable lessons, guiding us towards growth and self-discovery. By embracing rejection as a natural part of the journey, we learn resilience and perseverance, qualities that ultimately lead us closer to our desired outcomes. Moreover, setbacks provide an opportunity for introspection, allowing us to refine our approach and align it more closely with our values and goals.

In conclusion, navigating the world of dating requires a deep understanding of oneself, a clear vision of what we seek in a partner, and the resilience to overcome obstacles along the way. Armed with these insights, we embark on a journey of self-discovery, growth, and ultimately, the fulfillment of meaningful connections.

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[jinalaw]

Destiny Driven with a Divine Purpose

Walking in Purpose!!!No longer walking in Potential !

Walking in Purpose!!!No longer walking in Potential ! As you grow in God things either fall off or Align. It doesn’t feel good at first but it is necessary for your growth! Walking in purpose means living a life that is aligned with your true calling and passion. It involves discovering and pursuing the activities, goals, and values that bring you fulfillment and make a positive impact on the world around you. Walking in purpose is about finding meaning and direction in your life, and using your unique talents and abilities to make a difference.

On the other hand, potential refers to the abilities, skills, and qualities that you possess. It is the capacity to achieve or become something in the future. While potential is important, it is not enough on its own. Many people have great potential but never fully realize it because they are not living in alignment with their purpose.

Walking in purpose requires self-reflection, introspection, and a deep understanding of oneself. It involves identifying your passions, values, and strengths, and using them to guide your decisions and actions. It means setting goals that are meaningful to you and working towards them with intention and dedication.

When you walk in purpose, you are more likely to experience a sense of fulfillment, joy, and satisfaction in your life. You are living authentically and making choices that align with your values and beliefs. You are using your unique gifts and talents to contribute to the world in a meaningful way.

In contrast, focusing solely on potential can lead to a life that feels empty and unfulfilling. It may involve pursuing goals or careers that society deems successful or prestigious, but that do not align with your true passions and values. It can lead to a constant striving for external validation and a lack of fulfillment.

Walking in purpose requires courage and a willingness to take risks. It may involve stepping outside of your comfort zone and challenging societal norms or expectations. It requires listening to your inner voice and following your intuition, even when it goes against the grain.

Ultimately, walking in purpose is about living a life that is true to yourself and brings you joy and fulfillment. It is about making a positive impact on the world and leaving a legacy that aligns with your values and beliefs. It is about embracing your unique gifts and talents and using them to create a life that is meaningful and purposeful.

Walking in Purpose! Becoming my Higher self !

“For I know the plans I have for you”

[stephengreenauthor]

Why Soul on the Water Is a Journey of Self-Awareness?

At first glance, you might think that “Soul on the Water” is an ordinary story—one with characters who will try to make a living. It can also appear as a love story—a young doctor caught between two women, questioning his engagement and navigating the complexities of relationships.

However, when you read this book and further delve into it, you will realize that Stephen Green’s novel is far more than a tale of romance and love. It is, by definition, a journey of self-awareness, where love, career, and personal struggles become catalysts for deeper introspection and transformation for a beautiful life.

The novel follows Alex H. He is a handsome doctor. He is a passionate sculler, as he attempts to balance his demanding medical career with his relationships. Initially, he believes he has life figured out—he’s engaged to Evie, a woman he has loved for years and is preparing for what he assumes will be a fulfilling future.

However, little did he know that much of his life has been built on expectations rather than true self-understanding.

One of the strongest examples of Alex’s self-awareness is his changing relationship with sculling. For example, what begins as a mere outlet for stress and competition gradually transforms into something more meaningful and tranquil. It becomes his refuge, his place of clarity, and the one aspect of his life where he feels truly in control and at peace. The rhythm of the oars slicing through the water mirrors his internal struggles—where some days, he is in sync with himself, and on other days, he feels completely adrift. This evolving relationship with the sculling serves as a metaphor for his personal growth. This illustrates how he moves from simply existing within routines to actively questioning what he wants out of life.

His engagement to Evie is another driving force. At the start, Alex assumes that love is enough—that his commitment to Evie will naturally lead to a happy future. However, as doubts begin to surface and the two women enter his life, Alex is forced to confront the uncomfortable truth that will test his love to the limits.

Unlike Evie, who represents familiarity and structure, the girls who entered his life are unpredictable. They are free-spirited and force Alex to question what he truly wants. Through their connection, he is confronted with his own fears—of change, of making the wrong decision, of stepping away from what is comfortable. As their relationship deepens, Alex is on the middle path and begins to see that love should not be an obligation or a compromise. Instead, it is a choice that has to be made with full awareness of oneself and one’s own desires.

Beyond romance and love, Alex’s life also involves his career. As a doctor, he is constantly exposed to life’s fragility. Be it the deadly COVID-19 or other life-threatening cases where Alex initially fails to apply those lessons to his own choices—the story will only add to his transformation. His personal life begins to mirror the unpredictability of his work, and he starts to understand the value of truly living—of making decisions that align with who he is rather than what others expect him to be.

By the end of the novel, you will see that Alex is no longer the same person he was at the start. Instead, he has learned that self-awareness is not just about recognizing who you are but also about having the courage to act on that understanding. In light of this, Soul on the Water is a story about love, yes—but more importantly, it is a story about learning to love oneself enough to make choices that lead to genuine fulfillment and growth. Despite heartbreak, change, and introspection, it is a beautiful story that will offer us a genuine reflection of life and its fragility. This is a different kind of story—a book that will keep us on the edge and enable us to think outside the box.

Through this book, Alex’s journey becomes a reflection of the universal human experience and the search for authenticity and meaning in life—even when nothing seems clear. If you are looking for a book that will keep you glued to your seats and fascinate your heart and soul, this has to be your next read.

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[lazysuitthing]

personality development

The Importance of Personality Development

Personality development is the process of improving one’s outward and inward attributes, such as behaviors, attitudes, habits, and communication skills. It is about learning to enhance both the physical appearance and emotional intelligence to present a more well-rounded version of oneself to the world. For many, personality development may sound like a purely superficial endeavor, but in reality, it is an essential journey towards achieving personal and professional success.

Understanding Personality Development

Personality encompasses a person’s characteristic patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Everyone has a unique personality shaped by a mix of genetic factors, life experiences, and environments. However, the development of one's personality is not something that is static or fixed. It is a lifelong process that evolves with exposure to new experiences, lessons, and personal introspection.

Personality development touches on many aspects of an individual’s life. Whether it's the way we communicate, interact with others, or handle challenging situations, each facet plays a role in shaping our overall personality. When you focus on developing your personality, you're essentially enhancing your skills, knowledge, self-awareness, and confidence. This can be incredibly beneficial in both personal and professional contexts.

Key Areas of Personality Development

Self-awareness: The foundation of personality development lies in self-awareness. Knowing who you are, what your strengths and weaknesses are, and how you react in different situations can be transformative. Self-awareness allows you to understand your emotional triggers, work on your faults, and build on your strengths. When you understand yourself better, you become more confident in your decisions and actions.

Communication Skills: Effective communication is a crucial element of personality development. Whether it’s verbal or non-verbal, your communication style can affect how others perceive you. A person with strong communication skills knows how to express their ideas clearly, listen actively, and engage with others empathetically. This not only enhances relationships but also fosters a sense of respect and trust.

Emotional Intelligence: Emotional intelligence (EQ) involves understanding and managing your emotions, as well as recognizing and influencing the emotions of others. High EQ enables better interpersonal relationships and conflict resolution. It helps you navigate social environments more comfortably, build stronger connections, and foster a positive outlook on life.

Confidence: Confidence is one of the most attractive traits in a person. When you believe in your abilities, it shows. Confidence is not just about being assertive; it's about trusting yourself, your decisions, and your potential. Developing self-confidence helps in making better choices and facing challenges with resilience and grace.

Time Management and Organization: An organized person tends to be more productive and efficient. Time management skills are crucial to success, as they enable you to prioritize tasks, meet deadlines, and maintain a balanced life. Being organized not only helps you achieve your goals but also reduces stress and anxiety.

Positive Attitude: Adopting a positive mindset is a powerful tool for personality development. A person with a positive attitude is more likely to approach challenges with optimism and see setbacks as opportunities for growth. Positivity enhances resilience, encourages creativity, and motivates others around you.

Benefits of Personality Development

The benefits of personality development are far-reaching. In the personal sphere, a well-developed personality can lead to better relationships, increased self-esteem, and a sense of fulfillment. Professionally, it can open doors to better job opportunities, promotions, and leadership positions. Furthermore, it can improve your overall quality of life, helping you handle stress, maintain a healthy work-life balance, and stay motivated even during tough times.

Conclusion

Personality development is not just about polishing your external image; it’s about improving the core of who you are. By focusing on key traits like self-awareness, communication skills, emotional intelligence, and confidence, you can lead a more fulfilling and successful life. The journey of personality development is ongoing, and the rewards are invaluable, whether in personal relationships or career advancements. It's an investment in your future, so start today and witness the positive transformations unfold.

[pieandhotdogs]

helloooo 🫶 interested in a tarot reading if you’ll read for me ! curious to know how my love life looks this next year? thx so much

The Strength card fell out of the deck as I was shuffling, indicating that your love life will depend on your own self-awareness and inner resilience.

Your Love Life: Four of Pentacles

This card represents stability and security, indicating that you feel comfortable in your present circumstances. It can also be a suggestion to allow yourself to be vulnerable with potential partners.

Something to Make Note of: Death

This card indicates that significant transformations are on the horizon. Be aware of these changes as you navigate the romantic landscape.

General Advice: Three of Wands, Reversed

This card is a call to focus on consolidation rather than expansion. This could indicate a need to nurture and stabilize your current relationships, rather than seeking new adventures.

What’s Going On Right Now: Nine of Cups

In the context of this reading, this cup may represent current feelings of contentment, or the desire for fulfillment. It’s important to note that nines contain an element of solitude, so this could represent finding joy in oneself.

What’s Going to Happen Next: The Hermit

This card implies that the next step of your love-life will involve introspection, reflection, and (considering the rest of the reading) potentially the need for solitude to recharge or reconnect with yourself.

I am always open to being wrong, but based on this reading, it appears that romantic love may not be high on next year’s priority list. However, there is always the opportunity for growth and the development of other types of love. Good luck, hope this was helpful!

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