#Reframe

[tilbageidanmark]

"Free potatoes, yeah!"

Modern dystopian events repackaged as Feel Good stories are everywhere.

[trustlife2day]

[brettesims]

Be Like Water

“He was coffee.

Bold, unchanging, steadfast.

And I was what?

Water.

Spilling over the edges of whatever

Container he put me in.”

~ Unknown

[dougielombax]

Hang on….

Oh…..

Hmm.

[grandpa-spooks]

Tw: religious trauma paired with religious advice

Something I struggle to understand about super religious people is their need to establish religion as The Thing Above All Else. I was raised being told by both of my parents that they love God more than me, and more than each other, and my devotion to Him should be the same or else it was idolatry. I was told that a true Christian thinks about God and talks to Him constantly and never does anything without asking Him about it.

And it took me well over a decade to pause and go “is this healthy?” I really don’t think it is. We’re called to relationship with God, and once you put that into a relational context, it becomes apparent how wrong these behaviors are.

God should be important to Christians, but so should your other loved ones. You should take your faith seriously, but it shouldn’t be the only aspect of your life. You should be able to go a few days or even hours without praying and feel okay about it— it’s not like your relationship will go away in two seconds. You should be able to love your partner fully and completely without questioning if they’ve become an idol for you. And you damn sure shouldn’t tell your 7yo kid that loving their mom more than a God they can barely comprehend at this point is one of the worst sins they could commit.

[heartgambler]

I despised my smile and the way my teeth weren’t flawlessly straight, my nose which seemed everlastingly too pointy, my hair which could become frizzy in the wink of an eye, my freckles and I’m not even sure why, my body was most certainly not skinny enough or toned enough, and at times, I also hated my mind which could be extraordinary somber and rough.

Until I saw all of these traits in you

Your smile is infectious and brings bliss to all around you

Your nose is so perfect and lovely

Your hair is positively beautiful

Your freckles are special and add youth to your appearance

Your body is powerful and swift and capable of doing difficult things

Your mind is ever evolving and it is the most beautiful mind I have ever met

By loving you, I learned to love myself too

My nose is slender and I am able to smell because of it, and I can decorate it so charmingly

My hair is naturally curly and most days I don’t have to put much effort into taming it

My freckles add youth to my appearance

My body is strong and quick and capable of doing hard things

Although living in my mind can be complicated, it is mostly an enchanting place to be

By loving me, I hope you learn to love yourself too

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

One of the most impactful and life changing acts of love you can extend to yourself is replacing condemnation with compassion and exchanging resentment with reframing. For many of us, we struggle with forgiving others, moving forward from difficult seasons, and often dangle our struggles with the truth that life is a journey - an imperfect one at that. We will have seasons of consecutive wins but those seasons are often followed by seasons of life-altering losses. There will be times where we make situations exponentially worse by trying to fix them and other times where it will seem everything we touch turns to gold. There will be family and friends we would do anything in our power to protect, who will be the exact individuals we will find ourselves mentally, spiritually, and emotionally protecting ourselves from. No matter the season or how it appears, how we choose to reframe and redirect from life's hills and valleys will not only impact our destination but also the timing and levels of peace we experience while venturing there.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the freedom of forward

[sirenadeloceano]

I am a failure → I am always learning

[nofeelingsarefinal]

we all have good thoughts, bad thoughts, sexy thoughts, useful thoughts, and useless thoughts. but don’t forget this helpful banger of a wisdom: you are not your thoughts, but the thinker of your thoughts. you can CHOOSE which thoughts to believe in and eventually your thoughts will end up believing you too 🤯 click the link to figure out how to do so.

[swimmingupwardstowardsthesun]

Acceptance and commitment, Truth

Reflecting more on a powerful reframe I can really get behind. The course and my growing belief in it is showing me purpose and potential, and that it is good and right to be where I am now.

Seeking to free myself from my long term addiction, now while keeping this secondary to working on the course. I must hold off drinking, paradoxically, to maintain focus. Finding something greater to commit to. Acceptance and commitment is my present action and goal... Accepting that where my issues may take an unusual and isolating form from others, they really have the same content. Committing in perception to identifying with the solution.

We are all of the spirit, that mustard seed of faith and willingness that can move mountains if we can but identify it. This is a challenging life.

[redeemedmillennial]

Maybe the fall was meant to be flight

[funsimplethings]

[johnapacheco]

Asking the Right Question?......3/23/25

I frequently tell clients that asking “Why….?” has little value. Human behavior can be complicated. You might ask me “why I got up and went to work today?” You and I could spend hours talking and never have a definitive answer. We might have dozens of threads; the fact would remain that I got up and went to work today! This quote embodies a reframe; it takes the question and asks it a different…

[writers-true-self-48]

Is it all my fault?

The thing is, in some way, I wished for everything that happened. And because of that, I think I still carry some guilt.

I wished for change. I wished to get to know myself better, to go on a journey of self-discovery, to improve my relationship with my parents. In one way or another, all of it manifested—it all came true. But now, I realize that part of me is blaming myself for it. And maybe what I really need to do is forgive myself.

The other part of this is that I feel like I’ve lost something—not just hope, but maybe a certain intensity of emotion. Right now, I feel too balanced. It’s difficult to be angry at the universe or even deeply sad because, from the very beginning, I only saw the opportunities. I didn’t let myself think about the risks because they terrified me—especially the risk of losing my mom. I always told myself, I’m too young to lose her.

So I stepped in. I became the motivator, the coach, guiding both her and my dad. I focused on positivity—I reframed everything. We didn’t say "chemotherapy"; we used different words. We didn’t say "hospital"; we found other ways to talk about it. I wanted to shape reality in a way that felt less daunting, less overwhelming.

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[unofficialchronicle]

embrace the mystery