#aspec asks

[aspec-mafia-official]

Ok so idk if it’s the right place to say it, but I recently watched a movie with a canonically aroace main character! The movie is a Japanese movie named "I am what I am" or "Sobakasu (そばかす)" in Japanese. It’s about the struggle of an aroace woman in a allonormative society.

I hope it will interest someone, I really loved the movie and I don’t think it’s too stereotypical or cliché

Oh wow!

I’ve never heard of the movie but it sounds great!

aspec representation that’s not just a bad joke or a character confirmed to be ace after a show ends is hard to find, so it’s great to know that a movie about being aroace exists.

-dread

[am3ya]

the issue with shipping aro/ace characters isn't putting them into relationships, it's the fact that no one adds how their sexuality impacts the relationship at large. And how it'll always be different from your average romantic relationship in some way.

[anjeez929]

The aroace flag looks oddly out of place compared to the rest of the Aspec flags

[a-rabbit-obsessed-queer]

Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

[peach-pot]

(if you don’t mind reblogging this post, that would be groovy ^_^)

[kiwisandpearls]

do you ever just go “yo this character is hot” in the platonic sense or am I just weird like that

[deadwardianpoltergeist]

how often is a normal amount of times to form attraction towards people

like if you have a new crush/squish every week is that a lot?

if I only get squishes like once every 1-2 years is that grey-aspec territory?

[pokimoko]

hi i love your art sososo much!!! im not sure if you're still taking requests, but if you are, could you please do an aego/asexual pigeon? thank you very much, and it's okay if you dont! :)

Pigeons, truly the aspec icon of the critter world.

[knifearo]

ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

honestly something ive noticed is that when queer people make jokes like "im too gay for this" or "ew straight romance" other queer people get it and agree. but when an aro/ace person makes the same kinda jokes about their aro/aceness and allo people, suddenly we're the bad guys

THIS OMG thank you for articulating it

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

I was wondering, what with the wave of new bots and all, if I could borrow your voice to signal-boost a PSA:

Please do not click the links! I don’t care if it’s a new job, p*rn, or fashion/product themed bot, don’t click it!

Please do not click links online unless you know for a fact they are trustworthy. I have tested most of these types of bots’ links. Most of them will log your IP address (which is usually some approximate of your real location), googleAds user ID (which can track you across devices), and other such data. Even if they do lead to a real product page, clicking those links gives malicious third parties a rather large chunk of your personal data and browsing habits. Most of them do not lead to real product pages. The ones I have tested mostly lead to what appears to be a simple page prompting you to log onto your Gmail. Even if you’re already logged in.

These links try to steal your password, credit card, and identity! Please do not click them! I did this on a virtual machine, running a browser with all permissions disabled, connected through the TOR network and a VPN. I did this under the guidance of a trained cybersecurity professional so you wouldn’t have to. Not one of these links were safe, and we tested over a hundred unique links. Even if every shortened URL was different, the links they led to were often reused across bots.

Please do not click the links from anyone online you do not explicitly trust!! This is true for both users and bots

THIS

[aspec-mafia-official]

As it is Pride month, I hereby reiterate my claim that black cats are Aspec! Spread the word!

Agreed!

[crying-in-converse]

How can you be aro/ace and bi?

Not trying to be rude btw just curious

ohh yess good question. and there are actually multiple answers.

so the definition of aroace is little to no romantic or sexual attraction. so you can be bi with that little attraction.

there are also a label oriented aroace which is where someone doesnt experience ANY romantic or sexual attraction but experiences other attraction that is significant enough to label. so you can label yourself as bi oriented, lesbian oriented, gay oriented, pan oriented, etc.

aroace is an umbrella term for anyone under the spectrum of aroace. so demiromantic/demisexual, grayromantic/graysexual, etc. if you fall under the spectrum of aroace you can use the label aroace. (only if u are on both spectrums though!) so you can be bi and demiromantic/demisexual, etc

[vvanillavveins]

Look, i just wanna skip straight to the "old married couple" phase without the decades of uncomfortable traditional romance that would usually come before that part, okay?

[shmaroace]

asexuality and aromanticism are very different identities that mean very different things. asexuals and aromantics can also share a number of overlapping experiences. these things can coexist.

[kernsing]

ORV as a story about fervid devotion through life and death/the desperate lengths taken to save the one(s) you care about more than anything/the paradoxically futile yet worthwhile endeavor to know and understand and love someone—all without ever developing into romance—is just so near and dear to my aromantic heart. Even past the grand gestures, the heroic journeys, the sacrificial acts, this one dream: “I want to buy a really big house and live together with everyone.” How do I encapsulate the amount of yearning inherent to my reading of that sentence. Like it was clawed out from the deepest parts of the soul. How wondrously heavy and real it feels, this hope for a future I can see much more clearly than any vision of dating/partnership/marriage.

I want to buy a really big house and live together with everyone.

Me too, Dokja. Me too.