#attraction to multiple

[vaxieth]

BELLS HELLS: pink pony club

happy pride month to my beloved all canonically queer party <3

[skippersthecat]

All of the psychic children universes have their own perfect pretty girl character. Saiki has Teruhashi, Mob Psycho has Tsubomi, Dandadan has Aira. This made me wonder if Spy x Family had one, only for me to realize the attractive character that everyone swoons over is Loid.

[huginsmemory]

As someone whose asexual and a monsterfucker and knowing that there is a large subsection of the monsterfucking community that is Ace or on that spectrum, Ford being very Ace-coded and implied to have fucked a a triangle feels accurate to me. representative, even.

[itadooori]

s2 gihun with s1 characters PLEASE

wait i love this concept omfg

[cosmicredcadet]

I'll never understand why people assume that something being a phase is a bad thing, especially when it comes to identity. because the thing is that our lives are made up of phases - they always have and always will. nothing, and i mean nothing, stay's completely the same forever. it's always changing ever so slightly - we are always changing ever so slightly.

We grew up in phases. We would grow up and maybe we liked robots as a kid but then as we grew up we instead decided dinosaurs were cooler - you didn't see people getting up in arms about how a kid liking something was just a phase and why that made their experience with that interest invalid.

We grow up choosing random jobs that we think would be cool as a kid but then as we get older we tend to choose something completely different - no one ever shut down those dream jobs for kids because it's understood that changing your mind isn't a bad thing. It's not bad to say "i want to be an astronaut" and then change that later. No one makes a big deal about "how do you know you actually want to be an astronaut, though?" because that's seen as a silly question to be asking.

it shouldn't be any different for identity. "How do you know you're aromantic?" how do you know you're straight? how do you know you won't change your mind later and realize something about yourself as you grow as a person?

sure, i'm aroace now. That may stay the same it may not. I'm a human being who grows and changes just like you are. Just like we all are. that's the whole point, isn't it? to grow and change?

So what if being aro or ace is a phase. The experience isn't any less valid. it still helped build me as a person. my life was richer because of it, even if it was temporary. I'd rather grow as a person and be happy than feel miserable because I forced myself into stagnation.

[ace-and-the-rpg-horrors]

if you ever feel stupid please remember that there's people out there who think that there's "queerbaiting" in DEAD BOY DETECTIVES

[shiftinghoesblog]

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Thank you for tuning in! Also happy pride month to my moots who celebrate <3

[serpentface]

Hibrides and Kagnomara, who was a trainee hittlatlamii physician she briefly had an affair (in a very loose sense of the word) with.

Hittlatlamii are highly specialized midwives considered uniquely equipped to address women's medical needs, predominantly in terms of pregnancy/childbirth/postpartum care. They are distinct from the much broader practice of midwifery in general, being formally educated in medicine and recognized as a minor subdivision of the priesthood of Ganmache, representing the cult of anmir-Ganmache (God as the hearth). Teachings specific to their art pass directly from mentor to mentee in a very long training process, lasting from the age of 15 to 30.

Kagnomara was an apprentice to a hittlatlamii who was hired to oversee the latter two thirds of Hibrides' first pregnancy. She's Hibrides' type in general and immediately struck her as charismatic. Kind of liked to hear herself talk but was very friendly, and her chattiness was welcome in dispelling the discomfort of these medical visits. As an older apprentice in the last couple years of her mentoring period, she was given a lot of free reign to do the more routine work solo.

This was a particularly difficult time in Hibrides' life and getting to be alone with a friendly, attractive woman who had a vocational excuse to be massaging her with various oils was welcome. Hibrides tends to be nervous about people who show any immediate and pronounced interest in her and that applied here as well, but they struck up a genuine rapport and this became a relationship on the downlow within a couple months. This got to the point of making loose future plans- hittlatlamii provide some generalized medical care as well and have significant freedom of movement even when married, so they could probably see each other on a routine basis even after the pregnancy was over.

Unfortunately for this whole thing, Kagnomara dealt with the low pay of hittlatlamii training and funding her unwed lifestyle via a habit of stealing from the homes she visited, and Hibrides caught her in the practice of lifting a handful of silver spoons. Even more unfortunately in some respects, Kagnomara genuinely liked her and had not merely been taking advantage of her to lift easily missed valuables (in fact, had convinced herself that Hibrides probably wouldn't be That upset if she found out given it was her husband's stuff and she didn't like him all that much). This was a missed call and Hibrides did not react well to the absurdity of the situation, made the judgment call that she was being taken advantage of and felt extremely betrayed. She snitched on her to Janeys and he caught her with the contraband and reported it. Hibrides never actually saw the end result but Kagnomara would have lost her job at the very least. She hasn't seen her since.

Hibrides has had plenty of reason to question whether she made the right call there and whether Kagnomara had Really just intended to steal from behind her back and then ditch her (though would have been mad about the theft either way, frankly) and has been a little haunted by this ever since.

[xxcalicofemmexx]

panromantic asexual wallpapers!

requested by @souls-for-fandoms

Panromantic: Romantic attraction to all genders; Romantic attraction regardless of gender

Asexual: Someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction; Has no desire or urge to be in or seek out a sexual relationship; An umbrella term for people who identify with part of the asexual spectrum. Commonly abbreviated to ace

[emmcfrxst]

i understand being grossed out by the confirmation that hugh jackman fully cheated on his wife with his coworker but y’all are being absolutely insane over this whole thing. if you’re out there grieving over a man you don’t know (and who is VERY MUCH ALIVE) i think you need to step back a little and maybe see a therapist to work things out and fix the way you’re letting a parasocial relationship take over your life like this 💀

[tomurakii]

I do think character design diversity is important but pls let's not act like the boys in dandadan are diverse when they're all skinny white-skinned generically attractive boys with ONE exception

The point of the post wasn't even so much diversity as it was just character distinguishability. Whether you think Okarun's design is "attractive" or not he still has notably different features and a different build from Jiji, meanwhile Momo and Aira are identical aside from their hair and eyebrows.

And then there's obviously the aliens.

Where the male ones look weird in their base forms and have even weirder transformations, but the one female alien just happens to be a girl with antenna 100% of the time.

This weird need for female characters to be one specific kind of attractive all the time just gets in the way of decent character design.

[ardri-na-bpiteog]

idk if it's the social anxiety or a touch of the 'tism or what but I do not understand how people know when someone is flirting with them. Like I will pretty much only get it if someone straight up tells me "I think you're hot" or something similarly direct because otherwise how do you know they're not just being friendly??

Even compliments like "oh you look really hot!" or "you look cute/handsome in that" or whatever do not come across as flirting to me because it could just be someone giving a platonic compliment? Like the implication is different from someone saying "I think you're hot/cute"

even worse if you're just chatting with someone at the bar or whatever. Idk how you're supposed to tell if they're flirting or just being friendly.

[gay-mike-wheeler]

okay hi i could be wrong but uhh i'm pretty sure every main character shows romantic attraction to someone other than their love interest at some point except will. which. kinda funny that mlvns think he'll get a new love interest all of a sudden when he's literally never shown interest in anyone other than mike.

[friend-of-a-cat]

So... I'm doing research for a piece of creative non-fiction (a personal essay) I'm writing for one of my uni assignments about the fact that I'm asexual and demiromantic and think that we, as a wider society, have gotten the concepts of love and attraction all wrong, and I've been researching more into the split attraction model because, well, I see it as something that's important and relevant, and this came up in my Google search:

The initial red flag of this article is the fact that it's on BetterHelp. I didn't see this at first, and did a double take.

Anyway, the first thing I would like to ask is: what are these 'cons'? As far as I'm concerned, there are none. I understand that, for many people, romantic and sexual attraction are intrinsically linked, but, for many, they're not, and the split attraction model existing doesn't harm the former - it helps the latter. The latter includes people who are on the asexual and/or aromantic spectrums, as well as people who are, for example, heteromantic and bisexual, panromantic and homosexual, biromantic and heterosexual, etc. - basically anyone whose experiences differ between their romantic and sexual attraction.

I do find it a bit annoying that, when many people talk about both of these kinds of attraction, they lump them into one 'label', which is mostly [something]sexual (e.g. heterosexual, homosexual, etc.). But, for them, the two are linked, so referring to themselves as [something]sexual to cover both seems fine and dandy. Which... it is. However, I find it wild that people don't realise that, despite the fact that the two may seem linked to them, they are actually two different experiences. People who are both alloromantic and allosexual should be able to see this, right? They can think someone is sexually attractive yet not be romantically attracted to or want to date them. That is a thing that can happen.

Anyway, I decided to read through the article. It isn't bad, per se - much of the information is useful, and it seemed to be quite positive. Until I got to the 'cons':

Now, I'm not really into the discourse surrounding the split attraction model - in fact, I didn't realise there was discourse surrounding it. This is because I tend to, either accidently or on purpose, avoid discourse in general. But... 'oversexualisation'? In what context? If anything, not using the split attraction model would be considered 'oversexualisation' (even though I don't think that that is, either - I honestly don't know why this word has been brought up here) due to the fact that many people focus on sexual attraction over any kind of attraction and use it to cover romantic attraction, too, when they talk about it. I genuinely have no idea what they are referring to here.

In regard to the second point: what? Attraction is complex. That's the whole thing. The split attraction model makes it less complex for many people. It allows people to figure out who they are and have the terminology to be able to voice it. Attraction is a spectrum and so is gender. Of course both of them are going to be complex. Society made both of them rigid in the first place, so breaking out of those rigidities is going to be confusing for everyone. The split attraction model helps people understand themselves, and I would like to think it helps them understand others. Everyone benefits.

I don't know if I can speak much on the third point, as I'm not familiar with the discourse, as I previously mentioned, and don't really know what it entails. Though, in saying this... what do they mean? When has asexuality - or aromanticism, for that matter - ever been prioritised over other queer identities? There's a severe lack of discussion and education surrounding both of them. That's just a fact. People who are asexual and/or aromantic are oftentimes even shunned by the wider queer community they are a part of. I don't really have much more to add on this point because I'm so confused by it. By the way, this article barely talks about aromanticism, despite the fact that it's an important part of this model, too.

The last point is just a rehash of the second point. If I was told about any of this stuff growing up, I would have realised I was ace and demiromantic from the start. Instead, I realised I was ace a few years ago after watching Jaiden Animations' video about the fact that she's aroace (I don't want to use the term 'coming out' here because, frankly, I hate it - I'll save that rant for another time). I only realised I was demiromantic in the past month after... realising that people getting romantic crushes on and/or falling in love with someone when they barely know them is actually a thing that happens and isn't fake. These two terms fit me best at the moment, and explain everything. If I had've known these terms as a teenager, that would have been great. The split attraction model helped me so much in breaking down myself and my identity, and offered me the foundation I needed to ask myself questions. Yeah, attraction and gender are confusing - I said it before, and I'll say it again. But why would you cast something so helpful aside? That will only hinder people - both those who are struggling with their own identity and those who are trying to understand the identities of others. Education surrounding the complexities and spectrums of attraction and gender are so important, and this model will help people teach other people about attraction.

I also read a bunch of hate comments, as one does whenever they go on Reddit or Twitter or literally any social media platform ever, regarding the split attraction model. This didn't surprise me. These specific people seem to hate this model because... well, I don't really know. They were mostly spewing aphobia. I don't think a single one had a constructive point. Also, most of the search results for 'split attraction model' on Google are actually critiques of it, or articles talking about critiques of it and being on the fence. Come on, people. Do better.

Anyway, the split attraction model is important. Education is important. Allowing people to figure out who they are and express it is important. This should all go without saying.

That is all.

[shouts-into-the-void]

Begging Komahina and Hinanami shippers to realize that it is possible for multiple people to be attracted to Hajime Hinata at once

[autistic-katara]

does it annoy tf out of anyone else that when a character says smthn like: “i’m not in love with [a male character], i was in love with [female character], it took me a while to accept and i’m incredibly scared telling you please don’t tell anyone” people immediately go “ah yes, canon lesbian, i don’t know how u can’t pick up on that”

meanwhile when a character says smthn like: “i’ve tried for years to force myself into a romantic relationship, thought it would ‘fix me’. but i realise now that’s not how it works, a romantic relationship won’t fix me and i honestly don’t think i was attracted to any of the people i tried to date, im going to swear of romantic relationships for life bcz i don’t experience romantic attraction, later guys ily platonically” 99% of the fans go “oh, ok. so they’re probably asexual but it’s definitely up to interpretation. wtf is ‘a romantic’, yeah they’re a romantic; in a romantic relationship with their ‘best friend’ who i ship them with and is basically canon. very homophobic of the author to make them explicitly state that they weren’t into them like that. they must hate gay people despite the rest of the queer characters in here…”