#eating disorder warning

[bisexualafbuck]

Signs of an ED in Charlie that they’ve put in the show so far that I’ve noticed

Theres obvious ones and some more subtle (and I know I’ve missed some)

avoids eating (e.g. I've already eaten, I ate at Nicks)

plays around with food instead of eating it

visibly uncomfortable in eating scenes (e.g. having to pretend in group setting/public)

super hesitant to eat food when in situations where he has to, and slow to eat, tries to talk his way around it (e.g. the icecream Nick got him)

mentions hes always cold (a symptom of starvation syndrome)

Wears baggy clothing (best example I saw this season was episode 5, Heat, he was the only one in a jumper bc it was way too hot for one)

dizzy

fainted (obvs)

drop in grades/motivation (I know the show implies this is due to Nick, but is often really common with an ED too, so I think it could be both)

low moods (obviously hes been through a lot so it makes sense, but a really common symptom is having lower moods, and being more unable to manage this etc)

I think it's important to highlight all the signs we've seen since last season so people not so aware of EDs can spot them too. Again I know I’ve missed some, so this isn’t a complete list

[lanawinterscigarettes]

tw for ed mention

i stumbled upon some pro ana/ed stuff earlier bc apparently I'd accidentally followed a blog that had that kind of content and now I feel all uncomfortable and gross :/

[justrandomselfships]

Another positivity post time! I think about writing some reminders or anything like it from time to time. I'll post mostly those that I find relatable tho so not all might be appropriate even for people with similar struggles.

Tbh I was thinking about a few specific F/Os writing this.

To selfshippers who have bad relationship with food

Even though it might be unpleasant for you they will try to get you to eat. It's important that you take care of yourself and your F/O is worried about you!

You and your F/O need to remember to take small steps. Having most meals together, no matter how little.

If your F/O can't be around you for a longer time and you lose your shared meals imagine them sending you some reminders to eat! (tbh I almost always forget to eat if nobody reminds me)

But by no means will they ever force you to eat something you don't like. No matter why you don't like it, they won't try to get you to change your mind.

Imagine them cooking for you, or maybe you cooking together! Together you'd make your most liked dishes together.

You can help them avoid adding ingredients that trigger your senses (in a negative way), and you can have some fun cooking ^^

So yeah I might sound like a hypocrite (I'm trying to get better though so no worries!) but you better take care of yourselves out there >:(

[trickstarbrave]

im trying to lose weight (ive been super stressed and over eating and consuming like 1000 calories a day in just sugary drinks okay) and this is like the first time ive actually sat down and tried to lose weight due to growing up skinny. so i decided to do a couple of things and see how it works out and how shitty weight loss tools are

i got a couple of apps to help log calories (i just wanna get an eyeball estimation of how much im eating im not obsessed with counting calories i just want a frame of reference of how much energy is associated with what food and protein etc etc) and so far uhhhh they have sucked. 

2 put my calorie deficit too low. i should be in the 1450 minimum and they dropped me to 1300 which doesnt sound like a lot but also would lead to less healthy weight loss and also just leaves like. no room for snacks. protein was also pretty low estimations and it constantly told me i was eating “too much protein” which is super annoying. im trying to exercise and protein keeps you fuller longer. there was no way to really customize this. if i followed this im certain id wind up feeling out of energy and like complete shit exacerbated by my physical disability. 

2 apps also categorized food as “good” “bad” and “moderation” which isnt actually helpful and just makes you feel like shit for eating. you can and should eat whatever you want just know portions, and that you’re getting all the essential nutrients. i can eat 3 bowls of plain salad a day but i might still wind up starving and low on energy the next day and i dont need guilt tripping bc i got an unhealthy snack or to get told bread is yellow and i cant go over a certain “allowance”. 

i feel like these apps and programs are in fact just gonna give you an unhealthy relationship towards food or lead to problematic eating. they encourage counting absolutely everything but also are hard to use. if you cook your own food have fun measuring/weighing everything you cook with and how much is on your plate, im sure that won’t be problematic or anything. and that was from one of the judgement free apps too like jesus. im sure daily using this must be a nightmare and you’re encouraged to buy things already logged in the system (prepackaged or take out) when you dont wanna be anal about it or be paranoid you arent making progress because you didnt get exact calculations for how much food you ate. 

i do think getting a rough estimation of how much you’re actually eating is good but this is just not it. esp bc these are marketed as “easy ways to lose weight” or weight loss systems. they dont actually inspire heathier eating habits, allow customization, or anything. if you didn’t know about other macro calculations, proper caloric deficits, resting metabolic rate, and that too high of a deficit can cause you to retain or even gain weight back (because starvation is bad actually) you would probably just listen to their wack ass calculations with little wiggle room and moral judgements on if a food is good or not and feel like shit.

if you have any bad relationship with food or anything close to an ED i think you should never under any circumstances get these apps they will probably fuck with your head and honestly arent that helpful. at best they have been a pain in the ass and inaccurate and at worst have tried to make me feel like shit for having a soda and a fruit roll up like an hour after a work out and when im having brain fog

[unsenttextsuggestion]

sure it'd be nice to be skinny but if i like your body why can't i like mine? i love you, you’re so handsome, i just want to be as handsome as you someday. i don’t like, want to be you, but i want to love myself like i love you.

[g1rlunb0thered]

ur getting thinner , while she’s getting fatter & doesn’t even realize it.. keep going it’ll be worth it i swear.

[notsohoneymoon]

I'm too jealous of those who "forget" to eat. My days are built around food........ fck you brain, think about something else

[f4iryc4y]

The cookie you’ve wanted for an hour or the body you’ve wanted for a lifetime?

[butterfliezandbones]

womp womp

[st4rv3m3]

I feel like people should understand that not every person with an ed is always underweight or even at a normal weight. People with ed's are all shapes and sizes and still suffering

[verdrietig-en-alleen]

I hate how much I rely on food. I hate that I have to have food. I hate how much I need food to survive. I hate food.

[g1rlunb0thered]

when i found comfort in :

being cold

being weak

dry lips

dizziness

irregular or no periods

losing my voice

looking dead

the numbers finally started rapidly dropping .

[s1lly-sk1nny-dreams-6]

I want to look so thin that even the camera can't make me look fatter