#hyperempathetic

[no-empathy-culture-is]

shoutout to hyperempathy people who actually end up being 'worse' at empathy than their standard empathy peers because you get relation fatigue faster bcs of heightened empathy, because the amount of empathy you feel is overwhelming, because your hyperempathy is caused by something that makes it difficult to show empathy. you deserve the best

[parxgender]

Hyperempathetic & Hypoempathetic Autistic Flags

(Referring to empathy as a feeling, regardless of one's actions of sympathy.)

[utaicon]

For whose sake is it are we laughing today?

Hyperempathetic Honami icons・★

Nobody requested, self-indulgent・★

Free to use, please reblog if using・★

[neopronouns]

an empathy-drained hyperempathetic flag for myself!

flag id: a flag with 5 stripes, with the second and fourth being half the size of the rest. in order, they are faded turquoise, very light blue, bright red-pink, very light blue, and orange. in the center of the flag, a bit taller than the middle 3 stripes, is a green circle with a thick, very dark dull indigo outline and a very dark dull indigo spiral within it. end id.

banner id: a 1500x150 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting’ in large white text in the center. end id.

dni link

[mogai-headcanons]

Mary Anta from Cemetery Mary/Here For Sweethearts is an autistic hyperempathetic selectively mute T4T canonically biromantic canonically asexual fuenralex kenochoric gendercoffin plushiecomfic plushhoard crecutian dollcreepycute cemeterygender cemeteryaesic blackaesic gothfashionaesic lillederic dollcoric dollass dollmonstergirlic adorafae lovergender demonicesse froggender mantagender deathcute trans softgirl with social anxiety who uses she/her and any death- or soft-themed neopronouns! In Cemetery Mary, she's best friends and cousins with Crowven, and in Here For Sweethearts, she's dating Reginald!

Reginald Tetra is an autistic T4T canonically biromantic canonically asexual lovesickian lovesickgender swufegender kenochoric scissorweaponic drizzlix libraryaesic darkacademic obsessangua dappergender angergender gendercoffin librainfort puffergender trans libraboy who uses he/him and any pleopronouns! In Here For Sweethearts, he's dating Mary, and in both games, he likes for her to call him Reggie!

Crowven Corvuson is a canonically bisexual corvidgender crowgender ravengender blackredcoloric mafiacoric genderpunk emogender emox trans guy who uses he/him and any corvid- or edgy-themed pronouns! In Cemetery Mary, he's best friends and cousins with Mary, and in both games, he's best friends with Theo and Zapara and individually dating Vasilis and Theo!

Twyla Sophio is an autistic hypoempathetic unlabeled woman who doesn't care what pronouns are used for her, and she has no interest in relationships of any kind!

Zapara is an autistic polysexual purplegender doggirlgender wolfgender wolfphasic scemox rawrgender olivehemaec girl with ADHD who uses she/her, they/them, and any canine- or scene-themed pronouns! In Cemetery Mary, she's in a QPR with Theo; in Here For Sweethearts, she has a queerplatonic crush on Theo; and in both games, she's best friends with Theo and Crowven!

Theodore is a genderpunk punkaesic punkgender genderjunk indigohemaec arospec gay man with depression who goes by Theo and uses he/him, it/its, and they/them pronouns primarily, but doesn't mind people using neopronouns for him, especially if they're his friends! In Cemetery Mary, he's in a QPR with Zapara; in Here For Sweethearts, he has a queerplatonic crush on Zapara; and in both games, he's best friends with Zapara and Crowven and dating Crowven!

Vasilis Deerlington is a thistlian canonically asexual canonically agender agendeer genderqueer person who uses they/them and ze/hir pronouns! In both games, they're dating Crowven!

dni link

[alostlittleriverlotus]

Literally when I say being hyperempathetic isn't all that great, I mean it.

1: I have literally been made fun of and belittled for it. I've been told I'm too sensitive and mocked/laughed at for empathizing with things that aren't real.

2: It can be exhausting. Even a fictional character can bother me and even trigger the hollow feeling I get from my BPD due to pure sadness.

3: I'm more at risk of having PTSD episodes due to news. I love true crime and all, but it can seriously affect me to my detriment. Being hyperempathetic also added to my trauma with my friends because I'd imagine myself in their shoes and would become so terrified I'd be sick.

4: It's so hard for me to set boundaries. Not purely cause I'm hyperempathetic (partly due to trauma and needing control), but I can't say that my hyperempathy doesn't affect it. I feel bad if I set boundaries. I'm getting better at it though.

5: It makes it so difficult to stand up for yourself and makes it so easy for people to manipulate you sometimes. I don't have a great family, my parents are super transphobic/homophobic and yet I still can't help empathizing with them. It makes it difficult for me to want to cut ties even though I've wanted that since I was in elementary school. I'm good at standing up for myself, but it really plays on my guilt and such because I can imagine how they feel and it turns into intrusive thoughts. Especially knowing when I've made my mother cry cause of our fights. Like I know I was in the right (she refuses to accept responsibility or even fully apologize), but it still hurts.

Being hyperempathetic can be a lot. I'm far more sensitive to things and so I have to work harder to manage it. It's never bad to be hyperempathetic and it's fine if a person wishes to romanticize it that has it, but for those that aren't hyperempathetic, please be aware of how difficult it can get for some of us. It is a lot of extra emotional weight and can be quite exhausting, especially if you're someone with a disorder that plays off that (for me, it's my BPD.)

And people with hyperempathy, especially my autistic folks, it's okay to ask clarifying questions especially around emotions. It's okay to set boundaries and say that you can't handle talking about something. It's okay to take time alone to recharge your emotional battery. It's okay to not always talk about people's problems because you can't handle it. Self care is so important and I wish everyone well. No matter where you are with empathy, you deserve so much love and I'm sure this advice can be put to anyone, not just hyperempathetic people. It's okay to put yourself first, it's okay to set boundaries, it's okay to consider your feelings. You deserve to have your needs met too.

[nicebl0g]

Empaths aren't real pass it on

[fairymoe]

Y’know when you have friends who aren’t really friends anymore because you drifted and they have a partner who they were in a multi year relationship with but then they break up and it shouldn’t matter cause you barely know them anymore but for some reason it still makes you cry

[ikiprian]

yeah yeah, jason todd’s dip in the ecto-lazarus pit changed something in him irrevocably, enough that he feels a resonance with fellow living-dead danny we’ve all been there

but you know who else has been killed and was revived by the lazarus pit? another member of the batfamily, a fellow hero, world class fighter, stubbornly believes in second chances and redemption? cassandra motherfuckin’ cain

[nyaagolor]

i don't even have anything to add to this I'm just still not over AA5 setting up this entire theme about emotions and special abilities and mad scientists and then the big reveal is just that the protagonist is autistic

[bandtrees]

mp100 is a very very kind show, i love how compassionate it is and how forgiving it is, but i also love how hard it hammers in that there’s no such thing as a perfect person with endless bounds of patience and forgiveness, and that living your life only to please others isn’t living much at all.

the confession arc is very special to me for this reason, and below the cut is some analysis as to why! obviously, this contains spoilers for all three seasons of mp100.

the confession arc takes mob, this very kind loving sweet person who’s compassionate and has been able to see good in and treat with kindness people like mogami, touchirou, etc, and tells you... hey! this kid actually has (reasonable) building resentment and unresolved issues from being constantly people-pleasing and forgiving and not really acknowledging peoples’ flaws!

and no, it’s not a case of mob having this evil dark side who hates everyone, it’s just a case of mob... being human! expecting him to brush off the way reigen treats him and the way he and teru met and the danger to his life shou and touchirou were, as compassionate and mature as he is about them, isn’t realistic! because no human person is just a walking well of love and forgiveness, and for as mature as mob is, he’s still only a kid!

mob, as ???%, is very violent towards teru and reigen, and i choose to interpret this as how intensely he’s repressed his unresolved resentment for them that he swallowed down in favor of forgiveness and being the bigger person - the wider theme of mp100. we never really see mob express any discomfort around teru for nearly killing him, or around reigen for lying to him and generally treating him like trash sometimes, or around shou for burning his house down... and while i can’t express enough how important the messages of compassion and forgiveness are in this story, i think it’s also equally important to see, in ???%’s rampage, it’s not some evil side of mob or some shadowy separate personality in his body who’s deciding to hurt teru and reigen, it’s mob himself, because he never unpacked his conflicting emotions towards them, and now, when he can’t control himself, they’re running wild.

and this isn’t me saying teru and reigen are horrible people who never earned mob’s forgiveness. of course not! they’re very important people to him, he cares for them a great deal, they help to bring mob down from his violent episode... but as we hear in the mogami arc...

mob, kind as he is, isn’t some all-forgiving, forever-loving kid, and the same goes for his relationships with others. he cares about teru as a friend, he has resentment towards him for what he did that he never unpacked until now - these things coexist!

and there’s the ultimate catharsis when reigen tells the truth about himself, revealing to mob that he’s a complete liar who’s been using and exploiting him from the beginning. he lied to him from the day they met, and those lies ultimately led to the disaster in seasoning city that we’re seeing now. it was mob’s honest belief that reigen was a strong, powerful adult who had everything figured out -

- that led to him being unable to accept the contradictions within himself, and so reigen laying those bare, the fact that he’s a liar and an exploiter, that he too, this person mob has admired and learned from for the whole series, has a part of himself he hates for how it thinks of other people, is what’s able to let mob finally accept himself. 

reigen being a liar doesn’t make him an evil monster who deserves nothing but mob’s resentment - and in turn, mob destroying the city and trying to kill his friends doesn’t make him a violent, hateful murderer. it makes him and mob flawed humans, whose relationship couldn’t ever have healthily continued if those things weren’t unpacked - if reigen never honestly confessed about who he was, if mob kept forgiving reigen without looking inward to ask how he felt. at best, it would have been shallow and dishonest for them both until the end, and at worst... well, mob wouldn’t have been able to repress his emotions, dangerous as they are the more he hides them, forever...

this is why the scene of mob breaking down and crying is so important to me. finally, he feels safe expressing ugly, crude, selfish emotions. until now, when we see mob cry, it’s either tasteful tears running down his face, not changing much of his actual expression, or the complete opposite direction in exploding and bawling his eyes out with 100% sadness and 100% rejection - either mob’s emotions are pretty and subdued, or soul-crushing explosions he has no control over.

(sidenote: 100% rejection is one of the coolest explosions in the series to me and i wish it was talked about more!)

now, though, with the reassurance that he can cry, full-on cry, and it won’t hurt anyone, that he isn’t some selfish evil for being a middle school boy devastated he got rejected by his crush, that he’s allowed to feel broken up and miserable and have it not be an explosion that destroys the city... he cries! he feels all those negative emotions he’d held back, and because he feels safe expressing them, they’re not dangerous at all, they’re just... again, a middle school boy crying because he got rejected by his crush.

mob’s emotions, on their own, aren’t dangerous. it’s his refusal to express them, and the violent outbursts that leads to, that is.

something i love so much about mob psycho 100′s ending is that it’s not an ending at all. it’s just the beginning - finally, after three seasons, mob can actually feel and safely express his emotions. he can be on even footing with teru, reigen, all of them. he can start balanced, open, communicative relationships with those around him, showing that the compassion mp100 preaches goes far deeper than simply forgiving those who hurt you, or giving people chances.

mob’s kindness is so, so, so important to me, and where season 2 was about extending kindness to others, culminating in mob sitting down with touchirou after deciding that letting him die alone would only have been needlessly cruel and reinforcing the man’s worldview that he needed nobody, and that extending kindness towards him was what he needed to properly change - season 3, culminating in mob confronting the parts of himself that may have wanted to leave touchirou behind, is about extending kindness to yourself.

[thepringlesofblood]

anyone else having to go through fhjy at a snail's pace bc every time there's a teacher-student interaction (even the positive ones!) you want to set something on fire because of how much you hate high school and american academic culture and it throws you back to the Bad Old Days of actually being in high school, but also you really like fantasy high and you really like the characters and their story and the players and the way they're exploring & critiquing the US school system and basically everything about the show but actually watching it makes your brain explode?

[thisautistic]

just watching vegaspete ep 13 again and thinking FUCK. pete really is that bitch.

MY FUCKING HERO

my man CHOOSES HIMSELF and that can be SO HARD when you're dealing with a bond like vegaspete has.

strongest human ever made. and the WAY HE DECIDES JUSt

he mourns for like a split second and then GETS DOWN TO BUSINESS. he's not just a hero, he's his own hero and i'm FUCKING STOKED to have a character like him CAUSE HE'S I N C R E D I B L E

and build jakapan is a P H E N O M E N A L actor seriously like HOLY FUCK

PETEEEEEE

[neopronouns]

a combined hyperempathy/npd flag for myself!

flag id: a flag with 5 stripes, with the second and fourth being half the size of the rest. in order, they are dull indigo, very light blue, bright red-pink, very light blue, and dark red. end id.

banner id: a 1500x150 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting' in large white text in the center. end id.

dni link

[vampiiric]

still laughing at the guy who said "you poor thing :(" when i mentioned having friends w npd. like sucks to suck buster my friends have objectively correct opinions on fictional characters (npd headcanons) and i enjoy their worldview. supporting them brings me joy and delight. plus "anti-narcissists" are way more draining/assholing than anyone w npd -_-. like shut upppppp