#hyper empathy

[2swanned]

no i am not an "empath" i am hyperempathetic because of my autism and my bpd and other peoples emotions overstimulate me extremely easily

this is not to say "uughhh im such an empath im tired of being the therapist friend!!!!" because its not like that. hyperempathy is genuinely NOT something you want

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Exploring the Connection Between Being Autistic and Loving Animals via

The Autistic Teacher

[no-empathy-culture-is]

shoutout to hyperempathy people who actually end up being 'worse' at empathy than their standard empathy peers because you get relation fatigue faster bcs of heightened empathy, because the amount of empathy you feel is overwhelming, because your hyperempathy is caused by something that makes it difficult to show empathy. you deserve the best

[serpentriderx]

How does one reconcile having predator altertypes and hating the idea of hurting another living being? Is prey drive a struggle for any of you alterhumans?

[somtimebehuman]

j'attendais qu'il n'y es personne , mais l'absence était la

[phecdasolar]

Friendly reminder that if you see something bad or stressful on the internet you can ignore it. If you see something bad that’s trending you don’t have to click on it.

Your mental health comes first. This is going out specifically and especially to all my fellow hyper-empathetic people out there. If you know that going down a rabbit hole of information on a specific horrible topic is going to make you depressed or feel like crap then you don’t have to interact with that. (Edit: I have been informed that this is called “doomscrolling.” To repeat what I was told: Doomscrolling is not activism. It doesn’t end up helping anybody and it only hurts you.)

In this day and age where we have access to the internet and information about soooooo many different horrible things it can be so easy to get sucked in to all of it. We have wars, we have constant natural disasters (there’s a massive fire close to where I live right now, it’s barely contained, and is rivaling the fire we had a few years ago that destroyed an entire town. It’s terrifying), we have beloved creators being accused and revealed to have done horrible things (the fact that I can say this and multiple names immediately pop into my head sickens me).

The point is, take a break. Get off the internet. Breathe. Go for a walk. Maybe look at videos of cute baby animals, or compilations of “restore your faith in humanity.” Go read a book. Eat something you like. Take a nap. Drink some water. Take a shower. If you’re religious, pray about it. Take care of yourself and don’t allow yourself to drown in the dread.

And for the people who might come at me for this saying “how dare you not care about the problems going on or the pain other people are in!” That’s the problem. It’s not that I don’t care, the problem is that I care too much. Please refer back to the hyper-empathetic part of this message. I am a sympathetic crier. I will allow myself to get so sucked in to an issue and I will end up feeling terrible about it. I won’t want to leave my bed, I feel like crying and throwing up and there is an everlasting pit in my stomach the size of Alaska. I am no help to anyone in a state like that, and neither is anyone else. I will say it again, take care of yourself and your mental health first.

There’s a reason on planes they tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first before helping others.

But that’s not to say you have to ignore it completely! Take a step back, take a break, and then engage when and only when you feel like you’re at the mental/emotional/psychological capacity to do so.

When coming back a tip I have is pick one specific issue, and focus on that. Only one. Don’t overwhelm yourself. If you can, find a friend or someone you know is reliable and levelheaded and talk to them about it. Multiple perspectives can help a lot, plus you feel less alone when tackling a difficult situation.

It’s important when you’re gathering information on the issue that you know your sources are reliable, and you’re doing your own research. “Okay, multiple people on Tumblr are screaming about something but they’re saying different things about what’s going on.” Tumblr is not a reliable or credible source I am sorry besties. We are a bunch of dumpster gremlin raccoons given access to a platform to scream out our personal thoughts and opinions. Please don’t take them as solid immediate truth.

I have more I could say on this probably but it’s 1 am and I am losing my thought coherency. Have a good night/day and take care of yourselves <3

[aceofenbies]

quoiempathetic

a term for people who don't know where they fall on the empathy spectrum, who don't find the term "empathy" useful for their own feelings, who find the concept of empathy confusing, who are unsure whether they feel empathy or not, who can't tell empathy apart from sympathy, compassion or other feelings, who don't understand empathy or who disidentify with empathy altogether.

[puppie-cub]

i hav kaleidoscope, the ty beanie baby kitty, and its made with its neck turned to the side. and aometimes i worry that thats uncomfortable for it, like do stuffed animals made a certain way get discomfort cuz of it? are they achy from having to be like that? i wish i could help, i dont want them to be uncomfortable :(

[dollhousemausoleum]

Ever since I was a child, and up to now, I’ve had an intense love of and empathy for stuffed animals. As an awkward and shy only child, they were my very best friends, and I fully ascribed personalities, feelings, and souls to them, which I still kinda do today (how tf did my autism *not* get discovered sooner?? Did it really have to take 30 years?), I also still sleep with a good number of them. My absolute favorite is Batty, a large Beanie Baby bat I got at a hospital giftshop in 2000.

I’m a mortician by trade, and aside from embalming, I also dress and put people in their caskets. Not much bothers me about my work, I love it very much. I can deal with just about any disgusting form the aftermath of death takes, but my heart. Fucking. S h a t t e r s. When a stuffed animal is being buried with the deceased. I know many people would call that ridiculous, but I just can’t stop thinking of how lonely they’ll be, in a cramped casket with their only companion dead and rotting, forever. However, I also like to think the “spirit” of the stuffie moves on to a new vessel to be loved again or, even better, goes with their human to the afterlife to soothe these thoughts.

This older lady I’m taking care of today is being buried with a stuffed calico cat, it’s one of those heating pad beanie plushies you can microwave. I placed the cat in her folded hands, facing her.

(I’m a cat mom and this one in particular destroyed me and had me wanting to race home to cuddle my cats 🥺)

My fucking heart. 💔

[calypsoscyclone]

Hyper Empathy Redesign

“A flag for when one is hyper empathetic, could be because of a preexisting condition, or it could just be who one is”

[no ids] for @necromanticzz

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[thatisratbehavior]

tw vent

fucking hate that other people’s emotions affect me as much as they do. someone that i care about is sad or in pain, and i’m almost immediately feeling it all alongside them. externally i’m all „its okay” „take your time” and „i’m here for you.” But inside i don’t have the strength to do anything but fall apart. first i was everyone’s therapist, now it feels like i’m all my friends’ parent. its just as hard but so many people rely on me so i cant just take a break! it will just hurt them. and i cant just take a break because i need to interact with people to feel fulfilled. im tired of just being „fine” but im too busy making sure everyone else is ok.

[supernovacat]

Everyone talks about lack of empathy this and hyper empathy that.

But no one talks about detached empathy, where you can understand the emotions via disassociating. Literally putting yourself in their shoes and how they react to things and applying it to the present situation.

Or mixed type, where you can understand that a person is feeling something, but where the response doesn't seem logical from your perspective, creating a lot of cognitive dissonance.

Or for AuADHD the special type, where your object permanence kicks in, so even if you do feel empathy in the moment, if it's not present it no longer exists. Leading to doing insensitive things, because the emotions have been forgotten.

I'm mostly detached type, and no one talks about it, or how to deal with it.

[lachiennearoo]

Can people fucking stop telling me I'm too sensitive, fr??

Like, as if I didn't already know that. As if I didn't constantly beat myself up for always overreacting to every little thing like a dumb child. Stop telling me I'm a party pooper, ruiner of fun with a stick up my ass. I'm already my biggest hater and my harshest critic. All you're doing is making me feel even more like shit and even more justified to hate myself because of it, because I think "if everyone else also thinks I'm oversensitive and always overreacting then I'm right"

I don't want to be told shit I already know. I don't want to be told "you have to change you have to get better" when I think about that shit every day.

I want to be comforted and told that it's okay. That it'll pass. That I'll get better with time. That I'm trying my best and my efforts are seen and understood. That I'm loved.

[rootbeerrex]

hyper empathy is easily in the top three worst autism symptoms for me personally bc why am I LITERALLY dry heaving over a comic book character saying "waow maybe my dad isn't completely infallible" this shit is insane

[clover-wasnt-here]

Correct me if I’m misinformed and if this term is outdated, but guys it’s possible to be a HSP without demonizing people with low empathy.

[thecrystalcorvid]

i wish people would get along.. it hurts seeing people hate each other