#identity is important kids

[redrobin-detective]

I had one of those half awake semi lucid dreams when I napped earlier where Bruce gets swapped with a younger version of himself, one who is Batman but before he adopts Dick. The whole dream was the JLA needing to call in another Bat to help get Bruce back to his own time. They end up debating which Bat to call in because their Bruce is an experienced, time hardened Dad who can handle anything his children throw at him. They all feel it is “Needlessly Cruel” to make this young 20 something Batman be subject to his hellion children who would eat him alive. 

And B is standing in the corner vibrating with concern because how many kids does his future self have and he’s concerned (and weirdly proud??) of the fact that the League is kind of freaked out by them.

[astriiformes]

Brain is once again consumed with thoughts about aro/ace Lilith Clawthorne

[trustmeimadoctor]

Hey. If you need advice at all when trying to deal with osdid i wouldn't go to Sofie... she is notorious for spreading bad info. Blogs like systematic-advice and menoriesofthecircularoom and ask-for-the-sunshine give great advice and have pretty reliable resources that are based in facts not in the plurality movement.

OSDID isn't even a diagnosis. We were diagnosed with DID. Based on "facts" you say? Cute. How old are you? lol We've been in this game for a while, child. We've been in this before you were even born We're guessing. We just needed to be comforted really and Sofie did just that. We've been following her for a little while now, and think she is very sweet. We take whatever information We find useful, as with any info gathering and disregard the rest. We are highly intelligent and self aware. And it seems that only makes us more susceptible to the occasional state of chaos. We also have been dealing with mental health professionals since We were 12. We did find it strange that as soon as We outed ourselves online, We ended up swarmed by exclusionists. Trying to, what seemed like brainwash us lol Again, highly intelligent. We did our own digging, like We've always done and took a peek inside the community and holy fuck!... Just a friendly word of advice... You all should work on some shit.

[mzminola]

Okay so Tim Drake & Azula:

Rich kids with no sense of scale whose ability to function in the real world is...varied. [Edit: Upon reading more of Tim’s 90′s run I retract this assessment of Tim’s sense of scale. His ability to function in the real world is still pretty heavily tied to whether he’s hyperfocused on a case or crashing afterwards tho.]

Continually dashing themselves upon the rocks of parental approval.

Middle child who met their younger sibling when said sibling was already an elementary schooler.

Catastrophically loses fight to older brother who has Been Through Some Shit.

Can outsmart basically anyone except themselves.

Prodigy in their fighting style.

Has friends!

[uncanny-tranny]

Hi. I followed your blog, because I found some of the stuff you post helpful to myself. As I grow older I have found myself getting more confused about my own gender identity and getting bad anxiety from that. Yesterday my 10 year old came out as trans. I'm confused about what to do because there were never any hints. I was a boy who didn't care if I had a truck or a doll, but would have rather had a doll. My 10 year old was never like that, always wanting princess stuff. I'm confused.

I'll level with you: I'm not a parent, so I do not have trans children, but I was a trans child once, so I can offer my thoughts from a kid who grew up trans!

My biggest pierce of advice is to have an open dialogue with your child. I know from personal experience, some kids will do their best to hide how they feel (think of this as a sort of preformative masculinity or femininity) from their parents or loved ones because they are scared or don't know how to process how they feel. I was always somebody who didn't like conflict, so I preformed hyper-femininity as a child one gender roles were more noticeable to me (around your kid's age, I'd say). Sometimes, kids do try to convince themselves away from how they feel until they simply cannot anymore (I used to tell myself that my father would only love me if I were his little girl, for example). While I cannot say how your child is feeling, I do think it'd be beneficial to let them have their voice about this. There are many children who don't feel they have a voice in how people see them/understand them, and reaching out to give them that voice is empowering, I think.

When I say, "have an open dialogue," I definitely think having honest conversations with your child are usually beneficial. Support for trans children is critical, and even having one supportive guardian/authority figure can truly help a trans child adjust and feel mentally well. I'd encourage you to let them express themselves, and perhaps use that to explore how they feel. If you're comfortable, maybe talk to them about your experiences (no pressure to, just for consideration). And with consideration to supporting your child, I'd definitely ask them what would work for them. Having the boundaries and space to voice what they personally need is something I'd encourage every parent to do with their child.

On the topic of how you feel, I'd definitely encourage you to explore how you feel, if you would like. It's definitely something that can be scary, but if you're in the place to, I'd definitely see about finding a trans-friendly or gender nonconforming-friendly therapist if it's starting to cause you distress. I'd generally also just encourage you to have your own support system who is accepting of you (such as a friend ground or family members or your church. Wherever you feel you can authentically be you!). You absolutely deserve the space to feel free to explore who you are and what that means to you.

[bloominstorm]

Wakui really tryna make me stop slandering Mikey out here.

[panncakes]

i know it’s tumblr and i shouldn’t take things so seriously but if you’re talking about how it might’ve been pran who set up the whole reveal thing without pat because they would need an extra push to go public that doesn’t actually absolve wai? it makes pran a dickhead who outs his boyfriend for his own reasons and wai his dickhead accomplish?

i know it’s bl and that brings a lot of straight people into fandom but it’s bl created by a gay man who very much understands what it means to go through all this and it is so invasive to have someone take away your own agency in your coming out journey and for your boyfriend to do it for you without any agreement is so fucked up. there’s a difference between pat saying ‘i wish we could be public’ and him and pran deciding to come out together in their own time, to the people they choose, with the story they want to tell and for one of them take that whole control into their own hands without so much as a warning and forcing the other out

[al-n-cartoons]

Guuuuuys this episode is awesome, it was everything I wanted and even some things I didn’t know I wanted- I have been swaying for about half an hour now and my excitement is going no where.

Also the Lumity kiss. Oh, stars, the Lumity kiss! To quote a certain worm, “They deserve all the happiness”.

Also also, Hunter has been properly weaved into the family- he's so bro with Gus- oh my stars.

Also also also, shout out to Luz for being just the single most protective little sister in the world. Slash daughter. Although Willow and Amity get some serious points for their parts.

[mokutone]

that reminds me. i realize in this post i didnt write a lot abt yamatos experiences being AFAB (assigned female at birth) bc i dont feel like our understanding and usage of that term would be relatable to him at all, given the implications of it, outside of a medical setting. 

it would be almost completely useless to him and his life experiences because he’s not AFAB, he’s AWAB (assigned weapon at birth)

[kittythelitter]

Listen, I'm not a woman or a girl or an aunt or a daughter or a granddaughter or a niece or any of that

but I am. At my core my sister's sister. But only to me and my sister. And any middle/high school teachers that loved my sister before they taught me. To these people I can be my sister's little sister. My sister and I can be sisters.

But in any other context do not refer to me with gendered words.

Just like I'm Kat to specific people and when I want to make a pun. But Dylan all the other times.

[advisorsage]

Fuck it

Vent in the tags

[out-of-context-batfam]

Robin (1993) #92

[opal-apples]

anyone remember my speech and debate au well I do and I'm judging a tournament this weekend so I've got a lot thoughts under the cut. apologies for the jargon

ok jargon definitions in the tags

WWX: does policy because he's a brat (affectionate). loves it when people try to spread because he knows he can spread faster. if he does a speech event, he does impromptu & extemp because again he is Annoying (loving) (also i do extemp and impromptu bc i'm annoying too so. don't come at me.)

JGY: does policy because he's a realist. loves mind games. runs accessibility arguments because 1. they make him look good and 2. he hates people on big teams who think they're better because they have more resources than him. he does speech because he likes manipulation public speaking. i'm thinking persuade / info. he does extemp (see mind games) but not impromptu, he thinks he's better than the event (he is). i could see him thinking about running an protect sexworkers interp (DI?) but eventually decides against it

i think a wwx jgy policy team would be unbeatable bc wwx would give the most terrible bs case in the world and then jgy would make you feel stupid for thinking it's bs when it so clearly is. that's my hot take. also they both take everything personally but hide it well.

XXC: speech boy. IF he did debate he would do like LD but i don't see it for him. Does a lot of poetry and interps. The topics are all basic but he's such a good performer it doesn't matter. Doesn't think he's any better than anyone else (he is) and doesn't understand everyone in the circuit is a little bit in love with him.

SL: speech boy. would do debate but his want to hangout with xxc outweighs his interest in debate. does platforms because he has A Lot To Say. Crit because it's fun but also because it's pretentious. Thinks he's better than you (he's not)

Mianmian is a debate girl and i'm in love with her. queen of LD. good at running identity cases because debate is super sexist. she would be so reasonable and logical and friendly outside of round ok i'm done.

Yanli reads really beautiful poetry and interps. loses her chill later in her speech career and runs stuff on chronic illness and inaccessibility in speech due to it's stressful and demanding nature. (or at least i like to think she does)

XY: debate boy. would run purposefully annoying cases to twist his opponents' words. runs like 3 cases at a time so he can focus on the one the opponent didn't get to.

LXC is a speech boy and i love him a lot. does both interps and platforms. again the topics tend towards basic but he's just such a good speaker it doesn't really matter. one season he runs like an interp about absent fathers and everybody cries. doesn't do debate

if WN was on the team i think he would read like freaky dark interps. like they're good and he's very polite and positive outside of round but homeboy is REPRESSING A LOT

if JC and/or NMJ is on the team (which idk it's probably too theoretical/theatrical for them), they both take everything personally and do NOT hide it well. after like 10pm, NMJ cries whether he wins or loses (me too king). i don't see JC sticking around for very long except for his canonical pressure to compete with WWX in EVERYTHING

LWJ is not on the team (good for him!! wish that were me). he is however at almost every meet, first for LXC and later for WWX. likes to go over debate rounds with WWX if he finds them interesting.

WQ is not on the team she has better things to do

JZX is not on the team either god bless this boy. brings yanli coffee and doesn't know what's going on <3 (again. wish this was me)

anyway. thank you for coming to my tedtalk and i'm sorry for everything about this.

[cruelsister-moved2]

idk how this sounds but I kind of especially hate when ppl use kids in any type of content thats like particularly vulnerable to bigotry like youtube keeps suggesting me these lesbian moms and they put their kids in all their videos & it's like you as 2 adults are making this content in full awareness of the homophobic harassment ur going to get but ur children have no way of agreeing to that i just think its messed up.

especially when the children themselves are also marginalised like i saw this muslim family channel talking about all the awful and scary harassment they receive and then posting their children's full names, faces, and general location in the next video its like can you not make the connection here.....?

[ask-the-gamekeeper]

Bane, my deær, thoughts on the gardener?

"The gardener, huh?"

"I don't really speak to the survivors or anything..." Not unless to give warnings or threats, maybe grumble out a hello to them when they greet him. He was certainly more abrasive at the start and so he had barely spoken to even the veterans.

"In matches I find her to be annoying." Troublesome and pesky, tearing apart rocket chairs that Burke would have to fix later. Apparently he even had to replace one or two.

"She's good at her job, though. The gardens are more beautiful than ever..." He remembered when he had returned and everything was overgrown or dead. It had taken some effort to try and restore it to normal. Then she came and it was like magic, flowers sprouting out of the ground in no time at all.

"I must admit, it's strange to walk outside to do some gardening myself only to see her there already..." It was annoying at times, but the manor was large and he could always find some other part of the garden to tend to. Or if not then he could just enter the woods to hide away where he would remain undisturbed except for the single communication device invented by Burke.

"Burke, Bonbon and I tend to garden together sometimes... We," mostly Burke, "have joked about inviting her sometimes." When mistakes were made or disagreements were had it would be grumbled by any one of them and then they all laughed afterwards before the topic shifted or faded away.

"In the end though, she's contributed greatly to the manor and... I suppose she isn't the worst of the survivors." He liked her more than the others, maybe.

[cinephalopods]

tell us about your beloved agent 3 on their first night back from the metro!

SOBS,, YEAH I CAN DO THAT i owe you my life now actually

some important context on the actual happenings to start because that puts most of it into perspective i think

my personal take on the octo expansion happens over the course of around two months, give or take

before first getting dragged underground, Ollie (my 3) is only 15 years old

she's relatively extroverted and, due to a somewhat rocky upbringing, very much thrives on attention and/or approval from those around her and will seek it to a fault

unfortunately she also gets to spend the duration of the expansion entirely isolated and alone

she's very competent, and dedicated, and good at her job, but this is not her job. her job is taking down enemies and clearing obstacles and generally all the problems she'll encounter can be solved by shooting and/or hitting them really hard. this is being stranded alone in an entirely foreign place without any prior preparation, cut off from the outside world and anyone she was previously with, and being left to fend for herself. for WEEKS. which is not something she's prepared nor equipped for, emotionally or physically

and she doesn't take it well! who would! it's just a long, painful clusterfuck of scrabbling around in the dark, and though she does eventually get access to video feeds of the facility after stealing getting her hands on the employee CQ-80, for a vast majority of the time down there she isn't even sure if the others are alive- and even when she does find out, she can't so much as contact them, leaving her just as alone as ever. needless to say, despite her home life not exactly being fantastic either, all she really wants for the duration is to get out and go home and surely, then, everything will go back to normal just like that

but then there's the distress signal, then the blender, and the Telephone Goo happens, and it's all a bit of a big uncomfortable blur from that point, but the long and short of it is that she gets out. and everything is the same- nothing much has gone on in the time she's been gone, with other squidbeak members (mostly Indie/4) picking up the slack when necessary, keeping things reasonably peaceful. so naturally, of course, this means everything is Totally Fine and everyone just gets to pick up where they left off with no repercussions whatsoever and also 8 is there now i guess thats a thing :)

except no! it's not even half that easy! because while ollie is already very good at covering up when anything is wrong- she can just about hold it together in front of everyone else, at least, if a little jittery- it's super easy to tell she's had a terrible time. she's covered in dirt and soot, scratched up all over the place, dripping green goop and glowing to name but a few things, and then there's also the significant brainfog and partial blindness caused by the goop to contend with (both of which clear up with a bit of time, but her eyesight doesn't ever completely recover). all of which only rams it home that no, just getting back to the surface isn't magically fixing any of her problems, she's got long-term shit to unpack whether she likes it or not! and then to top it all off she's got to go home to an empty house and stew alone with her thoughts yet again with that increasingly hopeless knowledge in mind. not to mention it's the first time she actually gets to see the extent of what she's been through, let alone start to process it. hence the first night especially being.. like that

ollie's time in the metro and the immediate aftermath are responsible for some of the biggest turning points in her character/arc, and things do get significantly better for her following all this, but the first few days or even weeks are... difficult. in between trying and failing to navigate her emotions and trauma by herself, attempting to figure out where she stands with Eight and how to address everything that happened down there, and running away from home but actually for real this time (long story but lets be real. it was a long time coming), she ends up with her hands way more full than she'd like. with time and a lot of patience on everybody's part, though, maybe she can have a little accepting there's people that legitimately care about her and letting them share the burden. as a treat :)