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[inevitably-johnlocked]

I’m so sorry if this question is ignorant or stupid I really just want to understand so I can become educated. When someone is asexual would they still gain something from reading explicit fic scenes? Again sorry if I’m ignorant

Hey Nonny *HUGS*

SO SORRY it took so long to reply to this one... Kind of started and then it got forgotten, and I am sorry for that. No better time than Ace Awareness Week to help you understand!!

So, short answer to your question, is YES, SOME aces do, whether to facilitate in self-pleasure, or because seeing their faves happy, or as placeholders because some aces take pleasure-by-proxy, or a variety of other reasons, it just simply makes some of us happy. You'd be surprised how many of those smutty authors are actually ace themselves. It's one of those funny misconceptions that aces are all woobie-uwu-innocent-pure-thoughts-only magical creatures, and I'm here to shatter that illusion... Aces are some of the smuttiest-minded people you will ever meet. Why, I have no idea, maybe it's because we don't fantasize about sex the same way allos do that we can come up with increasingly hornier ideas? LOL No idea.

The thing about asexuality is that it's a HUGE spectrum, and no one ace is exactly the same. A sex-negative ace might get something out of reading smut because it's not involving them. Or they might not at all. Same with sex-positive/neutral aces. It's ALL a matter of what makes us tick.

BUT here's where I go into my LONG answer, and get you REALLY into the Ace Lore™.

I want to introduce you to the microlabel of Aegosexuality (formerly autochorisexuality), which is a term that loosely translates to "sexuality with oneself". The expanded definition, from the Sexuality Wiki, bolding is mine:

It is [...] a disconnect between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacks desire to be an actual participant in the sexual activities therein.

Aegosexuals are known to:

Become aroused by sexual content (at times) without wanting to personally engage in sexual activities.

Masturbate, but feel neutral or repulsed by the idea of having sex with another person.

Fantasize about sex (with varying frequency), but envision people other than themselves, and/or view it in third person, as if watching it on TV, instead of imagining it in the first person, through their own eyes.

Predominantly—or exclusively—fantasize about fictional characters or celebrities in place of people they know personally.

Identify as asexual, feeling little-to-no sexual attraction to people though enjoy masturbating (with varying frequency), are aroused by sexually explicit content, and/or fantasizing of such.

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Basically, smut turns them on, but some aces don't want to engage in the smut for-reals. This microlabel makes it ESPECIALLY confusing for newly-figured-out-aces because there hasn't been a lot of information about asexuality's huge spectrum until recently. Aegosexuals can initially believe that they AREN'T ace, BECAUSE they get turned on by porn or smutty stories, but then they're SUPER confused because the idea of having sex themselves is appalling or undesirable. It's a bizarre contradiction, understandably, to outsiders, but it makes COMPLETE sense once an ace figures this out, I promise you.

This is the microlabel I myself fall under. It's not from any trauma or past problems or medical issues. It's just me. That's it. And because of the confusion that this sexuality can bring, it often takes us a LOT longer to have ourselves figured out. For me, it was an accidental stumbling upon the "autochorisexual" label (before it became Aegosexual) and reading up on it that EVERYTHING fell into place. Before that, I thought I was maybe demisexual. After learning about it, I felt okay FINALLY calling myself ace, that I finally found the "right fit" for me. It was the piece of the puzzle that I was missing. I felt really liberated of my self-doubt after that.

And, of course, aros have their version as well called Aegoromantic, which is exactly the same but in a romantic sense.

Here are some more resources for Aegosexuality, if you'd like to learn more about this lesser-known branch on the spectrum:

What Does It Mean to Be Aegosexual? (Cosmopolitan US || November 24, 2022)

WHAT IS AEGOSEXUAL? MEANING, HISTORY, AND USAGE. (Gayety.co ||July 11, 2022)

History of Aegosexuality (The Michigan Gayly || February 1, 2021)

EVERYTHING YOU NEED TOO KNOW ABOUT AEGOSEXUALITY (Live Love LGBTQ+ Blog || October 27, 2017)

VIDEO: 5 Signs You Might Be Aegosexual (Lynn Saga, YouTube || August 6, 2022 || 6m20s)

VIDEO: What is Aegosexuality? | Aspec 101 (Slice Of Ace, YouTube || July 15, 2022 || 3m54s)

VIDEO: Asexual Identities: Aegosexuality (Ace Dad Advice, YouTube || May 22, 2022 || 12m27s)

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AGAIN, I'm SO sorry I put this ask off for SO long, but I'm glad that I did, so that I could educate you guys on my brand of Asexuality during Ace Awareness Week!

And, finally, no offence taken at ALL! I LOVE educating y'all about stuff I learned through my journey, and you were very respectful in your ask :)

Hope you are well, Nonny, and hope you're still here to see this 🖤💜

[vyeoh]

Imma introduce y'all to a resource that helped me a ton when I was in middle school as a baby queer: the I'm From Driftwood YT Channel.

They're an online archive of a bunch of stories told by a bunch of LGBT people ranging in age, ethnicity, backgrounds, etc. If you're looking for firsthand accounts, check em out!

[tuurverheydepoetryandprose]

This page contains resources for:

- Protests

- Black Lives Matter

- LGBTQIA+

- Women’s Rights

- Mental Health

- Climate Crisis

- Organising

- Indigenous peoples

- Disaster relief

-Links to free academic and literary texts

[fella-lovin-fella]

hey so i just found out about mistr, a service that offers free sti testing and PrEP.

it looks pretty legit and i thought i'd share it here!

[southlgbtresources]

CW: Needles

Ever have trouble injecting your HRT or other medication? Needlephobia? Anxiety? Or just tired?

Here is a couple of options for you.

The site is Union Medico. They provide auto injectors/ needle guides to assist in injection Intramuscularly and Subcutaneously.

90 Degree Super Grip

The 90 Degree Super Grip helps with Intramuscular injections. Typically placed in the thigh, buttocks, or arm, Intramuscular injections go directly into the muscle to be quickly absorbed into the bloodstream.

45 Degree Auto Injector

The 45 Degree Auto Injector helps with Subcutaneous Injections. This type of injection is placed into fatty tissue rather than muscle. Typically injected the abdomen, but can also be into the thigh. This type is to slowly absorb the medicine over time rather than quickly.

!!Talk with your doctor on which type of injection is best for you!!

When ordering your injector, make sure you have the correct syringe size. I typically use a BD 3ML . The needle size does not matter as you won't be using the needles provided as a safety precaution. If unsure about the syringe size, ask your pharmacist for that information.

Be Safe and Be Knowledgeable!

[gastromancer]

clearing out my tabs so here’s some rlly neat publications & reports documenting detailed research into transmisia + queer/trans ppl <3

Stonewalled – Still Demanding Respect: Police abuses against lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in the USA. Amnesty International Publications, 2006.

LGBT Youth Facts/Statistics. From: End Domestic Abuse Wisconsin & Milwaukee LGBT Community Center, 2013(?).

2015 U.S. Transgender Survey: Report on the Experiences of Black Respondents. by Sandy E. James, Carter Brown, and Isaiah Wilson, 2017*. (Report published in 2017; data is from 2015 USTS).

LGBT Poverty in The United States: A study of differences between sexual orientation and gender identity groups. UCLA Williams Institute, October 2019.

Disparities in Childhood Abuse Between Transgender and Cisgender Adolescents. Thoma et al. in AAP Publications, August 2021.

Social Ecological Correlates of Polyvictimization among a National Sample of Transgender, Genderqueer, and Cisgender Sexual Minority Adolescents. Sterzing et al., May 2017.

Health Implications of Housing Assignments for Incarcerated Transgender Women. Ledesma & Ford, 2020.

Unequal Treatment of Transgender Individuals in Domestic Violence and Rape Crisis Programs. Seelman, 2015.

[systemserendipity]

Thinking about this post and just thought I'd share some resources for my fellow queers. :3 And a plurality infographic for flavor. 🤌

[mental-mona]

So this one goes out to all the trans and nonbinary Jewish bloggers. There seem to be a lot of you. This isn't just nonbinary Hebrew language; it's a list of resources ranging from whole trans Torah/halacha sites to book recommendations to a podcast to just plain relevant articles, and even a link to another masterlist. Enjoy!

[queeringmentalhealth]

Accessible resources for many things queer!

[adhdisgay]

U.S. LGBTQIA+ RESOURCES ASK

Hey all! I am still alive. also I could use some help

I help support my workplace’s queer employee resource group, and some of us are currently building out a resource kit for LGBTQIA+ employees to use on the job (think digitally accessible collection of helpful links and tips).

All I can say about my workplace is that employees often travel a lot and without much notice, and they travel to all states/tribes/territories within the U.S. for months at a time. This lends itself to fun times especially for trans employees and/or anyone who has strict medication requirements where accessibility changes depending on where they’re sent.

If you all know of any resources related to the following and could either add them to this post or send them directly, I would be super appreciative! 

- Traveling while LGBTQIA+ within the country/in general

- Packing lists for LGBTQIA+ folks

- Virtual healthcare for LGBTQIA+ folks regardless of location, or virtual healthcare resources

- How to manage requesting/accessing medication when out of state for extended periods of time (thinking specifically about higher class drugs or similar)

- Websites that track LGBTQIA+-friendly locations across the US (such as strandsfortrans.org that tracks queer friendly hair salons)

- Established (on official sites, not blogs unfortunately) lists of LGBTQIA+ books/poetry/other media to include for recommendations

- LGBTQIA+ self care or mental health resources

- Any resources on finding community in a new location

- Similar items along this list

I am not looking for resources outside of this list (keeping the resource kit focused). I also cannot include anything with political opinions or commentary within them. We’ll be partnering with other employee resource groups (specifically our disability-based one) for this project as well since intersectionality is key and many of these items go hand in hand.

Thank you!!

[kasaneteto]

anyone have tips for a good manu to get chest binders in fun colors from??? i wanna support lgbt owned businesses if possible

[pinkdrinkresources]

happy pride install shinigami eyes

tl;dr: it’s a browser extension that marks trans friendly pages in green and anti trans pages in red so you can avoid accidentally platforming transphobes! it’s a lifesaver.

even if you yourself are not under the trans umbrella, please consider downloading this extension to look out for your trans siblings

[imagry]

I made a small gay dictionary and came here to ask if there's anything that I've added that's harmful/problematic, if I used that wrong flag for a label, or if there's anything not on here that'd you like me to add. I tried to make this as unbiased as possible and would love any and feedback. I made sure to be as unbiased as possible. No matter how you feel about any of the labels on here this that is no excuse to express hate, I want this to be a recourse for Queer people or people who want to learn about things like this 

[boxedclocksandomens]

a random cool site where you can look up identities/sexualities:

https://www.queerundefined.com

[southlgbtresources]

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[vioreo]

Idk what lesbian this will help but mixing Rits coral dye + Rit purple dye is very similar to the cranberry purple shade on yalls pride flag

(Since the purple is darker than coral add less purple to the mix)