#non partnering aro

[archivomeow]

can we just all collectively agree that it is okay for aroace characters not to date or have sex if they clearly show no interest in it or repulsion?

can we respect that and not ship them?

or are yall too deep into amatonormativity…???

[arowitharrows]

[ID: I bring a sort of X vibe to the Y meme that reads "I bring a sort of 'living a fulfilled life' vibe to being single that society don't really like". End ID]

[aromantic-nerd]

Can we as a society just collectively decide to end the idea that being without a romantic partner is something that should be pitied?!? It is the WORST feeling ever when I tell someone that I’m aromantic and they express in some way that they’re sorry for me.

I am SO HAPPY to be aromantic and non-partnering. It brings me so much joy to know that I am whole by myself and that I don’t need anyone else to complete me. I don’t need to worry about meeting anyone’s relationship standards but my own. Not to mention the relief that comes with not having to adjust myself to fit into the society’s expectation of me. Every day I discover new unique viewpoints that are influenced by my identity. I get to live my life the way I want to live it, and celebrate my own unique experiences with so many others who are like me.

So yeah. I see no reason why anyone else should feel sad for me when I’m living my best life and have no intention of changing. Telling me you’re sorry for me doesn’t do anything but make me upset. I’m happy. That’s what matters.

[violottie]

shout out to fellow non partnering aromantics.

we're so damn awesome. like fuck that fr

[fallenrain40]

uugh i try to lookup non-partnering aro stuff and i just get flooded with a bunch of "aros can have partners too!!!" like thats absolutely true and all but. it really seems like when we dont feel anything at all, not even a little bit of something, all those ppl going "aros are valid!!!" run and away and hide.

[weepingfireflies]

I'm very, very happy more people are realizing they don't have to have a nuclear family & subverting a amatonormative system & choose to live with/marry whoever they want regardless of relationship, but also. I don't want to marry for benefits, and I don't want to live with friends. I want to live alone because that's what makes me happy. You don't need someone else to do that. You're enough on your own, no matter what anyone says

[redysetdare]

The response to "ace people are just virgins who can't get laid!" Shouldn't be "ace people can still have sex!" but instead " being a virgin isn't a bad thing."

The response to "aro people are just heartless freaks!" Shouldn't be "aro people can still feel love!" And instead be "not feeling love or other emotions doesn't make you a bad person."

Instead of pushing the idea that aspec people can be "normal like allos" we should instead be trying to normalize aspec experiences. Yes aspec people can be normal because aspec identities are normal. Some aros fall in love. some aces have sex. but they should not be the only valid aspec experiences. We should not use these experiences to make the aspec identity more palatable to amatonormativity and allos.

[neurovarious]

love the concept of <2 as an aromantic symbol/emoticon because not only is it a spin on the <3 heart (typically romantic) symbol, but it literally is written "less than 2" and idk as a non-partnering aroace that just speaks to me

[it-is-only-a-novel]

[ID: meme with two panels.

Top panel: two red buttons one is labeled with: "supporting nonpartnering aros" the other is labeled with: "supporting partnering aros". There's a hand reaching out, with two fingers going to press both buttons.

Bottom panel: image of an illustrated person sticking their thumb up and smiling approvingly.

End]

[unrestrained-balderdash-art-blog]

Made this for ASAW, didn't post it because I made better things but might as well post it now

[aromanticduck]

Often when aromantic people express a fear of loneliness after their friends partner up and have less time for them, people's solution is to encourage us to partner too, just platonically/queerplatonically. And that works for some, but it kind of misses the point. I don't want one person to spend most of my time with. I want several people who have the amount of time for me that single friends do. Not someone to live with, but someone to meet up with for a few hours on a fairly regular basis. Someone who'll be there for me in times of trouble (and vice versa), but isn't part of my major life decisions.

I know most alloromantic people aren't jerks who completely forget their friends when they get into relationships (I have friends who are married, and they haven't ditched me), but time is a finite resource, and someone else getting more of it inevitably means you get less. I don't blame my allo friends for that - it just isn't pleasant to experience.

The fact is that some people need to balance their emotional connection between multiple people, not concentrate most of it on just one. I'm a 'one or two eggs in each basket' kind of person (polyamorous people will know what I'm on about - we're fighting the same war on different fronts).

I mean, I'm not 100% sure that platonic partnership isn't for me. Maybe it'll appeal to me more later in life, maybe not. But it's annoying to have it presented to me as the ideal aro lifestyle. It feels like Amatonormativity Lite.

[aro-bird]

Okay, for aro awareness week, I need you all to start recognizing that:

NOT EVERYONE IN THE ARO COMMUNITY IS FROM THE UNITED STATES OR EUROPE.

Please, when we're having discussions about aphobia, allonormativity amatonormativity, and other issues for the love of god STOP PRETENDING THAT WE DON'T EXIST AND LISTEN TO US!

We aren't just your token aros that exist in the other side of the world just for you to prove that we are everywhere or whatever point you're trying to make, we are living, breathing human beings and members of the aro community and we deserve respect and to be remembered not as a point in your discourse but as equals.

I am sick and tired of people just assuming that everyone in the community is either from the United States or Europe and only centering those voices in the discussion. We exist too.

[heartless-aro]

something that makes it 1000x harder to be aromantic is how wild all the ladies go whenever they find out im forklift certified. once they know about my top tier forklifting skills, there’s no such thing as letting them down easy. no matter how gently i try to break the news to them that romance just isn’t for me, they’re devastated every time

[analogconstruct]

"we need weirder queers" you guys cant even handle nonpartnering aros, or nonpartnering people in general

[knifearo]

seeing all those posts from ppl ab how miserable they are without a partner like sorry can't relate. i'm doing great and in fact i hope i die alone 🖤

[lovelessrage]

The way so many aro people see other aro people talk about aro loneliness and their solution isn't to support them, or lend an ear or a shoulder, but instead to say "have you tried getting more friends?" "you still can have friends though!" "QPRs are out there! Try one of those!" "Hey have you heard of a QPR yet?" You are not better than people who treat getting a romantic relationship as a cure-all. You are doing the exact same "a relationship will fix you!" routine and I'm kinda tired of aros treating it as different because it's platonic.