#nonbinary dysphoria

[nonbinarynow]

You can pry my AGAB info from my cold dead hands.

(from u/Carousel-of-Masks on Reddit)

"Obviously, I’m exaggerating for the point, but holy hell does it piss me off when someone demands to know my AGAB. “It’s important info!”

FOR WHAT? For u to have an expectation of my genitals and internal sex chromosomes? News flash, any trans person will tell u that AGAB does not = typical presentation of that gender.

On top of this, it’s my CHOICE to reveal my AGAB. I like keeping it a mystery because people are all too quick to assign certain expectations of me based on AGAB.

AMAB? Oh trans woman in denial! Man in dress stereotype!

AFAB? Oh trans man in denial! Completely feminine woman-lite stereotype!

Like. No. I’m just me. An extremely dysphoric non-binary person that actually would love to be binary but has to grapple with an internal gender that does not feel like the 2 binary options. I say I am non-binary to escape those expectations in the first place. AGAB just reduces it all back down to the binary.

Now, other non-binary people can do whatever u want. Not like I can control anyone else’s actions. But a part of me does hate how prevalent it is to write “Non-binary (AFAB/AMAB)” every time someone mentions they are non-binary. I’m not talking about specific tips for transitioning, hrt, etc. But everyday conversation, social media posts about nothing to do with gender, etc."

Something about this rant deeply resonated with me, so I decided to crosspost it onto here. You cannot reinvent the binary to include nonbinary people. It will never work.

[mischa-makowka]

[lgbtqtext]

[wanderingcritter]

Jumping on the species transition plans trend lol, here are some ways I plan to physically and socially transition !

Physical:

• Fang Implants

- I will get these if it kills me.

• Digitigrade Leg Prosthetics

- Stupid expensive but omfg these would bring me sm euphoria, even if I could only wear them every now and then. Paws crossed they'll become cheaper and more accessible in the near future.

• Realistic Tail with Silicone Core

- Also generally pricey but significantly more accessible. I love wearing taxidermy tails but am always frustrated by how disproportionate they are to the size of my body and how they just limply hang there, having smth that looks more natural and moves with my body would be huge.

• Tattoos

- Unsure of what exactly I'd want, maybe paw/hopf prints on the backs of my hands?

• Colored Contacts

- Would need to find some that are comfortable, durable, and don't impact my vision too much (im blind enough as is), but Im very ready to go "It's the fluorescents 😒" mode.

• Reflective Contacts

- I have absolutely no idea if these are real things or not but I would actually kill a man to have contacts that reflect back when someone shines a light on them in the dark.

• Piercings

- Idk lots of piercings just give me werewolf vibes ig lol, currently planning to get a second industrial, 1-2 eyebrow piercings, and snakebites.

• Muscles

- Having more visible muscles/being strong is very animalistic to me, after all most animals in the wild have to be physically fit to survive.

• Realistic Ear Headband

- Goes along the tail, would love to wear these frequently and casually out in public. Kemonomimi gaining popularity has opened up so many possibilities to me it's epic.

• Top Surgery

- Species identity and gender identity are deeply linked for me, most things that are gender affirming are also species affirming and vice versa. Having a flat chest would feel hella animal-like.

Social:

• Come Out to Friends and Family

- This is definitely the biggest one. Unfortunately greater society isn't really ready for species transition, but some individuals definitely are. Basically just let those I trust know who I am, and that it would be wonderful if they could refer to me as nonhuman when they can :]

• Unmask Animalistic Behaviors in Public

- Be less afraid to be a little more nonhuman around others like it's the most normal thing in the world. Using my hand to bat at my ear when it itches, yip and whimper to accentuate words, practice quadrobics, etc.

• Advocacy

- Talk to people irl about nonhuman identities, be visible at events, create informative resources, even if it's scary. Most people have no idea that we exist, showing them that we're out there and here to stay paves the way for successful transition on a larger scale.

Hopefully more options will become possible soon, those of us looking to pursue species transition are kinda limited by the technology of our time, which sucks balls. Especially for someone like me who doesn't like body/facial hair or extreme body mods, I dont have too many realistic options for the time being. Oh well, just means I'll have to get creative i guess.

[enbycrip]

A whole bunch of friends have told me that I’m genuinely presenting much more androgynously at various points this year.

I know it’s not necessary to present androgynously to be nonbinary - there’s literally no single way to be nonbinary - but, absolutely honestly, androgyny is a thing I’ve been wanting my entire life. I kept presenting much more traditionally femme for literally decades because I was small curvy and round in the face and just assumed I’d never remotely manage it because I wasn’t the tall slender elven waif I always dreamed of being. I just assumed I’d look terrible if I tried to present as androgynous.

Then I got sick, and found out more and more about gender, and about *my* gender, and thought “fuck it”.

And it turned out short hair looked much better on me than I ever guessed.

And it turns out there’s more ways to present androgynously than being built like Tilda Swindon.

And it turned out that a *fuck* of a lot of the nearly-eating-disorder that has plagued me since I was about 12 was actually dysphoria, and changing my presentation did a *surprising* amount to fix it.

But hearing from other people in the wild that I’m genuinely managing this, that it’s not just something that *I *see in myself - that’s still pretty special to me.

I’m 40. The fact that I’m still finding a new way to be authentically myself that is genuinely making me happier

[neometrocosmopolitan]

Enben with dysphoria, you're not alone. I feel it too.

[genderqueercultureis]

genderqueer culture is feeling uncomfortable will the restrictions of binary labels but not being able to articulate why

May 8, 2025.

[sapphic-boy]

"Altersex is problematic because it's making yourself look intersex!" And what's wrong with that? If a person wants a body that looks similiar to some intersex conditions, why is that a bad thing? Do you think having a body that deviates from the cis perisex standards is... bad? Wrong?

[sapphuric-acid]

My brain is so annoying bc it'll have me wanting to look like a guy but also being terrified that testosterone will somehow give me every single (personally) undesirable characteristic imaginable.

Meanwhile I'm thinking that I'm currently like a 7/10 but in a feminine way, and I hate being perceived as a woman. But what if it doesn't even do enough and I STILL get perceived that way?

And in the background of all that is a 2-v-1 featuring the fear of being ugly vs "who gives a shit ugliness is subjective" va "wait I thought we DIDN'T want to be objectified? Dumbass."

[void-star]

My feeling is that, like, 98% of the world around me still believes in two mutually exclusive and oppositional genders, including other queer and even other trans people.

Every single day I am subjected to a lot of microaggressions about it, and I don't actually know which of the two mutually exclusive genders people see me as, but it's always one of them.

Some people see me as gender oppressor, some people see me as gender victim (i find neither a particularly useful way to conceptualize another person, but I digress), I'm usually excluded from other people's sexuality regardless, and nobody talks about my actual gender in relation to all this cause in some fashion I must always fall to one or the other mutually exclusive one, either by my agab, whatever genital people speculate I have, or whatever they think is my 'real' gender.

I'm so tired of it.

[glitchedcosmos]

I can’t remember the last time someone had to ask me if I was a boy or a girl because they couldn’t tell, or the last time someone used they/them pronouns for me .. or the last time I felt like I even remotely passed for non binary.

So in case no one’s told you today

you absolutely pass

You’re pronouns and name and everything in between are valid and awesome

And you are beautiful, you are handsome, you are so cool and so lovely in every way

And I hope you all have a good day.. ❤️ 🏳️‍⚧️

[nonbinarynow]

This is Jim Sinclair, at the time going by Toby. They are a neuter, asexual and intersex enban, and a seminal autism activist. They have been an educator on transneutral nonbinary identity, non-binary transition, the anti binarist position and intersex issues for decades. This is an interview with them from the 1980s, talking about their experience as a non-binary/genderqueer person at a time where the community was just coming together.

"In a 1997 introduction to the Intersex Society of North America, Sinclair wrote, "I remain openly and proudly neuter, both physically and socially."

Nonbinary people have always existed, and will always exist. Happy Trans History Week! 💛🤍💜🖤

[neptunes-saddest-alien]

Didn’t think I was pretty enough to be a girl

Didn’t think I was cool enough to be a boy

And I don’t matter enough to even try and be what I wish I could be..

I try to be as nothing as possible, because being nothing suits me better

But the world constantly tells me I’m something

Something I wish I was never born to be in the first place

Sometimes I wonder if I tried harder to be what I wanted to be when I was younger

Would I still be crying on the bathroom floor

[lgbtqtext]

Requested by irusanw4

[haunted-nonbinary-doll]

Anybody else have a childhood that felt like this?

[phantom-of-this-bitch]

I get gender euphoria from wearing a packer but I don't have dysphoria about it when I'm not, y'know? Like, I don't mind not having a bulge and I've certainly got no issues with my junk after T, but when I put in my packer I feel more confident and hot after the initial anxiety of "oh gods please don't let my dick fall down my leg".

I have dysphoria about my chest but nowadays it's more "tits don't fit this outfit" or "wow I wish I had just a flat blank slate there" instead of "I am chained down by extra flesh and must remove it immediately". I plan on getting top surgery in a few years, a double mastectomy without nipple grafts, and found a surgeon in MI that has results I really like.

I'm coming up on 6 years since I started testosterone next week. I haven't actually done my shot in so long that I had a period last month but I put in a refill request last night for it and my Lexapro. I'm a little worried my doctor will be mad at me for my levels being so low again when they do my blood work on the 6 year anniversary.

When I started my transition I thought I was a binary trans man. I figured out a few years after starting testosterone that I'm nonbinary. I don't regret starting T or the changes it's given me, it was the right choice for me to make. Starting testosterone legitimately saved my life. Now, though, I need to figure out my presentation.

I get dysphoric when my facial hair gets too long. Like, I enjoy having sideburns, but when it grows under my chin/on my neck it's too masculine. I'm trying to find the balance between my male looking body and my femininity. I want to wear dresses again but I don't know how they would look on my new body.

I found a pleated skirt I stole from an ex friend in my closet and put that on and felt good because it finally fit. It doesn't have pockets but cute skirt go spinny. I liked the way it looked against my hairy legs, it felt right and a lot better than when I wore that kind of skirt when I was younger. I have other skirts but they're patterned, so seeing a plain one that was similar to what my mum would've put me in as a little girl on masculine legs was phenomenal. I really want to get a new pair of fishnets to go with it and my stompy boots. I feel it would match my Monster High crop top nicely.