#queer platonic relationships

[catwouthats]

Whoever explains QPRs to Tommyinnit is gonna change his life I think

[redysetdare]

I think i just need to express that the culture surrounding QPRs right now made me think that i couldn't have strong bonds with my friends. Society told me i cant have strong bonds with friends because that was only for romantic relationships. Then i went into aro spaces and this idea was reinforced using QPRs instead of romantic relationships. it was "You can still have strong bonds with people without romance! It can just be a QPR instead!" "QPRs are MORE than friendship so you can have STRONGER BONDS than you would with friends."

it made me think that the relationships i wanted with my friends HAD to be something other than friendship for it to be as strong as i wanted. If i wanted to be the first person in someones life i had to enter some sort of committed relationship. if I wanted someone to care about me as strongly as i did them then it would have to be a relationship that was "more" than friendship.

I thought I wanted a QPR because i was told the only way to get that care and security that I wanted was to enter into a relationship that was "more" than friendship. because friends didn't care that much. because friends didn't live together their entire lives. because friends were never the priority relationship wise. and it took me years to realize that i didn't want any partnership and i shouldn't have to be in one to want these things from a friend. these things CAN be something friends can do. but i found that out on my own. because the aro community kept saying "you want a QPR" when i just wanted a friend who finally saw me as a priority in their life.

[alexei-home-fromthewar-at-last]

Yeah, I want a QPR: queer planktonic relationship.

[poussacha]

jsyk you can be aroace and also bi. aroace is often a spectrum in which you can occasionally experience romantic or sexual attraction and even if you don't, alterous attraction exists. your aroace identity doesn't erase your bi one.

[yellowdaffodils-76]

I love you strong platonic relationships I love you friends to even better friends trope I love you queer friendships I love you found family I love you treating friendships with the same importance as romantic relationships I love you open and abundant affection between friends I love you queer platonic relationships I love you gen fics I love you enemies to friends to family I love you platonic affection in media I love you I love you I love you

[ghost-format]

Someone should make an app for queer platonic relationships that functions similar to a dating app

[m1dori-eyes]

OK LISTEN I'm not saying I have a "type" in my committed romantic/queer platonic relationships, HOWEVER I MAYYYYYY be 3 for 4 on he/they transmascs and 2/4 on people with dual citizenship in the US and the Netherlands.

[ladiesofhpfest]

Friends Kiss Too by @scrxpz

Our last Galentine's fic is here! This is a unique one - it features Andromeda Black & Emmeline Vance, both aromantic, and exploring a new dimension of their friendship, a queer-platonic relationship. Snippet and link below!

Andromeda hated Valentine's day with a passion. From the displays of affection – a nauseating nuisance – to the overly garish decorations that hung around the castle. At first glance, they seemed tolerable.

Until they sang in a warbled, off-key tone.

Andromeda swore there was a special cell in hell for whoever came up with these “ideas”.

The worst of it all, however, happened to be the people themselves. How they all became doe-eyed, simpering little slugs. She found it forced and undoubtedly disturbing to watch. Especially if one was eating.

‘It’s like he’s tryna eat her,’ Emmeline whispered.

Andromeda reluctantly looked up from her book on divination theory to the alcove across from them. A couple of younger students – Hufflepuffs – were locked together against a rather precarious bookshelf. Greedy hands clawed at each other's clothes, feral mouths locked in a rather grizzly battle for dominance. Andromeda thought it all looked rather uncomfortable and tasteless.

Where’s the romance in that? 

‘Wipe that look off your face Dromeda, ya look like a right bitch.’

She allowed herself one last withering glare at the couple, before facing the smirking friend beside her. The ingrained mask of indifference slipped securely into place.

[qprsareawesome]

I love you because of your laugh

I love you because of your humor

I love you because of your smile

I love you because of your sillyness

I love you because of your beauty

I love you because of your kindness

I love you because you are you

[radioactive-earthshine]

Ngl I personally think it would very sweet if Meghan developed Tim and Kon’s relationship not in the romantic sense (which is what she said was going to do regardless) but in the mature sense that they both can now finally be open about the past and that had the times been right, had they been more comfortable, then something might have happened between them all those years ago before the reboot.

To admit to your friend that you loved them and it was not entirely platonic even though you were unaware of it, that they in a sense are a soulmate but things just didn't play out romantically and now that things have evolved and shifted the love is still just as strong but it has depth and history and both are okay with it is a story that I personally find extremely attractive.

No angst, no tears, just knowing nods and smiles and fond hugs and a bond unlike any other. Queer platonic.

[cabbakansas]

HP x PJO crossover

Percy: I made you. I own you. I will consume you. Percy (looming over muffins hot out of the oven): If I can't have you, nobody can. Rachel: Should we be worried? Harry: We'll stage an intervention if he ever says that to a living being.

[algor-mo4tis]

Being aromantic is being accepted into a qpr for two years and not even knowing until now

[buckyeagan]

Tried talking about the fact that I have a qpp to my closest (in person) friend today just for her to stare at me and not really say anything🙃

[greykolla-art]

Alastor: “Now, let’s talk about literally anything else please!”

Me: “Good! Cause I don’t know where you went so I can’t go further with this!😂”

[nortimer]

Ik this is probably the fifteenth time you've seen someone say this but we need more qprs in fandom space. Instead of shipping we'll call it canoeing and we'll make it just as popular. Please I need this ok

[nonconformityhub]

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