#self-statements

[raffaellopalandri]

Cognitive Coping Statements in Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)

One of the tools I have successfully used when helping teams and individuals become aware and improve their mindsets is Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), developed by Dr. Albert Ellis, which encourages individuals to restructure irrational beliefs into rational ones. Dr. Albert Ellis – Image from Wikipedia This approach excels at helping build emotional resilience and mental well-being.…

[tam--lin]

r/Murderbot mods really said "if you can't use it/its for a fictional character, get over yourself".

[teaboot]

Yeah no I didn’t “always know I was trans” but I WAS incredibly defensive of a girl’s ability and personal desire to do absolutely anything a boy could do, repeatedly throwing down against parents and teachers who insisted that girls and boys were just naturally predisposed to distinct binary interests and abilities, often telling them that short hair and masculine interests didn’t make me less of a girl because physical traits and hobbies don’t retroactively determine your gender or sexual identity. Yeah I’m actually still onboard with that belief by the way, not sure how some of yall lost the plot

[aw-tysm]

This idea that all autistic people are good at self reflection in a way that we can pick up on the fact that we are autistic... needs to stop. Or even just being good at self reflection and self awareness in general.

I am so sick and tired of hearing about how we're all so good at that. How all adults self diagnosed before diagnosis. That we somehow have this inner knowledge of ourselves or understanding towards the fact that we do have autism and how it affects us.

That is NOT the case for all of us.

There are many autistic people who don't even realise that they are autistic. Who won't question it themselves. Who hear about it and don't think "hey I align with some of these things".

There are many autistic people who think that they're just like everyone else around them, even if other people see it differently.

There are early diagnosed autistics who were never told about their diagnosis, that haven't questioned whether they are or aren't. And then are surprised when they are told about it or find out.

HECK. There are diagnosed autistics who don't even realise how severely autism affects them at all, even if others do.

There are many of us who had to be told and often by professionals. There are many of us who haven't done indepth research on autism before being diagnosed. There are many of us who sometimes have a diagnosis forced on us without us having ever questioned autism in the first place. Many of us don't even understand how to do that kind of research or reflection.

If you actually know how autism affects many autistics, then you would understand that self awareness and self relfection are things that many autistics can be bad at. These are things we can struggle with.

[keii]

late morning

[isolophilian]

i think we need to understand the gravity of how quickly Percy blames himself and his disabilities for the way his world is. how he's been made to believe over years and years that he's weird, that there's something wrong with him. Percy saying he should've been paying attention. Percy saying there's something wrong with his brain. Percy calling himself broken.. he's just a kid man

[cervinae-canine]

if you unironically think "proshippers made the selfship community", I will banish you to the dumbass dimension for all eternity.

[charmac]

I hate to defend Rob but seeing Sunny teens on Twitter try to speculate he isn't "speaking up" about voting because he's hiding being a secret Trump supporter is so insanely ridiculous when campaign contributions in the United States is public information:

(Yeah. That's a $100,000.00 donation to a grassroots victory fund, on top of a ton of donations to swing states.)

It's almost like making public political statements on social media is heavily advised against when you're a showrunner/employer to hundreds of people.

[origami-butterfly]

Reminder for pride month that queerness is not limited to whiteness and if you erase non white queers, when talking about the community, every queer person who isn't white gets to throw rocks at you and shoot you out of a cannon 💖

[wardensantoineandevka]

Imogen: So, how do you know that Predathos won't hurt the rest of us? Like, where is this information coming from? Is that what Predathos told you? Did you talk to Predathos and that's what it told you?

Ludinus: I did talk to Predathos, and it said that it won't eat us.

Imogen:

[cryptke]

Literal top priority for your own consistent success is learning not to care what people think/convincing yourself it does not matter. It truly does not and never will. It's human nature to seek validation thru peer approval but the biggest and genuinely only literal obstacle in life, in many cases, is your own fear of looking dumb and the inability to take initiative because of it. There are so many things that I did in the public eye and felt self conscious about like posting a brand deal or doing specific things for certain jobs because i was aware certain people *might* possibly see and thus form a fleeting opinion. And then I started rationalizing it to myself like wtf it's not as if they're paying my bills? So why would i let a literal hypothetical reaction prevent me from taking risks/taking on new experiences so that I can pay mine. And it literally changed something in my brain. Like truly even if someone dogs u to your actual face about something you do/post, it's not as if you're still somehow achieving anything by not doing said thing in the first place. So view it from the perspective that the only person ACTUALLY being effected is you. And I wholeheartedly assure u a thousand times over that people do not care half as much as what you think they do. People have so much else to do on a day to day basis than put effort into thinking of you (unless you're like partners etc obviously.) much less debate between themselves whether you're embarrassing or not?? Like if a coworker of mine or acquaintance or family member etc even did or said something GENUINELY embarrassing I'd still only think about it for 12 seconds and completely move on with life. And that is something to find genuine comfort in!

[crow-caller]

I know it's a pointless thing to express but it really does kill me how many parents who fear and hate and want to cure autism in their kids will blame it on everything.... but genetics. It being genetics wouldn’t help this kind of person either, it just kills me because the autism is probably coming from inside the house!!

No we don't know everything about autism and where it comes from but it is very clearly genetically linked— like my entire family is autistic. it's just our understanding of autism is still pretty modern so it's hard for older generations to see and accept it. Some of those anti autism parents might be autistic themselves, just unable to conceive of what autism is versus what they've been told it is, because of a general lack of education (and a lot of misinformation)

[corellianhounds]

Some headcanons for Mando:

Anything he uses to shower or wash his clothes with is unscented. Those scent-neutralizer dryer sheets keep his clothes from smelling like anything that can be detected while he’s on a hunt. Very few species are exempt from being unable to detect him

He keeps a clean ship and a consistent schedule. He’s been self-sufficient and on his own for long enough he knows how to cook and take care of himself. Keeping your tools, gear, weapons, armor, and ship in clean, efficient working order means you’re less likely to have to spend time fixing one of them when it breaks from your lack of routine maintenance, and his body is just another tool in his arsenal; sleep, food, necessary medical care, staying limber and getting vitamin D at some point all go a long way towards ensuring he can last longer in the field. You can’t run something ragged every day and expect for that to be sustainable.

That also means he’s well-equipped to handle long stints without different necessities when needed from time to time; you can push yourself pretty far when you’re already in prime condition.

Wilderness survival skills were some of the first things he learned while being brought up by the Mandalorians. Being aware of your surroundings, setting up and breaking down camp, foraging and hunting for food, building impromptu shelters, purifying water, navigating and tracking, having a variety of general and specific medical knowledge— All of those skills are building blocks for self-sufficiency. You never know when you’re going to be alone or thrust into survival scenarios, so it pays to be prepared.

That also means he’s capable of stomaching a wide variety of what some might consider inedible. Beggars can’t be choosers, and it’s rude to decline someone’s offer of food or hospitality so in any scenario where food is in short supply and/or it’s been offered to him, he’s taking it. As long as it’s something he knows humans can digest, he’s open to whatever cultural or regional dishes his travels have to offer, and he’ll muscle through the less pleasant tastes or textures of food he’s had to make do with when he didn’t have other options.

He does know how to make food taste good, but that more often than not requires more spices and ingredients and hardware than he can afford or spare the room for, so he makes do without. Once the kid comes along he branches out a bit more to make sure he gets some variety.

Along the lines of self-sufficiency and independence, he has a lot of general repair skills: you may not always have somebody who can fix things for you, and he obviously isn’t going to pay somebody else to do something he’s capable of learning, except for when he’s short on time or resources. We see him working on the interior circuitry of his armor in the second episode. He knows how to bypass and pick locks. He has the electrical, mechanical, and structural know-how to fix his ship and would know how to weld and use a torch cutter and a variety of other tools, but it also means he’d know how to sew and mend his clothes. Soft goods are just as necessary as hardware.

Injuries where he genuinely needs professional medical care are few and far in between partially because he’s very good at what he does, and partially out of necessity. Though it is by choice, him tending to his own wounds may not necessarily be because he is neglectful or prideful or has a penchant for pain; medcenters cost money, and submitting to that care means he is vulnerable and at risk of somebody breaking his creed by force, or doing more damage when he can’t fight back. It’s why he likely refuses anesthesia or anything that will put him under and make him unaware of what’s happening while he’s asleep. Either he will find somebody he’s close to to help him, or he will find a way to muscle through self-administered medical care yet again, or he will die from his injuries (which means he will have gone down because of a fight)

Though he has a few physical reference materials and logs he’s written down important details in, a vast majority of his knowledge concerning trade routes, ballistics, geography, maps, various customs and cultures and languages, exchange rates for currency, Guild bylaws— anything he could possibly need to know for a hunt— is committed to memory. He travels light, and the Mandalorians have an oral history more than a written one; belongings and archives can be destroyed, but their people live on and carry the knowledge that’s been passed down through centuries. It just makes more sense to him to commit everything to memory.

That being said, he does a significant amount of research before each hunt anyway, though the bulk of it is centered around the target themselves. Having all of your prep work done means the acquisition itself will go smoother.

He’s mathematically sharp: engine repair, manual piloting, vector calculus, electrical work, ballistics, basic engineering, weapons maintenance, financial management, and navigation by maps or by stars take a lot of mental acuity to understand and apply as quickly as he usually has to use them.

He’s not going to back down from others who purposefully encroach on his personal space, but he dislikes being in close proximity to strangers for extended periods of time. So much of his life is spent evading threats and fighting off challengers it’s hard to trust anybody to be that close. It’s not an aversion so much as it is an irritation that makes him tense. When you’re always looking over your shoulder, it’s just reflex to act defensively.

He doesn’t drink alcohol or caf unless he has sufficient time and he’s secure in the Crest without worry of attack; both impede his marksmanship and reflexes, neither of which are things he can afford while he’s working, so it’s usually only when he’s traveling through space that he’ll indulge

He doesn’t sing, but once the kid comes along he’s found that it’s easier to get him to sleep when he hums as he holds him and walks around the cargo hold.

[ratbastarddotfuck]

truly struggling to engage w/ House MD fans who refer to House as "disabled" rather than "crippled" when that's very clearly his chosen self identification bc if you can't comprehend the importance of this self ID then tbh I'm not sure you've fully grappled with the themes of the show. and like, the memes and the yaoi are fun, but the real themes of the show are why I like it so much!!!! speaking as a cripple with a bunch of shitty shitty medical experiences. it's important to me. are you paying attention?

[eldritchshipping]

i love having a villain f/o and a villain s/i like no were not enemies to lovers were enemies TOGETHER i sure as hell cant fix him or make him better but i can be just as bad with him and possibly make him WORSE.... evil together...

shout out to all the villains dating villains hehe

[mrsmiagreer]

NSFW

it’s official david has made angel cum in under 5 mins