#this is also true of phalloplasty

[genderkoolaid]

re: “i tried the whole "i can either be a man OR a woman OR neither" thing before and it forced me to stay in gender limbo for way longer than necessary”

this is incredibly true. i didnt feel like JUST a man or a woman, so i tried neither for a while but that ALSO didnt feel right. i started testosterone because i assumed i felt dysphoric bc i was “too feminine” and since starting testosterone i’ve been more comfortable expressing femininity.

i am both man and woman, i am transmasc and transfem, i am queer as fuck. just because you make new boxes in rainbow colors doesnt mean people will want to fit into them any more.

side note: can you give me some resources for bottom surgeries available? ideally i could have both vagina and penis, but im unsure of my options for something like that

First place I'd recommend is phallo.net and metoidioplasty.net's pages on nonbinary options for bottom surgery. Both can provide you with a penis and a vagina. Bottom growth is a requirement for meta, but not for phallo. For both surgeries, not getting a vaginectomy reduces the risk of complications unless you get urethral lengthening (what allows you to stand to pee), in which causes it increases the risk even more and many surgeons won't offer it. Some do, still, and people have gotten no vaginectomy + UL and dealt with the increased risk.

Personally, my ideal surgeon is Dr. Blair Peters; they are queer themself and he has done a lot of trans advocacy & research into nerve regrowth in phalloplasty. But both sides linked above list a few surgeons who do salmacian bottom surgery. Reddit communities like r/phallo are also a good place to check out for info on different surgeons.

[tea-and-secrets]

i want a dick…. but like. i want a pussy. is that so much to ask for….. cant i have both </3 i wish i could have both so bad its kinda pathetic, like damn

also like. i want a dick but ive heard that there isnt much like. sensation with phalloplasties and i have no idea how true that is?? can someone who has had a phalloplasty please confirm or deny

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[unrvlybutch]

I believe this to be especially true for TIFs, but I think a large part of thinking transitioning would save my life was due to a deep misunderstanding of what the trans community actually is.

The media portrayal is dissonant to the reality of how rife with depravity and sex-cultism it actually is. The preconceived idea going in is different than what you're going to see once you step foot into trans spaces..Mostly of course due to the TiM autogynophillic side of the equation, but also due to the high concentration of comorbid mental conditions that are frequently displayed and discussed within these circles.

There is a strong emotional aspect that many young women can connect to, that feeling of "you mean I can escape this?" And not having to face sex based oppression is something that resonated with me, the new unwanted male attention, the standards of what it means to become a woman, the performance we're expected not only to conform to but to enjoy. Seeing your friends who were boys change and become distant to you, like strangers. The change is isolating, jarring, and introduces prospects that children weren't made to comprehend. Add a crazy new mix of hormones and preteen angst into the equation and it's a perfect storm.

Trans ideology is such a dangerous thing to discover and the community will never be a safe place for children. It is harmful and self destructive by nature, it inhibits the path of true personal growth in development and masquerades as exactly what it is destructive towards.

I wish I had never learned about the vague concept of "transness." I believe dysphoria is real, I still experience it -- but it does not mean I am male, I am not trapped in my body, I do not have a male soul. I don't feel like a woman because there's no feeling associated with being your biological sex. You just are, it just is.

What I don't understand is how Dysphoria moved away from being a mental illness when it requires destructive, experimental surgeries, hormones, etc. to just get to the baseline of feeling contented in oneself.

But I understand also from firsthand that it is a beast that is never satisfied, I felt but a moment of peace when I got on testosterone and then all the worries about a mastectomy came into mind, but even if I got that...My body would still be so noticeably female...moving onto the next worry, body masculinization surgery -- is that even a thing? I hoped it was..and phalloplasty, and furthermore...but even then, it stands only as a barely passable approximation of what I wanted for myself. And the cost? Impossible.

The dream of transition is not, on a biological scientific and social scale, enough to satisfy dysphoria

I see my dysphoria now as something that exists parasitically alongside myself, it lives in the same space in my mind as my anorexia did -- both of those two things are something I fear I will never be free from in thought, but I strive everyday to put them away in order to live a healthy life. The difference in my treatment between those two mental illnesses was drastic. One landed me several times inpatient against my will, one was coddled and affirmed by every therapist I've ever had. I do not have to make the discernment of which one that was. They did not give me appetite suppressants for my anorexia, they did not give me weight loss surgery, they did not say that being emaciated and ill was really just who I was always meant to be. But, both impact my quality of life equally. Both have lead me to self destruct, self hate, ruminate on my insecurities and become obsessive over the parts of myself that I really could not change.

I don't know. These are just some thoughts I've been having.

[nothorses]

Hi there! I have a quibble that I hope comes across as good faith and not anon hate: you quote statistics from the 2015 Transgender Study in a way that I think decontextualizes them. For example, trans men are more likely to be denied coverage for surgery (but not top surgery, which is considered cosmetic for trans women. Also, FFS was not included in the study and is almost never covered). Trans men face more harassment from police but trans women are more likely to be incarcerated, etc.

The point of the post (which is here) was just to debunk the myth that trans women are categorically "more oppressed" across the board. The stats I pulled were just a number of (fairly random) examples to that end, and I clarify in the text of that post, in reblogs, and in subsequent posts that the point is not to create a definitive list of The Ways Transmascs Are Most Oppressed- it's to demonstrate that the common assumption that trans women always have the highest rates of violence/discrimination in all areas is, y'know, patently not true.

All of those statistics represent only a narrow slice of a much more complicated issue.

To use your first example, "trans men are more likely to be denied coverage for surgery (but not top surgery, which is considered cosmetic for trans women. Also, FFS was not included in the study and is almost never covered"...

From the 2015 USTS Report:

"Transgender men (57%) were more likely to be denied surgery coverage than transgender women (54%) and non-binary people, including non-binary people with female on their original birth certificate (49%) and non-binary people with male on their original birth certificate (35%)" (p.95)

To my knowledge, the USTS did not actually outline surgery coverage rates for specific surgeries. But they do talk about the rates at which different people want, or have had, specific surgeries:

So, right off the bat: you can see FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) reported in Figure 7.14. But what strikes me more about these charts in this discussion is that it really does speak to a more complicated issue on the whole.

You could absolutely say trans men (26%) have top surgery more than trans women (11%), but that would also be misleading. 97% of trans men have had or want to have chest reconstruction or reduction, compared to 51% of trans women who have had or want augmentation mammoplasty... well, yeah, it makes a bit of sense that trans men have had this kind of surgery more. They want it more.

But for kicks, let's look at the "have had" vs. "want someday" ratios, for a better picture of what those denial rates might be: 37% of trans men who wanted top surgery (97%) have actually had it, vs. 27% of trans women who wanted it (51%). We don't know that "denied coverage" is the reason all of these people have not gotten it yet, but it's probably a factor; and yes, that does indicate a 10% gap with trans men ahead.

And for kicks, let's apply that same concept to a few other procedures. To use your other example, 14% of trans women who want FFS have had it. But that's also not a super popular surgery for trans women; electrolysis/laser hair removal is the most popular, and 50% who want it have actually had it. In comparison to the most popular surgery for trans men- top surgery; 37% who want it have had it- that's a 13% gap with trans women ahead.

Granted, electrolysis is generally less invasive and more accessible (though it also requires repeated appointments), but I also couldn't tell you how often it's covered by insurance.

You might also compare bottom surgery rates: 66% of trans women want or have had vaginoplasty, vs. 27% of trans men want metoidioplasty (meta), or 22% want phalloplasty (phallo). Of trans women who want it, 18% have had it. Of trans men who want it, 7% (meta) or 15% (phallo) have actually had it. That's a gap of 3% or 11%, with trans women ahead in both cases.

You may also note that for trans women, surgical procedures are not super popular; vaginoplasty is the most sought-after surgery, and it's also third on the overall list of procedures for trans women. Trans men do not have non-surgical transition procedures listed (or generally available, afaik). Which is, imo, important context for another relevant statistic: "Transgender men (42%) were more likely to have had any kind of surgery than transgender women (28%)".

My point is, again, just to say that this stuff is complicated. I grabbed those statistics because they were a quick way to demonstrate the more general point that this is not a black-and-white issue, that trans men do not oppress trans women (and vice versa!), and that trans men are not actually More Privileged In All Areas.

And like, yeah, when you look closer at the issues those statistics reference, there are more layers- that's the point! It's a 300 page document, you could have a lot of conversations around all of these numbers and what they mean.

The fact that I didn't have all of those conversations in that post was not an attempt to hide these complexities. It was a request that we start to engage in them, especially without gearing it toward the question "who has it worse?", when the actual questions we need to be answering are "why does that happen?", and "how do we solve it?"

What I wonder, also, is- what is your point in bringing this up? The examples you brought up were lacking context, and in one case fully untrue. I want to assume good faith as well, but your ask comes off as if you're trying to argue that transmascs never actually struggle in a comparable or unique way.

[gayhenrycreel]

anyone else feel like this?

i just cant relate to the men-loving-men tag. at all. not in the slightest. i feel excluded from my own community.

its all boypussy this, man tits that.

theres no recognition for trans men who have had or want to have any surgery at all. its almost entirely for pre everything white twinks who conform. in fact i can hardly find posts about any men who have dicks. not even cis men.

it reads like a fetish tag.

i cant relate at all. im not a twink. sometimes i like to be feminine but for the most part im just a hairy bogan. after i start testosterone im likely going to turn into a bear.

i dont see any representation for trans man who are not submissive hairless twinks. not even in other tags.

i want to have surgery. i want a flat chest. i plan to have phalloplasty. i look just like a cis guy.

i get that not all trans men can pass and they deserve representation too, but trans men who are indistinguishable from cis men are pretty much ignored.

i dont want to feel excluded from my own community.

sometimes it seems like people in these tags are against transitioning. ive seen them say that bottom surgery results dont look real or have no sensation. i cant actually find evidence of this being true. these people talk like fully transitioned bodies are mutilated or something.

sounds like terf rhetoric doesnt it?

people deserve to feel included in their communities.

trans men dont have to be feminine submissive twinks.

what about trans men who are masculine? what about trans men who are tops? what about trans men who are bears?

masculinity is not bad. people have a right to be themselves, even if you dont like it. stop listening to terfs. masculinity can be wonderful. if you think trans men cant be masculine you need to think about why you think that. do you think the difference between being masculine or feminine is determined by genitals? thats exactly what terfs say.

masculinity and femininity are constructs. we can do whatever we want with them.

the blogs ive seen spouting this bullshit seem fine with trans women or trans men being feminine, but refuse to acknowledge that trans women can be butch and trans men can be masculine.

its clear that they only have a problem with masculinity.

this is terf rhetoric

post op bodies are wonderful. people deserve to have the bodies they need. transitioning has been repeatedly proven to save lives.

my testosterone levels naturally increased recently and now that i smell like a cis man i have a will to live. transitioning saves lives. for some trans men, including me, masculinity saves lives too. its not bad or gross to wear boots and flannel or be hairy or smell different. masculinity is the most freeing experience ive ever had. im finally myself.

people should also be allowed to define their masculinity however they want. masculinity varies from culture to culture. in my country (new zealand) its is considered masculine to have long hair and close relationships with other men (we call this mateship).

its okay to want to be hairy and have a flat chest. bottom surgery is wonderful too.

theres nothing wrong with wanting to be "traditionally" masculine.

just let people be themselves.

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

By: Lauren Smith

Published: Mar 8, 2024

Recently leaked files confirm what many gender-critical voices have argued for many years: that so-called gender-affirming care is causing children lifelong harm. New documents expose how the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) has routinely put children in harm’s way in the name of trans ideology.

As the global authority on gender medicine, WPATH has shaped the policies of hospitals and governments across the world. Its ‘standards of care’ guidance was treated as the gold standard for dealing with gender-confused youth by NHS England until recently – and it still is by NHS Scotland to this day.

Founded in 1979, WPATH is essentially a trans-activist lobby group masquerading as a scientific organisation. It has long advocated for an ‘affirmation only’ approach to treating children with gender dysphoria – in other words, medicate first, ask questions later, if at all. It has even argued that there should be no age limit on when minors are allowed to transition. In fact, its most recent guidelines recommend that children should have access to irreversible surgical procedures, including double mastectomies and phalloplasties. And this is just what WPATH has been willing to say publicly.

Now, leaked videos, emails and discussions on internal message boards have revealed the true extent of WPATH’s recklessness. These files were released this week by writer and journalist Michael Shellenberger and his nonprofit group, Environmental Progress. They paint a truly horrific picture of the danger that WPATH has exposed children to.

The ‘WPATH Files’ prove that, behind closed doors, doctors, psychologists and other medical professionals associated with WPATH are fully aware that children cannot properly consent to gender-affirming care. In a chilling video from an internal WPATH workshop in 2022, panel members discuss how hard it is to receive informed consent from their young patients – something that would ordinarily be required before any medical procedure. Canadian endocrinologist Dr Daniel Metzger tells the panel that he often has difficulties explaining the effects of puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones to children who ‘hadn’t even had biology in high school yet’.

One thread in the WPATH internal messaging forum reveals that even a developmentally delayed 13-year-old was seen as a suitable candidate for gender-affirming care. A physician assistant and professor at Yale Schools of Medicine discussed in the thread how the child was already on puberty blockers, but wanted to know if it would be ethical to allow them to progress to hormone therapy.

One problem that Metzger and his colleagues routinely face, according to the leaked workshop video, is trying to get young people to grasp that puberty blockers and hormones would likely affect their future fertility. Trying to convince 14-year-olds to preserve their eggs is like ‘talking to a blank wall’, Metzger says, to which the audience responds with nods and knowing smiles.

The WPATH Files also reveal the dire consequences such a blasé attitude to informed consent can have on child patients. Many kids who receive gender-affirming care at a young age grow up to regret the toll it takes on their ability to have biological children. In the leaked video, Metzger refers to a 2022 Dutch study, which found that 27 per cent of young people who underwent early puberty suppression and cross-sex hormones ended up regretting their lack of fertility. At an average age of 32, 44 per cent of biologically female and 35 per cent of biologically male patients say they would choose to preserve their fertility if they could turn back time.

Fertility issues aren’t the only problem facing the young people who get pushed down the path to transitioning. The WPATH Files also go into detail about some of the horrific side effects of hormone therapy and surgery. For females, these include vaginal atrophy (the thinning and inflammation of the vaginal walls), pelvic inflammatory disease (a potentially deadly infection that requires a hysterectomy to treat) and, for males, erections ‘feeling like broken glass’.

WPATH doctors even admit privately that hormone treatment can cause cancer. In one exchange from the internal WPATH forum in 2021, doctors discuss the case of a 16-year-old biologically female patient who developed liver tumours after a lengthy regimen of hormone therapy. Another doctor revealed that a female-to-male trans colleague developed an aggressive type of liver cancer after taking testosterone for about a decade.

For WPATH, potential side effects like liver cancer can’t be allowed to get in the way of a child’s gender transition. ‘At the end of the day’, one doctor is quoted as saying, ‘it is a risk / benefit decision’. Supposedly, if a child does not get the hormones they want, then they will commit suicide.

But this dilemma between ‘suicide or transition’ is not based on any evidence. It is a myth promoted by trans activists. As Mia Hughes notes in her report on the WPATH Files, several studies have found no evidence for a reduction in suicide risk after transition. On the contrary, some have found an elevated risk of suicide post-transition.

But it seems that, as far as WPATH is concerned, once a patient leaves the clinic, he or she is no longer the doctor’s responsibility. As one doctor put it, ‘as long as [the patient is] capable of making that decision of sound mind while informed of the risks, then that may be all you can do’. In other words, these healthcare professionals are attempting to wipe their hands of any responsibility for any negative effects that transitioning might have.

As WPATH president Marci Bowers puts it, ‘patients need to own and take active responsibility for medical decisions, especially those that have potentially permanent effects’. This might be true when adult patients are electing to have risky and non-essential cosmetic surgery. But we are also talking about children here – indeed, vulnerable children, usually with multiple mental-health difficulties – who have been told by medical professionals and other supposed adults that receiving this treatment will ‘fix’ them.

Unfortunately, to anyone who has been paying attention to the trans debate, these revelations may not be that surprising. We have long seen the warning signs that children are being harmed by this dangerous ideology. And worse still, we have seen adults in positions of authority either encouraging this harm, or standing aside and keeping silent.

We saw this in 2022, when Dr Hilary Cass published her damning interim report on the Tavistock Centre, the NHS’s specialist gender-identity clinic for children and young people. The review found that the Tavistock’s approach to treating children was ‘not safe’, and that there were a myriad of potential harms caused by puberty blockers that were not being properly acknowledged by staff. As a result, the Tavistock was ordered to be closed down.

Whistleblowers, media investigations and lawsuits had tried to draw attention to this for years. Yet the Tavistock remained operational, and is still only due to shut its doors this month. Trans ideology has so infected medical institutions that doctors, nurses and therapists feel they have no choice but to transition every child who claims to be born in the wrong body. And they fear that refusing to do so will see them branded as ‘transphobic’. Or, worse still, that not agreeing to prescribe gender-affirming treatment will lead to a child ending their own life.

What the WPATH Files make clear is that those who claim to care most about the plight of ‘trans youth’ are all too often the greatest threats to their safety. They are willing to sacrifice the health of deeply vulnerable children to the cult of gender affirmation. The treatments they tout as ‘life-saving’ and ‘life-affirming’ can actually be ‘life-ruining’. Gruesome side effects from cancer to infertility are dismissed as necessary evils on the path to transitioning. This is the opposite of compassionate.

It is time to bring an end to this dangerous medical experiment.

[himedanshicult]

I'm going to try and explain to you, as a trans woman myself, why you're wrong about transandrophobia advocates. I've never once seen a single one of them, and I've interacted with many over a long period of time nearly every day now, claim that transmascs cannot be transmisogynyistic, and I feel you're very deliberately conflating that with "transmascs don't have structural power over transfems", which IS true. They don't have power over us. They can be transmisogynistic but that doesn't mean it's systemic on their part. If anything, we have power over them, because transmascs are constantly shut out of queer spaces, taunted, told they should all die, have jokes made about them being forcibly impregnated, and harassed in attempts to force them back into the closet because everyone thinks transitioning to "man" is a morally bankrupt political choice. When they try to complain about these things, they're told to shut up and stop deprioritizing the real victims. They're told they have to consider themselves transmisogyny exempt - which is truly, I mean truly just a euphemism for hating on them regardless of if it's /supposed/ to include cis people - but when they try to come up with their own word, that's also wrong. And everyone is just...fine with "TMEs" who buy into that nonsense practically worshipping transfems to a degree I find skin-crawling. It's a bad situation.

if it seems like I'm conflating the two, well, that's because I am. i don't think it's a meaningful difference. simply saying that transmascs are capable of prejudice is an empty admission when you follow that with "but they can hold no meaningful power over trans women nor can they benefit from or weaponize systemic transmisogyny". not even getting into how these admissions often coexist with attempts to redefine transmisogyny into a "transphobia + misogyny" that can be experienced by trans men and women alike, emptying it further of credibility. the moment you start arguing that trans men have no power in the relation, you are downplaying the violence and exploitation that trans men exact upon trans women, particularly within transgender and queer spaces (which is funnily enough, what you are trying to do in this very ask!) and at that point, you might as well be denying trans mens capability of transmisogyny wholesale. at least, it would be more open and honest about what is being accomplished.

and like girl, im not even gonna touch the rest of this ask because I'd need to write a full essay just to drive home how wrong you are, like you are fucking conflating forced impregnation of trans men with tme/tma signifiers, like think abt that for a minute. there are cities whose entire lgbt scenes consist of large numbers of trans guys, but like 1 or 2 trans women- are those cities just barren of trannies, or is something else going on here? how does the average queer space or feminist org react to a rape accusation by a trans girl against a trans guy vs the other way around? for that matter, how does the legal system react to it? how did michfest treat trans guys and how did they trans lesbians? is every trans girl who talks about their local feminist or lgbt scene embracing trans guys while shunning them just lying out their ass? more to the point, why are these men you associate with hellbent on convincing you, a trans woman, that not only do they possess no systemic power over you but that you have systemic power over them? trying to ingrain into your mind that you are by default the aggressor? like, doesn't that strike you as a little akin to male/female socialization, especially since a lot of popular bloggers in this sphere openly espouse that concept?

for fear of getting my words twisted, let me be clear that i detest transphobia against trans men, and especially the proliferation of demonization towards testosterone hrt and phalloplasty thts spread like wildfire in lgbt spaces. trans men are subjected to a lot of horrific bullshit and there are trans girls who actively participate in that. im not opposed to that oppression being given a name. but none of that justifies this outright rejection of their capacity to perpetuate societal transmisogyny to their benefit that is championed in transandrophobia spaces. that only serves to allow trans men to turn a blindside on their own ability to hurt and oppress trans women and to obfuscate their actions when they do so. there are a ton of trans guys who hate transandrophobia bloggers for precisely that reason and feel deeply uncomfortable with their oppression being used to downplay and obfuscate transmisogyny

[asimpforthe80s]

I Love You So Much, My Precious Boy

Starring: Supportive!Eddie x Transmasc!Reader

Warnings: fluff, phalloplasty, mastectomy, transgender reader getting a phalloplasty.

A/N: I'm genderfluid and today I've felt a lot like a boy, so I decided to write a transgender reader fic. It's a little short, but I'll probably make some more in June.

You had gotten a mastectomy a few months ago, and today was your phalloplasty. Eddie said he was gonna drive you there a little later, so now you were on your way to his trailer once again.

He had supported you through all of this, helped you get money, fixed your hair and everything in between. You were so happy he was your boyfriend and looked forward to later today.

When you arrived, you quickly went inside and hugged him. "Hey, baby."

"Hey, beautiful," Eddie said, smiling. "Ready to become the boy you want to be and take the next step?"

You nodded. "Definitely..!"

"Alright! So, I know it's a big day and we have to leave soon, but would you wanna like go shopping or do other fun stuff while we wait?"

"We can go clothing shopping?"

"Of course we can, and maybe later get some food. Just so it's not too dull." You nodded. "Sure."

"Cool, let's go get you some new clothes," Eddie said, offering to take your hand like a true gentleman. You chuckled and took his hand, walking out to his van.

Eddie led you into town. After a bit of a drive, he pulled into the parking lot at the mall, opening the door for you once you were there. "Such a gentleman." You joked, getting out of the passenger seat. "Oh, you know it," Eddie said, winking. "Now let's find you a nice outfit and some other fun things!" Eddie said, his excitement infectious. "Yeah!"

Eddie and you walked inside, going to the men's section first. Eddie handed you a pair of jeans and a t-shirt, saying "Here, try these on and see how you like them." You went into the changing rooms, soon coming out in the outfit. Eddie smiled, looking the outfit up and down and nodding in approval. "Nice! They fit you well. You like them?"

You were overly happy, feeling like this was so very right. "Yeah.. what aesthetic are these?"

Eddie looked at you, then at the clothes. "Well, the jeans are just regular old jeans, but I'd say... hm, maybe skater boy?" You looked at yourself in the mirror. "It feels.. feels like me.."

Eddie stepped over behind you. "I'm glad," he said, putting one arm around your waist. He leaned in and kissed you on the cheek. "I love you so much, you know that?"

"I love you more, baby," Eddie said, smiling at you as he looked at you in your new outfit.

"You think I can get it?" Looking down at the clothes, posing a little. "Hell yeah you can get it," Eddie said, looking you up and down. "Damn, you look good." A soft chuckle left your lips. "You think so?"

"Oh, I know so," Eddie said, laughing. "But hey, let's get you some more clothes, and we could get some matching stuff if you want." He kissed your cheek. "Yes! Like, some band things like you?" You asked, turning to him with that adorable smile you both knew Eddie loved. Eddie chuckled, smiling back. He took your hand again and started leading you back to the shelves. "Yeah, we can definitely get some merch from some bands we like and we could also get some matching hoodies or jackets, you know, that couple's look." You were so happy. "Yeah, definitely!"

"What bands are you in the mood for right now?" Eddie asked. "We could get some Slipknot, Metallica, you name it."

"Anything, really. Just something to match your punky metalhead style." Eddie smiled. "Sure, we can do that. Let's get some metal shirts and maybe some cool jackets." Eddie led you over to the displays and started looking through them. "Let me know if there are any you want!" The two of you looked around and found a few outfits. You couldn't be happier today.

After you paid, you went to the hospital to get your phalloplasty. Eddie was right by your side for the whole trip. He held your hand and comforted you as you waited for when you'd be called to have your surgery. The whole time he looked over at you and smiled at you excitedly. He was so happy you were finally getting what you've always wanted. "I can't believe that our relationship led to this.. I love you.. so very fucking much.."

Eddie smiled. "I love you so much, I'll be your rock through all this and every step of the way."

Soon, you heard your name called, and Eddie squeezed your hand and smiled. "You're ready, baby? You're gonna do great."

Nodding, you stood up. "Let's do this..!" you said, taking a deep breath as you walked towards the nurse who led you to the surgery room. Eddie walked with you. As the nurse lead you away to do all the pre-op stuff like check your vital signs, Eddie kissed you on the cheek. "I love you, and I'll see you once you're done, baby. It's gonna go smooth!"

"Yeah!" You followed the nurse as Eddie got told to wait in the waiting room. Eddie watched as you walked off, and then sat down in the waiting room. He had his phone out and was playing games to pass the time. Soon, he heard a ding and saw he got a text. He opened it and saw you sent him a picture of you in a hospital bed, grinning happily and a thumbs up. "It started," Eddie mumbled to himself, smiling.

Under the whole procedure, you sent weird pictures and texts to pass the time. And to lighten your anxiety, of course.

Eddie smiled at the pictures, sending you love messages to calm you. He also sent you some funny memes.

After a few hours, you sent a text reading, "I'm out, babe." Eddie texted back quickly, "Can i see you?!" He said, adding a bunch of hearts. "Come on." You texted him with a smiley and a heart. Eddie texted back "I'll be right there."

He quickly got up and walked into the hall, looking for the room you were in. When he got to it, he opened the door and walked in and, seeing you, his heart melted. The boy of his dreams was sitting there, his hand bandaged, grinning at him. He smiled and walked over and kissed your forehead. "Hey, baby, how are you feeling?"

You were smiling as hell. Never been happier in your life. Tears slowly formed in your eyes. "Feel amazin' babe.." Eddie hugged you tightly. "I'm so proud of you. Are you in any pain?" Eddie asked, holding your bandaged hand. "Do you need anything?" He asked, smiling at you, tears in his own eyes.

"Just cuddles, please." You tried drying your tears, but they didn't stop. You couldn't feel happier in your body than now.

Eddie smiled and brought you in for a tight hug, rubbing your back softly. He kissed you on the head, smiling at you. "You're such an amazing boy, love you," Eddie whispered in your ear, hugging you tightly. You couldn't help but cry more as he called you a boy.

He held you tighter, whispering "I love you so much, my precious boy. I'm excited for everyone to recognize that and see you as the man you are."

Thanks for reading!

Tag list: @reidsbtch

[anamericangirl]

I remember seeing this post about a design for a transsexual flag. I thought the new stripe meanings were a good idea, and I wanted to ask if you could choose, you would prefer people using this flag instead of the other trans flag, since that one has some negative implications nowadays since it’s attached to the transgender movement.

https://www.tumblr.com/theconstitutionisgayculture/719699006978129920

Also, I have additional questions since I find this viewpoint extremely interesting:

I don’t know much about trans terms, but I thought transsexual was supposed to be a derogatory term for the group, or was it just a regular term/original name before getting replaced with transgender?

Would you have less beef with the whole “community” if they didn’t say that some procedures/side effects are reversible, were less aggressive about society affirming them, didn’t involve children/minors, or didn’t see surgeries, like phalloplasty, as a good idea (I find the idea extremely scary, but that might also partly be my fear of surgical procedures)? I’ve also seen Blaire White listed in both the link and the answered ask I saw from you (I’d have to look for the link but don’t want to make this any longer), the former saying that she accepts that even though she isn’t biologically a woman, she still enjoys living as the opposite sex and feels secure in her transition, so I’m assuming that she’s a positive example?

I’ve seen some reblogs about how top surgeries can also be harmful, and I can understand why since most surgeries will be very difficult to live with afterwards, but in what ways is it more risky than beneficial, and what is something you think would be a better alternative, if there is one?

Why do you think that there isn’t any medication for true gender dysphoria yet? One of the things I’ve read actually made me think about that. If it’s considered a mental illness, then why isn’t there any evident research for creating a medication for it?

Other than that, hope you’re doing well so far

Personally, I'm kind of over the idea of pride flags in general. But if people want a transexual flag then that one seems like a nicer idea to me and isn't so divisive.

1.I honestly don't know what terms are supposed to be derogatory or offensive anymore lol. They change so fast and no one in the community even agrees so I really don't know. If I remember correctly it wasn't that long ago that it was used pretty regularly so I'm sure it's offensive™ now but I wouldn't know why.

2. Yeah, I'd have essentially no problem with them at all if they didn't spread disinformation, aggressively go after people for not agreeing with them and prey on children. Those are really my only issues with them. I might not personally agree with their ideology and think they make some bad decisions but I wouldn’t be actively against them as a community if they didn't use their transness as an excuse to censor people, lie, and target children. But I absolutely would consider Blaire White a rare positive example. Even if Blaire didn't acknowledge the reality of being a biological male and knows that no matter the amount of procedures or treatments her gender can't be changed that's not necessary to just be a decent person. Which Blaire White is.

3. I think top surgery is more risky than beneficial because it comes with a physical health risks. It's a major surgery and the only benefit of getting it in the context of a sex change is that it makes you feel more like the gender you want to be. It doesn't have benefits on its own merit. So on one hand it's a major surgery that is irreversible and is a drastic change to the body that comes with possible physical health risks but on the other it might give you some superficial peace of mind. And that's why it should only be an option for adults.

4. That's a good question and honestly there's a lot of reasons I think could contribute to that. First, mental illnesses are hard to treat and often a medication doesn't do much other than alleviate symptoms. Therapy is probably the best option for any type of dysphoria in my opinion because dysphoria can go away and most of the time does if you actually seek therapy and treatment rather than "affirmation." I've seen studies done on detransitioners and the main reason given as to why they detransitioned was they realized their dysphoria was related to "other issues" which is something people typically find out in therapy. Another reason I think there's not much headway in a medication for gender dysphoria is financial incentive. Medical and gender affirming institutions get a big check for every one child who transitions and they're more interested in making money than anything else. It's not healthcare at this point. It's just activism.

[nukacourier]

abt ur arcade post: so true but also apparently people who get bottom surgery can have those . visibly . i have no idea if this is true but do with this information what you will

Well, sort of. Like cis guys with ED usually a pump has to be used (it's like a vacuum sort of) that helps stimulate the bloodflow more strongly so an erection can occur. But that means it's far less likely to happen at random since assistance is needed (doesn't mean it's any less real though, I salute my post-op brethren they're so cool)

I'm a trans guy myself so I've actually looked into this stuff semi-frequently because I have an interest in maybe getting phalloplasty one day! I just said cis (ish) since it's slightly different plus I didn't wanna just say "penis haver/penis owner" since I've seen that used too much in transphobic context to be comfortable using it

[defilerwyrm]

what would you want to see in a fic with a character who's had bottom surgery, especially in a fic where he tops? i'm a trans guy with no personal experience in the area but i just think trans men are so fucking hot and i want to make more good porn about us that is also true to life

Just that it exists, really! The neat thing about our flavor of man is that there are a lot of options for bottom surgery. Vainly, I’d love to see more post-phalloplasty erotica in the world, and so far I’ve only seen one. (I don’t recall the name or author, as is sadly typical of my shite memory, but it was a Magnus Archives fic that kinda hilariously touched on the awkward sometimes-necessity of shaving one’s dick.)

And the thing with phallo is that you can top even without an implant: typically two condoms provide enough stiffness for penetration.

Spitballing, something that would be fun would be an homage to multi-orgasmic tops and the fact that, with a guy who’s had phallo topping, there’s no worry that if he comes first he won’t be able to continue on to make sure the bottom comes too (assuming he has the stamina and skill for it, of course). I think the fact that a post-bottom trans guy can get off and just keep going is pretty damned hot of us!

(Incidentally, some cis men have the same kinds of implants we can get! Both the flexible and inflatable rods were originally designed for cis men with erectile dysfunction that doesn’t respond to medication or who have health complications that make medication unsafe. I’ve slept with a cis man who had an inflatable rod and I really couldn’t tell much of a difference between that and a natural erection during the act, so do with that what you will!)

[chaotic-archaeologist]

I heard recently that you can ftm folks can get bottom surgery and end up with both a dick and a vagina?? Is that true and would both of them have like nerve endings and everything? Could you fuck with both of them?

Yep, this is totally true! There are many different options for phalloplasty. @transgenderteensurvivalguide has an amazing and very comprehensive post about transmasculine bottom surgery that is well worth checking out. @virgo-cocks also has a lot of great information about phalloplasty.

-Reid

[furcoat]

Hope this is anon but I really want phallo, but the fear mongering scares me. People say it's a 10 hour + surgery that's riskier than heart surgery?? Are both of those statements true or just typical fear mongering terf shit, and also the fear of losing feeling and not being able to pick a size.

Afaik no one has ever died in relation to phalloplasty so i dont think it's comparable 😭 it is major surgery, mine took 8hrs. i got like 9 different procedures done during that surgery. different surgical teams stage phalloplasty differently so the time varies.

there's a lot of info on reddit, trans bucket, medical journals. you can get a more "real" picture of what it is like, positive and negative. sensation/size are real fears but you have options depending on graft site + anatomy. sensation comes with time but you won't lose native burial sensation

[nothorses]

Hi. Sorry if that question makes you uncomfortable or is to nsfw. I'm in need of advice. Ignore if you don't want to answer.

Soon I will have my last SRS, vaginectomy and metoidioplasty (I do not want phalloplasty). So far I had no doubt about it and I do not have doubts that I would not be happy. I'm certain it will help with my dysphoria as bottom surgery was always the end goal.

The only thing I'm a bit uncertain is the changed sexual feeling. Some report it to be enhanced/more intense afterwards, some loose some feeling. I understand and accept that risk. But I think I have a problem with the fact that after surgery it is not the same function, feeling and process (sexually with a partner or without) like a man. And then also not like a woman but something in between. I've read some forums and some trans men said they thought the feeling afterwards is strange. Not exactly that they miss the sexual experience of a woman but because it's vastly different strange to manage (or they partners kind of didn't know what to do)

Is it normal to worry about that stuff or am I over thinking it? It is of course going to be different and my head knows it's a step to lessen the dysphoria I've been feeling my whole life. But is it possible to miss this - how to say - female way of sexual experience even though it caused immense dysphoria?

I think it's pretty normal to worry about the way sex is going to feel and work for you after bottom surgery; I know that personally, it's one of, if not the, biggest factor in my decision-making process.

It's going to be different for everyone in the end, but that's also true of HRT and other kinds of transition, right? You don't know exactly how it's gonna go for you, there's no way to predict that exact outcome, and you kind of can't factor in "my specific, unique outcome" to your decision-making process when that isn't information you have access to.

When I was deciding whether to go through with HRT or not, my thought process was: "I may not know what testosterone will do for me exactly, but I know it'll do something, and I know that whatever the effects for me personally, it'll be closer to what I want than where I am right now. I know that I want it more than I don't, and that's what matters to me."

You may also lose some things you want, and that's normal to be worried about! But maybe ask yourself: what's the worst case scenario? Is that worse than what you have now? Is there a way to change things if they end up that way?

And then ask: do you want to try anyway? Will you be able to live with yourself if you don't?

It sounds like you've already made that choice, in which case these might not be super relevant questions for you to ask yourself. But if you've made that choice, it's okay to still be worried and uncertain about some stuff. It's okay to miss certain things.

Also, like, I think you're doing the right thing by talking to folks who've been through that same process, and I think it's a good idea to keep talking to them about it! From what I've heard, metoidioplasty has a pretty minimal impact on sensation, and this may be less of a concern than it feels like it is. I don't know a lot from personal experience, though.

This is about phalloplasty, but it's also maybe the best resource I've seen for bottom surgery. Highly recommend checking it out if you haven't yet!

[gayhenrycreel]

i think people need to stop being so angry about people having genital preferences. its not transphobic to not want to eat cunt.

im a trans man and im only attracted to men with a dick and a flat chest (this includes trans men). i cant help it. its just how i am. its not because i don't see trans men as men or something, im just not into pussy.

stop shaming people for not being into girldick or boypussy.

ive also noticed that a lot of these people shaming others about this are also very... weird about bottom surgery. bottom surgery is just as life saving as top surgery. if you actually look on transbucket you can see that it does look real and its very rare that someone completely loses sensation after bottom surgery.

im not as familiar with vaginoplasty, but it seems that people who fear phalloplasty think that scars are hideous and that the first stage is the only stage. thats not true. scars are just a part of someones body, and phalloplasty has secondary stages, after which the neo penis looks just any other dick. stop looking at photos a few weeks after surgery, look for photos a few years post op. it takes time to heal.

people who fear metoidioplasty just think micropenises are gross. thats it. they also think bottom growth is disgusting.

weirdly, all of these people are trans. i have not seen a single cis person on this site go into trans tags and claim bottom surgery is mutilation. ive seen many trans men do it. (the terfs seem to stick to their own tags).

honestly with all the terfs around here its really fuckin weird.

they also seem to believe that there are 4 genders: men, trans men, women, and trans women. thats clearly not right.

they stereotype trans men (they call them boys regardless of age) as being white, submissive, and never wanting to transition. its very rare i see art of trans men who are not white femboys.

they do the same to trans women- sorry, "trans girlies".

interestingly, they always draw feminine women and men, but never masculine anyone. art of masculine people is always drawn by those who are in the process of transition or butch lesbians.

its the terf kool aid. they think masculinity will make them like their oppressors, so they cant imagine that anyone would ever want to be masculine in any way.

they really seem to think bears are gross too. smells like fatphobia.

theyre also weird about trans people who are... not young twinks? why do they keep drawing us in maid outfits? consistently?

and then theres the fanfics. a while ago i made a post about cis people doing this, but since then ive realized trans people do it too. a lot. i am yet to find a fanfic featuring a trans man who is not a submissive bottom. always with tits. always scrawny. always ALWAYS into having his cervix destroyed.

some trans men are like that and they deserve representation, but its the only representation i see.

also, when you look at these peoples bios, you see that they are either cis women in their 20s, or teenage trans guys.

i think they are so out of touch with real world queerness that they have come to believe the stereotypes chasers have made for us.

and thats why trans tags read like fetish tags.

also, transhet people get thrown under the bus. completely erased. i have never seen a fic depicting a straight trans man- sorry, "pussyboy". sometimes i see one saying noooo, hes bisexual. and then he gets railed by a cis man youd see in hollywood.

and why is every fic about trans people porn? do we exist outside of porn or are we just mpreg fetish fuel? yeah, a lot of its mpreg. and they react to REAL LIFE MEN getting pregnant as some kind of joke. they make suggestive comments, theyre just all sorts of weird and invasive. its gross. those are real people.

it fucking hurts to see other trans people talk about bodies like mine as if we're not real actual humans, just sexual fantasies.

i cant go into ftm tags because theres porn everywhere. and its not bots. its young trans men who think trans men are only defined by pussy.

thats not how it works. we're defined by being men. not all trans men have tits and vaginas. surgery exists. this place is crazy.

on youtube men declare that women and faggots are destroying western civilization for wanting basic autonomy.

on tumblr, everyone, except a select few who stop to think, declare that masculinity is inherently restrictive and oppressive and that testosterone is poison. which republicans on youtube also claim. the difference is that tumblrinas think cis men are included in being poisoned by testosterone.

go back to terf island and grovel at the feet of jkr like you have wet dreams about.

just because youre trans doesnt mean you cant be transphobic.

have you heard of tirfs? trans-inclusive radfems. they believe that trans women are women and must be saved from the evil men, and that trans men are men and so are rapists. terfs love them.

you need to understand that transphobia is not the defining trait of terfs. the defining trait of terfism is the belief that men are disgusting, violent, sex driven, out of control, abusive, and rapists in waiting. ive seen them say that male fetuses should be aborted by law. thats eugenics. ya know, like fascism.

because thats what it is. by my definition, fascism is the belief that certain humans are not worthy of life. terfs think men are not worthy of life, and drag trans people into it.

before you decide that trans men, or whatever fetishy term you call us, are all twinks, think. like, at all. is there a reason you think this way? do you have room in your worldview for hairy trans men? hairy feminine trans men? trans bears? trans men of colour? masculine trans men with long hair?

trans men who have surgery and T shots?

or does that seem too much like... i dunno... body horror to you?

thats how these people react to sex changes. they make comments on photos of phalloplasty scars and say it looks like a horrible burn scar. it looks painful they say. "how do you go out in public?", "why would you put yourself through that?".

if someone had a kidney transplant would you say such things about those scars?

both are life saving surgeries. treat them as such.

stop writing the same smut over and over about a woman who can only have vaginal sex and never be anything other than submissive and breedable and slap the word "cuntboy" on it. has it occurred to you that some trans men would like to read about guys like them? not a bunch of white twink clones? fucking hell, it hard to find twink clone smut where the twink even has a flat chest!

it actually makes a lot of trans guys really dysphoric to have so much attention put on the parts we're born with. not all trans guys, but a lot. honestly the lack of representation makes me feel like i have to use parts of me that i cant even look at. ive seen a lot of other guys express this feeling too.

are we not sexy if we don't have sex a certain way? not getting representation hurts. it feels very isolating. the only kind of people like me who get called sexy are called sexy for things i can not do. (seriously i am physically not able to get anything in my front hole without extreme pain. how do you think trans guys like me who are physically incapable of vaginal sex feel about boypussy fetishism?)

anal sex is a thing. do you think its too gross for your twink clone to try? almost like... its unnatural...?... its dirty...?... its... sinful?

good fuckin job, buckaroo, ya reinvented classic homophobia.

there is no form of consensual sex that is sinful. you're just anti kink! if ya think anal sex is gross wait till ya hear about fisting.

youre all "i wanna turn that femboys prostate into jelly" until you realize it in his ass. so you give that femboy a g-spot instead. it doesn't take much to realize that all holes have something gross that comes outta them, not just ya asshole. i mean, blood and earwax is pretty unpleasant too. youre fine with kissing and vomits definitely gross! (your nose is also connected to the back of your throat so if you french someone youre gonna get nasal cavity mucus on your tongue)

if you think anal sex is gross youre just an 80s homophobe.

think of of it this way: i dont wanna stick my dick in a hole that ejects a buncha blood every month anymore than you want to acknowledge that some people prefer to shove something up their asshole. both are equally gross, and neither of them are actually gross at all unless youve been told its gross your whole life.

stop deciding that (however unconsciously) trans men can only be skinny white young twinks. i have actually yet to met a trans man above the age of 20 who is skinny. the trans guys ive met irl are fat and hairy. its quite obvious that the twink thing is just a stereotype.

seriously, yous are missing out on writing smut about fat hairy men, but youre too scared of being *gasp* not perfect under white cishetpatriarchy, ergo it is incomprehensible that someone would be attracted to that let alone want to be like that.

ever since i watched Jumanji: welcome to the jungle, i have wanted to be a fat middle-aged man. i was genuinely confused that that barbie didn't like it. cant remember her name.

yous are the same people who wanna "fuck that old man" arent ya? the people who are usually grossed out when you see an old man above the age of 30? it seems like the same sorta mentality.

if a cis guy got hairy would you call him disgusting and unattractive? not that ive seen. its reserved for trans guys on T.

tldr; theres nothing wrong with having a preference for certain genitals, those people who say its wrong just think its transphobic because they think not being attracted to someone means you hate them. they just don't realize that some people get bottom surgery and that its not a bad thing. theyve been drinking the terf koolaid

[sapphire-heart-tippy]

So... I had recently read one of my old diaries from when I was a kid...

Something interesting. I saw there was an entry where I said I wished I was a [old word to describe intersex]. I had discovered what that was and always felt that something was missing from me.

I wish so badly I would've known I was trans sooner, I say that a lot, but it's true. I find myself thinking that same thought I had when I was 11, wanting to have both sets of genitals. I'm trans masculine, but there's something else there. So I call myself trans masc androgyne. I would be called androgynous every now and then too. I wish I was more masculine. I don't know...

I want to very obviously be a masculine person, like it's clear I'm a guy who wears makeup... but there's something else there. Kind of how I feel Bel is. I actually made Bel (trans masc?? maybe he got his top surgery a long time ago and his scars are faded and under his pecs) intersex and xe has both (fully functional) sets of genitals too. Xe's beautiful and handsome, masculine mostly but with androgynous and feminine qualities. Xe wants to be seen as half man and half otherworldly being pretty much, kind of like what I want to be.

I also found out that you can have both with surgery, there's a vaginal preserving phalloplasty and a phallus preserving vaginoplasty. I always felt that something was missing from me. It's become even more apparent now that I wear men's underwear. (apologies for the TMI)

It's clear that I'm not just a "binary trans guy". There is something else, I keep saying that but it's true. I feel I would be a lot happier if I was able to present that way more.

I do answer to masculine language, I prefer masculine language when referring to me, but there's... I don't know how to describe it. How can I be that perfect masculine and androgynous with just a touch of feminine? I don't even know... I guess I was right, just a trans masculine androgynous person who's attracted to men. Some kind of boy critter fairy being of some sort. Gender is weird... (since I want to be both a guy and some flavor of nonbinary, would that make me bigender? I have no idea... maybe just masculine and genderqueer like Bel as well. He's been my muse for the past few days anyways.)

I'm not sure how I would feel if I was born male. Probably just as confused... I don't know. I'm wanting to microdose T. Aaaand get that top surgery as soon as possible

I'm really sleepy as I write this, if anything seems sour or upsetting, please let me know immediately and I will fix it.