#transmysogyny

[omnybus]

I don't normally make "political" art like this, but after recent events I felt I had to say something

[addelaidesupreme]

I'm watching a video essay about a game ive been interested in playing. The creator of the video, who has crossdressed multiple times, makes a "women arent funny" joke, and i suddenly realize ive never witnessed him acknowledge a woman in an uplifting way before.

I'm on a dating app for lgbt+ people. I've stated multiple times on my profile that i would rather lose an arm than recieve nudes without consent. I will be sent five dick pics for every 2 people i talk to that night.

I'm talking with my dad, who informs me he's been trying his best to learn about trans issues. He says the same things steven crowder brings up when trying to ridicule trans people. I gently but firmly correct my father and get told that ive been fed propaganda.

I'm on instagram, under the comments of a post ridiculing someone for being a misogynyst. Someone's left a comment saying "it must be hard being a woman on the internet" and i respond "it is." I will have every aspect of my appearance scrutinized as a reminder that no matter how well i pass, it will never be enough for someone with bad intentions.

I'm back on that dating app for lgbt+ people. I'm messaged by an attractive looking person, but i can see their partner prominently displayed in all but their main photo, oftentimes striking what im sure they thought was a very intimidating pose. Their bio says "looking for a third for our anniversary." I know that even if I did feel up to it, the gruff partner wouldnt approve of me because i don't pass.

I'm at a job interview for a clothing store. I tell the gracefully-dressed woman interviewing me that ever since i began my transition, i've discovered an interest in fashion, and that this job would allow me to dip my toes into the industry in a safe way. I'm told that i've reduced womanhood to a stereotype, and i can tell by her tone that i lost any chance at the job the minute she realized i was trans.

I'm at the same hospital i got facial feminization surgery in, trying to figure out what's wrong with my bowels. When the person behind the desk gives me a wristband with my patient info on it, i notice a single, lonely, letter M. I ask a nurse in private why it would say that despite me having changed it nearly a year prior. They say they have no clue, and bring in paperwork for me to fill out and have it re-changed again.

I'm living with my mom at the time. I'm new to transitioning, and decide to try my hand at voice training. It feels a bit off, but otherwise im feeling neutral toward the whole thing. I try speaking in this new voice to my mom and she laughs. Now, when people ask if i intend to voice train, i find speaking at all difficult for minutes after.

I didnt have some sort of grand message to convey by this. I just had a thought and then that thought spiralled into whatever the hell this became. Some, okay most, might call it complaining; they are right to do so.

[marlesisdumb]

trans men are our brothers. trans women our sisters. non-binary people our siblings. stop trans infighting. thats what they want. they want us divided fighting each other accept all forms of gender expression including masculinity, androgyny and femininity and anything else. stop punching horizontally. punch vertically.

EDIT: please check out my reblog of this post for resources and things you can do to fight for lgbtq rights. we need to spread awareness of these things. we die uninformed

[cuchufletapl]

Years of bearing bimbo feminism and "girl math" and "girl dinner" and "I can't do anything, I'm just a girl" but the fucking second a trans woman makes a Girls Just Wanna Have Fun-style song cis women lose their fucking minds and start screaming that womanhood is under attack.

Aren't they at least a little bit embarrassed of having such an obvious double standard, for fuck's sake.

[catgirl-kaiju]

reminder that i have also had nonsexual photos of me tagged as explict and sexual. i rarely post even any nudity and when i do, i put them on a side blog and voluntarily put community labels and filterable tags on them. any time i post an appeal, it never gets answered. i'm not even able to appeal community labels on those photos any more, and it breaks my heart because those are some of my favorite photos of myself. i've straight-up stopped posting selfies on here partly bc i've not taken many that i enjoy enough to share recently, but also because it's just too much of a hastle.

i've had this same blog continuously since 2012, since before i came out. over a decade now. if i lost it, i would be devastated. i also have meticulously curated side blogs for all of my art and comics, and my headmates also have their own blogs under this account. all of that would be lost.

predestrogen did not deserve this, she did nothing to violate tos. and it very easily could have been me or any other transfem person on here.

i've met friends and lovers on here. my art has found an audience on here. i've been able to crowdsource financial help on here when i've been at my lowest. i don't know if i would still be around if this website wasn't available to me. the thought of some staff member just erasing my presence from here is legitimately terrifying to me.

i'll repost every sfw image i've ever gotten a community label slapped on here and i fucking dare staff to do it again. i fucking dare you.

i'm lucky that it's not very many, but it's still true that none of these are mature content. none of these are images a cis woman would get flagged for. fuck you @staff for your blatant transmisogyny. fuck you for never taking my harassment reports seriously. fuck you for letting terfs and nazis just keep on existing here no matter how many times they're reported for violating tos.

[wizardfeet]

Why Are Queer People So Mean To Each Other?

Really good article exploring our tendency as a community to ostracise, condemn and bully each other. And also what we can do better 🐌🐛

[garethgobblecoque]

Feels strange to see people debating whether the right would prefer trans people to be gender conforming or gender non conforming.

They'd prefer if all trans people were dead.

[le-pissboy]

Ayo calling all fellow transmascs, dont believe the people who are accusing predstrogen of some undefined sexual crime, especially if theyre sending anon accusations in your asks. In these trying times we must stand with our trans sisters and transfem siblings.

We are unfortunately not immune to terf propaganda. It is our duty to participate in the dismantling of transmisogyny.

[cringecat9]

trans people have rights

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tumblr has betrayed them.

[kleefkruid]

Honestly all those 'egg' jokes by trans women that are being shared here and called 'invasive', are just a variation on the observal jokes gay people have been making for ages, and with these we've always understood that it was comedic and that the person saying it was just making a tongue-in-cheek refrence to their own experience, not 'forcing our sexuality' on people, and that any references to stereotypes or gender norms (for instance, a lesbian joking about a girl who deeply hates dresses) was not enforcing those stereotypes/norms but just relatable to a lot of people in this group (and not to others).

So if I see a trans woman make a joke about a guy hating how mens deoderant smells (without any personal information attached) I understand this as yet another queer person making a nod towards her own experience. She hears that and she can place herself there. It's relatable. It's not really about that guy, he's just a fun house mirror.

She's not going over there to tell him that, she's not taking pictures, she's just making the same joke we've all been making. I don't understand how this is suddenly considered 'invasive' in the same community. I can't imagine a gay man making a joke about the exact same scenario getting this much heat- the joke might be considered dated, but I can't see anyone bothering to even screenshot it.

This might be one of those cases where we have to analyse our knee-jerk reponse and not hers, guys

[mentallysiiiy]

it's disgusting he tried to turn off reblogs. do not let him forget this.

// thanks @pointless-achievements for reblogging this

[essefryu]

Nice time you are having there relying on the reputation of the "queerest place on the Internet" , Tumblr. One would expect you to be willing to support the community - or at very least to make sure that your staff doesn't actively harm it.

[eldritchdemonfox]

Hey moots and followers! If you have any respect or support for trans women and their allies, you should block (and report if you can) the tumblr ceo @/photomatt.

[antifathomable-shapeshifter]

transphobes: theyre DOING SURGERY on our CHILDREN!!!

trans* people and allies: uh, no, actually. the only surgeries being done on minors are for teenagers (iirc 14 At The Youngest), and those usually need parental consent.

transphobes: EXACTLLY!!! they are MUTILATING CHILDREN !!!! *

[*transphobes frequently refer to teenagers/young adults (i.e. those who've recently past the age of majority) as children when fearmongering about medical transition, where as trans postive people usually take the term "children" to mean those ages 12 or younger, mostly with emphasis on the 3 to 8 range. this is why the talking point, "Children are not medically transitioning!" can come across as or be (purposefully) misconstrued as a lie.]

[manyminded]

hey. trans women.

we are in this together. I am so sorry you are being attacked by staff right now. It is cruel, unfair, and simply not okay. unfortunately, due to the nature of our existence, this means that this is not the first time - nor will it be the last.

but, that also means that we’ve survived this shit. queerness can, will, and has survived. we will keep truckin’, no matter what. the best was to increase our chances is to stick together. I will stick with the trans women in my life, and you better stick with each other. we will not back down.

and, to all my non-trans women - learn to be an ally. love them more than you hate terfs. don’t just appreciate them by saying you want to fuck them. you need to learn how to stand side by side with them, comfort them through this, and be genuinely kind. we need to stick together.

[catgirl-kaiju]

even more than ever, i'm endorsing that every person who is still an active harry potter fan and is reading the books, watching the movies, playing the games, and/or buying the merch is a monster who will ultimately be condemned by history. i hope you carry a deep personal shame with you until you grow the fuck up and stop supporting media made by the most prominent figure in a global hate movement.

stop putting your comfort and desire to consume above the safety and well-being of trans people, jewish people, and people of color.

i grew up with this series. it's meant a lot to me over my life. my dad used to read the books to me and my sister as kids, and we continued that tradition until the last book. we went and saw the movies together as a family. we went to a book release party dressed as characters from the books. even after i came out as trans, i had a hard time letting go. i kept harry potter merchandise around with me and had a little hufflepuff keychain. but i gave that up almost a decade ago because of the harm it started to cause to me and my community. i can't engage in these stories anymore; they make me feel sick. and the realization that antisemitism, racism, misogyny, and transphobia have been a part of these stories since the beginning means that it would be wrong to try and engage with them even without financial support and even under death of the author.

harry potter is, at this point, a symbol of hate. one that makes me feel unsafe. i don't care if you, yourself, are a member of the communities affected by jkr's hate or the hate expressed in the series. you should know better if anything.

fuck you. you can't do the bare fucking minimum to support us, jewish people, or people of color and that's sad. i legitimately hope you die so that there will be one less person in the world giving support or indifference to fascists. the world would be better without you in it, as long as you refuse to let go of a series of antisemitic, racist books written by one of the most prominent and active transphobes alive today.

sincerely,

a trans woman that you are statistically likely to ignore or harass