#Aceallo

[pepsicandle]

yes asexuals can fuck but we need to not forget that allos can possibly not fuck ? entirely too many times I hear people saying "lol you're probably ace" to people that are literally just celibate . like guys . please . stop acting like the asexual = no sex i thought we were far past that guys

theres so many reasons to be celibate from religious to health (both physical and mental) and all the way to just not wanting to and it can very much have nothing to do with attraction

(not to mention it feels weird to see as a celibate aroallo but that's a separate topic)

[daybringersol]

as someone in the aro community (and i think this is also applicable to the ace community, which is why y’all are included), i think there is something to be said about people trying to find a moral explanation to their repulsion. in a some situations, it is helpful and there is a conversation to be had about it but in a lot of others, it’s just recycled purity culture, i’m going to be honest.

before you send a post about how you think it’s actually exhibitionist to kiss in public, or predatory to talk about people you want to sexually pursue with your friends, please ask yourself first if there is genuinely something wrong morally going on there, or if it’s just something that grosses you out. it’s completely okay if it’s something that grosses you out. you don’t need to make up a moral reason behind it. you can just say ‘it grosses me out’ and find a way to remove yourself from that situation, for exemple, by looking away, or asking your friends to not talk about those topics around you (if they refuse, that’s another problem entirely and you should get better friends).

it is as unhealthy for allo people to repress their romantic and/or sexual attraction than it is for us to repress our aromanticism and/or asexuality. this isn’t like an theoretical extrapolation, this is a proven phenomenon, we’ve seen it with the catholic church. i understand and empathize with the fact that it feels like all of this is forced upon us, because it is, but there is a difference between someone telling us ‘i like this’ and someone telling us ‘you’re weird/broken if you don’t like this’.

anyways, sorry for the rant, i keep seeing posts in the aro and/or ace tags that try to justify their repulsion with morality, and i don’t want to single out anyone so i thought i’d make this post. there is no issue with posting about repulsion itself, for the record, it’s the moral justification that i think is unhelpful.

you don’t need any justification for your repulsion, you can just be repulsed. that’s fine.

[thebluekid-underyourbed]

"What if you just haven't found the right person!"

What if I stabbed you until you bled out <2

[aroosprey]

Ace, Aro, OR BOTH?

I have made some ace/aro pride sea monsters,,, as a treat

edit: just so you know this artwork is made by an aroallo artist who doesn't appreciate being erased

tagging it as aspec/aro/ace and nothing else is fine, but if you're gonna tag aroace, don't exclude the other intersections represented here

[fun-k-boards]

EDIT : Sorry if your identity isn't on here, I can't edit the poll after it's been published. If I make another poll like this I'll be sure to add more so more aspec people can be included in the vote, apologies.

EDIT 2 : You guys do know that you can just say no, right? There's no need to backpedal and run around in circles, it is honestly not a nuanced question. Do you think there's too much romance that commonly comes across as forced, or not? If it's a no, then answer no.

[magnus-rhymes-with-swagness]

i get that many aroaces experience their aromanticism and asexuality as connected in some way, but it's still important to acknowledge that "aroace" and "aro/ace" are not umbrella terms for the entire aspec community. as somebody whose aromanticism and allosexuality are inextricably intertwined and can't be fully separated from one another, you don't see me using "aroallo" for all aspecs - that clearly wouldn't be an accurate reflection of the whole community! "aspec" is a good term that includes all of us - please consider using it when referring to the general community.

[aya-corolla]

[shak3sp3are]

Straight trans people, arohets, acehets, aroallos, aceallos, cis arospecs and acespecs, aspecs that still experience attraction to some degree, agenders who prefer to present themselves as a specific gender, I love you guys. You're cool

[girlboyhell]

reminder that AROMANTICS AND ASEXUALS are part of the queer community. yes, this includes the ones that are straight, cis, both cis and straight, etc. if you think otherwise, keep crying! we do not care! reblog to piss an exclusionist off.

[daybringersol]

reminder that ‘aroace’ is not synonymous with ‘aro and/or ace’

[thebluekid-underyourbed]

Yknow aromantic and asexual need to start being shown as two different labels more often. Cuz like we aroace people are cool and we have the power to destroy god right, but like aroallo people and alloace people are just as fucking cool.

What is this whole "one cannot exist without the other" bullshit. That kinda shit is only supposed to happen with like life and death. light and dark. peace and chaos. we don't need that, cuz we're all just pure chaos. you want peace look elsewhere, bc aro without the ace and ace without the aro is very welcome into our aro and ace spaces of madness and maniacal plotting to take over the world.

[angleofmusings]

this might be controversial but i think it needs acknowledging.

on balance, i feel far more comfortable talking openly about aromanticism (and being aroallo) with cis guys than cis girls. both from a “what conversation topics are most frequent” perspective and a “how quickly/easily aro experiences are understood when brought up” perspective, it takes far less energy to exist as an aromantic person in predominantly masculine groups

please pick the answer that feels most accurate, even if it isn’t 100% aligned with your experiences!

non-aspecs please feel free to share your experiences, but if you can wait a week to see the results, i encourage you not to vote.

if you’d like to be tagged when the poll ends, let me know in the notes

followup poll is here!

[aroacespecwithknives-archive]

[saffigon]

Happy Pan Visibility Day to aromantic pansexuals, panromantic asexuals, pan-oriented aroaces, and any other pan aspec!

[galaxy-weaver]

I’m working on a project for class about asexual and/or aromantic storytelling. I want to see if I can identify an “asexual gaze” as opposed to the male/female/queer gazes.

I know I explicitly say asexual here, but I’m open to hearing from aromantic (including alloaro) people as well. I haven’t narrowed down a thesis yet, so any thoughts help.

I want to ask fellow aspec people: what media (books, movies, comics, etc.) resonate with you? They don’t have to have explicit ace or aro representation; just what stories do you feel appeal to you?

(This may go nowhere, but who knows? It may go somewhere too.)

[that-siege]

The Aspec Questionaire

Aspec is such a vast category and one some folks (especially allo folks) tend to treat like a monolith. So I thought it’d be good to do a little questionnaire to demonstrate.

(Skip anything you don’t want to answer.)

1. How do you identify?

2. How do you feel about the following, one word answers are fine if you want:

- - Romance

- - Touching

- - Hugging

- - Kissing

- - Sex

- - Love

- - Queer Platonic Relationships

- - A Significant Other

- - One Night Stands

- - Porn (Video)

- - Smut (Written)

- - Dates/Dating

3. What is the thing you think most people misunderstand about your identity?

4. Have you encountered aphobia in your life?

5. Anything else you’d like to add on the topic?