#actuallytrans

[daxieoclock]

PLEASE for the love of god commission us

We are in need of gender affirming care in order to assuage daily dysphoria. We're trying to save up for multiple surgeries, but there are immediate concerns that will make our quality of life notably better.

50$/250$

[ariel-s-awesome]

Pride isn't about who you love. It's about who you are.

Who you are may include being attracted to the same gender. But it also includes straight trans people, aromantics, or anyone who wants to celebrate their entire queer experience instead of just their love life.

And when celebrating pride is entirely centered around celebrating love... part of the community gets put out of focus or left out entirely.

[arco-pluris]

Let me be a bit controversial here, since I'm unlearning from idpol:

Stop assuming "cis-presenting" people are cis. Stop assuming "endosex-passing" people are endosex. Stop assuming visible traits are cis or endosex, stop assuming other people's gender modality and diagnostic medical bodily/corporeal variations.

You don't know if someone is XY or XX simply by looking at their phenotype unless you have a superpower to test one's karyotype, genome, and hormone rates. And believing in fake news won't help.

Intersex phenotypes exist (erroneously aka "androgynous bodies"/"gnc appearances"). Transsex traits are subjective, people are being asssassinated due to their "trans-looking" makeups in my country. Are they cis? Maybe they don't even know that word or concept. They could even be gender-apathetic after all.

Honestly, an intersex transfem who is also "cis-passing" and "endosex-presenting".

[meander1995]

As of this morning, the GoFundMe funds have arrived. I have ordered a Legacy mail-order sperm banking kit that will arrive on Thursday, August 17th, 2023 and have a decent amount of money left over.

I will be temporarily stopping Spiro until after the donation as a precaution in order to ensure I can maintain fertility until Thursday. But once the sperm is banked, I will begin the transition full-speed-ahead.

Although the goals of the GoFundMe have been met, I will leave it up for now. Anything that can keep a trans girl on her feet is good news.

An update.

I just got an updated tracking status on the delivery of my HRT. It is now out for final delivery and could arrive any day now.

Which means I'm probably going to have to hold off on taking it for a little bit after it arrives so I can donate my sperm to have it banked. Otherwise, I'd start the instant the pills arrive.

Speaking of which, here's the GoFundMe again for funding my initial banking and storage. Because this whole thing just HAD to happen when I'm in a slow job placement process via Vocational Rehab.

Donation time (Link to a GoFundMe)!

[vampire-eros]

[magnificent-buckless-butt]

Cis people are also invited to answer it!

[intersectionalpositivity]

Trans people reblog to transfer the power of your dead name and bless the trans folks who’ve selected it as their chosen name.

[hugsohugs]

hello nonbinary community

so. i have a question

i came up with a label for my gender and i've been wondering if this is already a Thing because...it feels like it probably is, but i haven't been able to find it anywhere

i identify as what i'm so far calling "selfgender". basically, my own personality and traits are my gender. i identify as myself

it's pretty much just "i think my gender is too complex for a standard label but i would still like to have a label for it"

i hope that makes sense??? i'm not the best at explaining things

so...does this already exist??

edit: turns out this is called "egogender" which is a sick ass name!!

[ted-like-the-talk]

"Dysphoria means hard to bear so saying you need dysphoria to be trans means you think you need to hate yourself to be trans!!"

Dysphoria does mean something is hard to bear; if your assigned gender at birth is hard enough emotionally to bear that you need to make changes to relive those uncomfortable emotions you're trans.

Being trans means needing to transition; if someone doesn't feel discomfort or a need to change things about their life due to their assigned gender at birth causing them discomfort yet they transition anyway then they're not trans because they never needed to transition.

I'm obviously not saying that people who do feel a need to transition but can't aren't trans, it's the need to transition to relieve discomfort that makes someone trans, not their ability to transition.

It just seems like a lot of people think that the 'significant distress' in the definition of gender dysphoria means that you need to hate yourself to be trans somehow; it just means that you need to feel enough discomfort to feel better from transitioning.

[ace-of-cubes]

dysphoria b like "you must shave ya hands and arms and wear long ass sleeves and gloves or your mum amd dog will try to kill you they hate you so much"

[foxie-roxie]

Me: *asks my brother how to deal with dysphoria because he's also trans*

Him: *gives a literal good answer*

Me, three hours later: *wakes up, goes on tumblr, sees a post about a genderfluid lioness and frantically texts him "THEO THERE ARE TRANSGENDER LIONS*

[ariel-s-awesome]

Garfield is canonically trans

[transgender-official]

S/O to Trans Men.

S/O to trans men who hate the soft boy sterotype.

S/O to trans men who hate those positivity posts constantly reminding you of your genitals.

S/O to trans men with really bad dysphoria.

S/O to trans men who hate being called transboys.

Tumblr is a pretty shit place for trans men who don't fit the hyperfeminine soft boy sterotype. We deserve recognition too.

(this post is about trans men. don't derail or clown or i'll eat your liver)

[infiniteglitterfall]

the many meanings behind coming out to someone

Somebody was telling me recently about not being out as ace to anybody except their partner. Because, basically, they're afraid that people will feel like, "eww, I don't need to know about your sex life."

Which is also kind of how I've felt about coming out to people.

And I know this is a common thing: being afraid that people will hear, "I'm bi," "I'm aro," "I'm intersex," etc, as some variation on, "I'm oversharing! I'm hitting on you! Please oversexualize me and act weird around me now! Please ask invasive personal questions!"

So I want to Make A Thing that talks about what kinds of things we actually are actually saying when we come out.

What I have so far:

"I hope I can trust you."

"There's something you're missing about me."

"I have some powerful and interesting experiences you might not know about."

"I wish more people were familiar with our powerful culture."

"We might have more in common than you think."

"Being silenced hurts us. I need to bring this into the light."

Any other ideas? Suggestions? Thoughts?

[tealslimes]

Why is it that most of my friends/discord groups who are in the LGBTQA+ and trans go absolutely feral for Spirit Halloween? I swear I’ve heard more about that store than actual Halloween this year. And I’m all in.

Friend: You can have a little Spirit Halloween as a treat.

Me a simple trans: Hot damn!

[wandererslullabi]

I’m constantly split between “hmm……I should probably be careful that irl transphobes don’t find out I’m trans so that I’m not put into any danger or denied basic rights…” and then at the same time “oh? You don’t like I’m trans? You’re transphobic? Too bad. I ain’t gonna shut up about it.”