#again if you know me irl dont read

[doctorwhoisadhd]

hmm thinking about the idea of love songs. i think the idea of what a love song is that we have in our culture is inherently a little bit flawed because we have the idea that any song written about romantic feelings is a love song and im thinking thats not exactly true because there is a difference between "romance" and "love". what i'm saying is not that love is a broader category and applies to things that are not romantic in nature. this is in fact true, but it's not what makes the important distinction here. the true distinction between "romance" and "love" is that romance is a societally defined type of interest in another person, whereas love is, essentially, a promise that you make when you build a relationship.

as such, what i call "love" here might be better defined as "care", as that implies more time and effort, but that's a different suitcase to unpack and largely unimportant to my point here, which is more about the societal conventions of what we call love songs. the point is, relationships can be built with other people, yes, but also animals, places, organizations, ideas, so on and so on, whereas romance requires another person, hence the difference between the ideas of "romance" and "love".

with that in mind, there are two types of songs we in western, english speaking, society call "love songs":

1) songs that are about a person's romantic interest in someone that is either definitively known to be unrequited (existing monogamous relationship, sexuality that doesn't align, etc) or simply not requited (aka romantic interest being unknown); and

2) songs about an existing relationship (keeping in mind my points about relationships not just being with people, but also places, things, etcetera) as is.

(some examples of the latter category: mountaintop by relient k, which defines the relationship in question as non-romantic; or i miss my mum by cavetown, which is - as the title implies - a song about the singer missing their mother.)

now, the thing that makes distinguishing these two difficult is the fact that songs about an existing relationship CAN be about wanting certain aspects of that relationship to change. in these cases, determining that a song is one or the other will hinge either on a) authorial intent or b) whether the song is more about what the singer wants (thereby implying #1) or the lack thereof in that relationship (which would imply #2).

to get back to the subject at hand: the term "love song", as we think of it, is an umbrella term that include both of these two categories, and i think that perhaps it is reductive to do so. with that in mind, i think perhaps it would be more appropriate for "love song" to mean only the latter, whereas the former is a category of its own. WHICH is not to say that the two can't overlap — just that if a song is about a person with whom the singer has no relationship, it cannot be considered a love song due to the fact that it is a song about infatuation, not love.

(another interesting wrinkle this provides is the fact that a song might start out in the first category and, as the writer develops a relationship with a person, might move into the second category as they write more.)

[courfee]

in light of all the lovely asks i've gotten earlier i thought i might actually share my neighbour reg fic here considering i just posted another chapter

[luvring]

just complained about my group to my irls and i'm pretty sure this has genuinely motivated me to speak in class because i Cannot let my prof think my critical thinking abilities are the same as theirs

[calamitydaze]

long tag ramble below u have been warned

[vse-kar-vem]

how to write vent post title that does not come off as self-pitying and or accusatory (because it's NOT !)

[perilegs]

i pass pretty much all the time but hm. ive heard interesting stuff from drunk ppl i know who dont know im trans

[sludgeguzzler]

man. i changed so much these past years

[toastsnaffler]

every morning I'm like wow.. birdsong and sunshine.....hm.. u know what. maybe there is hope in the world. and everything will be ok :3 and every evening I'm like I Hope A Meteorite Crashes Through My Window While I Sleep Hitting Me On The Head And Killing Me Instantly. and I switch between these multiple times throughout the day and alsosometimes they happen the other way round and theres no sense or reason or order or pattern just the labyrinth forever. yeah I'm good why do u ask

[minglana]

its just. when i start thinking about it its already a bad sign that something terrible (me not going to the exam) is afoot. i really am just. not gonna end up going tomorrow and ill endup having to study for 4 exams in less than 2 weeks huh

[moomoomooing]

also i swear i will post eventually but after that week of consistent posting i hit artblock and have been promptly sent into an annoying bout of probably depression and anxiety?

ill be back eventually, im just unusually tired ALL the time and busy

[jonny-b-meowborn]

Y'know I really wish I knew more furries/otherkin personally. Like some of my friends are furries, but to my knowledge no one I know is otherkin, and I just wish I had someone like this around me. Maybe someone I know online is, but idk. My best friend who I love more than anything is a human and I mentioned to her a few times that I kinda vibe with the therian label, but I never went too deep into that. Honestly I'm just too embarrassed to talk about it with her, and that's the main reason why I go to Tumblr to talk about that. If I can't talk with my bestie about something I'm just gonna say it to a bunch of strangers online who can't judge me to my face lmao. But yeah, I really wish I knew someone like this irl, I really wish to have just. Otherkin interactions. Y'know I wanna have someone that isn't weirded out by me making some animal noises sometimes and could pet me like a kitty and all that cool stuff. I just wanna have more doggy friends to be doggies with

[biolums]

why not mewhynot me whynotme whynotMEwhy Not Mewhy not me whynot me whynotme Whynot me WHYNOTME why not me. why not me

[the---hermit]

Okay so I'm going to ask for some very specific recommendations, cause I need help. Has anyone got some good articles, or even video idk, regarding the whole fact that when you are queer you experience a sort of secons adolescence in your 20s (or when you figure out your queer of course)? Because I have always heard people refer to this, but never really read any serious articles or anything, and I think I am starting to experience this myself in some kind of way, and I'd like to learn more to understan what the hell is going on with me.

I hope this makes sense, also anyone who might had or is having this experience and feels comfortable sharing would be of great help. Thanks in advance to anyone who will see this and share some resources!!

Edit: I also didn't mention that all articles/experiences/informations are welcome and I am really thankful for that, but if you have recommendations regarding the bisexual experience it would be even more helpful for me.

[lottovalentino]

god help me

[little-klng]

cant deal with those poll posts asking how i do a simple math problem and they start listing weird pemdas number combos with an other option. the answer every time is "on my fingers for a couple minutes, crying" and its not likely to change

[bugflies00]

im so serious guys never assign characters to ur friends. it starts out as “haha ur similar to this character haha kinnie” and a year later you sit there in ur room bc a post abt cbenchtrio genuinely made u realise shit abt ur friends