#aro/aspec

[thearcher1003]

Saw this on instagram and I have to vent. Credits go to @acexualien I didn't find this specific post on their tumblr but it was on their instagram so I have put a picture here instead of reblogging. If you are not okay with it, please let me know, I will remove it from here.

This is how I feel about some of my friendships. I wish people understood me more but they are always gonna define it as a crush. It is because of this fact that I have to water down a part of my personality that loves to love (not in a romantic way). I love my friends, I care about them and I wanna show it. I wanna bring them flowers, take them on dinners, buy them gifts, go for a walk hand in hand, give a lot of hugs, make their braids, dedicate songs to them and tell them everyday how much I love them. But apparently this is only valid to do with your partner. I get it, romantic relationships are always gonna prioritise over friendships, I can try to live with that but why does that have to lead to a pause in our friendship. I am not stopping you from loving your partner but I am here too and I too wanna spend time with you, is that too much to ask for in a friendship? I love to see that glow on their faces when they are talking about their boyfriend/girlfriend(s)/crush(es), I am happy to see them happy. But I feel so alone when they start to cut down on our time to go and see their partners. Like we have these 2 hours together, can these be just for us? You are in love and you wanna see your partner more often, okay but why does that time have to come from our time together (which is already so short)? I also love you and wanna see more of you, what about that? I will never be a priority I know but does that have to mean that I will lose all the importance I had in their lives before? As an aro/aspec, people often say to me that don't you feel lonely? I don't, I treasure my alone time, I feel happy around my friends, I don't feel "half or empty" or some shit that can only be fixed by a romantic partner. I am happy with who I am. But what actually makes me feel sad and alone is that I am never gonna find this deep bond that I crave with a person in the form of friendship because nobody values that as much as any other human relation.

[aceysun]

"love is love" until it doesn't include sex

"love is love" until it lives in separate beds

"love is love" until it is queer platonic

"love is love" until it does not comply with compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity

love IS love, for aspecs, for sex repulsed folk and for platonic relationships

"love is love" apply to more than same-sex relationships in a world where romantic and sexual relationships are considered more valuable

Remember to advocate for Asexuals and Aromantics this pride. Because we are also here, and we are also queer

[the-nefarious-vampire]

as an aroace, im particularly dangerous, because i wont fuck or marry. i only know how to kill.

[etherealspacejelly]

happy pride to all my aspecs and arospecs out there

happy pride to asexuals

happy pride to aromantics

happy pride to aplatonics

happy pride to aroaces

happy pride to alloaces

happy pride to alloaros

happy pride to het aces/aros

happy pride to demi romantics/sexuals

happy pride to grey romantics/sexuals

happy pride to ace/arospecs in platonic, romantic, and/or sexual relationships, or relationships that dont fit into any of those categories

happy pride to ace/arospecs who aren't in relationships and never want to be

happy pride to people who use microlables to describe their ace/arospec identity

we are all valid and we belong in this community no matter what anyone says. we deserve pride too.

[aromantic-diaries]

The bisexual to aroace pipeline is pretty much having the right idea and coming to the wrong conclusion. Yeah buddy you're not straight and you're also not gay. No not like that though, the other way around

[sunbloomdew]

do you ever see a person and you are overcome with incredible fondness? and you just think "oh." but not in a romantic or sexual way you are just filled with warmth and it makes you happy, it just does. and you think "i'm so happy you exist. i'm happy you are somewhere out there in the world, doing your thing". it's love but also not entirely

like people are lovely and i feel it in my entire chest like a burning candle that smells like roses and a sunny day

[miitopia-cake]

me looking for ace/aro characters: lets go gambling!

[character's sex repulsion is used for jokes] aw dang it

[character is put in sexual situations despite disliking it] aw dang it

[character's identity is ignored by fandom] aw dang it

[characters creators sexualize them] aw dang it

[aro character gets 'fixed' by true love] aw dang it

[aro/ace character is literally an animal] aw dang it

[creator messes up definition of asexuality] aw dang it

[characters asexuality is never brought up in media] aw dang it

[knifearo]

here's the thing. "ace people can still have sex" and "aro people can still be in relationships" are objectively true statements. this is because people can do whatever the fuck they want forever regardless of their label/orientation. however some of you have GOT to get your shit together and stop using those statements to undermine larger conversations about aspec identity. following up "ace people don't owe you sex in a relationship" with "ace people can still have sex in a relationship though!" is not fucking helpful! yes it's true. yes it's a reality for many people. however if we used our fucking brains for a second and thought about how following up "people don't have to conform to societal expectation" with "but people can still conform!! don't worry they can still conform!!!!" is counterproductive and very frustrating for a lot of people then we could get back to the actual point which is not "aspec people can still have sex/be in relationships" but "aspec people can do whatever they want with their relationships and their bodies". which they can, by the way. they can do whatever they want forever. and you should give them 200 dollars every time you see them for dealing with this shit

[bored-boring-and-tired]

the holy trinity is trending

[mossy-aro]

[thermodynamic-comedian]

starts punching and tearing at everything in a blind rage. i want AROMANTIC characters i want characters with not an OUNCE of romance about them i don't JUST want aroace characters i want AROMANTIC characters that AREN'T ASEXUAL i want people to headcanon characters as AROMANTIC not just aroace i want fandom to treat AROMANTICISM as AROMANTICISM, and not a SUBCATEGORY OF ASEXUALITY. RRRAAAAAAAAGHHHHHH

[ID: banner reading "don't tag as ace or aroace"]

[send-up-my-heart-to-you]

garlic bread to share to your aspec friends :)

rb to share

[milanocookiesandivyprofen]

Say it with me, everyone.

ARO DOES NOT EQUAL ACE.

ACE DOES NOT EQUAL ARO.

SOMETIMES PEOPLE ARE BOTH. THAT DOES NOT MEAN THEY ARE THE SAME.

AROMANTIC AND ASEXUAL ARE DIFFERENT, AND SHOULD BE RESPECTED AS SUCH.

edit: holy shit, this post has gotten so popular it's getting aphobia notes! thanks y'all

[reinanova]

y’all

aro and ace are trending?? on the eve of pride month?? this year is for the aspecs for real

[shmaroace]

queer stories are still queer if they don't include romance btw

[fun-k-boards]

Aphobia is crazy because why does my decision not to fuck or romance anybody matter to you