#cishet allies

[genderqueerdykes]

so something that was more common in the past in queer spaces was ally pride. people were often very proud allies! they were often family members, best friends, partners, neighbors, co-workers, anyone really. maybe they just support queer people regardless. there's a lot of reasons why people support us, there's no reason to judge.

i feel like there's been this exhausting outlook on things where we have to immediately take things in bad faith because there's no way someone else had our best interest in mind. people have become very resistant to the idea of interacting with people who aren't exactly like them and it's disturbing. that is not how to approach community. that fosters arguments and drama.

also i don't like that some people don't like the idea of allies being at pride or calling themselves "proud allies" or whatever like that's not embarrassing, they should be proud, because they're refusing to hold us down. how's that embarrassing? we have to be kinder to one another. it's really over. this hostility is not where it's at. this is not the spirit of things at all. in the past it was not like this at all

there was a lot of diversity in queer spaces because they didn't really have the largest physical locations possible and often had to deal with minimal resources, so specialized groups were not always possible. generally you were mingling with everyone. you would have to just sort of talk to people and socialize. the first people i met at my college's pride group was an agender transfem person, 2 cis gay drag queens, 3 cis gay men two of which were asexual, a cis butch lesbian, a cis femme lesbian, & 2 cis bisexual women.

you just kinda talked to whoever, and that was a good thing. i saw parents, friends, kids, relatives all the time. it was super normal. like nobody was pestering you for your identity. legitimately i never came out the whole way about my gender when i was there i just tried to be gender vague and people understood. i didn't get heckled for my terms or pronouns i mostly told people i was genderqueer and they'd be like oh yeah totally. and then we'd go get sandwiches at a restaurant after the meeting was over.

there's a severe lack of connection we're having as a community right now. there's a breakdown in communication and it makes us suffer for it. i think it's time to shelve the needless hostility and just have conversations. i'm guilty of it it too. i dont want to say im excluded from this. but we need to just talk and then maybe we can get to the part where we go back to living as queer people and eating food together instead of interrogating people for everything down to what their genitals were at birth or are right now. it's time to shelve it.

we seriously do need to make room for pride and joy. the anger and rage isn't helping if it's being directed at each other- it need to be directed at people who are oppressing us, not the people we target right now. men who are allies, trans men, transmascs, male lesbians, transfems, trans women, intersex men, gay men, bisexual men, men of color, and disabled men, aren't the people who are holding us down, your target is elsewhere.

let us express joy and pride for once. it's okay to do so. it's constructive and healthy.

[edsheerankinnie]

EDIT: OK GUYS POLL CANCELLED BC OF SAMPLE BIAS, HERES A LESS SKEWED ONE U SHOULD VOTE ON+RB RN

Hey can yall vote and rb im trying to see smth

plus a follow up here

[clarissasbakery]

some stuff…. i wanted to make a clearer knight helmet reference but then plasma ball appeared as always.… don’t ask me to translate the spanish bc im too embarrassed about my thoughts of these two

[trader-scars]

there is no one advocating harder for the lgbt community than the cishet white man on hermitcraft

[itzmellooo]

Lumity says LGBTQ rights

[diospore]

Yknow if my cishet older brother can get that transmascs are erased and not given any representation and that's fucked up and not a sign of "privilege" then I think that it's pretty easy to understand if you take more than five seconds to think about it.

[notdailynoco]

day 67: pride month

[natsmagi]

can i say something. Enstarries obsession with having arashi wear a skirt or a dress or dress up in pink or whatever because She's a Girl is really fucking annoying and i think some of you need to stop relying on articles of clothing to confirm an already canonically trans womans gender identity. her being a woman doesnt mean she needs to stop wearing pants. and she also does not need to abide by the cisheteronormative view of what being a girl is in order to be a girl either. does she need to look like a barbie doll for you to process her as a canonical woman or something. let her have her own unique identity and preferences and tastes and treat her like her own individual person holy fuck. And also fuyume isnt even wearing a skirt and even if they were they wouldnt have been the first enstars character to do so thank you

[lecaudal]

"Trans Sonic just doesn't make sense" say you're a cishet already you don't need to beat around the bush

[genderqueerdykes]

Story about an amazing cis het ally

So I’m a trans woman, have been for a hot minute now, but super early in my transition, I was scared to use the women’s restroom (a classic dilemma, genuinly horrifying stuff, not fun game of dice) and becuase of that fear I like, hadn’t yet, I would just use the men’s room when no one was looking or there.

Anyway

I was having lunch, it was a day when I had concert performance later, and this girl friend of mine, let’s call her Amelia, just casually asked me “hey I’m going to the bathroom wanna come with?”

That was the first time using the women’s restroom, I told her this like, when we were both finished, and she was like “omg cute, we should take a picture” and I still have that mirror selfie to this day

oh my god FUCK YEAH!!!!!!!

that is legitimately such a kind gesture from her, i bet there's no way she could know just how much that meant to you. having a cis friend who is willing to go into your preferred restroom with you and protect you if things go sideways is so fucking good. i'm really glad she not only wanted to affirm your gender, but also protect and stand up for you! that's huge. that really warms my heart to hear. hell yeah, i'm really glad you have/had someone like that in your life!

[scoutie]

people calling for arrietty to lose her drag career is insane to me. fans always take it too far, they can't just discuss the events of the show as a show, but have to take it to real life and seek out retribution on behalf of queens they felt were wronged, even if those queens are over it. arrietty being a bitch to onya a year ago isn't a life ruining offense nor should it be treated as such, and if you disagree i fear you are being parasocial and need to step back and realize reality tv is still just tv

[jisreal64]

Thinking about gock recently 😋🤤🍆🏳️‍⚧️

[hellaversity]

Normalize (non-homophobic, non-transphobic) cishet people being fans of the Hellaverse. Normalize straight ally Hellaverse fans.

[maryland-officially]

Your a minority???

A minor - somebody under 18

Our skin is white. We have Jewish + native American ancestry, but unless gender, sexuality, or rare conditions are minorities (genuinely unsure), then no.

Our ancestry is not prominent, is what we're saying- so as of skin color, we're not a minority. We try our best to support them, though!

[penisbutterjellytime]

Probably isn't what you expected (also sorry for responding so late lol)

But anyways lol there's two ways this could go

I think she'd either have PCOS and keep the beard. Or she'd have transfem butch swag. Beard could be a safety thing (passing as a man) or maybe she doesn't shave it off because she feels it doesn't take away from her identity so she keeps it. Maybe a bit of both.

Anyway, Butch Kieran Duffy be upon ye

[god-damnit-vinne]

need to draw kaito being the ultimate saiouma shipper because holy shit this guy would absolutely put mistletoe on a fishing rod and parade it over shuichi’s head whenever he was in the same room as kokichi