#cw stigma

[borderline-culture-is]

(ventish, sui & abuse/stigma mention)

BPD culture is your fp telling you they feel like they're walking on eggshells with you and knowing you could explode any second makes them feel unsafe being with you; so, you want to kill yourself so you will never be able to abuse them like that again because you just love them so much and why can't they understand it's not intentional, you're not trying to hurt them, why can they never understand?

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[witch-of-the-creek]

Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead

[transthatfag]

boy king

[ghostie000]

i swear on my life that i am not implying that autism stereotypes are better to deal with, but when i was diagnosed with autism everyone was like “ohhh cute baby ANGEL!! cute sweet darling special BABY!!” and now that i have bpd everyone’s like “bad!! evil shameful DEMON!! scary creepy SERIAL KILLER, the DEVIL!!!”

[thevoidshere88]

So....

Today my mother my big sister n her bf were making ableist jokes....

And I called them out for it but got ignored.

Then after a bath confronted my mother about her ableist language and jokes she made.

Of course ableists get defensive when called out.

YOU ARE NOT A ALLY OR SUPPORTER OF SPECIAL NEEDS / DISABLED PEOPLE IF YOU MAKE JOKES ABOUT RUNNING YOUR CHILD OVER IF BORN VISUALLY DISABLED YOU ARE NOT!!!! 🚫👎🏻❌

[lysis-luver]

k now that im thinking abt it, have a badly worded ramble.

i hate it when ppl r like “im so delulu he looked at me which means he loves me” bc its like

honey, sweetheart, angel. thats not being delusional.

“gotta be delusional to get thru the day” you mean daydream. say daydream. hell, say silly. being delusional hasnt made any of my days easier. if im in a pyschotic episode i believe that all my food is posioned and that im being stalked and hunted at every point of my day. its bad

so no, you’re not delusional bc you think ur silly lil man luvs you sm you just believe they like you

and also, no, it wasnt an intrusive thought when you cut your hair at 3 am, it was impulsive.

and lastly, no, it wasnt the voices telling you to buy soda, it was you thinking thoughts

and this goes for alllllll mental health terms that ppl misuse btw !

[nekropsii]

Gamzee's characterization also arguably employs ableist tropes, and that ableism is racialized. The stereotyping of people with psychotic disorders as "violent" especially contributes to harm toward Black people diagnosed with those conditions. Sure, later in Act 6 there's a more supernatural reason given for why he was hearing a voice from Lil Cal and suddenly believing himself to be his messiahs. But his behavior is still called things like schizophrenic and psychotic, and that association between aggression and mental illness goes unchallenged in the story.

The way Gamzee is written later on in the comic definitely feels like a middle school take on a psychotic disorder, especially schizophrenia. A lot of people did take him as being some flavor of psychotic, and acted absolutely abnormal about it. I will definitely agree with you there. I will say, though, contrary to popular handling, I don't think the Watsonian explanation of "Supernatural Influence" rectifies the situation. Watsonian explanations do not trump the Doylist explanations. There's nothing wrong with writing a little Supernatural Manipulation into a story, but the way that trope meshes with... Everything else about Gamzee's character does not sit well.

I would like to point out, though, in addition to all that, that in text this is like a Drug-Induced Psychosis, and this is very important contextually. That's a major part of how it's racialized. Gamzee's addiction is unabashedly a part of his racial coding. Real great writing from Andrew "Racism" Hussie...

[zorosdimples]

i’m a firm believer that most people would enjoy having their feet kissed and toes sucked on

[slugass]

yes mr evaluator, you screaming “PSYCH O!!!” in your title for your video about serial killers is completely necessary. /sarcasm

like you couldn’t just fucking say “serial killer” or some shit for your title

you don’t need to stigmatize and blame mental illnesses that have been demonized FOREVER for a catchy title (especially in the most obnoxious unoriginal fucking way)

[transrevolutions]

"but I don't mean NPD when I say someone's narcissistic I mean they're just self-centred like narcissus from mythology" ok but that term has a psychiatric connotation and you cannot use a technicality to divorce it from the ableist history of its use.

(the same thing goes for psycho, sociopath, bipolar, the r-slur, and other similar terms btw)

[neon-moon-beam]

If neurodivergent people making posts about why certain portrayals in the Submas fandom are ableist and hurtful strikes a nerve with you, you really need to take a look at yourself and ask why that is

Even if you yourself are neurodivergent! 

Anyone is capable of having internalized ableism, including towards themselves. It doesn’t make you a bad person; what it means is you need to further educate yourself and do some introspective thinking. There’s no shame in that. Nobody is perfect; everyone has room for change and growth.

If you don’t want to listen or change, and especially if your reaction is to send people messages harassing them or telling them to “just block the content”, realize this is incredibly immature and you need to take your own advice regarding blocking and block those of us who are advocating, since our content is something you’d rather not see. Many people (myself included) will not respond to and block harassing or otherwise unwanted messages or replies. Anons can also be blocked and reported.

The fact that many people have, and will unfortunately likely have to continue making posts addressing ableist portrayals of Ingo and Emmet (as well as what people are doing regarding Volo) certainly says something, and it’s unfortunate that so many people are unwilling to listen and that people new to Submas continue to make these portrayals due to their own ignorance on the subject and/or just following ableist fanon content.

If you’re reading this and going “But Submas isn’t canonically autistic!” or “My depictions don’t affect anything!” You should learn what coding is and why it’s important. Whether intentional or not, many people see Submas as autistic-coded characters and as such, many autistic and neurodivergent people have found representation, comfort, etc in them. Ableist portrayals of Submas hurt this community, as well as affect people’s perception of autistic people (including autistic people’s self-perception), even if it’s not immediately obvious.

Please educate yourself and use critical thinking when it comes to creating fan content. Your work does not exist in a vacuum, but it’s quite evident many people have shut themselves in an echo chamber. Please listen to what people are saying about this. Submas fans can do better.

If you’re interested in reading more about this topic specifically regarding Submas, the Subway Masters: Autistic Joy Resources page is a good start.

[tullium]

"They hurt you because they like you." Needs to stop.

I come on here today to bring forward an issue that I have personally dealt with myself.

Most of us females, when we're young, are taught that a boy likes us if he is hurting us, by bullying us, throwing things at us, pulling our hair, pushing us around, you name it. Anything a boy at a young age could possibly think of doing, they did it. When I told my mother about a boy bullying me when I was still in elementary school, from 1st to 4 grade, and even when I see him now, in 11th grade, he treats me like shit. Any chance he got, he used it to hurt me, whether that was emotionally or physically. He'd get his little sidekick friend to chase me around the elementary playground and throw the rubber at my back, so much so that it could cause burns and bruises. I never told my mom that, because when I did, I was told "oh. that's because he likes you."

He abused me, and yet, I still liked him. I still had that stupid little crush on him, even if he hurt me. I was young and impressionable, and I didn't know any better. When I was told "it's because he likes you", that tells me, my little, underdeveloped brain, that it is OKAY for men to treat me like shit, because they love me, and THAT'S why I should stay. I should ALLOW men, with their big fat egos and fragile masculinity, to treat ME like shit because they 'LIKE' me.

In my first relationship, I was treated like shit by my girlfriend and some of her friends. People that I considered my friends. Yet I was gaslighted, I was manipulated and verbally abused by these people who I thought cared about me. People I thought LOVED me. I thought that love was enough, even if they treated me like shit, maybe, deep down, I even thought I deserved it. That I was the one in the wrong. I wasn't in the wrong. They didn't care, they didn't love me, platonically, or otherwise. They abused me, they neglected me. It's been years and still, their actions and words cover me in their shadows. I'm still healing.

Still, to this day, I let people walk all over me, because I push so many people away in fear of the manipulation and abuse that I may be put through, and I have no one else. I don't allow myself to go out and meet new people because I'm so afraid of losing them if I get attached. And I know this, but I also know where it comes from. I've let people walk over me all my life, just because I was taught that it was okay for people to do that because they love me. I was a kid, and I needed acceptance, so I let it happen, but I was never faced with acceptance.

For my whole life, I've been told "he hurts you because he likes you.", and only one time had I brought it up, recently this year, and my mom realized, "Wait... he did that to you? Why didn't you tell me?" My mom realized her error, and while I do forgive her, I cannot forgive those words that set up the first years of my life.

That is why we cannot tell children these things. If you teach your kids that it is okay for them to be abused out of 'love', then you're not only part of the problem, but you are setting them up for the life of a victim. A victim may never understand what love really is because when they think love, they think ABUSE, they think hitting, yelling, throwing things, and cursing. No one deserves to live life as a victim of anything, and it is our job to help future generations NOT grow up like we did. We're supposed to teach generations after us that abuse is never the way, that abuse is NOT love, and it never will be. Abuse. Is. Abuse. Let's start saying it like it is.

[heartless-aro]

I know that there can be a lot of sex-shaming in Christian communities and I know that probably hits even harder for alloaro Christians, so I just wanted to say to any alloaro Christians out there who need to hear it:

You are wonderful. Your feelings and your identity are a beautiful and natural part of who you are; they are nothing to be ashamed of. You aren’t “bad” or “dirty” for wanting sex, even if you don’t want marriage or a long-term romantic relationship. Your existence is not a sin (how could it be a sin, if God is the one who brought you into existence in the first place?). You belong in Christian communities. You are meant to be happy and to feel whole and to live a life of joy. You are and always will be loved and cherished by God.

[seilon]

kpop is. a really really fucked up industry man. it really is