#it depends on the situation sometimes i will too

[xxlovelynovaxx]

Y'know, there are a lot of people in my communities offline and online that... I'd cook for, help clean their house, help them move, share their fundraisers, give them rides to an appointment when I had access to a vehicle, donate to them if I could... who I also wouldn't willingly share casual spaces with, wouldn't tolerate their harmful behavior in a support group (though, if I were leading it, would issue repeat private verbal warnings before taking any action, and even divide into multiple sessions to still offer both the people they're hurting and them the support needed), and so on.

That's what I mean a lot of the times when saying "I won't allow unsafe people in my communities". It's not "I'll violently expel and ostracize (and encourage others to do so) those doing significant harm who are themselves marginalized". It's "I will take steps to reduce the harm being done while not doing further harm in doing so". It's "I recognize that identity does not make you inherently safe, so I focus on actual harm rather than who is doing it, and that also means I'm careful not to just end up displacing the harm by doing it myself".

Of course, I'm not perfect. If someone who is marginalized themself is openly reveling in and bragging about bullying and hurting others, and then turning around and claiming that objectively harmless behaviors from their victims are actually harming them, in essence playing the victim outside of situations where they actually are the victim... yeah, at a certain point I'll become reactive, especially if we are both marginalized on the axis of gender but they have power over me or others on another axis (race, intersex identity, disability, etc).

That's just abuser behavior, and as much as I try as much as possible to never be reactive, I also have grace for myself reacting imperfectly as a trauma and abuse survivor. Hell, this is why I DON'T want to be in a position of being the person in charge of these things that has the power to push people out on my own. I'd much rather have plenty of people to be able to de-escalate when someone HAS become reactive, while addressing the initial harmful behavior separately.

Idk this is just some ramblings on my personal philosophy but like. Community building does mean practicing harm reduction but that also means leaving space for people to mess up and do harm and struggle or even refuse to unlearn shit without being tossed out on their ass in the cold because, well, this is especially true given most of the time they don't have alternative spaces they CAN access when marginalized so it's kinda a case of "each other's all we've got".

And yes there's "don't tolerate intolerance" ofc but it's also "it's more effective to deradicalize someone and especially to do so in ways that are compassionate and understanding than to just isolate them and drive them further into hate" and also "sometimes the harm is directly tied to something like trauma or a disability in a way that can't immediately be changed and then it's on the community rather than the individual to find a solution that reduces the most harm possible without punishing someone for symptoms that they legitimately are struggling to or can't control".

Basically, there's ✨nuance!✨

And like this is all gonna be different too depending on the type of harm and what social dynamics are at play. You handle bigotry/oppression differently than you handle lateral aggression differently than you handle mixed cases (such as transintermisia from a perisex trans person) differently than you handle any other number of cases of harm.

Idk I just care more about being effective than being right. And I know I revert into injured animal snarling a lot on here but tbf I'm also NOT actively engaging in community building or w/e on my 250 follower blog with max 20 followers active at any given time. I do also think it's important to have injured animals spaces too and maybe this isn't the best one but rn it works okay as mine.

So... yeah. Complicated thoughts on a complicated subject.

[elonomhblog]

emotional intelligence

emotional intelligence is your ability to perceive, understand, manage and use your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict. it involves a set of skills that help you recognise, understand, and influence the emotions of yourself and others.

the key components of emotional intelligence are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. emotional intelligence is considered a critical factor for success in life because it helps you navigate social complexities, lead and motivate others, and excel in your personal and professional life. some experts suggest that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened, while others believe it is an innate characteristic.

an example of emotional intelligence in action is the ability to approach situations in a healthy, curious manner rather than an angry frustrated one. instead of reprimanding when someone is not acting according to standard, you can ask the person if everything is okay and listen attentively, understanding that there can be external factors affecting the other's behaviour.

by managing your emotions, and remaining calm and supportive during similar conversations, you can create a safe space for the other person to open up, and solve issues without further drama or difficulties. after you learn the change in their behaviour, you can offer support and adjust your actions to accommodate for the other persons needs.

if everyone practised a little more emotional intelligence, the world would wholly be a better place.

but let me stress this: emotional intelligence does not in any way mean changing yourself so other people can operate better. it is not being nice, it is having empathy and awareness.

let's further explore the different aspects of emotional intelligence:

self-awareness: the ability to recognise your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behaviour.

self-regulation: being able to manage your emotions and adapt to challenging circumstances.

motivation: to harness emotions to stay focused on your personal goals.

empathy: the ability to understand the emotions of others and respond appropriately.

social skills: to be able to build and maintain good relationships through effective communication and conflict resolution.

i already touched on misunderstanding emotional intelligence as simply being nice, but there are several common mistakes that can hinder emotional intelligence.

high emotional intelligence can sometimes be used manipulatively, influencing others without considering their best interests. this is not right! while manipulation may yield immediate results, it can have long-term negative consequences. it creates a toxic environment, hinders genuine connection and stifles growth. not to mention that depending on the context, manipulative behaviour can have legal consequences and lead to social ostracism.

emotional intelligence requires openness and vulnerability, and being too guarded can prevent the development of meaningful relationships. being guarded limits self-awareness, which is a key component of emotional intelligence. it does this by not allowing you to fully acknowledge or understand your own emotions.

to end on a more positive note, here is how you can build stronger emotional intelligence:

practice active listening: pay attention to what others are saying without interrupting. listen to understand, not just to respond.

emotional awareness: acknowledge your emotions, especially the uncomfortable ones. accept them as a normal part of life and learn from them.

identify emotions within others: pay attention to body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions to better understand how others are feeling.

understand your stressors: know what triggers your stress and build strategies to manage it. this can help you to remain calm and clear-headed in challenging situations.

healthily channel your emotions: find constructive outlets for your emotions, such as exercise, meditation, or creative activities. engaging in creative tasks allows for contemplation, giving you the space to reassess problems in your life and make plans.

develop empathy: try to see things from others' perspectives. empathy builds connection and trust.

improve social skills: work on communication, conflict resolution and cooperation. these skills are vital for building strong relationships.

self-regulation: learn to control impulsive feelings and behaviours. pause and think before acting. self-regulation leads to better decision-making and letting you avoid impulsive reactions that you might regret later. it enables you to handle pressures and challenges effectively.

self-reflection: regularly reflect on your behaviour and emotions. ask yourself why you do the things you do and how you can improve.

seek feedback. be open to constructive criticism and use it as a means to grow. ask trusted friends or colleagues for their honest opinions about your behaviour.

remember that emotional intelligence is not fixed; it can be developed and enhanced over time with practice and commitment. by focusing on these areas of improvement, you can increase your emotional intelligence, improving your interactions and relationships in all areas of life.

i hope today's post was helpful! ❤️ nene

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[turbulentscrawl]

can you write headcanons with andrew and naib with a really dominant female s/o

First a disclaimer: Regardless of s/o's gender, I think both of these guys would need a "dominant" s/o who understands that the submissive one actually has all the power, because nothing happens without their consent.

Very slight warning for spicy! I'm doing under the cut to be safe, but it's just one HC for each guy

-Andrew would take a long time to adopt what I would classify as an actual "submissive" role. If you get to the trust-level of a "friend" he will sometimes defer to you for leadership in social settings, but beyond that, you're looking at...maybe several years before you get the actual amount of trust and vulnerability you'd probably like from a submissive.

-When he does get to that point, he's kind of a switch, so the level of submission you get from him will vary depending on his mood. When he's grouchy, trying to lead him around is honestly a bit like prodding a caged animal. There's a time and place, you know?

-But back to those social situations. Andrew's anger and defensiveness of course come from years of mistreatment and forced self-sufficiency, so a caretaker sort of dom would be a better fit for him. He'd be a little resistant to it at first, but he comes to enjoy it when you take the initiative to spare him from certain actions and interactions. Make his plate for him at some kind of function so he doesn't have to deal with the crowded food table, fix his hair and clothes for him so he doesn't look ridiculous in public. And he honestly wouldn't mind you doing slightly more controlling things like picking out his clothes for the day (as long as you're not trying to embarrass him) and ordering his food for him when you're out (but he will complain if you choose something he doesn't like.)

-While he will agree with it sometimes, he doesn't love going full bottom with a fem s/o because he kinda thinks using a toy is less "both of us feel good" and more object insertion, which isn't his cup of tea. He likes real anatomy. He'd be more amiable to something double-sided. You still have control, but at least you're getting it too. It's equality. :)

-He doesn't mind someone dominant, but Niab himself is a full switch (as well as very independent) so his partner will have to understand that he's not always gonna play ball. So if you want someone who's always going to bend at the knee to you, he's not your man.

-That said, Naib is used to service. Both the military and his current independent line of work are "services;" he's both used to and fine with taking orders most of the time. Unlike Andrew, Naib expects to be treated as an equal adult most of the time, especially in public, but he doesn't mind being asked to perform subtle acts of submission in front of others. (That is, you ask him beforehand, and he will perform in front of others. Don't ask him to be a sub with someone else around.) Some examples: he'll test your drinks/food for you to make sure they're to your liking, wait for you to start eating before he does (but this one can be difficult, he's a hungry boy), fetch things for you. He also doesn't mind subtle touching like holding his wrist instead of his hand when you walk around together. And he will always be direct with you if he's not in the mood for all that one day.

-In more serious situations (read: matches) he expects to have the lead, though. Unless you've proven yourself to be MORE strategic, experienced, and tough than he is, Naib is taking the reigns to make sure you both make it out with as little pain as possible.

-He's chill with bottoming/pegging, but he gets to approve all the toys you bring into the bedroom first. He's had enough pain and discomfort in life and ,aside from maybe you smacking his plump ass occasionally, he's not about to feel those in the bedroom too.

[cripplecharacters]

Good morning/evening to y'all!

In your list of frequently asked questions, there was no mention of speech disorders? I was wondering if you answer questions for that too? I'm sorry to bother you if you don't.

If you do, I have two things I'd like to ask, if you don't mind!

First of all, my character is a 4-year-old boy with a stutter from brain trauma. How much does age affect this? Are there better to be cured or is it more severe? What would be the best sort of action from parents towards child?

Secondly, what does stuttering feel like, physically? Does it include tightness in the throat, thirst, numbness, or anything like that?

Thank you all.

Hello,

Yes, we have at least one mod with a speech disorder and I can answer them.

Depending on how old he was when the trauma occurred, he may not even realize that he does it. Some things, like the multiple syllable repetition unless he has a more minor form of it, he may notice and feel frustrated with, but stuttering can also include pauses and drawing sounds out which he may not even notice. Because he has the injury now, when he's still learning language like a sponge soaking in water, it's going to be harder to treat. In my experience, speech therapy that started when I was five never managed to actually improve the way I spoke. It's harder to improve in this situation- possible, to my knowledge, but harder.

Curing a stutter from a traumatic brain injury is going to be difficult. It's not likely and it's probably not something his speech therapist would even consider- when there's a lot wrong with speech and there's a reason behind it that can't be worked around, like a TBI, sometimes a speech therapist will just focus on trying to improve one aspect, or they might not even bother at all. If getting rid of his stutter is the goal, that's going to take years of work and it might not fix everything. It can be a severe condition- some people can have a severe stutter from the brain injury- but mostly it's just hard to treat because we have a permanent modification to how our brain works.

The best sort of actions his parents can take is listen to him. It might be frustrating for people to listen to someone who stutters and they might experience isolation because people don't want to talk to or listen to them, it does so much to have even one person in your life who will listen to you speak without impatience, interrupting, or ignoring. Because he's also going into school, listening to him is really important. School is very difficult for people with speech disabilities (for all disabled people, really.) He may experience teachers who are impatient or ableist, or he might experience isolation from his peers or even bullying. It's important his parents listen to him about any issues he may be facing so that they can step in and advocate him. They're the most important people for him to have in his corner. Listening to and communicating with any child is important, but it's very important that his parents listen to and communicate with him. At the very least, it creates a safe place for him at home. At best, he'll talk to his parents about bullying and they can put up a big enough fuss that the issue will be resolved.

As for what it feels like, it feels like the mouth kind of pauses. Like you're trying to say something but there's a barrier in your mouth, so you have to force every sound through it, and that's hard to do. A lot of people who stutter report physically tensing up trying to speak, leading to tension aches wherever they tense, usually in the face or neck, and that tensing is kind of subconscious as if there really is a barrier and you need to physically force the words through the barrier.

As you try and get words out, you might become stressed or frustrated, and that usually makes the stutter worse, which just makes your frustration and anxiety worse. They feed on each other and it sucks.

People who stutter also might have what are called secondary symptoms, like the reflexive tension I mentioned earlier. These secondary symptoms can include grimacing, blinking, movement or another part of the body, like the arms, legs, or feet, issues maintaining eye contact or even issues looking at the person they're talking to at all, and changes in the pitch or volume of the voice. You might also see adaptive behaviours from the person trying to hide their stutter, such as using word substitutions, meaning replacing a word they might stutter on with one they can say easier, interjections such as uh, um, etc, filler words such as like, and quickly revising sentences to either hide a stutter or rephrase the sentence to make it easier to say, things like "I want- I'll have the pasta." Stuttering and those secondary behaviours can lead to him trying to avoid speaking, which he definitely shouldn't do (shouldn't avoid speaking, I mean.)

Also, you might want to consider exactly where the TBI was and how severe it was, because location and severity can also cause other symptoms. An injury to the cerebellum, for example, will impact his fine motor skills. Look into the areas around the specific places that control speech, too. If the injury was bad enough or at the right angle to hit those places, he'll also have symptoms associated with a TBI to those locations.

Thank you for sending this.

Mod Aaron

[rainba]

Since we have kairos meeting darlings parents

How about Ace and Luka meeting darlings parents???? ^_^

🎹Anon

To be honest, for Luka... I feel like it would be easy for him to win over almost anyone's parents? I mean...?? (*^^*)

Luka has a respectable, stable, well-paying job. He also doesn't seem like a bad person- in fact, he seems like a very calm and sensible man. Obviously, he loves you and wishes to spoil you, too, so...

What more could a parent want for their kid?? (〃￣ω￣〃ゞ

And Luka would be highly confident in himself the entire time; he feels no need to worry.

The most off-putting thing about Luka is probably the fact that he's a pink fox hybrid... Because, uh.... How often does anyone see that?

Meanwhile, with Ace... It really, really depends on your parent(s) and their views... ^^;;;;;; You gotta tell him everything beforehand!

If they don't like people who pursue anything artistic, or just don't like people with an unstable/unpredictable living situation, Ace will find it very difficult to impress them. (-_-;)・・・

But, hey, at least Ace is a sweetheart!

And while he does come off as very kind, he'd also come off as a little... Dense? He wears his heart on his sleeve, and he's not afraid to say his opinions- even if they're a little bit weird. ��(‘～` )┌ Sometimes his mouth works faster than his brain...

Deep down, though, Ace isn't actually stupid. ..・ヾ(。＞＜)シ

If the only thing his darling's parent(s) care about is him treating you good, then that's awesome! But if they expect him to be stable and provide a (predictable) future for you... They're going to be in for disappointment.

But, uh... Ace is trying his best!! ☆⌒(>。<) He wouldn't be exactly nervous- but he wouldn't be very confident either. ^^;;;;

He'll put on some nicer clothes, will style his hair and wash himself up, then he'll do what he does best: be himself. (｡T ω T｡)

[buzzcutbulldyke]

Honestly I gotta say I'm personally not mad when trans people throw a fit about not being included in research, because I would LOVE if more research disaggregated trans people. Because the alternative is definitely, at this point, that they are lumped in with their gender identity and not their sex. But for all they whine, I genuinely think if research started reporting trans numbers separately, they would be unhappy with the results. But hey, prove me wrong!

However, as a researcher who once distributed a survey that included trans people in the sex question, god they're so difficult. If it isn't phrased EXACTLY the way they want, they refuse to answer it, or they purposely answer it wrong as a form of protest, and it made me want to rip my hair out. You know what I fucking meant! Do you people have ANY idea how difficult it is to make EVERYONE happy? Just answer the fucking question! I'm sorry that I didn't use your terminology of the month and potentially confuse all the normal people.

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[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

Hey do you think ya can explain Barnaby and his illusion smoke a bit? It seems really cool and I don't remember if ya talked about it in depth before

sure! this got a bit longer than i expected!

so i was thinking that Barnaby seems like more of a hands-off kinda guy when it comes to altercations. would rather sit back and make funny commentary! so if he Had to get involved, i imagine it would be from a distance and still in an Entertaining Way!

thus - illusion magic! for this au i've been picturing that he got his paws on some illusionary herb in his early teens. for making people laugh, you know! and help out with the farm - illusions could distract animals, convince them to move on to different pastures, calm the chickens for egg-collecting, etc!

Ms. Beagle didn't really approve, since smoking is harmful, but lucky for the both of them this particular plant doesn't deal as much damage when smoked as normal smoking materials would - like tobacco! something to do with the magic properties! so Barnaby mostly used it for chores (when his mama wasn't paying attention, ofc - it's still a bad habit in her eyes) and entertainment purposes.

how it works: on its own, it doesn't do much when burned. it's not like illusions will waft out of the pipe's bowl, or that sniffing it will give someone hallucinations. in order for it to work properly, the user has to inhale properly, form the Intent of what the illusion should be / look like / behave, then purposefully blow the smoke out with that thought firmly in mind. the reach of the smoke depends on the force of Intent, and the intensity depends on the amount inhaled. those that breathe it in / are surrounded by it will see hallucinations of whatever Barnaby - or whoever the user is - wants them to! it can be literally anything! whether or not the target is fooled depends entirely on the individual, but the herb is potent enough that most are convinced that what they "see" is real (auditory hallucinations only occur if the target breathes in the smoke)

upsides: this form of magic is great for distractions, cover, deescalation, and that kind of thing. if needed, Barnaby could stop a fight with one exhale! it's a pretty powerful trick! it also means that Barnaby has built up a tolerance to illusion magic over the years, so where most of the party would be tricked, Barnaby would be unfazed. the only one with total immunity to the form of magic is Wally!

downsides: if Barnaby uses too much in too short of a time, it will get to him. and since he breathes in the largest amount - undiluted at that - it can fuck him up! using it sparingly / using repeated small amounts doesn't do anything. the most it will do is make him feel slightly untethered, but he has an easy time ignoring it / shaking it off.

in mild cases of the magic getting to him, it's like a bad trip. his proprioception is messed with (basically he gets uncharacteristically clumsy & off-balance), he feels like he's falling, anxiety spikes, and his vision is just... off! there are blind spots (im talking actual blind spots, not spots of black), things are moving in ways that they shouldn't, he has mild auditory hallucinations. the others can help ground him by talking to him, touching him, and confirming what's real and what isn't.

in bad cases, it's like that but 10 times worse. on top of all of the previous symptoms being worsened, he gets extremely vivid hallucinations, and they're very often not fun! it's a simultaneous feeling of dying, going insane, and not knowing what the fuck is going on. Barnaby loses sense of where he is, who's where, what's happening. he can get lost in the hallucinations - he has no way to know that they aren't real. in these terrible trips, no one can really help him. they can't get through the hallucinations, and if they do, the magic morphs Barnaby's perception of them and they end up adding to the effects. honestly the best thing for him is to let him rest somewhere with as little sensory input as possible & leave him be until he starts to come down. physical contact does help, since Barnaby understands on an instinctive level that illusions can't touch him, but it doesn't help half as much as it does w/ the mild trips. and again, the presence of someone can make the hallucinations worse.

so! suffice to say! he doesn't like using the herb all that often, and it's why he Stays Out Of It unless absolutely needed. he has two pouches of the herb - one with the strong stuff, reserved for emergencies / one with just a tiny bit of it mixed in with Barnaby's own personal blend for recreational/everyday use. (he also has an emergency tobacco stash in his pack, but that's only for when he's completely out of his usual blend <3)

extra lil scribble that didn't make it into the lil doodle post... i broke his wrist...

[originalaccountname]

Teen SKK had to be at odds and fighting with each other because if they were always on the same side they would have bullied everyone in the mafia relentlessly

The balance is restored through them also bullying each other

[pinkanonhopes]

feeling...... thinking about some people and the relationships i had with them. on one hand, a toxic friendship (i didn't want to be friends with them but felt guilty). on the other, a toxic friendship (they meant more to me than they should have). aaaaaaaaaaa

[noxtivagus]

WAIT I'M RAMBLING SM RN BCS I HAVE UH AN ASSIGNMENT DUE IN AN HOUR THAT I HAVEN'T WORKED UP (its easy n quick anyways 😭) but.. MILGRAM

[n41r]

Aaaaa, thank you so much for the redraws! Is it okay if I ask for more card redraws of my old ones later? I mean, if you're alright with it-

Hope it's fine on me asking about silly headcanons and such, the reblog on tagging what Sieg would say to Edge just kinda clicked with me. Infrwoif, I can't help but think that Sieg is just chaotic in general unless something's serious happening! Normal days would be he's taunting others a lot, for example with the post on what he would say to Edge before running away while Edge's command reel is going higher and higher while chasing Sieg XDD

Ahem- Anyways, on the monsters you got who do you think can be the possible chaotic person and straightforward person in general? For me, I think Sieg and Summoner Kika respectively, since Sieg just triggers everyone and dragged others into trouble with him while Kika probably just done with Summoner Kiku's past antics that she's done with jokes in general and had to be the one to Sieg out of trouble he puts himself into-

It's okay! I will give you a heads up when I'll be able to do help you with more card redraw!

Also, that one reblog with my HC for Sieg, eh- That was a little bit inspired by Edge's cut-in line(s) if he were to meet Sieg

((Please ignore DeepL translating Sieg's name into Zeke, idk what happened there-))

And the funniest part (atleast for me), there are no corresponding line from Sieg or Dark Sieg themselves, so it feels like Edge is just being edgy (heh) for no reason-

And for the monsters on my team, I do sometimes makes up some ridiculous af headcanons and grouped them in a certain type of vibes Some of the examples are probably,

There are a lot of different kind of straight-forward in my mind, and it's hard for me to pick, so I just try to make these tables based on vibes-

My headcanons for most of my Oremons are mostly baseless tbh, so take em with grain of salts if you want to hsfkejrhvtrh--

[astral-athame]

- ̗̀ ✦ ㅤ ⸺ ㅤ 𝐒𝐎𝐍𝐆 𝐂𝐇𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐄𝐍𝐆𝐄 .

Share at least 5 songs that you associate with or remind you of your muse! (I DID 10. I'M SORRY.)

Imaginary by Evanescence "Don't say I'm out of touch with this rampant chaos / Your reality. / I know well what lies beyond my sleeping refuge / The nightmare I built my own world to escape"

All These Things I Hate (Revolve Around Me) by Bullet For My Valentine "Torn apart at the seams and my dreams turn to tears / I'm not feeling this situation. / Run away, try to find a safe place you can hide"

Snow White Queen by Evanescence "I can't save your life / Though nothing I bleed for is more tormenting / I'm losing my mind / And you just stand there and stare as my world divides"

The Well by The Crane Wives "All the words I couldn't say to you / Fill up the spaces in my chest / Like spare coins, poised on the tip of my tongue / I make a wish and hold my breath"

Everybody's Fool by Evanescence "It never was and never will be / Have you no shame? / Don't you see me? / You know you've got everybody fooled"

Teen Idle by Marina "Adolescence didn't make sense / A little loss of innocence / The ugly years of being a fool / Ain't youth meant to be beautiful?"

The State of Dreaming by Marina "All I want is to be wonderful / People in this town they can be so cruel"

Big God by Florence + the Machine "Sometimes I think it's getting better / And then it gets much worse / Is it just part of the process? / Jesus Christ, it hurts. / Though I know I should know better / Well I can make this work / Is it just part of the process? / Jesus Christ, Jesus Christ it hurts"

Rabbit Heart (Raise It Up) by Florence + the Machine "And in the spring I shed my skin / And it blows away with the changing wind / The water turns from blue to red / As towards the sky I offer it"

Labour by Paris Paloma "The capillaries in my eyes are bursting / If our loved died would that be the worst thing? / For somebody I thought was my savior / You sure make me do a whole lot of labour. / The calloused skin on my hands is cracking / If our love ends would that be a bad thing? / And the silence haunts our bed chamber / You make me do too much labour."

[jcbmcdrmtt]

Sorry if I am not as good about tagging stuff for the foreseeable future. I shattered the screen of my tablet (to the point where there are chunks missing and glass dust coming off under your fingers and you can see the electronics under the screen), and I normally use that + a keyboard case to browse tumblr. I’m using my phone now which means a.) no physical keyboard, and b.) I don’t have as much battery life so my time is more limited. I do not see a point where I can replace the tablet or get it fixed anytime soon either.

All that coupled with the fact that I normally use tumblr in a browser, not the mobile app, means it’s a lot harder to tag things now, especially if I can’t just tap to apply OP’s/the reblogger’s tags because they didn’t add any or i don’t like what they used etc.. Tumblr mobile is honestly tiny and kind of crap on my phone browser - the keyboard makes the screen elements squish together and some things like tag rearranging are broken.

TL;DR: You may possibly see more untagged posts from me in the coming weeks. I apologize, understand if you unfollow, and just. Yeah. I guess I just wanted to explain myself as I normally pride myself on my tagging etiquette.

[toastsnaffler]

I was on the wikipedia page for phobias just for fun but just discovered theres an actual word for a fear of being touched.. 🥹

[heylinfanclub]

Blows kisses to the ever reliable KT I hope you make enough bank to get yourself somethin nice between the mutual aid drops hfjfjd.

[3hks]

Flaws to Give to Characters II

When I first posted "Flaws to Add to Characters," it gained a lot more popularity than I thought it would! And since you all loved it so much, here's another one!

>>> Selfishness - When one becomes too focused on themselves, they start to ignore those around them who've helped along the way.

>>> Indecisiveness - When one can't make a decision, ultimately, they are stuck and unable to progress.

>>> Self-Centered - Self-centered people are often too consumed with themselves to worry about anything else. Sometimes it's similar to selfishness, and other times it's not. They may be too vain or too busy victimizing themselves to care about others.

>>> Gullibility - A seriously gullible person is easy to trick, manipulate, and hurt.

>>> Skepticality - People that are just too skeptical can be difficult to deal with because they seemingly have to question every action. There's always a motive behind kindness, right..?

>>> Bluntness - Though honesty is the best policy, bluntness is something else. Being too honest can be quite hurtful depending on the situation.

>>> Pushover - Not being able to say "no" when one wants to makes it difficult to be able to advocate for themselves. Additionally, they can get taken advantage of and used.

>>> Easily Offended - This person will absolutely take EVERYTHING personally. Those around them have to be careful about their words, actions, or even behavior because they will look too deep into the most non-meaningful actions. This is usually a result of insecurity.

>>> Overthinking - We all have our moments with this one. Overthinking can often lead to indecisiveness, ensuring that a decision won't be made in the future.

>>> Impulsivity - Sometimes it's better to just think things through. Being too impulsive can lead to unideal situations, events, and outcomes.

Whaddya think? Were these helpful? I'm thinking about continuing these series, but what do you think? (Not gonna lie, these posts help me get my ideas and thoughts in order too.)

Happy writing~

3hks <3