#my genders are (cis) guy and nonbinary guy btw

[happyxchaos]

i'm technically bigender but both of my genders are man. i think its funny. i'm guy²

[pinustree]

Everytime I draw my fursona all I think is "If not trans masc, why have top surgery scars? 🤨" "if not masc why give fursona stubble?? 🤨 🤨" etc etc

(Obviously I know these arent inherently trans masc things, but for my own fursona I view it as such)

[mihai-florescu]

I never want to see discourse about fuyume's gender again btw i remember the discourse half a year ago about an interview where it was stated yume was designed androgynously with the japanese x gender in mind and people jumped because how dare they say yume is the only androgynous character (they didnt say that. But it's also worth noting enstars hadnt been made with such a playful attitude about gender from its conception, a lot of it came through akira's writing along the way. So yes, im not surprised yume was the first character where they Conscientiously from its conception were designed to embody themes beyond the gender binary). And now i see discourse of whether yume is transfem or just a crossdressing boy etcetc. Godddd. Arent you tired. Arent we all tired. I am the first defender of crossdressing characters being uniquely different from transgenderism but equally important in playing with gender presentation, but we knew from day one yume's story isnt that of a cis boy crossdressing, but a non binary one. Once again i think people dont know that transfem doesnt mean trans woman, and can be used for nonbinary people who identify more with femininity without being a woman. But alas. We will never surpass the "enstars is made for female young adult audiences who want to see guys" mindset of some fans. Female young adult audiences could not fathom themes of gender struggles, right? We're just here to turn off our brains and imagine kissing pixels, right? Once again i wish my dearly beloved story was a niche vn and not a widely popular gacha game. Never stop gatekeeping...

[contradictory-label-culture-is]

Contradictory label culture is merely existing in a way that isn't conventional enough to have been considered by coiners.

Multigender people especially are affected (like me I'm multigender.) How can you be nonbinary and a girl? I'm multigender, they are my genders. How can you be midbinary, binary, and abinary? I'm multigender, which label I use depends on if I'm talking about myself collectively or just one of my genders. How can you be cisgender and isogender? Because my aporinity is not cis but is distinctly transn't. But I still relate to cisness because of my being a girl. How can you be enbian and a woman? I'M MULTIGENDER!

It's sad that multigender people basically can't win with sexuality labels, like seriously, I think it needs more rep in media because of it! And someone who ..I don't think was exactly multigender? I think genderqueer? They said something SO simple (no offense) it was being sapphic and Achillean, but it was on tiktok so you know even simple "contradictory" labels are weird to them (there were good comments, btw) but still, someone genuinely thought "sapphic = lesbian, Achillean = gay" I'm sorry WHAT

That's the whole reason for the term sapphic and Achillean!! It's so that multisexual people feel included in wlw or MLM without people saying "lesbian relationship" while one of them is literally bisexual or pan or omni etc!! HOW did they think sapphic was lesbian??

Of course, (TikTok wouldn't like this) but people can be gay and a lesbian (Gaybian) BUT even if you couldn't, you can be wlw and MLM!! It's SO simple and I can't people TikTok was rotting people's brains this much.

And again, it's like multigender people can't live with a sexuality!! I'm gonna go over a few.

3: "erm abrosexual!!" No?? Did they say it was fluid, my guy?? No?? Not every multigender person is genderfluid and not every genderfluid person's sexuality is fluid!!

2: "Gynesexual!!" Yeah you would want someone to just use a term that's basically woman romantic, right? No offense to people who are Gynesexual, but there is absolutely no rep for it anyway, and guess what? Lots of people feel connected to the lesbian label. (Believe it or not, someone pulled out Gynesexual and abrosexual when debating me on my sexuality. Not this next one tho)

1 (absolutely number one goes toooooooo): "that's just STRAIGHT!!" Boom we have a winner!!! 🏆 Of being the dumbest exclusivist! Maybe this should go on r/one joke or r/one comeback!!! Am I right?? Here's several reasons why they wouldn't be straight.

First off, actually tell me how you think a woman loving woman is straight. "Well it cancels out cause you're a man too!!" No it doesn't. That's just multigender transphobia, or @transmultiphobia-discussion (hehe had to tag them, sorryyyy) trans multiphobia! But actually thinking that it's crazy a woman would call herself a lesbian cause she likes women is CRAZY (reminder! Multigender CAN be straight, I'm just pointing out the logic)

And again, it's like double the gayness if they also like men! It's wlw and MLM! That's SO gay! So how the hell is it wrong if they're gay?? And it's like hell ok earth if a monosexual multigender even breathes, like GOD.

I just wonder what they'd say if a multigender person said they're straight so uh... If you want to rant about someone who hates multigender lesbians/gays that also hated straight multigender people... Tell me!

[were--ralph]

btw, the gender feelings might be an autism thing. i think lots of us are somewhere on the nonbinary spectrum. but for what its worth, as a trans guy that doesnt want bottom surgery its nice seeing a cis-adjacent guy openly talk about wanting a vagina. i feel like a lot of the discussions around sex, porn, and all that are very dick-centered and like i love dick but cunts are pretty awesome too! i think a lot of cis people would get bottom surgery if this kinda stuff was more normalized, i dont think wanting different genitals makes somebody trans the same way trans ppl wanting to keep their genitals are still trans.

i dunno if its a tism thing. i have a cis-male friend who wants a vagina and i genuinely think it's just a normal thing. like some people like vanilla so much they want to smell like it all the time (me) and some guys like pussy so much they want one. one of my only cishet male friends said if he were given the chance to choose he'd get a vagina instead of a penis and not because he feels feminine he just likes pussy and rubbing cooch sounds fun and hot

i have one friend who actually did get bottom surgery and im so fucking envious of him for it but he still goes by he/they and likes being called daddy

[vampirekiller1997]

Going on tinder(had to remake IG) and now they got more gender options ig so now I don't have to put myself man (I'm not even a man) so I don't get Cishet James clone #35 liking me and they don't listen in my bio I do not want you !

Every time I just think of the date I went with this bi cis Filipino guy and btw he was cute ! i we talked because we had a lot of interests ! But the minute he earned to meet up I was like very hesitant ig i just felt weird!! Was kinda pressured by my mom to go even because I was like "I'm broke man I cant pay anything" and he was "dw I can pay everything" and I was just not in the mood . But I reluctantly went . I mean dude paid for everything I mean I was pampered and treated like a nonbinary princess but the minute we started kissing II felt disgusted and repulsed.. and immediately took my ass home 😭 if he was nice enough to give me taxi home ngl.. but I was ready to go home. btw I have never went on date with cis dude before and maybe I did do this as a confirmation to see ig and yup not attracted to cis guys at all.

[hypotheticalprose]

I'm an amateur at writing fanfiction, and part of that is because there's absolutely a stigma that surrounds it among "serious writers." I've gradually come to the conclusion that anti-fanfiction snobbery is pretty self-destructive for a writer to indulge in.

When I was in college, I wrote a research paper comparing and contrasting fanfiction with young adult and new adult fiction. As someone who had only really dabbled in fanfiction before that point, it was striking to me how gendered it was as a practice. Surveys of AO3 users have consistently shown more nonbinary users than male users, and the majority is, of course, overwhelmingly women.

That isn't especially surprising, considering the overall gender disparity among young boys and girls. Literature has become an increasingly feminine-coded art form (aside from the world of "serious literature," which remains dominated by men, but that's a whole other can of beans).

This was something that caught me off guard at the time, because I had my nose in a book way too often while growing up to notice that other cis guys weren't really reading. I tended to be friends with readers, so there was also an element of selection bias there.

Fanfiction is unique, though, because it is written by its own audience. Teenagers read it and write it just like adults do, and success is determined purely by the quality of the writing. As a result, you end up with a lot of future professional authors (again, mostly women) who are publishing fanfiction before they even end up in college. I have no doubt that this is only going to contribute to the gender division in the art form moving forward.

(BTW, plenty of professional authors cut their teeth by writing fanfiction, especially among newer cohorts. Some of them are willing to admit it, others are not.)

I have complicated feelings about the gender disparity that is emerging in literature. Do we really want hordes of barely-literate men running around? On the other hand, might I benefit from some sort of fucked-up affirmative action shit if there's barely any other guys who are interested in writing? It really makes you think.

I do believe that on an individual level, turning one's nose up at the opportunities that fanfiction provides is self-destructive more than anything. Being a writer means you write. The specifics past that point are mostly semantic. Writing fanfiction is no better or worse than any other form of writing, as long as you're trying to improve and don't let yourself stagnate.

On a personal level, I've greatly enjoyed writing fanfiction as a way of testing my skills in genres I'm less experienced with, as well as getting feedback on my writing that isn't coming from people I know. Because you're piggy-backing off the interest of a broader story, you get a certain level of buy-in that most WIP's aren't afforded.

The main thing that prevented me from getting into reading and writing fanfiction before I entered college was the lack of quality control. I think plenty of other people have had a similar experience that put them off fanfiction, where they read something, are unimpressed, and write it all off.

Don't get me wrong; the vast majority of fanfiction is not written to the same standards as published work. But unpolished gems are gems. I've read some seriously good shit now that I have a better idea of how to look for it. My gold standard for art is "did this make me want to start writing?" I've read a couple of stories that hit that mark, and that's high praise.

Anyways. Maybe I'll do another write up some time about how fanfiction is more of a commercial term than a real thing, since most literature is basically fanfiction.

[our-honeybee-transfem-experience]

hi. so, i've never even heard of the term honeybee transfem until like two minutes ago (note i woke up like ten minutes ago,,,) and i ig wouldn't use to for myself but technically that's what i've currently got going on.

i came out as transmasc almost ten years ago, been on t for five. before that (and a little after) i went through a lot of shit, saw my mom go through a lot of shit, and i guess my brain's response to those things was to distance myself from being perceived as a girl as far as possible (which wasn't super far anyway). so i eventually ended up as trans masc (passing easily but only ever slightly past androgynous), dating another trans masc (though we both have like,, a nonbinary worldview) and suddenly all my friends were guys, too, cis and trans, and i started getting more and more upset about not having anything to do with girls/women.

first i was just like "well i'm a feminist (rad but not a terf, i hate terfs for stealing "rad fem" from me. fuck them.) ofc i care about women a lot!!" but it just kept getting "worse" (i identify as agender btw, not as a (trans) guy) and then i kept going "do i want to be with her or do i want to be her??" and started dressing even more fem again (that's the only way i still felt okay being perceived as a guy by people who know me bc i love the gender fuckery and clothes have no gender) to the point where i was more and more often read as transfem by new people (my voice is usually what tips people off) and that sorta gave me gender euphoria.

i don't identify as a woman or a detransitioner now, i guess ftmtf would be the only thing I'd be willing to use, except it's so connected to detransitioning... maybe ftmtnb or something but if have to explain that anyway. i can definitely say that i went through the whole ordeal of growing up as a little girl/young teen, trans masc teen (which is so not the same from growing up as a cis male teen, i cannot relate to that) and now being a young adult as a trans fem. i get gender/social dypshoria from being seen as a guy. i never even got top sugery, let alone bottom surgery, i've just been on t for so long that it makes me masc enough to feel dysphoria now.

i don't regret any of it by the way. i've always been an activist for queer and feminist manners (as i said, rad not terf) and i really want to use this experience to be even more open about it because of the bad stigma around detrasitioners (and trans people in general obviously) but i don't know if i have the balls (or titts, hah) for it.

anyway, as a lil end note bc i saw all those shoutouts: sending love to detransitioners, to people who experienced being trans masc as well as being trans fem, to people who transitioned due to trauma, to intersex people, to activists, allies, advocates. love to people who live closeted for whatever reason. love you all.

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[collectorcookie]

It wasnt with any instance in mind specifically but i have seen some great mhyk cisbends actually. And i love the idea of fem arthur! I hadnt considered faust or heathcliffe but im on board now! I saw a tweet once that said mithra should grow boobs in tiletta's honor and i support that... i suppose the post was made with enstars in mind cuz ive been thinking about cis girl izumi lately (he's nonbinary to me in canon but i think his rship with his mom in portrait wouldve been sooo interesting with the added layer of daughters turning into their mothers... im also fond of hetbending loiz but for it to be no different whatsoever from their canon rship. But i also think iz-mk-lo would be interesting had they All been girls...)

But i also think transgenderism in wizard world would be interesting to explore, not just imagining what if they had been cis girls. I wonder if trans humans resent wizards for having the ability to transform themselves... or if, like with curseworkers or doctors, there are wizards who specialize in giving humans hrt potions and surgeries. In a world where murr was into medicine he wouldve brought hrt to humans so they wouldnt have to rely on wizards...

mithra SHOULD have boobs in tiletta's honor tbh. In my mind, cisbent mithra would go from wearing no bras because she dgaf to wearing pushup bras as a way to carry on tiletta's legacy.

Also NONBINARY IZUMI TRUTHER, I SHAKE YOUR HANDS

Izumakoleo as all girls...omg your mind....we could have the best yuri how did no one else think of this. As expected of the president o7 i salute

And now onto wizard genders: we do know of a few wizards with funky gender in canon. They can use magic to shapeshift after all. Here are a few i can think of at the top of my head. Spoilers for ms2 for everyone else but i'm sure you don't mind lol

Figaro mentions having a friend that is born a wizard, shapeshifted into a witch and stayed like that, even ended up carrying a baby to term and giving birth

There's a western witch who presents exclusively as a wizard in front of humans in ms2. I never even thought about how human-wizard dynamics might affect genderfluidity but that sure is interesting

Rustica has been a transguy to me since reading ms2. Idk if i am the only one interpreting it as that but i swear there's a part i read as him having been a western princess. Because of that i like to imagine/headcanon chloe is also a trans guy and kept the feminine name rustica style.

Figaro, man. Figgy is just. SO painfully transfem like omggggg. Besides being so Eldest Daughter™️ coded in northfam, the ridiculous amount of times he's been like "btw if anyone wants to see me as a beautiful woman pls let me know" girl do YOU want to be a beautiful woman??? It's definitely in character for fifi to be a certain way and then try as hard as possible to hide it, perhaps even lying to oneself about one's true nature.

[egret-orchids]

a few sanders sides gender identity headcanons & explanations bc me & sawyer (@veronica-sawyer2, sorry for the tag) were discussing them

roman: he/him mostly, genderqueer. would use they/them or sometimes she/her but he's the prince and obviously princes don't wear make up or dress/skirts or say that today they're feeling more like a 'she' or a 'they', do they? guy's probably got some repression issues tbh. plays into the stereotypical 'hero/prince' role bc of this. eventually just uses he/they most of the time though.

janus: he/they/she, genderfluid. similar to roman except he's completely open to expression & expressing femininity.

virgil: transmasc, he/him. mainly because i'm projecting and i saw a post abt it once and it's engrained into my brain. patton has to remind him how to self-care btw.

patton: honestly feels nonbinary to me, so they/them or he/him. again probably because i've read fanfics with that and its rlly fitting. adores masc titles though.

remus: he/it/they. probably some obscure neopronouns too. not really a reason to this one either buts he probably afab. not sure why, but i think it's funny to think that roman is basically incapable of growing facial hair (disregarding like. the fact that they all look like thomas anw.) yet remus is and hes not even cis.

logan: he/him, hasn't really thought about it. probably he/she at some point. has also experimented with gender expression & is pretty comfortable w his masculinity

[bdbdbdbdmn]

it's whatever and fine but this one time on here there was a comic about a [assumed cis] guy character with boobs and how it was funny for a dude to have tits and the reblogs turned it into a trans thing that was all fun and stuff but the thing is that someone decided that his pronouns should be he/they (like just "and his pronouns are he/they!" and that's it in the middle of a conversation on a post about a guy not wanting to be seen as less of a man for his chest size). on account of him being the guy with large breasts. instead of he/him like in the comic. and you know me, i love and support all headcanons and genders and pronouns etc., and there's also no proof that it was done maliciously, but i just find it interesting how turning "what if guy with boobies lol weird" into "that's a trans guy and they're not as much of a guy actually, you can tell by the huge honkers which are so funny because they're so big" was seen as like. an improvement. maybe it was just someone who related and was projecting the they/them part, but it feels like this potentially came from the devaluing of transmasculinity and forced feminization (NOT taking about the kink kind rn) and binary association of nonbinary people. like why is it less good for him to just be a guy? why do you [allegedly] think he/they is more breast-y and boobish? the comic guy can still be he/they idc but it feels to me in my opinion like you're seeing boobs and they/them as feminine and trans men as being unfortunate losses bc they're males (aka not Pure Females, the best gender). idk. clearly i personally hc him as he/him and hyper dysphoric lmao

this feeling can peacefully co-exist with my opinion that you can hc tomboys as transmasc btw bc firstly i still think this is fine too, but also bc the discussed masc female characters are shown as enjoying and feeling at home within masculinity and such and this guy was shown as clearly distraught over emasculation that was out of his control (not that you need to justify a hc but this is a just in case point). it just seems like a Weird Time to bring it up. "i'm uncomfortable being seen of as less of a man due to my anatomy" "i see... have you tried being nonbinary?" vs "i love being masc" "i love you being masc too. really love it." idk man. idk it sounds like i got a solid case for my feelings not being stupid and evil here. emphasis on the word feelings, i never got any opinions from this i just used my old ones to figure out why it felt odd to me. also a better metaphor that relates transmasc hcs of tomboys to the pronoun hc of this comic is if a female character was for some reason forcemasced and did nothing but complain and feel embarrassed and wish to be seen as a feminine woman and ask to be allowed to do normal girl things and y'all went "wow great tomboy representation!" "actually he's transmasc!" but that's not how transmasc hcers think or act so so it would be a false equivalency which is why my opinion in favor of transmasc hcs of tomboy characters still stands.

am i out of touch on this Thursday or no is it that it is the children who are wrong? (double meme reference but genuine question)

[zignifier]

y does it feel like ppl r nuanceposting abt the Gendered or Not of dude/bro etc right after i had just like articulated in my head that im fine using it w/ my guy friends that are Verifiably Not misogynists and Da Gorls but will rage if some random guy calls me that...

e.g. this one which this post is gonna primarily be in conversation w/ which i say coz i hate. vague discourse clearly inspired by a particular post that is not being named For Some Reasonnn. & not coz i think OP of that should have shit slung at her but like i disagree w/ some of her points but the way im gonna articulate it i think would kinda be disrespectful to Ask her to like. Engage Me coz there's gonna b a huge gap in effortposting here lol. like i don't wanna be shoving this in her notifs thru the tags even.

anyway i don't think it makes sense to say there's non-gendered usage of "dude" or "you guys" i think it makes more sense to say it's not unilaterally an act of gendering to the way those nouns standalone. like. me saying "duuude" to my cis sister is Completely And Utterly Different to saying it to some random woman Because of the gendered connotations even if im not asserting thru the saying that my sister Is A Man. i think arguing that me doing that is Not Gendered just doesn't make sense coz we r ultimately referencing a sort of camaraderie that is more culturally understood to be amongst, well, dudes. like there is no equivalent for women (maybe i elaborated more on that elsewhere)

and w/ "you guys" yea i think it's unfair when ppl like. get on tfems ass abt calling their friends that. like that is not not gendered, but it's just so...bad faith and like...that shit of how tmes can be all Genderfuck teehee but when tfems do anything outside of the strictest definitions of womanhood suddenly they're male-socialized and Don't Know What Oppression is & tmes gotta come in and tell 'em Ummm...Don't you know about "misgendering" ? And btw you're doing it to your friend rn... Massively condescending esp w/ dialect/idiolect considerations being different for cis women.

But i think certain people should just fully stop saying that shit and stop using the fact its embedded in the dialect as an excuse... I think like, teachers doctors etc people with power should not be saying it to their students etc. Like, if there's just so clearly that kinda power dynamic where someone being like Hey...that makes me uncomfortable is not Amongst Peers. then just avoid. that situation in the first place. coz anyway I've had bad experiences trying to tell teachers to be mindful of that shit and yknow it just put me on blast in front of my peers too & im not even transfeminine. & well idk if any transfems saw the way teachers reacted to me trying to navigate gendered hell and took the lesson to be even smaller abt it coz like tbh. as much as my teachers were openly hostile to me for being nonbinary i think the implicit ways they were transmisogynist tied into existing structures more to like. prevent tfems from like. even being in the discourse let alone Exist. idk if that makes sense.

& related im reminded of a time a black coworker said to me like "Girl, yadda yadda" and i was like. Don't call me girl. and she was like OKAAAY 🙄and i was like internally. damn lol i didn't think she'd be transphobic that was weird like is saying "girl" that important to her geez. and then later she was like OMG. I'M SORRY. When you said earlier that thing about "girl"... I mean you use he/him pronouns* right? (something like that she asked sorta rhetorically I don't super remember) and i was like oh lmao she thought i meant I'm not YOUR girl like. like im being racist and unfamiliar w/ her. Damn.

but it's weird coz like. i wasn't opposed to the familiarity expressed in her saying that but i Was...in a sense being unfamiliar because my discomfort arose from the possibility she was trying to box me into being a cis woman. and if that possibility was absolutely out of my mind i would've been ok w/ it as a like. oh she says that to everyone & well also i am gay. yknow. The Girls And The Gays But Sometimes You Just Say Girls We Have Fun Here. ig tho probably she realized that was the case and thus the apology coz similar shit happens across racialized lines too.

but yeah anyway that too and going back to the teacher thing tho...idk the extent that Well just avoid it. dictum can even apply in the case of like. e.g. a gay teacher like...in order to articulate one's gender u kinda have to make statements abt other ppl's genders and how ur relating to them. so like thru this demand of the teacher not gendering students like...are we arriving at a conclusion of teachers being forced to exist as...not meaningful gendered subjects which is ofc in the real world gonna mean they're Basically Cishet Assimilated? are we sharpening our pitchforks coz da flamboyant teacher said "hey girlies" and letting more Degendering shit slide coz it's less outside the bounds of what we already think is acceptable or Appears to be Non-confrontational? like. "hey girlies" is i think a challenge. coz it signals a dif gendered ingroup (which isn't necessarily literally comprised of Woman-Identified People) than the Norm. & to completely preclude that, what effects would that have on the need for camaraderie and seeing self thru other for marginalized students that their white cishet etc peers have much more access to by default?

ig tho forms of address are not the only way this occurs so idk how much it matters but i don't have an answer to this broadly anyway lawl food for thought tho.

[in-the-key-of-f-major]

I'm joining my country's air force and thinking about gender is actually interesting from my perspective based on what I've observed

In Singapore, only those assigned male at birth are conscripted

And for those assigned female at birth who join military service willingly, I wonder if there's a stereotype that they are more "tomboy" or "tough" than those who don't because I haven't really seen this myself in the sense of hearing others get called tomboys (btw tomboy is not a negative word here, afaik)

Trans women usually don't want to serve, while for trans men, it's not a given that he would want to serve

There are trans men who do want to serve because military service is seen as a rite of passage for cis guys (barring medical exemptions) so serving can be affirming for them, and there are also trans men who do not want to serve and thus are "fortunate" to be AFAB so they don't have to

In this sense, there is female privilege in my country by not having to give up 2 years of your life for National Service, and those who choose to serve sign on to the armed forces as a career, so they get paid much more than the male recruits who don't even want to be there

Of course, there are cis men who sign on as well

I'm AFAB and still figuring out if I'm a confused cis girl, extremely closeted trans guy, nonbinary/agender, or even genderfluid because sometimes I'm okay with being seen as female, while other times I'm very happy to be selected for a military job because of the masculine connotations and I have identified as a trans guy in the past and I can't really say I was wrong, just that I was not necessarily completely correct either

[cardiagf]

Makoto is Makoto

I don't really like engaging into cis or trans character debates especially when it's characters who are gnc/androgynous bc a lot of people especially in twt gets worked up ab these said characters are read as trans, which is completely harmless btw, it just rubs me the wrong way when some people are too insistent about a character being cis

and so I want to talk about makoto and how he is not cis, but is nb/transfem in more ways than just him being a femboy/crossdresser.

Disclaimer: I will be using he/she/they pronouns for makoto in this post just bc i think makoto will be cool with that

and for the record, i finished reading the main series but i have not read the middle school specials, yet.

im also someone who really likes otokonoko and onee characters so yes i am aware of the cultural nuances but this would be just me speaking a queer nb person who loves this series and how i perceive makoto as one

also spoiler warning!

first and foremost, I want to say that gender identity, gender expression and sexuality are all wholly fluid, it's a big spectrum that only you, yourself can figure out. And i think as queer people we're allowed to relate, reflect and see ourselves into the experience and struggles of a fictional character.

while i also don't mind it too much if we think ab how makoto dresses is just her gender expression and that even a cis guy should be able to be feminine and like feminine stuffs with without them being trans / or yk anyone can be gnc but i think as someone who went from being gnc to trans/nb pipeline, it is incredibly hard to not draw a line within queerness or being lgbt with makoto's OWN identity and queerness.

I mean makoto literally uses the "Atashi" 'I' pronoun for themself in which is, by the way, a jp 'I' prn most commonly used by girls when they're dressed as girl while she uses "Boku" when she's not crossdressing

(not to mention both saki and ryuji usually refers to makoto with gender neutral pronouns/referral, with saki always calling him "senpai" and ryuji just having the default gender neutral "Aitsu" pronoun for everyone)

and yeah i know it's also because he's an "otokonoko" but in retrospect, when we read further into the manga we learned that by high school, makoto had transferred to a school that lets them dress however she wants and had been living in said school for ALMOST A YEAR (until he was outed) and he clearly doesn't mind being perceived as a girl.

in fact, as shown in early chapters makoto was so happy when someone made a pass at her because that stranger thought they were a girl and he was so happy when he passed AS a girl.

him being an otokonoko or crossdressing only becomes a problem for them when other people are involved, i.e. when someone confesses to him or when she gets close enough with others, as I believe he sees it as a form of deception/don't want to disappoint them.

either way makoto is makoto, yes this is also a form of expression but i think it's also more of an identity, she doesn't have be locked down by the gender binary

not to mention how makoto hides his true identity to his mom is just something a lot of queer, and especially trans people can really relate to. she literally has to lock a huge part of herself inside a locker when they have to go home bc they cannot be themself in said home, it can clearly be read as someone who is closeted

now onto the spoilers regarding this, makoto coming out properly to his family and most specifically his mom really encapsulated the nb feeling really well

and yes i know she states that "he's a guy who happens to like girly things" (just give him a few years /j) but the point still stands: makoto is makoto. they don't want to live neither as a boy or just a girl. it didn't have to be "one or the other," they chose to be themself and this scene really spoke to me as someone who is nonbinary and how i didn't want to perceive as just my agab...i just want to be myself and i want to be true to myself and that was makoto's answer as well.

i honestly don't want to engage in the debate regarding makoto's gender/gender expression and yes it's canon that he's cis but his own experience and the queer experience especially at her age are just very much parallel to each other.

i know a lot of other trans people will be able to see themselves in makoto and I just don't like how people fight ab androgynous/otokonoko characters being cis only when queer readings regarding these character are completely valid and came from a place that reflects on their own experiences, we can't just lock the fluidity of gender identity of someone in one place, much less for a fictional character. they're queer, they're trans in some way and that is completely okay.

[uncle-fruity]

Here's something from my brain:

Telling transmascs they shouldn't go on T because they'll "become ugly" is still rooted in patriarchal ideals & expectations. It's why every TERF is hard to take seriously when they insist they're trying to fight sexism.

What's the ugly part? The body hair? The balding? The deepening voice? The potential for weight/muscle gain?

So, by that standard, cis women with body hair, cis women who are balding, cis women who gain weight and/or muscles, and cis women with deeper-than-average voices are, BY TERF'S OWN LOGIC, ugly.

Oh? Do you think that all women are meant to be frail? Thin? Hairless bodies? Thick head of hair? Wispy "feminine" voices? What are you trying to say about how women's bodies are supposed to be? Do you think ALL women have the same body type? The same standards of beauty? Is beauty every woman's top priority? Should it be?

You know who else freaks out about "manish" women? Basically, all the people who think women are objects to be seen & not heard. All the people who think women are their sexual playthings and little more. It's a trope throughout literature & media to paint strong, outspoken women as manish & undesirable. A trope that TERFs seem happy to exploit for their own ideals. Because if they want to prescribe womanhood onto us, they must also accept that they are unhappy with the way we are living through our womanhood, and think it's reasonable to control and legislate our bodies based on their personal belief about how women should behave & think.

Being a woman is not about how pretty you are. It isn't about what you owe to the people who would rather you shut up and be demure. And for TERFs to use these insecurities that the patriarchy instills in young girls to dissuade them from making choices for themselves is honestly a disgusting tactic.

I don't even care if you (wrongly) connect biology to gender. If someone looks at me, a trans guy with ~2 years of hormone treatments under my belt, and decides that I'm an ugly woman based on the vagina they're assuming I have and probably the tits that I definitely still have, fine. Maybe it's the nonbinary in me, but if you wanna purposefully (incorrectly) call me a woman, then that shitty decision is yours to make. Now, ask yourself.... why are you mad that a woman (by your own standards) is choosing something for her own body?

These are the same people who get mad when trans guys claim historical figures like Dr. James Barry as one of our own. There's no way to tell how he'd identify if he was using modern language to describe himself without resurrecting him and asking directly. But, in the end, whether he was a woman seeking to break through barriers of sexism or whether he was a trans man in a time before we would have called him that, he chose to live a life that is similar to the one many transmascs choose for themselves. He expressed himself in a way that is familiar to transmascs. And I have no doubt that these fucko TERFs would try to belittle and tear him down just the same as they do any of us. In fact, it was a woman who undressed him against his will after he died and exposed him as a "woman" postmortem. We can't say for sure if she'd identify as a TERF if she were using modern language to describe herself without resurrecting her and asking directly, but we can safely say that she's not the kind of person I'd like to know either way. Her mother should have taught her about consent.

If I was a woman trying to escape the patriarchy by transitioning (a common, completely stupid ass take btw since everyone who isn't at the very top of the power chain is a victim of the patriarchy (among other things)), would you mock me? Admire me? Sympathize with me? Tell me I'm delusional? Call me ugly? Tell me I should think more about my ability to bear children with my womb? Would you join me in trying to escape oppression? Would you hate me for trying? Have you decided that men are the enemy, and therefore I've betrayed my sisters in a war I reject wholeheartedly? Would you hold me down? Get your friends to beat me up? Tell me I deserve the violence in my life? Undress my dead body? Tell me I'm crazy? Force me to put on a dress? Force me to shave? Tell me to brighten my voice? Tell me it's a shame I've destroyed my feminine smile? Would you dare try to drag me back to the patriarchal depths like crabs in a barrel?

At the end of the day, it's all about telling people how they should live their life. How they should look, which beauty standards they should care about, which roles they should identify with, who they should be beholden to... And if those people disagree, maybe they're just hysterical mentally ill or being manipulated. Lock 'em in a room with some yellow wallpaper to keep it cheery until they change their minds!

Do you see? The parallels? How, even if we accept that your fake science is actually real science, and claim womanhood based on our vaginas and tits and ability to sometimes bear children, you are still denying us agency by taking away the right to express our gender however we choose. If I'm a woman who looks like a man, or who acts like a man, why is that a problem for you? Why do these gender barriers matter to you? Don't you see that in taking control of gender, we defang a critical branch of the patriarchy?

Sexist ass cult mindset, -10/10.

[imqueerandadeer]

wait breakdown of my oc's in my latest story

Name: Mars

Age: 16

Status by end of story: dead kinda

pronouns: he/they/xe

sexuality: AroAce

Gender: trans masc

Other: got outed on his schools Instagram page, kind, loyal, kinda short tempered. Loosely based off of myself (not a self instert guys I swear)

Name: Asher

Age: 15

Status by the end of the story: dead kinda

pronouns: they/them

sexuality: unlabeled

Gender: nonbinary

Other: one of Mars's friends, not super close but close enough to still room together on this trip (for context they're on a trip for school). Shy, very non-confrontational, and hates yelling. Loosely based on one of ny friends

Name: Jay

Status by end of the story: dead kinda

Age: 15

pronouns: he/him

sexuality: unlabeled although seems to lean towards masc people

Gender: unlabeled

Other: one of Mars's best friends, known each other for quite a while now, very non- confrontational, pacifist, and sensitive, also dating Nico (very briefly mentioned), very Loosely based off of one of my best friends

Name: Ms. Solace

Age: 34

Status by the end of the story: dead kinda

pronouns: she/her

sexuality: straight, tries really hard to be an ally (fails)

Gender: cis women

Other: very well intentioned but she ends up doing more harm than good, 3rd year teaching English, genuinely does care about her students but doesn't know how to help, very Loosely based on my old math teacher

Name: Olivia

Age: 15 almost 16

Status by the end of the story: dead kinda (can you sense a pattern?)

Pronouns: she/her

sexuality: Bi, except because she's friends with Olivia it's like complicated

Other: may or may not be in love with Grace also Mar's ex best friend, loosely based off of MY ex best friend

Name: Grace

Age: 15

Status by end of the story: dead kinda

Pronouns: she/her (but she'll say somthing along the lines of "uh she" and give you a dirty look)

Sexuality: straight as a fucking line also has questionable fucking taste

Other: fucking hates Mars but in a weird passive aggressive way. She has actively made Mar's life fucking hell, loosely based off all of my old bullies (who I have no doubt in my mind would hate me even worse now)

Name: ????

Age: ???

Status by the end of the story: N/A

Pronouns: it/it's (in the way you'd refer to an animal btw)

Sexuality: N/A

Other: i t l o o m s : )

I gave them last names I just forgot and i don't have my planning sheet anymore 😭

also don't forget to read my story :3

also @star-dust-shark this was the thing I had you read, it's the character sheets for them :D