#nonbinary ftm

[sydsixxftm]

Dirt Bag Butch, is this anything?

[sirenium]

tip for people who struggle with pronouns: fake it until you make it. I'd rather someone theatrically get my pronouns right than blatantly ignore them in place of the 'easier' option for them. I'd rather have someone go 'IT went to the coffee shop to get HIR morning coffee' than 'they, they, they' when it's in obvious replacement of my preferred pronouns.

Nobody with an ounce of patience expects you to be a pronoun god, but we do expect our pronouns and identities to not be brushed under the rug for the comfort of yourself. and people who do 'throw fits' have every right to, because it's fucking insulting to not be correctly gendered after politely correcting people like we often do. people have pronoun pins, or even pieces of clothing to give you visual cues (though looking at clothing cannot be a foolproof way to aid in guessing someone's pronouns) of what they like to be called, as well; for example, I saw this tiktok of somebody with they/them earrings who apparently STILL got misgendered, and that's when it very much feels purposeful.

don't be a dick. Unless you want to be lumped with the 'what is a woman', genital obsessed weirdoes, put the damn effort in.

[viktheviking1]

What's a good gender neutral term for feminine hygiene products?

[feralbbyboyx]

I've had quite a few different approaches here, this one will probably still be a whole different one yet again.... but, either way - I'm back! 😉

Let the fun begin...? 💕✨️

[thepunk1312]

im getting a binder soon. its underworks so its going to be actually comfortable this time

[boybasher]

[caeliangel]

IMAGE ID. 2 rectangular flags with 8 stripes. The first flags stripes are, in order: light blue, blue, green, light green, light beige, light pink, purple, black. The second flags stripes are, in order: light pink, pink, orange, yellow, light turquoise, blue, purple, black. END OF ID.

୨୧ • mtftm nby , ftmtf nby

︵︵︵︵︵︵★ ꒱ explanations :

Flags for nonbinaries who are mtftm or ftmtf !

PT. mtftm nby , ftmtf nby. explanations. Flags for nonbinaries who are mtftm or ftmtf ! END OF PT.

[ohtransarchon]

thinking about that one moment when I was about to get top surgery

[devjaye]

Credit to: user

[genderqueerdykes]

to everyone who has been talked out of testosterone HRT because it will make you "scary": no it will not. testosterone isn't "scary". masculinization isn't "scary". being masculine or a man isn't "scary". it's just another way to be a person. testosterone HRT is a good thing. it helps many people. if you want to take it, take it. don't let anyone else tell you not to because it "scares" them. it's not happening to them. their fears don't matter to you. it's happening to you. it's your choice.

[sydsixxftm]

Testo butch in a bikini (he/she/they)

[deathtokillian]

If you are trans I need you to stay alive.

Stay alive for every other trans person fighting, stay alive for every trans person who is no longer here, and most importantly stay alive for yourself.

They don’t get to erase us! They don’t get to take away our rights, and treat us as less than human. Don’t let them erase us, and don’t let them make you a statistic. Don’t let them win.

Stay alive

If you won’t do it for yourself, then do it for others. Do it out of spite.

[lgbtqtext]

[micahruiz]

transfemme and transmasc solidarity! (prints, stickers, digital download, and tattoo tickets available)

[Start ID/ Digital art of two hormone vials that have been repurposed as flower vases sit next to each other. On the left, there's lavender sprigs sprouting from the estradiol valerate vial and on the right, purple pansies sprout from the testosterone cypionate vial. /end ID]

[the-trans-advice-blog]

Never forget that the purpose of transitioning is to make you happier not to make you pass!! You may never end up being able to pass but don’t let that take from your happiness.

[gor3sigil]

Before starting T, when I socially transitionned, I was surrounded by radical feminists who saw masculinity as gross and inherently evil, something to avoid, something to make fun of, something to destroy. The other transmascs in my friend group, sometimes, told me that they didn’t knew if they really were non-binary or if they just were scared shitless of saying “I am a man”. Because they saw this as a betrayal to their younger self who had been SAd and abused.

I saw many of my masc friends and trans men around me hate themselves, not outing themselves as men because it would imply so so much, it was like opening the Pandora Box. Even when we were just together, talking about our masculinity was always coated with bits like “I know we’re the privileged ones but…”, “I don’t want to sound like I have it bad but…”, “Women obviously have it worse, but last time…” and we were talking about terrible traumas we experienced while taking all the precautions in the world in the case the walls were a crowd of people in disguise waiting to get us if we didn’t downplay the violence we faced, or like crying and being upset and being traumatized and afraid and scared and to say it out loud would make us throw up the needles we were forced to swallow every second of every day living in our skin.

Most of us weren’t on T yet, some of us were catcalled every day and harassed in the streets or in abusive relationships nobody seemed to care to help them get out of because they were “strong enough” to do it by themselves.

I was using the gender swap face app and cried for ours when I saw my father looking back at me through the screen. The idea of transforming, of shedding into a body that would deprive me of love, tenderness, and safety, was absolutely terrifying. I knew I couldn’t stay in this body any longer because it wasn’t mine, but I also knew that if I was going to look like my dad, my brother, my abusers, it would be so much worse.

5 years later and I’m almost 2 years on T, and almost 2 months post top surgery.

I ditched my previous group of friends. I was bullied out of my local trans community. But let me tell you how free I am.

I was scared that T would break my singing voice: it made it sound more alive than ever.

I was scared that T would make me less attractive: it made me find myself hot for the first time in my life.

I was scared that T would make me gain weight: it did. But the weight I put on is not the weight I used to put on by binging and eating my body until I forgot that it even existed. It’s the weight of my body belonging to me, little by little. The wolf hunger for life.

I won’t tell you the same story I see everywhere, the one that goes “I started going to the gym 8 times a week, I put on some muscles, I started a diet and now I look like an action film actor”, in fact if you took pictures of me from 5 years ago vs now I’d just have more acne, I’d have longer hair and still look like I don’t know what to do with myself when I take selfies.

But the sparkle in my eyes, my smile, tell the whole story way better than this long ass stream of words could ever.

I want to say some things that I wish someone told me before starting medically transitionning.

It’s okay to take your time. It’s your body, it’s your journey, if you don’t feel comfortable taking full doses and want to go slow, the only voice you need to listen to is your own. Do what feels right.

If you feel overwhelmed, it’s okay to take a break, it’s okay to ask for support.

Trans people are holy. Everyone is. You didn’t lose your angel wings when you came out because you want to be masculine. You are not excluded from the joy of existence, from being proud of yourself, from being sad, from being scared, from being angry. The emotions and feelings you allowed yourself to feel while processing what you experienced when you grew up as a girl and was seen as a woman are still as valid as before. Nobody can take that from you. If someone tries to, don’t let them.

It’s perfectly normal to grieve some things you were and had before you started to transition, like your high soprano voice or even your chest. Hatching is painful. You can find comfort in things that don’t feel right, so making the decision to change can be incredibly scary and weird and you deserve to be heard and supported through this. Wanting top surgery doesn’t make the surgery less intense, less terrifying, less painful to recover from. When it becomes too much you have the right to take a break and take some deep breaths before going on.

You don’t have to have a radical, 180° change for your transition to be acceptable or valid or worthy of praise. Look at how far you’ve come already. It doesn’t have to show, you’re not made to be a spectacle, you’re human and it is your journey.

Oh, and last thing, you know when some people say “Oh this trans person has to grow out of the cringy phase where you think that you can write essays about being trans or transitionning or just their experience because it’s weird” ? If you ever hear this or see this online, remember all the people whose writing you read and, even if they were not professional writers, helped you more than any theorists did ? If you want to write, do it. It won’t be a waste. It can help people. Or it won’t, and even then, if it helped you, that’s enough.

Love every of my trans siblings, take care of yourselves. You deserve the world.