#transmasc advice

[cansomeonetoldmewhoiam]

Transmasc on tumblr, if someone you can't (or don't want to) came out to notice your binder, breast or something like that, tell them you have gynecomastia. Trust me, most of them will joke a little bit about it, but won't bat an eye.

Transfem, if someone notice that your chest is flat, or see you shirtless, tell them you had to have a surgery. They probably won't ask for details.

Remember to stay safe, this is a very scary time to be transgender, don't feel guilty because you're protecting yourself!

[transguydragon]

I. Want masturbating to not feel dysphoric. That thought was eating my brain and is the entire reason I made this blog.

I tried looking up advice but it was either about sex with a partner, or was for people who are on T and have bottom growth or have had bottom surgery, or was just like “y’know, like, masturbate. With toys if ya want” but that’s not. That’s just nothing.

I am pre-HRT, I haven’t had any surgeries, I have only floated the idea that HRT might be a thing I do in the future to my doctor. I am nowhere near that point. I only realized I wasn’t genderfluid but actually transmasc in February.

But that’s only because I didn’t realize that all of the dissatisfaction I was feeling was gender dysphoria this whole time. I’ve actually felt this way about many aspects of myself for years.

So yeah, idk, I wish masturbating made me feel like a man, but I don’t have any of the parts that facilitate that, and I don’t have a partner, and I’m not really on the path to change either of those things right now.

[castielfucks]

theres actually no rules to transitioning and youre allowed to want contradictory things for your transition. it's fine if you only want some of the changes that come with hrt and take preventative measures for the rest (like wanting bottom growth but not body hair or vice versa). you can want to have vagina AND a dick. you can be a woman and want top surgery, or wear a packer. you can be a man and want to have a pussy. you can change your transition goals one or a million times or not have any goals at all and just take things as they come or as they feel right.

there are no rules.

[geek-22]

Trans men and enby's,

Testosterone does not work as birth control.

Your doctor may tell you this, a nurse might, but it DOES NOT.

For the love of god, wear protection

[transmasc-advice-blog]

ways to correct people who misgender you

for me correcting people is really hard bc i have really bad social anxiety so i made a list of ways to correct people that might be easier. (sent this to our-transmasculine-experience but i thought i’d post this here too)

my teacher misgendered me so i wrote my pronouns next to my name on a worksheet. not only did he start gendering me correctly, he also felt bad so he went easy on me for a bit (didn’t grade as harshly and called on me before other people) NOT THAT MAKING PEOPLE FEEL BAD IS GOOD

you can have a friend gender you correctly in front of the misgenderer MANY times (it takes a lot of times lol) works better if they know you and friend are close

text them

have a friend tell them

pronoun pin (didn’t work that well for me, but it did get a few people to start gendering me correctly so give it a go if you want :)

not necessarily towards the person but mention your gender like “ugh being non binary is so hard sometimes” or like “i got that tboy swag” bc that may get them thinking and they may ask you your pronouns

you can put your pronouns in your email signature

say something along the lines of “and then brenda said ‘oh yeah [your name] is so cool [your correct pronoun] said my jacket made me look pretty’” so like say your pronouns… for yourself, yk? so for me it would be “and then brenda said ‘oh yeah Vince is so cool he said my jacket made me look pretty’” idk if that makes sense

[uncanny-tranny]

Scientists ought to study the chemical link between Butches and trans men* and transmasc* people. Like, they say that the triple bond is one of the hardest to break, but I don't think they've looked at the bond between a trans guy and a Butch

[fanvoidkeith]

i'm kinda debating on whether or not to take testosterone. like, if i could afford it and convince doctors that i really do want to take it

since my body isn't... masculine, and i hate having my period because it makes me want to stop existing, and i don't like having boobs, and i have dysphoria about my voice being so high pitched (my voice is usually the reason that people misgender me), i probably would feel better if i went on t. but i also don't like change (autism & anxiety), and i'd rather have no genitalia at all than... uh, different genitalia. i'd rather have None Junk than Different Junk, but i don't think that's humanly possible, which sucks.

it makes me feel confused. plenty of transmasc people have gone on t- i know at least one person irl who is on t, and he's happy with the changes. but even though i don't really like my current body, i don't know if transitioning would make me happier.

i know it's my body and therefore my decision, but i'm really struggling to figure out if i would actually feel better about myself if i made the decision to go on testosterone. i feel happy when people gender me as a man (transmasc), but i also feel happy when people gender me as a person (nonbinary).

does anyone... have advice, on this? i just feel really lost right now about this stuff. and i don't know a lot of people who have transitioned/are transitioning, and asking people i know about their personal experiences with transitioning seems way too personal, because i don't know them very well and feel awkward about asking them things. and though several of my closer friends are also nonbinary, none of them have hormonally/physically transitioned, so i can't ask them about this stuff.

it's just something i think about a lot, in the back of my head, and i wonder if it's... the right decision, for me.

[jojo-oliver]

"discovery of something kind" a self portrait of sorts :-) happy trans day of visibility!! I am so opaque!!!1

[queerlyraging]

i have recently been able to start using trans tape as a substitute to binders for binding (my ribs are CHEERING) and i've realized that as many tips and guides i've seen about using binders, i haven't seen nearly as much when it comes to using tape. as a newbie to the whole trans tape thing, i want to ask people who have been doing it longer.... what are your best tips and tricks or general advice when it comes to using trans tape?

[our-transmasculine-experience]

Do you have anything nice to say for us trans people who are forced to spend time with their transphobic family because of holidays?

be kind to yourself this holiday season. remember, you are valid and you are loved for who YOU are, not for who your transphobic family believes you are. and if they can’t love you for who you really are, they never really did. go easy on yourself, it’s rough for the closeted trans folks.

good luck out there!

[transpossumboy]

trans and need help picking a name?? 🏳️‍⚧️

oh boy, do i have a method for you!!

i do this as the step before i have people try out names for me just to make sure i'm personally happy with them first. as someone who's been out for almost 10 years and tried a bunch of different names, this way helped me narrow down my options with the most confidence!

write any name you like on a piece of paper like a list.

make a column every time you look at the paper, maybe every few days or so.

check off the names you like going down the columns based on your preference for the day. (i color code the ones i like for first names and middle names with different color checks.)

after you do this for however long you want, see which name you like consistently! (you can also easily add names that you like as you go, just add it to the end of the list.)

here’s what my list looks like right now as an example (i do my work in OneNote, the green checks are first name and the yellow is middle name):

[milocelium]

moment of vulnerability: as a transmasc nonbinary person I have very low self esteem and struggle to love myself and my body. I am scared that I come off as annoying, rude, socially awkward, and have a very hard time accepting that someone could be attracted to not just my body but my personality as well.

If you've struggled or are struggling with this can you please share anything that has helped you?

If you are a transmasc person in a relationship (sexual or romantic) can you please share because I feel like i rarely see transmasc rep in romance and it doesn't help discourage the idea that im unlovable.

[charlieisacastle]

trans people who haven't legally changed their name yet

i need your advice!

so what name do you use in your cv? how do you go about adding your information? cause for example my email, the writings i have had published, and my website are all in my chosen name (Charlie) but my ID and all my certificates are with my deadname. and i dont know what name to add on top of my cv.

should i explain under my deadname that i do not go with that name and thats why some of my information is not in that name? wouldn't that clock me as transgender and be bad for my employment opportunities?

i need your help can you tell me what to do or what worked for you guys please?

[augustusfires11]

Tips For Guys Pre-T

- Have confidence. Don’t just spread your legs all the time, though that helps, but try to act how you would after you transition. Trust me, it works.

- There is such a thing as dressing ‘too masc’. A lot of guys will slip into butch  Territory. That’s obviously okay if you want that, but if you don’t, add a chain or studs(it’s OKAY to wear BOTH earrings). Flannels are okay, as is any punk style(just maybe avoid bright hair and lipstick). Obviously don’t if it increases dysphoria.

- This one is for black trans guys…GET A LINEUP! Trust me, it works. I really don’t know why, but it is a lifesaver.

-Cologne is your friend.

- Get a buff and shine. It looks good and masc, and will help you on your quest for whoever you’re dating.

- Baby powder is GOOD actually. Keep it close because chafing’s a bitch

- Assertive does not mean obnoxious

- Make sure that at the end of the day, you can look in the mirror, at your body, and call it home. Transition(whatever that looks like for you) should feel like coming home.

I think that’s it

-Bye-

P.S, DMs are open if you have any more ideas for new posts or questions you have in general. Take care of yourself.



[transmasc-advice-blog]

gender neutral bathrooms my beloved ❤️

[uncanny-tranny]

If you want a weird piece of advice on how to treat trans men and transmasc people you know... I think my piece of advice is to hold off on calling us things like "cute", "twink", or anything adjacent to these if it hasn't been made clear that a person is okay with being described in that way. I promise, it's better to ask than to assume we're all the same, because it genuinely sucks when people make the assumption without even caring.