#parent problems

[weepingdreamersandwich]

I wonder if my parents realize that they've already lost me. That my smiles are fake and my eyes are constantly searching for escape routes. That I'm just biding my time until I can be free of them. I wonder if they know that I was never theirs to keep.

[scraps-of-genius-or-insanity]

[thyhonesteheorte]

objectively my relationship with my dad is worse. but my mind apparently doesn't care about logic because my relationship with my mom hurts so much more. because she at least knows stuff about me. while the connection between me & my dad has been entirely 'off' since i was like 12, me & my mom are constantly 'on' & 'off'. one moment i think she's no better than my dad and the next i'm reminded exactly why she's so much better. if i had to choose to live with one of them for the rest of my childhood i'd choose her without hesitation. (kinda random but indian parents really need to start normalizing divorce lmao) in the end, my dad mostly stays out of whatever happens to me and doesn't interact and i'm fine with it now because i don't really like the person he is, but my mom doesn't stay out of it. she's objectively a better person. she's there, she listens, but also she makes things so much worse. well at least she's got more tact than my dad. i feel like the reason it hurts more with her is because at times i actually have hope whereas i've given up when it comes to my dad. my dad doesn't have expectations to meet so he can't disappoint me any more but i know my mom and she is a much better parent than him and sometimes i expect a healthy interaction and when it doesn't happen i'm left disappointed and hurt. idk i'm just rambling atp

[starboyblues]

I see so many people saying their daddy issuses make them love older men and fall in love with them meanwhile my daddy issuse (or this might be my mommy issues im not sure) makes me dispize older men like my father I hate them I’m scared of them genuinely I hate boys and men I don’t like being alone with them I only trust a few men/boys but any others I don’t trust or like let alone fall for

i don’t see enough people talking about how daddy issuses and haveing a abusive or manipulative dad or father figure makes you hate or fear men more I feel like this needs to be mentioned a bit more idk

[someonesrealityshifting]

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[waarmsalad]

Dude my dad laughed when i told him i gyatt a dio cd yesterday💀💀💀

"You and metal"

Wtf is that even supposed to mean even, he literally had a whole ass conversation about metal w me in our car and then deadass said

"I shouldnt be encouraging this"

Im not setting churches on fire calm down homie🙏

[siren-valkyrie]

Idk if anyone else can relate but I hate when I’m excited about something and I tell my parents about it and they shut me down immediately. Like I’m super excited for the book of bill I preordered it and everything, and I had went to tell my dad about it because he used to like gravity falls too, but he just looked at me like he wanted me to get it over with. I just wish my parents actually got to know me and listened to my interests. 🙁

[abigailthenerdy]

Like, my mom has called you all a "Bad influence" on me.

And that's bullshit. Y'all are the only people I have that prevent me from wanting to kill myself. Y'all are the only support group I'VE EVER HAD!

Now does that sound like a "Bad Influence" to you?

[puzzled-pegasus]

Okay I gotta vent bc I'm not in therapy and I should be lmao

My mom can't understand why I don't like talking to my (step)dad and so I don't have anyone to rant to abt it but these are some of the biggest things I remember my dad doing that put me off being nice to him now (hes been in my life since I was like 4)

Screaming at me

Threatening to beat/spank me (my mom didnt do spankings thank god but it was still terrifying for 6 yo me to be told in a shouting voice that hes going to "blister my ass" whatever tf that means)

Threatening to shoot one of my dogs (twice! Once with my chihuahua when I was like 8 and more recently with my Australian shepherd when I was 15 or 16)

Him and my mom BOTH secretly put down my cat I had when I was 7-8 because he was "mean" and my mom didn't tell me till I was 16. Thats not really a dad thing specifically its just another thijg im mad about

Saying homophobic slurs

Random trauma dumping

Transphobic rants

"Do you really believe in climate change?" Wtf dad I knew you were nuts but not that much

Telling me to smile like 8 minutes after I woke up in the morning (this was once like a couple months ago and it's not really that bad but it did annoy me lmao)

Once he got mad at me for saying the word nonbinary in front of him ???

Sneaking up and startling me/jumper cables or whatever u call it I fuckin hate that shit

Oh yeah and he used to get really upset when I said ok and didn't make expressions when he yelled at me. Yes im getting tested for autism

One time he picked me up from the school bus stop with the radio on FULL volume and refused to turn it down for some reason so the whole way home my ears were just exploding?? Like wtf lol

Getting mad at me for watching MLP when I was like 8-10. Like "how dare u, a child, watch tv aimed at children about the value of friendship, u should be watching WWII and serial killer documentaries like a SMART PERSON"

One time he picked up my sketchbook and tried to look in it and then he looked at me like IM the crazy one when I snatched it out of his hands

Also he got annoyed at me when I wouldn't show him the drawing i was working on (of one of my blorbos as a merman how the fuck would I explain that) and he said "it's probably overtly sexual and thats why u dont want to show me" like bruh why dont u mind ur damn business if the drawing was for showing I would show it

i can't remember any more off the top of my head so im gonna end the post here :) srry for ranting abt my personal life so much 😭

[thyhonesteheorte]

woke up and she's just yelling yelling yelling shit like i'm useless, a failure, never gonna get anywhere, am gonna end up begging on the streets, etc etc like bitch just stfu it doesn't do anything anymore ur just yapping at a closer door i cry under the covers every time

[hansdigidiary]

I used to cry so easily whenever my parents yelled at me but as I grew older, I hardened and showed little to no emotion.

I knew they wouldn't apologize to me like they did before, they wouldn't wipe my tears, and they wouldn't try to console me.

My parents never took accountability for their mistakes. They blame it on me even if they caused it.

So I am left alone on the bathroom floor as the water showers me while I hug my knees for comfort. It's unfortunate how my knees bring more comfort than their embrace.

Lucky are those who found a home in their parents. I never found a home in mine.

- hansdigidiary

[ahoyakosi-kape]

Child: *greets parent(s) decently after parent(s) get home*

Parents: *chastises child out of nowhere*

Child: *gets teary-eyed, not knowing what they did*

Parents: "Look, I'm stressed from work; you need to wipe that expression from your face. I didn't even do anything to you? Why are you so sensitive?"

Child: *fulminating out of nowhere*

Also parents: "What the hell is wrong with you? The disrespect? Fine, I won't speak to you for 5 business days."

[ramblingsfromthytruly]

im sorry im the one you love

[somecluelessidiot]

Anyone else have to leave a room on a daily basis because their dad doesn't know what boundaries are?

[weepingdreamersandwich]

I got the email yesterday....someone wants to publish my book! Now all that's left to do is sign the contract.

What did my parents think? They were surprised and changed the topic within 15 seconds. Now they keep warning me about scams, which makes me think that they don't believe I'm good enough to be published, not that they've read any of my works to begin with.

I think my dad summed up his thoughts best a few months ago when I was talking about word counts. "Well, it doesn't matter how many words you write if no one wants to read it."

Someone wants to read it. Take that, dad. (Sorry for the rant.)

[someonesrealityshifting]

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