#queer unhappiness

[certainwoman]

"It would be naive to think that one could engage the politics of gay marriage without also engaging the fantasies that swirl around marriage. These fantasies are intensified for queers, who have been historically excluded not only from marriage but also from the serene and longlasting satisfaction it seems to offer. Of course, the promise of conjugal happiness is not the same thing as its reality, as many who are or who have been married will tell you. Gays and lesbians are now in the unprecedented historical situation of having to pretend that we too have happy marriages. It is no wonder that, given the novelty of the situation, these declarations often have the air of a forced confession. (...)

In the era of gay normalisation, gays and lesbians not only have to be like everybody else (get married, raise kids, mow the grass, etc.), they have to look and feel good doing it. Such demands are the effect, in part, of the general American premium on cheerfulness: being a 'gay American,' like being any kind of American, means being a cheerful American. For gay Americans, the pressure to appear in good spirits is even greater. Because homosexuality is traditionally so closely associated with disappointment and depression, being happy signifies participation in the coming era of gay possibility. In this brave new world, one can be gay without necessarily being tragic; however one may only belong by erasing all traces of the grief that, by definition, must remain sealed off in the past of homosexual abjection. Given this climate of emotional conformism, it makes sense to ask whether gays and lesbians still have the right to be unhappy"

Heather K. Love, Compulsory Happiness and Queer Existence

[pluggedintosaverockandroll]

Kolja - Arthur Japin

Translation: That's what interests me, where exactly is our unhappiness born, our unsatisfaction with who we are? That didn't exist in ourselves. A child in their early years is unaware of any shortcomings. That idea does not exist until another person confronts us with the fact that we are not like them. That awakening, sometime in your adolescence, of the realization that you cannot become like everyone else, that you lack something, that you lack what it takes to participate in life on an equal footing...

[knifearo]

ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story

[zeldahime]

Firm believer in Aziraphale both being A Gay and being technically asexual and agender. Mostly because I am asexual and agender but am still A Gay, and I know what that looks like. He looks like a gay man and talks like a gay man and joined a gay men’s club and hangs out with the gays in London’s main gayborhood. He’s gay-gay. His gender is still angel and he’s still sexless unless he really wants to make an effort. He’s gay as a social category. He’s gay because he more or less chooses to be. And I think that’s incredibly based of him.

[bundleofstyx]

tada, this is my piece for @acolorboom 's dtiys! blood :DD

[dctrfate]

the honest to god truth is that even if wally was some form of gay he'd literally never fucking realize it because he's too in love with linda park. "yeah i think other men are hot but have you SEEN my wife???" boom sexuality crisis solved.

[bedforddanes75]

late to posting this, but it really did help me

[aq2003]

got around to reading that article about queerness in mulan (the one that james somerton plagiarized from, lmao) and i am once again reminded of how formative this movie was for me. yeah guys the protagonist doesn't fit into either traditional male or female gender roles. the protagonist looks at her reflection and wonders whether if it will ever reflect who she is on the inside, because if that true self is shown to the world it would disappoint her whole family. the protagonist fails at the being-a-wife test. that's SO CRAZY

[00lucas-sacul00]

When seven teens decide to stay over at one of their houses just to have fun, everything g seems to go wrong.

This is my first full-ish book that I’ve completed. Free to read on Wattpad and Ao3. (Links in my pinned post)

[evviejo]

repeat after me: queerbaiting is a marketing strategy. queerbaiting is a marketing strategy. queerbaiting is a marketing strategy. queerbaiting is a marketing strategy. QUEERBAITING IS A MARKETING STRATEGY. QUEERBAITING IS A MARKETING STRATEGY. QUEERBAITING IS A MARKETING STRATEGY.

[astronomay]

reading through the queering the map webproject is both a gut-wrenching and enlightening experience because on one hand there’s so much pain, so much agony and aching attached to everyone’s stories but at the same time there’s so so so much love and connection and freedom and hope plastered in every corner of the world and for a moment you’re snatched out of your isolated self-destructing bubble and something in you shouts look!!!! you’re not alone!!! there’s hope all around you!!! this is the human experience!! you are going to be fine!!! and idk man to me that’s fucking brilliant

[the-kingshound]

Honestly the people who critique your game (and some other if games too!) for those reasons just sound like they want those super straight, half erotica romance novels from like, 30 years ago 😒

[stars-and-the-sublime]

I'm coining a new word:

thexlogy:

/ θiˈ ks l ə dʒi /

(n) the study of god(s), understood in an explicitly queer and gender-expansive context

[chibi-scone]

So that new Rhys Darby interview about s3 ….💀

[youcanthandelthetruth]

Youtube thinks I'm such a specific type of guy.

[just-aro]

got asked to hang out in a double date type of situation by a work customer... and like.

sorry! you guys were fucking weird when, upon me deciding that since you were queer and asking about local queer spots, i could tell you my neopronouns! one of you looked confused, but your partner had a thinly veiled disgust! i neither want to hang out with you, nor explain that i do not have a partner nor want one!

goodbye!