#tma/tme binary

[rampagingjackel]

no such thing as a boyish or girly game

no such thing as a boyish or girly drink

no such thing as a boyish or girly job

No such thing as a girly or a boyish interest.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish colour.

No such thing as a girly or boyish mental illness.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish outfit.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish hormone.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish scent.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish ethnicity.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish accent.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish body type.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish bedroom.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish subject.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish location.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish emotion.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish race.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish foodstuff.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish personality.

No such thing as a girly or a boyish lifestyle.

If you want, you can reblog and add another factor of life that is needlessly binarised that should be called out. Natural life lacks binaries. Human life lacks binaries. Binary gender roles are ridiculous and ludicrously imposed on society. Free yourself of them, whether you are non-binary or not.

[yeon-chloque]

In the TMA/TME theory, TMA (Trans Misogyny Affected) only applies to trans women who are feminine enough to pass properly, and all others are TME (Trans Misogyny Exempted).

In other words, the most important thing in this theory is, GNC (Gender Non Conforming) trans women are also included in TME, not TMA.

[ridibulous]

MFs will go We hate the gender binary! And then proceed to make another gender binary that hurts people to circumvent their old binary that hurt people which was made to circumvent that older binary that hurt people and so on so forth ad nauseum

[renthony]

It's real fucked up how many queer people dread Pride season due to both systemic queerphobia and queer infighting. Pride season always rockets up my anxiety, and I know I'm not the only one.

This shit sucks, y'all. We gotta support each other more than the queerphobes hate us. I'm not saying we have to love each other, I'm not saying we even have to like each other, but we cannot keep subdividing communities, circulating callouts, and dogpiling each other over who has it worse. That shit will kill us all.

We cannot keep thinking of our individual experiences with bigotry as, "I know [xyz kind of queer] has it worse, but...", and we cannot keep looking at other experiences with bigotry as, "that's bad, but [abc kind of queer] still has it worse," when the reality is that we are all being targeted. It's all bad! It all deserves to be talked about and fought against without trying to put it in some kind of hierarchy! Hierarchies are not fucking helpful here!

Some fucking unity, please.

[ogatas-beloved]

I am once again reminding you to stop fucking excluding intersex people from conversations about gender and gender related oppression

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

nothing worse than seeing a competent transfeminist go down the reactionary tgirl iso pipeline

[twobruhsinahottub]

Why is this person all over my dash 😭

The commenter is so right, tme/tma is some bullshit binary that ignores the fact that many people who ARE NOT trans women can and do experience transmisogyny (even if wrongly aimed).

I would go on a huge rant about it but i dont think i could articulate it well so if someone who has the ability and energy could reblog with why commenter is right and op is wrong thatd be splendid (i have the thoughts just cant write em well)

Note: i dont agree with the second comment, this is about the first. Saying the future has zero gender is an odd take, but the first part of commenters take was good and agreeable imo.

[penumbralwoods]

lays down and stares at the ceiling. really wish it was as easy for me to ignore casual exorsexism as it seems to be for so many of you

[dalniente]

It's really bizarre watching people I've followed for years start to go down what looks like a weird...idk, cryptotransphobic rabbit hole? I think if a post appears to be cautioning against an overarchingly reasonable concern but includes shit to the effect of "ummmm don't take this in bad faith but also it's going to be mostly the transmascs who paint the rest of us as groomers, so like, just be careful about organizing with them," that's a little bit of an odd thing to say, let alone reblog. That is fake psyop levels of community-splitting weird, and somehow I've seen this post on my dash more than once now.

Saying "please don't take this out of context or in bad faith, disclaimer disclaimer (you're not allowed to be upset with my very good words uwu), anybody can be shitty about detransitioning and I'm not saying Be Paranoid Of The Tee Em Ees, but maybe just be careful, like the same way you'd be careful of letting someone you don't know drive you home after a first date :3" doesn't change the fact that you're singling out an oppressed group as Less Oppressed and therefore (?wtf) Categorically More Of A Threat and not to be trusted if they try to fight at your side. What the fuck are you doing?

Like, I am not saying this doesn't happen. But happening on the kind of scale that would warrant a warning about, again, AN ENTIRE CATEGORY OF TRANS PEOPLE as untrustworthy? Not worth organizing with or trusting? That is fucking weird. That is a fucking weird, transphobic thing to find yourself agreeing with. There is actually no good-faith way to take "don't trust this category of people if they are trying to organize with you."

[nonbinarynow]

I don't know how to explain to you that a term that mocks the most popular nonbinary pronoun, strips us down to an assigned sex, mocks that assigned sex and was created to disparage enben, is a slur. You do not use that term as a binary person, cisgender or transgender, unto a non-binary person ever. No matter their assigned sex (which should not be of relevance anyway!), no matter how angry they made you, no matter if it's a joking manner. It is a cruel and exorsexist word designed as a slur.

[ridibulous]

everyone's able to be affected by transmisogyny dipshit it came free with your fucking (inter)sexist and queerphobic society /ref

[sapphic-boy]

Genuinely if I say something transmisogynistic let me know but criticizing the fact that people treat TMA/TME as a static strict binary isn't transmisogynistic and neither is acknowledging that transmascs face a distinct form of oppression and should be allowed the language to discuss it.

[textk4kira]

A transmasculine person speaking about TME/TMA

Whenever a transmasculine person criticizes the use of the terms "TME/TMA", someone comes out of the woodwork to say:

"Of course, you criticize TME/TMA, you are transmisogyny-exempt! uwu"

It's almost like people who are negatively affected by something, might feel the need to speak on that thing.

Wow, who would have thought?

[noticemk]

Controversial Opinion Time: TMA and TME are the most useless fucking terms I've ever seen gain widespread use on this site. There is no need to keep splitting us into smaller and smaller boxes and fighting between them. We don't need to Oppression Olympics our way into 2 different trans communities that hate each other. We're all dealing with the same type of shit. Transfem people have it harder in some ways, transmasc people have it harder in others, but it's the same groups of people who want us dead, and every time you encourage divisions in our community you're giving the people who want us dead exactly what they want.

Signed, a transfeminine person.

[tauon07]

taking away "tme" and "tma" until you learn to stop turning sets of 2 words into the gender binary

[transgenderprototype]

Tumblr's new challenge should be ''stop fucking putting estrogenesis-eeveeagalion's intersexist ass on my dashboard already."