#toxic tips

[kingess]

How to love bomb a male

Tangible steps to manipulate men by love bombing them

Love bombing a male is nowhere near as simple as it is a girl, as women often desire an established partnership and oftentimes a family from way earlier ages than men. Men don't come with social expiration dates nor have societal pressure for love, so love bombing them requires deep drilling into their unhealed desires and actual passions. Do understand that mens first and primary goal with you will always be sex. That's the first thing in their mind even if they do want something more as well. Don't let this discourage you to manipulate them past it & override it.

Listen to his life goals and derive knowledge about what need he's trying to fill with that goal or what wound he's trying to patch.

Your job is to be a dopamine rush, learn those things that make him light up with positive emotions and talk about them in different forms.

Make him visualize those things that light him up by telling stories of what you two could do. Does he want to build a house? Talk about tasks you both could do. Does he want to travel Europe? Make up specific imageries of places you two could go to or even talk about yourself as an individual in this fantasy he's just sneakily placed into. Once you plant these images they're like short films he watched and affect him accordingly. Those imageries will activate in his brain when he faces triggers of his dreams & you're right on his mind.

Make him feel special by remembering his favorites and giving him compliments based on his insecurities. If he's been made feel stupid, compliment his intellect, if he feels less accomplished than others make sure to make him feel extraordinarily talented and adept. This will make him feel like you see and know him like no one else does, "the real him", even though it's just his delusional ego stroked through his coping mechanisms.

Try to be genuine with compliments. Identify qualities that are important to him & use them. And never forget to discard him and take it all away from him just when he's started to trust your love.

And hey, Happy hunting babes

[theambitiouswoman]

Types of relationships that look like love but are not:

Infatuation: This is an intense emotional or sexual attraction to someone that can give the illusion of love. However, infatuation is often based on idealized perceptions rather than a deep emotional connection.

Codependency: Codependent relationships involve one person excessively relying on another for emotional or physical needs. This dependency can mimic love, but it is rooted in the need for validation, control, or a sense of purpose.

Unrequited love: This refers to a situation where one person has romantic feelings for another, but those feelings are not reciprocated. It may involve one-sided affection, longing, or an obsession with someone who does not feel the same way.

Limerence: Limerence is an intense and obsessive form of attraction characterized by intrusive thoughts, longing for reciprocation, and an idealized image of the other person. It can feel like love, but it often lacks a genuine emotional connection.

Conditional love: In relationships based on conditional love, affection and care are only given when certain conditions or expectations are met. This type of relationship lacks unconditional acceptance and can be manipulative or controlling.

Trauma bond: A trauma bond forms when two individuals share intense emotional experiences, often negative or abusive. Despite the harmful dynamics, there may be a strong attachment due to the shared trauma, leading to a mistaken perception of love.

Transactional relationships: These relationships are based on mutual benefit or convenience rather than genuine emotional connection. Partners may stay together for financial security, social status, or other practical reasons, rather than genuine love and affection.

Manipulative relationships: Manipulative relationships involve one person exerting control and power over the other through emotional manipulation, coercion, or gaslighting. The manipulator may feign love and affection to gain control or exploit their partner's vulnerabilities.

Fantasy relationships: In fantasy relationships, one or both partners create an idealized version of the other person, often based on unrealistic expectations or fantasies. The relationship may lack a true emotional connection, as it is based on the person's fantasy rather than the reality of who their partner is.

One-sided relationships: These relationships are characterized by an imbalance of effort, care, or emotional investment. One person may consistently give more while the other takes without reciprocation. It can create an illusion of love, but it lacks equality and mutual respect.

Love addiction: Love addiction refers to a compulsive or obsessive pattern of seeking out relationships and being dependent on the euphoric feeling of being in love. It can lead to a cycle of unhealthy relationships, as the person seeks constant validation and excitement without addressing underlying emotional issues.

[reality-detective]

I use coconut oil 🤔

[coven-of-genesis]

Essential oils toxic to cats

Cats are particularly sensitive to essential oils, and even small amounts can be toxic to them.

Here is a list of essential oils that are generally considered toxic to cats:

Tea Tree Oil (Melaleuca oil)

Pennyroyal Oil

Wintergreen Oil

Pine Oil

Clove Oil

Eucalyptus Oil

Citrus Oil (Lemon, Orange, Grapefruit)

Cinnamon Oil

Thyme Oil

Peppermint Oil

Oregano Oil

Ylang Ylang Oil

Bergamot Oil

Sweet Birch Oil

Garlic Oil

Garlic Extract

Onion Oil

Onion Extract

Nutmeg Oil

Chamomile Oil

Anise Oil

Juniper Oil

Mustard Oil

Citronella Oil

Pine Needle Oil

Bay Leaf Oil

Cassia Oil

Cajeput Oil

Lemon Grass Oil

Geranium Oil

Remember, this list is not exhaustive, and there may be other essential oils that could be harmful to cats. It's crucial to keep these oils and any other potentially toxic substances out of reach of your feline companions.

If you suspect your cat has been exposed to an essential oil or is displaying any unusual symptoms, it's important to contact a veterinarian immediately.

[harshstudymotiv]

Remember your goals. Remember why you're working hard, remember why you try.

[study-core-101]

Friendly Reminder

that you dont need to study everyday to be "productive" or "studyblr". You are allowed to have entire days for yourself. Not more toxic productivity aka driving yourself to burn-out

[mrsdulac]

Shouting GET AWAY FROM HER and idek which one I’m talking to

[radarchives]

[liesmyth]

do you have any advice for people looking to get into running but are extremely out of shape and overweight? like best ways you think to start slow without hurting yourself and build on it

Hi! Every time I get an ask from someone wanting to get into running it makes my day 100x better thank you sooo much for asking ❤️

I don't know what your definition of "extremely out of shape" is, but if you currently can't handle running for an extended period of time, work your way up with long walks, or walk + run intervals, until you can handle 30+ mins of continuous exercise. GET RUNNING SHOES FOR THAT ALSO. Your body will thank you.

My general beginner running tips post applies + I really recommend paying extra attention to joint care. Running is an extremely high-impact activity — you're slamming your entire weight on the ground 100+ times a minute, and the greater your weight the bigger the strain. I can't stress enough the importance of keeping your runs shorts at first and listening to your body (15 mins 3/4 x week is already a lot!) but generally, strengthening your lower body goes a long way towards healthy knee joints.

Strength: I've already recommended Jay Johnson's Strenght & Mobility routine, but if you're feeling fancy I'd also suggest working your way up to weighted squats, lunges, and romanian deadlifts (2-3 sets, 6-8 reps, using whatever you've got around the house that can serve as a weight). As I said in the og post, I can't recommend enough looking into core activation, which will help a lot if you have breasts that bounce when you run. Big boobs back pain is real.

Chafing prevention: this can be a bitch, unfortunately. Jiggly bits (inner thighs, skin folds, breasts) can chafe a lot, and if possible get leggings / shorts / bras with as few seams as possible and anti-glide gel — if you have declathon in your country, their anti-chafe cream is good and pretty cheap. If you have never heard of declathon, you're probably in the US and I know there are good brands over there also. (This part is unfortunately born out of anecdotal evidence, i.e. my dad, who went on a 10km jog and then couldn't walk for like a week. Chafing is the crotch killer)

Stretching! I'm a hypocrite and don't stretch nearly as much as I should, but don't be like me. Some stretching tips from sports physiologist / very Fast Guy Pete Pfitzinger under the cut.

Again I'm very flattered you asked me!! GOOD LUCK lmk how it goes <3

[this-is-me19]

Toxic positivity

Phrases you tell yourself or others say to you.

Phrases you can counter those thoughts.

[bottlehawk]

rose lalonde as a mom would be a dad. no i am not going to elaborate

[kingess]

Dark mother how do you manipulate a male that's got a dismissive avoidant attachment style?

Boars with avoidant attachment

The truth is, you want to stay away from them. Romantically, platonically and physically. The only way to get anything out of them is beating them on their own game; which is tedious. It's not worth the work imo and if you've accidentally slipped into it already, chances are, you have emotions invested. My condolences, please run.

In order to get anything out of them you'd have to:

Act colder than anyone you know.

Demean him in every way possible.

Disrespect him from the bottom of your heart.

Keep talking to him even though you despise him and only talk about yourself and your own problems even though he'll withdraw when he senses criticism.

Understand that he WILL deem you as "less capable of a human being" because you "don't suffocate your emotions".

This, however, is the sole reason why he'd be interested because he wants to feel useful, important and superior without putting in emotional effort.

He's used to feeling responsible for everyones emotional states since childhood, hates it, and seeks it.

DO NOT TRY TO COMMUNICATE ABOUT EMOTIONS BETWEEN YOU TWO.

Think Wednesday Addams writing a diary but it's you chatting with him.

An unhealed dismissive avoidant male is the worst kind of a situation you can get entangled with, as well as the easiest if you struggle with abandonment wounding. Stay mindful and safe. It's also easy because they don't require much from you, so you have your own peace to work in the loneliness.

Disclaimer: This post is a reference to dark dating not love advice & isn't recommended for real usage without a rightful dire need.

[theambitiouswoman]

Attachment Styles in Relationships

Attachment styles are the ways people feel and act in relationships, based on their early experiences with parent or guardian. There are four main types:

Secure Attachment:

Healthy: Feeling comfortable with your partner and being able to share your feelings and needs openly. Trusting them and supporting each other without feeling overly worried about the relationship.

Unhealthy: Becoming overly dependent on your partner, feeling anxious or upset if they spend time away, or constantly seeking reassurance and validation.

Anxious Attachment:

Healthy: Expressing your emotions and needs to your partner, and valuing emotional closeness. Feeling secure when your partner reassures you and staying connected during difficult times.

Unhealthy: Constantly worrying about your partner leaving you, feeling jealous and possessive, or becoming too clingy and demanding in the relationship.

Avoidant Attachment:

Healthy: Valuing your independence and personal space while still being supportive and caring toward your partner. Understanding your emotions and expressing them in a balanced way.

Unhealthy: Pushing your partner away emotionally, avoiding discussions about feelings or conflicts, or being emotionally distant and unavailable.

Disorganized Attachment:

Healthy: Recognizing and addressing past traumas, working on building trust and emotional stability.

Unhealthy: Reacting impulsively or unpredictably in relationships due to unresolved traumas, struggling with forming and maintaining deep emotional connections, or experiencing extreme emotional highs and lows.

[reality-detective]

Aspartame is toxic for your health. 🤔

[coven-of-genesis]

Essential oils toxic to dogs

Dogs can also be sensitive to certain essential oils, and exposure to toxic oils can cause various adverse effects. Here is a list of essential oils that are generally considered toxic to dogs:

Tea Tree Oil (Melaleuca oil)

Pennyroyal Oil

Wintergreen Oil

Pine Oil

Clove Oil

Eucalyptus Oil

Citrus Oil (Lemon, Orange, Grapefruit)

Cinnamon Oil

Thyme Oil

Peppermint Oil

Oregano Oil

Ylang Ylang Oil

Bergamot Oil

Sweet Birch Oil

Garlic Oil

Garlic Extract

Onion Oil

Onion Extract

Nutmeg Oil

Anise Oil

Juniper Oil

Mustard Oil

Citronella Oil

Pine Needle Oil

Bay Leaf Oil

Cassia Oil

Cajeput Oil

Lemon Grass Oil

Geranium Oil

Just like with cats, this list is not exhaustive, and there may be other essential oils that could be harmful to dogs. It's important to exercise caution and keep these oils and any other potentially toxic substances out of your dog's reach.

If your dog has been exposed to an essential oil or is exhibiting any concerning symptoms, it's recommended to contact your veterinarian for guidance and assistance.

[harshstudymotiv]

Reminder that your grades don't care that you're tired. Your grades don't care that you would rather be slacking off. Your grades don't care that you're feeling lazy.