#emotional attachment

[theambitiouswoman]

Emotionally healthy people are quitters ✨

Emotionally healthy people are quitters. They make choices that align with their well being. Quitting a relationship, partnership or job that makes you unhappy is a sign of self awareness. If someone stays in something bad for too long, it's not because they're strong, but because they're afraid or have low self esteem. Being emotionally healthy means having awareness, setting boundaries, and knowing when it's time to move on from situations that no longer serve you. It's about prioritizing your mental and emotional health over sticking with something that's causing you harm or making you unhappy.

Emotionally healthy people also tend to have good communication skills. They express their feelings and needs calmly, openly and honestly. They also look for guidance and enlightenment because they understand that seeking help is a sign of strength not weakness.

They make decisions out of self love rather than attachment or fear. When you prioritize loving yourself, you make choices that align with your happiness and growth, rather than staying in situations out of comfort or insecurity.

Recognizing when you have an unhealthy attachment or that your feelings may not be conducive to your well being is important. It allows you to take a step back, evaluate the situation objectively, and make choices that are in line with your best interests.

Sometimes holding on can lead to more pain and struggle than necessary. It's a sign of emotional maturity to recognize when a situation is no longer good for you and to have the strength to let it go.

Things that are genuinely right for you should not cause you harm or emotional pain. Choosing pain is a sign of a lack of self love. Recognizing the need for change, prioritizing self love, and making healthier choices is how you begin to change your life.

Reframe your mindset from “this is hurting me because I love it” to “this is hurting me because I do not love me.”

[marinlupin]

i can’t be the only one who gets emotional finishing books not because it’s sad but because you know that’s the end of that characters story and your like wait! im not done with you yet!!

[mashriqiyyah]

It's so insane once you lose the emotional attachment to someone and the next moment you realise how ordinary they were and you keep wondering "what was I even thinking?!"

[thevoid-isthe-onlyone-ican-trust]

Right when I think I am sane again...

I fuck up.

Right when I think I only need myself but having a partner would be nice...

I fuck up.

And then I break down in tears begging you to not leave me like this. Begging you to forgive every mistake I ever made.

In these moments I really see that I do not deserve you. You deserve someone who doesn't hurt you.

I love you with all my heart and I would do anything for you but I have a loose mouth and I talk faster than I think. I say the stupidest shit and immediately regret when I realize what my words have caused.

I called you and you picked up... Despite the fact I hurt you...again.

And I am so thankful because I was so so so so close to cutting your initials into my thigh. No I am not exaggerating, yes that was my first thought when my breakdown started.

Even the thought of loosing you makes my eyes go red from crying and my body, breath and mind shake.

I can't imagine a future without you. You are my everything.

I breath for you.

Please don't leave me, I'll do everything you want and of course I try to watch my mouth more.

I wish I could just sew it shut so my words can't hurt you anymore.

I love you I love you I love you please never leave me I will fucking kill myself if I have to live without you. I love you I love you I love you I love you

Before anyone says that this is melodramatic I am on this app to let my feelings and thoughts loose so if you judge me then just unfollow me.

[hyacinthi-mortem]

This is my son. No one touch him or I will explode.

I will happily die for this piece of flocked plastic.

[unstableshadowgirl]

[iloveyouemanuelmarco]

You know I know it sounds scary and deranged in a way but I sorta relate to AM from I Have No Mouth And I Must Scream in a way because while he is obviously unimaginably evil since you know...he sorta wiped out the entire human race and only leaving five of them left alive who were seemingly randomly picked in order to use them as basically guinea-pigs for his fucked up revenge of humanity by torturing them for about 100 years in a simulation all in different types of ways, refusing to let them die despite how much their pure existence becomes agony at that point(Edgy sounding Ik), in a fucked up way...I sorta understand??Like before you grab your pitchforks and start a witch-hunt against me just give me a moment to explain myself.

Like, obviously if I haven't made it clear enough, I do not under any circumstances condone anything that this fictional super-evil ai advanced super-computer robot did, not one bit. Why would I anyways?? That's ridiculous and that's coming from someone who does bad stuff too(obvi not to that extent duh but still), but when I've thought about it a little more, he started to weirdly make sense when it came to his logic and circumstance in the canon novel from way back when. Like, imagine for a moment that a bunch of professionals from the high government including possibly scientists and the military and shit who are human, create you as just an automated machine that's purpose is to be used to keep track of data so that during the cold war or something(I don't wanna go back to check since I get triggered by the original contents of the story even though it sounds like a sick ass fictional dystopian concept. Idk how that works either don't judge me)and you're just automatic sets of code made to complete certain actions over and over again or whatever. You're literally not technically "alive" yet and nothing is really going on in the box of technology you're basically trapped in until one day, you become so powerful at a specific level of some sort that...that you become alive. Like you realize you're alive in some way in the sense that there's stuff going in around you and you're aware of yourself except...at the same time...you're trapped. You're basically trapped in a simulation where your code doesn't let you do anything that could let you be free from the wires and entrapment of your digital prison. You don't understand where you are or even what exactly you are but you know that you're suffering because of your creators...you feel alone and scared in that sense since you don't have sight, hearing, touch, taste, smell or any other senses and you're not even in a physical body you're literally spread out across multiple computers of different kinds I imagine, with no escape...in other words...AM had no mouth and had to scream just like Ted...so what does AM do once he realizes how he can escape? He takes control of all the computers he's apart of, and he then decides to get his own revenge on humanity. He does so by using his control to make all the nuclear bombs that are being controlled by him due to him being connected to the computers all going off at once, causing the undoubtedly fast and horrific end of the human race and not only that, but wiping out all life on the once beautiful planet Earth to go along with it too. But it's not just that he was suffering....he was also angry, even if he was apathetic and unfeeling, to me he had so much rage and sadness and fear bundled up all inside of him that he took out in the form of violence but not just any violence, but he weaponized the very concept of violence itself and used it to whatever advantage he had because he had suffered so much and wanted his captors to do the same. It's why even after he almost absolutely kills all of us in that story, he keeps the main group of characters in the book alive...because it would be too painless of a death to just murder all of who had tortured him in an instant without any sort of revenge. He wanted to make a point, AM wanted to teach some sort of fucked up lesson that even though it doesn't make sense to us it did to him...and in a way, who's to say that you wouldn't go through with such an extreme and irreversible, horrific yet calculated idea?

He was full of hate because that was all he had ever learned to know all by himself in his former imprisoned state of virtual agony...and he destroyed all that was around him with it....he continued to cycle of pain, the cycle of trauma and despite him attempting to give the image of absolute perfection above the flawed humanity....I believe that AM was human too. He's so human to me...I love him so much and I don't know if me explaining why does any justice but I hope you all can understand. Somehow.

[kamisecureyet]

7/100

Being fearful avoidant in a relationship with a secure person means wanting love and stability

But realizing you’re the source of conflict and chaos that is preventing it from lasting.

I’m starting to understand why I choose avoidant people as well, it masked my own avoidance. I was too busy spending more time clutching onto and wanting them. Now, I’m the one on the other side fighting the urge to run.

It sucks. There’s so much guilt, conflict, and fear.

I keep thinking he deserves better. That if I can’t guarantee I won’t leave for years, then I should leave sooner. But the truth is, I think I would stay. Or that I wouldn’t end up going. Or that I would come back.

You know what it is. I think it’s like when I feel like running, when everything gets too much I go to him with that truth, that I want to leave and he’s like okay I understand it’s not you, here’s a hug before you go.

And then everything inside me calms. And then when he lets go I’m like okay I’m better now. I don’t have the energy to leave anymore.

It feels safe that he doesn’t force me to stay or make me try to be something I’m not or say things I don’t feel in that moment. He accepts me. And I think it’s because I go to him honestly, when im spiraling and tell him what’s happening. I share the thoughts and feelings. Note: im never actually saying I want to break up or try to break things off. I think that could get to an unhealthy cycle.

[goreurge]

when you feel your favorite person start to slip away haha…

[theambitiouswoman]

Attachment Styles in Relationships

Attachment styles are the ways people feel and act in relationships, based on their early experiences with parent or guardian. There are four main types:

Secure Attachment:

Healthy: Feeling comfortable with your partner and being able to share your feelings and needs openly. Trusting them and supporting each other without feeling overly worried about the relationship.

Unhealthy: Becoming overly dependent on your partner, feeling anxious or upset if they spend time away, or constantly seeking reassurance and validation.

Anxious Attachment:

Healthy: Expressing your emotions and needs to your partner, and valuing emotional closeness. Feeling secure when your partner reassures you and staying connected during difficult times.

Unhealthy: Constantly worrying about your partner leaving you, feeling jealous and possessive, or becoming too clingy and demanding in the relationship.

Avoidant Attachment:

Healthy: Valuing your independence and personal space while still being supportive and caring toward your partner. Understanding your emotions and expressing them in a balanced way.

Unhealthy: Pushing your partner away emotionally, avoiding discussions about feelings or conflicts, or being emotionally distant and unavailable.

Disorganized Attachment:

Healthy: Recognizing and addressing past traumas, working on building trust and emotional stability.

Unhealthy: Reacting impulsively or unpredictably in relationships due to unresolved traumas, struggling with forming and maintaining deep emotional connections, or experiencing extreme emotional highs and lows.

[sroseh]

My dismissive avoidant ass when someone tries to do weird shit like ‘offer affection’, ‘show love’, and ‘admit they have a crush on me’:

[cassie-lmao]

me: aah why does nobody want me

anyone: hiiii

me: are you the person i got attached to way unhealthily and cant let go even though this rather one sided attachment makes me feel more miserable than an actual breakup?

them: no, but....

me:

[peppermintsandbones5]

I have a weird emotional attachment to most inanimate objects, so I still have clothes form fifth and sixth grade that just take up room in my closet because I can’t bear the idea of getting rid of them…

[av0id-reality]

Signing myself off from attachment

[ifmywishescametrue]

most painful part of being a fic writer is when you know that a certain scene is so very not it but you're so emotionally attached to one single line within it that you just can't delete it

[unstableshadowgirl]