#acespec rights!!!

[notbrucewayne48]

"aphobia doesn't exist"

bitch literally not that long ago an aroace youtuber animator was insulted by almost half of its community for being it

[a-rabbit-obsessed-queer]

Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

[anxious-rainbow-creature]

so when the allos say that they are marrying their best friend thats all fine and dandy but when the aroaces say they are marrying their best friend somehow THATS a problem

[codthefishgod]

To all the people who think aspec people aren't LGBTQIA+ because we aren't "discriminated against enough", here's a lovely list of reasons why you need to educate yourself:

- We suffer from dehumanisation, people actively devaluing or even erasing our humanity because of our identities (The voidpunk community is heavily supported by aspec people because of this)

- We suffer from self hatred due to feeling as if and being told we are broken, that no one can be happy unless they're in a romantic/sexual relationship, because of allonormativity and amatonormativity that actively damages our mental health

- Amatonormativity shapes laws that put us at an active disadvantage, such as giving married people financial and legal benefits

- Aspec people have been victims of conversion therapy, correctional rape, a lower quality of life, and other effects of being a marginalised and oppressed group

- We suffer from our identities being pathologised and deal with medical stigma because of this, causing many of us to feel unwelcome in and even avoid health care settings

- We suffer from our identities being erased, which can range from people completely denying our existence and people equating it to celibacy, to an almost complete absence of aspec representation in the media (It's been getting better lately, especially for alloaces and aroaces, but I have yet to ever see a canon aroallo character, and representation for those on the spectrum rather than in the extremes is often ignored)

- YOU are creating a hateful, exclusionary space in a community meant to be about inclusion. The same thing that happens to us happens to bisexual people, to polyamorous people, and other identities that are "disputed." In a community meant to be about rejecting the norm, YOU are shoving us out because we don't fit the norm of being LGBTQIA+. Because we're not enough like you.

These are only a few examples of aphobia that people like me deal with. Discrimination and oppression against aspec people stretches far beyond this.

But even if it didn't, it is disrespectful and harmful to everyone involved to gatekeep membership in the community based on oppression and discrimination.

We aren't LGBTQIA+ because we experience oppression. We are LGBTQIA+ because our existence alone goes against heteronormativity and other societal norms forced upon us.

[theexhaustedqueer]

allos will see two people standing next to each other and insist that they must be fucking

[crystalsandbubbletea]

Aromantics are valid.

Asexuals are valid.

Aroaces are valid.

The world doesn't revolve around relationships, grow the fuck up.

If someone is happy single, then they are fucking happy. No, they aren't "wrong in the head", they are valid.

If you don't agree, stay the hell away from me.

There is a '+' in LGBTQ+ for a reason.

The 'A' is NOT for 'Ally', it is for Aromantic, Asexual, and/or AroAce.

People on the Aromantic spectrum and Asexual spectrum are LGBTQ+.

[reggieslocket]

idk if this is because i'm aroace but it baffles me that dating apps exist like who tf came up with this idea?? i mean i go out with a total stranger with the specific purpose of starting a romantic relationship with them?? what the fuck is that? where's the friendship part? where's the part where we've know eachother for most of our lives? like some people really go "oh hey nice shirt, i know nothing about you but i definitely wanna date you" nah i don't believe it

[starchild--27]

my mom: you know, i won't mind who you'll end up with, boy or girl or anything else. <3

me: yeah, i know you won't mind. <3

my mom: except for when you'll end with no one at all. <3

my recently as aspec-identifying ass: ... ._.

[ryvdraws]

pspsps cmere paulkins girlies pspspspsps

[deadbeatdadjokes]

brought to you by all the things people have literally said to me in 100% earnest

[redysetdare]

"This fandom is so queer friendly!" This fandom literally hates, bisexual, trans, nonbinary, and aspec people but ok.

[icequeenabby]

The #asexual tag is getting overwhelmed by bots, and we need your help

For whatever reason, this was the tag the supplement and NSFW bots decided they wanted to attack today, so if you have the bandwidth, please help us by doing one of these things:

Post and reblog actual ace content! Saw a funny garlic bread meme? Found cool merch? Have a favorite informational or support comic? Want to spam the ace/aroace/aro flags? Do it, anything is better than bots!

Report and block! I'll be honest I have no idea what the backend process is for reporting, but if nothing else blocking keeps it off your own dash.

That's it! Thanks for your support, and happy hunting!

[gzldragon10]

Hello. I'm here to remind y'all that aro-ace rights are still a problem. Bigger than you think.

Let's say someone's gay and they come out. What do they hear?

You're just confused/it's a phase/you just want attention/it's a sin

Now, what's the difference with aspec people? We are told all of that AND that it's a mental illness. And I'm beeing serious!

Everyone knows about the existence of gay people and homophobes just see it as sinful/bad/unnatural, but for aspec? It's treated like some emotional problems, you are told you are some sort of heartless asocial person who cannot understand basic emotion! And some therapists WILL treat it like a mental illness

[ms-paints-sometimes]

IT'S INTERNATIONAL ASEXUALITY DAY MOTHERFUCKERS!!!

you may celebrate by paypaling 20$ to the closest ace person

alternatively, we will accept cake and/or garlic bread as payment :)

(image by @/throwawaysoiwontgeteatenbyjamie)

[codthefishgod]

Am I the only person who hates telling other people about my sexuality irl? I'm proud of being aroace and all, it just gets tiring to explain it every single fucking time.

I mean, I can just say I'm not straight or I'm queer, but then people immediately default to thinking I'm gay if I say that.

It usually goes like this:

Stranger: "Are you straight?"

Me: "Oh, no."

Stranger: "Oh, so you're gay."

Me: "...Nope. Try again."

Stranger: "Bisexual?"

Me: "Nope!"

Stranger: "Can you give me a hint?"

Me: *long sigh* "I can, but I don't think you'll like the answer"

Now cue the explaining it for ten minutes and gods forbid they're aphobic (which, unfortunately, a large percentage of the people I've told are) because that's just a whole other fucking rabbit hole

[aroacearchangel]

i’m going to say something that might be controversial and i’m sorry if this is cringe or whatever but i can’t sleep:

dan and phil are like. the perfect example of my ideal qpr. have they kissed. maybe. irrelevant. did they form an almost instantaneous soul binding connection within days of meeting in person. yes . are they literally soulmates, as proclaimed by mr howell himself. also yes.

did they design a house to live in together and still have separate closets. also yes . when they’re apart for even a few weeks they are soooooooo sad. i’m just. hooollyyy shitt.

in response to the age old question “are they dating or are they friends?”: does it actually change anything? they’re dan and phil :]