#am i ace?

[asexual]

How can I tell if I’m aceflux or just have a sex drive? Sometimes I’m really allo and have sexual attraction to strangers. Sometimes I’m really ace and don’t even have sexual attraction to my partners. Sometimes I’m something in between. Is it ok to call myself aceflux? Or is that wrong? And I know you said no discourse but is it discourse if I ask if aceflux counts as queer? I’m queer anyway cuz I’m pan and nonbinary. But don’t know if aceflux is queer too or if only “full” asexuals count.

So before I answer your actual question I wanna acknowledge your no discourse comment — ALL asexual or aromantic spectrum identities are 100% queer by default. When I say no discourse, what I mean is I don’t want anyone coming in to my inbox with Aphobia or trying to argue with me over whether or not a certain orientation is queer enough or not. Like, I’m here to validate aspec people’s queerness, but I’m not here to argue about it with exclusionists. So to answer that…yes, aceflux is queer and if you do feel you might be aceflux, that’s just as queer as you being pan and nb is!

To answer your actual question, I’ll get right to the point of saying there’s nothing wrong whatsoever with identifying as aceflux if you even SOMEWHAT possibly relate to the label. Even if you end up being “wrong” and it’s “just your sex drive” — you haven’t, like, harmed or appropriated actual ace-specs, you know?

but I would say you sound like you could hypothetically be aceflux. While “sometimes fully allo” and “sometimes fully ace” absolutely counts as aceflux, a lot of aceflux ppl will flux ALL around the spectrum — having allo days, ace days, demi days, lith days, gray days, cupio days, aego days, so many things I am forgetting! Is that also a thing for you? I would definitely do some internal searching to see if “fully ace” and “fully allo” are the only things you experience. If there’s more, you can almost definitely claim aceflux. Even if there’s not more, and you truly just switch between ace and allo, you still can call yourself aceflux of course, I just wanted to give more context!!

Differentiating between libido and attraction can be really difficult. Generally I’d say a libido is about IF you’re experiencing desire at all, and sexual attraction is about WHO you’re attracted to. So for example, someone who’s completely allo will, generally speaking, ALWAYS experience sexual attraction in SOME way. Even if they don’t actively want sex at the moment. I’m not saying allos are horny 24/7 or anything, and Im not implying aces are never horny. But a general rule of thumb is that an allo person is always capable of feeling sexual *attraction* even if they don’t actively want it all the time. so based on what you told me you could likely fit the aceflux label if that’s what feels right to you. even if you’re still unsure — why not just try it out? :) Publicly or privately identify as aceflux for awhile, maybe get some pride merch or at least something in the aceflux flag colors. See if it feels right to you. And if it doesn’t feel right, is it because the label is wrong, or is it because you possibly have internalized aphobia? Which if you do — no shame, as we all deal with that in some way, sadly. But I would recommend trying on the label and seeing how you feel after publicly or even just privately identifying as such.

[fuck-i-like-too-much-stuff]

I think tumblr is trying to convince me that im acespec.

Not that i mind but its really not subtle lmao.

[arielthedaydreamer]

Can LGBT people just identify as "Questioning" permanently bc I am so dumb

[sillyspilly999]

I feel leik every1 else mai age finks about s3x way more den me :(

[lilbitosunny]

What's called when like

You aren't sure if you've ever felt romantic attraction- but you want to feel it.

But at the same time; finding a romantic partner isn't very high up in your prioties cause like I could just hold hands with a friend? And you don't have the desire to kiss anyone so like?

Why can't I just live with a close friend my whole life if they'll hold my hand and go to the movies and to dinner with me?

[chartreuxcatz]

*blinks*

Bro, idk what I am.

[miiilowo]

non-practicing slut. is this anythign

[plaguedoctorate]

idk man. i just think itd be really cool if sign language classes were mandatory throughout primary school. yeah because it would make communication with deaf kids and autistic/nonverbal kids much easier. and those kids would be accessible to the others so they could make friends and have healthy relationships. yeah. and kids would eat that shit up man. like their own little secret language? they love that.

[wrightandco]

the confetti for a not guilty verdict is actually the funniest fucking thing about ace attorney

it’s like they inherently know their system is fucked to the to the extent that they’ve got the celebration confetti at the ready when they don’t wrongfully incarcerate someone

edgeworth never lost a trial until he faced phoenix wright so the confetti goes off and he’s probably like what the fuck ppfthh pffth phhh that last bit is him spitting the confetti out of his mouth

[skyefeys]

happy investigations port announcement

[synapple]

I spent like three hours making this

[shitpostingkats]

We need less "shy, anxious, always second guessing" Apollo in fanworks, and approximately 400% more of whatever the hell this is.

[tamago-aki]

day 1 // pets!!

Alfred ... it's just abit of mud .... titus aint that stinky... :(

day 1 of damian week on twt!! (prompts below the cut)

I THINK I MIXED UP TITUS AND ACE ..... APOLOGIES LADS

[lilbitosunny]

What's called when like

You aren't sure if you've ever felt romantic attraction- but you want to feel it.

But at the same time; finding a romantic partner isn't very high up in your prioties cause like I could just hold hands with a friend? And you don't have the desire to kiss anyone so like?

Why can't I just live with a close friend my whole life if they'll hold my hand and go to the movies and to dinner with me?

[onlyasimp4-2dbitches]

"You aren't aromantic if you like cuddling! Cuddling is romantic!"

Straight people making up new definitions for Aromantic/Asexual cause they don't like the actual pre-existing definition.. Anyway whats new!

[rabbit-hearted-girl]

A boy who likes me gave me a birthday gift, but I don't like him in THAT way (I'm not even sure I am capable of feeling attraction to someone) but now I feel guilty cuz I accepted the gift even though I just see him as a friend (even though refusing the gift would be really fucking rude)