#asexual aromantic agender autistic

[pageofheartdj]

You reblog some society analysis stuff so I wonder if you have an idea on how someone being raised overly isolated would impact how they develop their social stances/ideology?

Like for me my parents let me play alone in a forest until we moved (8-14) and basically let me roam wherever IF there was low risk of interacting with anyone, along with being a pretty isolated family without interaction with grandparents/aunts/uncles/cousins/no family friends that I hung out with.

I'm aroace and never really struggled at all with identifying with that or havent ever felt pressured to be in a relationship. Would that be impacted by being raised without much societal pressure or just a personality quirk?

I'm also agender and I think I'm autistic, so idk xD

Hm, I think it's logical to assume the society shapes how we view ourselves, even the basic manners. We are sponges and know nothing and society rules is what makes us the way we are.

Our society is very heteronormative and allonormative. Seeing only one thing existing around us will make us think that our feelings are wrong, no one does this after all. So we are not supposed to feel these things, only the normal ones are supposed to be there.

I struggled with my orientation for a very long time. First I was forcing myself to do what everyone else does and get a boyfriend and all that. Thankfully I didn't go too far, nothing even started, so that's a relief. But since society never gave me this option that hey, you don't need to like someone and be with someone, I had to grab any feeling that reminded me the norm to justify 'I am normal I feel normal things'. And later I had to compromise. My self discovery was literally going from one side to another, leaving the acceptable parts as a proof that I am still normal. Being not 'normal' hurt.

"I don't like boys that much. Just like girls. I probably like both, so I am bi, that's okay, this still includes boys. - I think I don't like boys at all, so this means I like girls? This must be it, I still want a relationship, so I am still somewhat normal." And then I discovered asexuality and still gripped at demi with 'I might still want a relationship after I met someone I deeply bond with'. And then it didn't happen. And then I realised I don't actually want anything at all. I was weighting QPR, again the sense of 'normality' haunting me, but put it away. If it happens, it happens, no need to force myself.

(and then there are all the ND-PD things that I had to analyse in myself, to explain why I am not 'normal'. this also is not explored openly around us. we are given only the tight 'normal' limitations and no tools to deal with not 'normal' stuff. we are not even allowed to accept and explore it on our own, nope, it needs to be beaten out)

It's really upsetting how many people are never given any other option to even think about. All the things that make us 'different' from the norm. It's never there for us to consider, so we struggle. It's hard to figure it out, let alone accept it, when society is quite about it at best and shunnes at worst.

With no one breathing behind our backs it must be so much freeing to explore yourself. Yes, you might not be given tools how to deal with it. But you are not locking any part of youself away, immediately deeming it as wrong.

[second-stixs]

Uh, of course I have straight As!

-Agender

-Aromantic

-Asexual

-Autistic

-Anxious

-Asthmatic

[glitchedcosmos]

One thing about me and my mutuals is we will be on a spectrum autistic?, aromantic?, asexual?, gender?, you name it were on it you’ll find me on every goddam spectrum

[thatlavenderblue]

[shmaroace]

someone who's aromantic asexual agender aplatonic autistic call them AAAAA

[faerynova]

i know in my heart césar is some flavor of nonbinary but the thing is that CÉSAR doesnt know that and never will. if you presented césar with the concept of being agender he would say "huh! thats interesting!" and move on with his day without even considering applying the label to himself. hes too autistic to put that much thought into his own identity hes got better things to be doing

[the-irreverend]

To celebrate all the autistic queers of Tumblr, I made y'all some pride art as a way to celebrate your sexual and neurological identity.

P.S. If you're wondering why the infinity symbol is gold, it's because I read that it's also a symbol for autistic people (and it helps the pride colours stand out more)!

P.P.S. If there is a pride symbol/icon/colours that you'd like that isn't on here, feel free to send me an ask or a DM, and I'll have it ready for you!

[kitcat205]

I am ADHD, Autistic, Agender, Aromantic, and Asexual

That means… I’m…

AAAAA

[traumatiz3dhar3]

♣️💚🤍🖤♣️

aromantic people deserve to have their own spaces, have their own voices be heard, and be more than just a second thought or a footnote on the asexual community

♠️🖤🤍💜♠️

[aroaceconfessions]

Finds out I'm ace - never really cared about sex anyway.

Finds out im aro - never needed relationships either

Finds out I'm agender - that's probably why I've felt like a body all this time

Finds out I'm aplatonic - okay, how much deeper will my loneliness go?

Finds out I'm autistic - goddammit

Submitted April 29, 2023

[scalematey]

i think to simplify laios to "he just wants to fuck the monsters" is a misunderstanding of laios's character. laios wants to be the monsters. laios delights in monstrosity. laios doesn't understand humans and doesn't like them and finds solace in the monstrous. laios wants to understand and devour and analyse every part of monsterdom. to ingest something is to integrate it into a part of yourself. he also wants to fuck the monsters, as a consequence of this

[totallyveryallosexual]

Bought really pretty mushroom earrings today and it is the start of what my aesthetic will be when I move out of my parents house for university and cut off all my hair, buy a binder, and start living as androgynous as fucking possible

[greenteaandtattoos]

people with multiple "a"-related identities and other "a"-related traits be like

[loukas-allwer]

Meet the artist!

I've been planning this drawing for a long time ୧⁠(⁠＾⁠ ⁠〰⁠ ⁠＾⁠)⁠୨

[kayshurrr]

You know, one of the reasons it took me so long to figure out I was aromantic was because the depth and intensity of the platonic feelings I had for the select few people in my life always read, especially to other people, as being on the same level as romantic feelings. But really, I just care deeply about my friends and there are certain people that I just feel a strong pull towards in regards to wanting to be their friend. My past relationships would talk about the types of feelings they had for me and it always felt like "yes, I feel that too, but in a different way". I didn't know how to describe it or why I felt so much repulsion when people would romantically tell me they loved me while I was filled with such joy and comfort when my friends would tell me they loved me.

I'm incredibly introverted, I do not want or need to have loads of friends. But instead of people accepting that having a few, intimate friends was valid, I was told that I just hadn't met "the one", or that I was possibly polyamorous, or, worse yet, I was somehow broken.

I still struggle a lot with that imposter feeling, like I'm "not aro enough" but I am enough. I am not broken. There is nothing wrong with me. This label is as valid for me as it is to anyone else who is aro.

[ace-and-ranty]

Doing a Murderbot reread to prepare for the next book in November, and this bit in the first book:

"Though I think that even if I did have sex-related parts I would find them boring."

I loved what someone in here said, that for constructs, their gender divide seems to be "murderbot / sexbot". But I also love the implication that Murderbot isn't sex repulsed because it's a construct, it's sex repulsed because it's just asexual.