#cluster b info

[thecatspasta]

Inspired by @arrgh-whatever's post on helping ppl with BPD

Edit bc I forgot to add this: Being vulnerable means smth different for different ppl, something that could read as being vulnerable to you can read as just another Tuesday for someone else

[ID: a simply-drawn comic, narrated by a person coloured-in in pink.

Panel 1: The pink person narrates: "So there's a lot of "signs your ex is a narcissist and how to deal with them" and it's not very accurate. So here's how to actually "deal" with a narcissist from someone with narcissistic personality disorder."

Panel 2: This panel has the heading: "1. Supply." The pink person narrates: "People with NPD have very fragile self-esteem, and supply is what keeps us from having a mental breakdown. Supply can be many things, but often attention and praise are effective. Stuff like "Wow! That's super cool!!" can go a long way." A person is shown saying this to another person, who smiles.

Panel 3: This panel has the heading: "2. Criticism." The pink person narrates: "Oh boy. So narcissists take things as personal very easily. It's because if anyone contradicts our delusions that we have built our entire self-image on, it feels like you are attacking us as a person." There is an example shown, where one person says "hey, you were a bit too rude back there," but the other person hears "You're an awful dick no-one likes." The alternative manner of phrasing is suggested as "Hey, you were a bit too rude. You're cool, but some people took it poorly." The second person in this example thinks "I'm still a cool person. It's not my fault, but I can do things to be better." The narrator continues, "We don't really understand the concept of a harmless mistake."

Panel 4: This panel has the heading: "3. Boundaries." The pink person narrates: "With narcissists, setting down strict boundaries is very important. 1. Knowing we have hurt you because you didn't set down boundaries can really upset and annoy us because the delusions that we can do no wrong and know you best get broken. 2. If you let us break boundaries, it can lead us to see you as "weak" and devalue you. Communication is key."

Panel 5: This panel has the heading: "4. Anger." The pink person narrates: "So people with NPD tend to be prone to anger. This is a defense mechanism, because to us, it's either facing the inaccuracies of our delusions and having a mental breakdown, or blaming something else. We do not mean to lash out; we just don't have the skills to cope properly. You can help by: 1. Letting us express out emotions without judgement; 2. giving us praise or attention; and 3. Distracting us from what angered us." Each example of how to help is accompanied by a small cartoon.

Panel 6: This panel has the heading: "5. Other NPD things!" The pink person narrates: "'Love bomb, devalue, discard' is actually: we are genuinely obsessed with you and want you to recognize us as cool, we lose that obsession and move on, we feel threatened in some way and lash out. We can't really handle being seen as vulnerable. We take sympathy and empathy as pity and pity as you telling us we're weak. Not acknowledging we're being vulnerable and acting as if nothing is wrong can be helpful in these situations. People with NPD have a very warped view of reality. We do not mean to hurt you and often do not realise we have. Remember, this won't work for everyone, and talking is very important."

/end ID]

Ty to @aromanticsky for the id

[narcpixiedreamboy]

I wish people who believe in narcissistic abuse and act like people with NPD are so evil were not even human understood that having NPD can absolutely motivate people to do good things.

I have NPD and I work in education. At the school I work at, we have a couple Ukrainian kids who don’t speak English. I have begun learning Ukrainian (or well, trying to, this is my first time trying to learn a language that uses a different alphabet than English so progress is slow), specifically because I want to be the one to make these kiddos feel welcome. I want to be the one teacher who has put in effort to learn their language, rather than just trying to teach them ours. That’s a good thing to do, but if I didn’t have NPD I probably wouldn’t bother to do that and would just use google translate (like all the rest of the teachers).

I, like other narcissists, find that most of my motivation comes from looking for another narc high, and for me, I am much more likely to get a narc high from doing something good and feeling good about myself because I did something good, than I ever would from making someone else feel bad about themself. Why would I spend my time going around hurting other people for no reason when I could put my effort into doing something actually cool and then everyone will think I’m awesome because I actually did something awesome?

I know I’m not the only narcissist like this, but sure, let’s keep spreading the rhetoric that narcissists only exist to hurt people.

[tombfreak]

ASPD and Remorse

Did you know that only 51% of people with ASPD lack remorse for their actions? That means nearly half of pwASPD experience a sort of remorse or empathy. Though lacking remorse is one of the criteria for diagnosing ASPD in the DSM-V, it is not a requirement for diagnosis (if you meet other criteria).

In a study, those with ASPD who do lack remorse showed a difference in the presentation of their symptoms. They presented more overtly, which means they are often more aggressive and confrontational, as well as more overt conduct disorder (CD) symptoms in childhood, compared to pwASPD who do experience remorse. PwASPD who lack remorse were also younger, and more often reported a familial history of drug abuse.

It is also important to note that lacking remorse did not have any notable differences between men and women, and was not associated with cruelty to animals. What they did find, however, is it the symptom is associated with more severe ASPD presentations.

So why is this important?

This is very important to help us understand and acknowledge how differently ASPD can present in people. I constantly see people only talk about lacking empathy/remorse when it comes to ASPD awareness or positivity, when in reality, only 51% of pwASPD qualify for that criteria. A lot of people with ASPD experience their own type of remorse and empathy. It doesn't make them less worthy of consideration or support, and we should acknowledge all of the other symptoms and issues regarding this condition rather than only empathy.

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[flashy-mf]

HPD BINGO (by me!)

[radiostaticsmile]

Safety and rapid attachment in BPD

People with BPD often form rapid and intense attachments to new people, and this can be especially intense when both people have BPD. These rapid attachments can be dangerous and painful, since you start to get very close to a person before seeing them in many situations and really knowing them. Most of the advice I have received as a person with BPD is to just avoid these kind of attachments. However, in my experience, that will just lead to me self-isolating, because I literally do not know how to make friends with a new person otherwise. I am sort of an all or nothing person, I can let myself talk about everything and be very familiar with someone or I can be entirely closed off and struggle to connect at all.  Additionally, attachment to a new person in this intense fashion causes feelings of euphoria, which I think people with BPD should be allowed to enjoy.

Our goal should not be to have relationships that look like everyone else’s, even if that were possible, which I really do not think that it is. Forcing yourself not to have these attachments can be harmful. However, like I said, these kind of attachments can be dangerous, especially for people who are emotionally volatile like people with BPD are. So instead we need to focus on how to have these kind of attachments safely. The following is advice on how to do this, based on my own experience as a person with BPD who as experienced the good, the bad, and the ugly as a result of rapid intense attachment.

Possible results of attachment

There are three possible results of a rapid attachment. Knowing what all three of them are, and most importantly accepting that they may happen, is important in both keeping yourself safe and treating the person you are attached to well. When you are intensely attached and it is going well, it can feel like you can trust that person with your life, and it is going to last forever. It is not. The intense attachment phase will end, and it is important to know that. It is really a sad news, because it honestly is the best feeling in the world. Something being temporary doesn’t mean you shouldn't enjoy it, however. So enjoy your feelings, lean into them as much as the person you are with consents to it, but accept the that it is not a permanent state. Accepting this can help prevent a BPD crash when it does start to fade in intensity, and it can help you keep an eye out for signs that it is going to end badly.

So what are these three ways it can end?

1. The relationship cools down, but remains good.

This is the ideal! Yippee, you have yourself a new friend. You may miss the intense feelings you had in the beginning, but they can and will come back sometimes, especially if your relationship is kinky and you do a scenario lol. But you are unlikely to have that constant obsession feeling long term, it will come and go or it may stop and you will have a more regular relationship. It is okay to feel less intensely about the person! It doesn’t mean you don’t like them anymore, it just means that intensity is difficult to maintain for a long time!

One important thing to remember about this is that the person you are attaching to may reach this phase before you do! You may have been constantly messaging in the beginning, and now they are replying less often and doing other things. This does not mean they do not like you any more! BPD makes us very sensitive to rejection, and someone reaching this phase before you can hurt! But I promise everything is okay, and this is what you want to eventually happen, because it is what allows you to be able to have a sustainable long term relationship. Do some coping mechanism things while your person is busy, play your favorite games, talk to other friends, color or draw, whatever helps you feel better when you are down. Do not try to make the person talk to you more than is comfortable for them! This is crossing their boundaries and will either scare them away or damage them mentally.

2. The relationship fizzles or ends because of an incompatibility.

When forming an intense attachment, you tend to think about the other person 24/7. You form an idea of them in your head that you really like, but since you do not actually know them that well this idea may not actually match the reality of what that person is like. Sometimes after a bit one or both of you will realize you aren’t actually as compatible as you thought! This is okay! This is normal to happen when getting to know a new person, and you are still getting to know a new person even if they feel very familiar quickly! If this happens, it is important to learn to let the relationship go. Realize they aren’t the person you imagined, and don’t try to force them to change to be that person, and don’t try to convince yourself you still like them if you don’t. It is okay to thank them for the good time and part ways! Often this will just kinda be a fizzling in conversation and both people message less until you just kinda stop. You may need to let the other person know that you do not want the relationship to continue though if they are still interested but you are not. Tell them firmly but politely you are no longer interested. This can be scary but it is important to assert your boundaries! If they try to argue and continue when you are no longer interested, block them. No one is entitled to your time or affection!

3. Abuse and mistreatment.

This is the worst case scenario, and unfortunately it is not uncommon. When you attach to someone quickly, you can often make yourself vulnerable to someone when you don’t know them well yet. Personally, I think it is okay to share personal things quickly, since I do not know how to connect to people otherwise and have a bad sense of what is appropriate to talk about when. Instead, it is important to look for signs that the person is using the things you tell them against you. If you tell them something personal and they then use that to trigger you on purpose or control your behavior, run immediately.

In addition to those who are purposefully using your vulnerability to take advantage of you, there are people who will abuse you on accident. In my experience this is actually a lot more common, so it is important to look out for the signs. If someone is not respecting your boundaries, acting entitled to your time and attention when you are not able or not wanting to give it, or trying to change who you are or modify your behavior, run. And by modify your behavior I do not mean boundary setting or them asking you to treat them differently; that is normal relationship negotiation. I mean if someone is trying to get you to change your sleeping or eating habits for them, control who else you talk to, push you to do something you are not comfortable with, or just trying to control what you do when it has nothing to do with them. People can raise concerns if they are worried about you, but they should not be trying to force you to do anything.

Sometimes people think they are doing these things ‘for your own good’. It is for no ones good to have their autonomy taken away, or to live in fear of upsetting or disappointing another person, or to have to live up to impossible standards. Some people will do this because they cannot let go of the idea they made of you in their head, and are trying to make you into the person they wanted you to be. This is why it is so important not to try to force that onto someone; not only is it not going to work and you will be disappointed, You will be abusing them. DO NOT DO THIS!!! Learn to let go if you need to or accept them for who they actually are. This is so so so deeply important.

It can be difficult to admit when someone you like is abusing or mistreating you. After all, you like them a lot and they made you feel so good. You think maybe you can teach them how to treat you well. You can’t. Even if you could, it will hurt you the whole time. It is not your job. If someone starts to disrespect your boundaries, you gotta go. If they mess up a couple times and apologize, that is okay, but if they keep doing it thats no good, even if they apologize, because they are showing you they are not putting in the effort to change the behavior and not hurt you. I know it hurts and its hard and they will probably be mad and that makes it scary. You still gotta do it as soon as possible, the longer you stay the harder it will be. Its okay to block them on everything. Its okay to leave without explanation (though its nice to give one). YOUR SAFETY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THEIR FEELINGS! 

Other things to keep in mind

Honestly just keeping those three ending possibilities in mind and accepting the reality is the number one thing you must do to keep yourself safe in a rapid attachment relationship, but there are a few other things to keep in mind.

1. Boundary setting.

As I mentioned above, your boundaries are important! Setting clear boundaries and expectations for what you want out of the relationship, and leaving if the other person cannot respect that, will keep you safe and happy. Often I have been in an intense attachment relationship where I wanted it to be romantically kinky but not romantic, and the other person interprets romance where I did not intend it. Once this happened the other way around where I thought the relationship was romantic and the other person did not intend that. By being very clear about what you want, what you are open to, and what you are not open to, you can prevent pain and misunderstanding for both of you. It may feel a bit weird to talk about if you are open to dating or not early in a relationship where neither of you may really be planning on it, but it can honestly be useful for both people to know. If you ask about this and the person gets weirded out you can link them this essay to explain, lol.

2. Be careful about doing things that are hard to undo.

Speaking of dating, people who attach quickly will often also start dating quickly. THIS IS A BAD IDEA!!! I will not stop you, you can make your own decisions, but it is a lot more difficult and painful to end a relationship with an official dynamic like dating than it is to just stop talking to someone you are getting to know and don’t have an official relationship of any kind with. I know you feel very intensely and you feel like you love them and you will love them forever, but you might not! And if you do turn out to be perfect for each other long term you have plenty of time! It is okay to be fun and flirty, its ok to be horny and lovey, but please both be clear that you are not intending that to be an official relationship (see above point) and WAIT TO DATE. 

(And don’t say that it is okay for them to tell their friends that you are their partner if you do not consider yourself so. I once told someone this because they said they just wanted an easier way to explain it to people, but then they took that and decided we were actually dating because of it, I didn’t know how to boundary set and say no, felt trapped and had to break up with a person I never intended to be dating. Do not confuse your terms!!)

I think that’s all. Please add on to this if I missed something you learned in your experience!!

[bpdcodone]

Guys I might have to k-k-k-k-DJ KILL MYSELF

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

What even is empathy? Everywhere i look its a different thing. Empathy is when feel other peoples emotions, empathy is when you know what other people are feeling, empathy is when you wanna help people, empathy is when good person, empathy is when you want to talk to other people. Im starting to think its a made up concept that everyone decided is this Big Important Thing for no reason

i feel like a lot of the confusion about the concept of empathy comes from the fact that most people don't know there's different kinds.

some peope think empathy is when you quite literally feel the emotions of the other person, and while they're not entirely wrong, that's not exactly the full picture. that type of empathy is called emotional or affective empathy. there's also cognitive empathy, that sort of "put yourself in other people's shoes" thing where you attempt to imagine yourself in someone else's situation to understand their perspective.

another thing people don't seem to know is you can have varying levels in different types of empathy. for example, we overall have average or even high cognitive empathy (if not for our obsessive/excessive need to overanalyze every situation) but low emotional empathy. we know people who are the opposite, and people who have neither at all. it's really more complicated than people let on and it leads to a lot of confusion and even demonization among people who don't experience empathy in the "traditional" way.

overall though, i don't think empathy has to be such a Big Thing tbh. your level of any type of empathy you have if any at all says nothing about how good of a person you are.

[the-npd-culture-is]

Maybe having npd culture is, making poetry and being mad when people don’t have the same exact reaction to the poetry as you did.

—pyre

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[schizocrow]

How I love the night, only moment where I can be finally by myself and stop pretending I care about people's personal lives and problems...

[hauntedselves]

feel free to ignore this but do you know what someone with bpd, hpd, and npd all at once may act like?

both BPD & HPD include mood swings & intense emotions

all need attention, and as it’s the main symptom of HPD & NPD someone with all 3 would be very very attention seeking, to the extent that it would be extremely detrimental to themselves and others

all have unstable goals, sense of identity, & mood swings (the latter not so much in NPD)

all struggle with impulsivity (mostly BPD)

relationships would be very difficult - NPD & HPD tend to use relationships as a source of validation & self-esteem, but NPD might not want relationships if they don't get that from them. HPD tend to see relationships as closer and more intimate than they are. BPD's fear of abandonment centres on relationships, which combined with HPD's seeing them as closer & NPD's need for admiration, would make relationships very volatile, intense, and probably short-lived

BPD & NPD have low self-esteem and all are hypersensitive to criticism

all struggle with anxiety

HPD & BPD fear abandonment (for different reasons)

suicide & suicidal ideation are common in all 3

someone with all 3 would be easily jealous (mostly BPD & NPD)

empathy can be weird in BPD & NPD, but not usually in HPD [generally low in NPD, high or fluctuating in BPD]

being very impressionable and naïve is common in HPD, and I could see it being part of BPD, but not in NPD

[narcpixiedreamboy]

I think a lot of people don’t realize how similarly NPD and anxiety (specifically social anxiety) can look and feel, and yet they are treated and judged entirely differently by society. For me, I blamed many of my narcissistic traits on social anxiety before learning the difference, and I’m not the only person who did so. Let me give an examples of why:

I am have extreme anxiety about doing presentations in front of any group of people. I hate class presentations to an extreme degree, and subsequently, was given accommodations for my social anxiety around them. The accommodation I would most commonly ask for was to do my presentation privately just to the teacher, and this was generally agreed to. If you’re looking at this from a social anxiety lens, you most likely are assuming that I just am scared of talking in front of big groups of people, or that I’m afraid my presentation is worse than other peoples and they’ll laugh at how bad mine is, and that’s why doing it to just the professor is helpful.

While this is, in part, true, it does not tell the full story. In reality, when doing a presentation in front of a group of classmates, I find myself anxious that my ideas will go over their heads and make me look stupid, when I don’t feel like I deserve to. When speaking in front of a big group of people, I can’t accurately assess if they are understanding what I’m saying, or if I need to slow down or speed up how I present new information, or how they think of me after the presentation. The anxiety comes from a fear of other people not being able to understand my ideas, and therefore wrongly assuming that I am less intelligent or informed on a topic than I am. I am intensely afraid of being seen as less than. This is also why I feel more comfortable doing the presentation to a professor; there’s only one person for me to try to judge the opinions of, and I have more confidence in their ability to understand my thinking because they are probably more well educated on the subject than my fellow classmates.

Internally, there’s a pretty big difference there, but the outcome is the same: anxiety. Both thought processes deserve equal amount of accommodation, because really, it doesn’t matter why I’m having a panic attack in front of the class, it just matters that I’m having a panic attack in front of the class and deserve to not have to go through that again. No one deserves to be forced into a traumatic situation like that, it never makes the problem better.

However, if I was to tell the disability resources office that I need that same accommodation, but because I have NPD, and explained my reasoning for disliking class presentations, there is a high probability that I would be denied it. It doesn’t matter that I am still experiencing severe anxiety, because NPD is so stigmatized that people think we should be forced to endure genuinely traumatic experiences just for existing.

This is one of the main reasons why I have declined getting a formal NPD diagnosis. The world has not yet learned to have empathy and compassion for people with NPD, and until they do, it is often safer to stay in hiding. If someone tells you they have NPD, try to treat it like you would if someone told you they have anxiety, or depression, or another more accepted mental illness. No one is a bad person just for having a disorder.

[tombfreak]

A Deep Dive Into Antisocial Mindsets

how does the mind of a person with aspd work?

First off, it's important to understand what ASPD is, so let's get a few things cleared up before we really dive into it.

Antisocial Personality Disorder is classified in the DSM-5 as a cluster B personality disorder, and in the ICD-11 as a "personality disorder with dissociality".

(Since I live in a country that typically uses the DSM-5 as a guideline and it has a set classification for ASPD, I will be referring mainly to that.)

It's described as "pattern of disregard for, and violation of, the rights of others", and characterized as a maladaptive* practice of antisocial* behaviours.

*Maladaptive: Behaviours that cause issues in someones ability to adapt normally to daily situations

*Antisocial: Behaviours that are antagonistic to social practices, rules, and/or expectations

A personality disorder is

characterized by deeply ingrained maladaptive patterns of behavior, thoughts, and emotions that deviate from the cultural norms and cause distress or impair functioning in various areas of life

The current criteria for diagnosing ASPD involves a reoccurring, ingrained pattern of three or more of the following (occurring from at least age 15):

failure to conform to social norms, as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest.

repeated lying, deceitfulness, conning others for personal pleasure or profit

impulsivity or failure to plan ahead

irritability and aggressiveness

reckless disregard for safety of self or others

consistent irresponsibility

lack of remorse, being indifferent to or rationalizing having mistreated another

To understand ASPD, we need to dig a little bit deeper than a set of symptoms. It is important to note also that antisocial traits and beliefs are not necessarily an indication of antisocial personality disorder.

"only when antisocial personality traits are inflexible, maladaptive, and persistent and cause significant functional impairment or subjective distress do they constitute antisocial personality disorder." - DSM5

Antisocial beliefs in ASPD are views about themselves, others, and the world that are heavily engrained into their thoughts, perceptions, and behaviours. Most importantly, these traits negatively impact the individuals life on a regular basis. They are dysfunctional and reoccuring. In the criteria for ASPD, these harmful behavioural issues must have been present in the individuals life from at least 15 years old.

Looking into what causes ASPD can help us further gain insight into the condition as well.

"child abuse or neglect, unstable or erratic parenting. or inconsistent parental discipline may increase the likelihood that conduct disorder will evolve into antisocial personality disorder." -DSM5

"...in the absence of a parent or other caring, involved adult, a child cannot internalize his parent's values, a necessary factor in the development of morality."

"in homes where no adult takes an interest in or expresses love to a child, the conscience does not develop and the individual fails to be socialized in this very critical way. It seems likely that this is at least one possible cause of antisocial personality. Another possibility is that highly inconsistent discipline and attention, even from the same person, prevents the child from forming normal values."

"This form of child rearing allows the child to grow up without a clear understanding of what is right and what is wrong. Behaviorists believe that individuals learn their behavior by testing behaviors to see which is successful. Studies have shown that people with antisocial personality disorder frequently have fathers with the same disorder, and the child often observes and mimics the father's behavior." - Drug Therapy & Personality Disorders

A very important factor in early years of development is being taught about the "social contract". Like any other animal, children learn by seeing, and doing. They are highly impressionable, coming into the world as a blank slate. Children look to their peers and primary caregivers for guidance on how to respond to situations, and how to view the world.

(It is believed that there is commonly a genetic component to ASPD, and the environment may either worsen the antisocial traits or teach the child how to cope/adapt in positive ways)

If a child develops in an unstable situation, they may internalize maladaptive behaviours as a way to adapt, or because they don't have any healthy guidance to challenge these beliefs and behaviours towards the world.

Studies show that people with ASPD are highly likely to have grown up in neglectful and/or physically abusive households. There is also a correlation with children growing up witnessing criminal activity and the development of ASPD.

This is a very important factor to consider when looking into the mindsets of somebody with dysfunctional antisocial traits.

If a child comes into the world with no clue how anything works, or what anything means, and the only information they're given about the world is harmful, they will uncritically learn and adapt to that information.

A key element of ASPD beliefs is self-preservation. This heavily connects to a history of neglect, as the child who had no stable caregiver will grow to not trust that others will be reliable. They may also grow to not know what a healthy, trusting, caring connection with others looks like.

Personality Disorders are often thought to be something of a defence mechanism. A maladaptive defence mechanism as a response to a stressful environment in childhood that remained unchallenged and unsoothed.

Another key feature of this is that antisocial beliefs are related to justification. This is directly mentioned in the DSM-5 criterion A.7

"being indifferent to or rationalizing having mistreated another"

It is important to note, however, only 51% of those with ASPD will match this criteria. This doesn't necessarily take away from the general idea that antisocial beliefs include a rampant chain of excuses and justification to brush off their behaviours.

"individuals with personality disorders often view their symptoms as consistent with their own self-image, or ego-syntonic, and not as problems that need treatment." - Drug Therapy & Personality Disorders

ASPD is characterized by a disregard for others, rules, and norms. A common belief in people with ASPD is that they are above consequences, and never in the wrong. They refuse to put themselves in a submissive position to others, which often manifests as refusal to follow rules, responsibilities, and expectations.

At their core, they fear being controlled, weak, and losing power/dominance in a situation. They often lack the care, self-control, and forethought needed to healthily adapt to situations that threaten them. To them, it is a dog eat dog world, every man for themselves, survival of the fittest.

If we view ASPD as a maladaptive defense mechanism, then we can understand better how and why they respond to situations this way.

Studies show that reactive aggression* and hostile interpretation* is heavily prominent in those with antisocial behavioural patterns.

*Reactive Aggression: Aggressive behaviour in reaction to a perceived threat

*Hostile interpretation: Interpreting something as hostile or threatening to them

This means that people with ASPD are more likely than the average person to view an ambiguous comment, situation, etc as hostile (regardless of whether or not it actually was), and more likely to respond to that percieved threat with aggression.

The child who grew up in a hostile environment may have developed a brain that scans for the tiniest sign of an attack, and responds as it sees fit. It bites back.

As stated before, self-preservation is a very prominent trait in those with ASPD, and it is associated with a justification of their actions. People with ASPD think and act based on a worldview that everything is a matter of power and control, being on top or being hurt, dog eat dog.

In those who have ASPD, they commonly find themselves unwilling to, or unable to, care for anything but themselves. They often lack an empathetic response to others. "Not my life, not my problem". They are typically very defensive and protective of themselves, and protective towards things they value, but wont experience or express any care, compassion, or empathy towards anything they deem 'unworthy'.

It is the persistent irrationality and the ingrained lack of healthy adaptations and reponses to situations that makes ASPD a disorder. And it's the aggressive/dominating responses to threats, and justification of their responses, that makes the disorder antisocial.

[flashy-mf]

Song reccs ✨✨✨ based on my mental illnesses 🎉

NPD

Fought for Me by Paradise Fears

Forever Damned by Citizen Soldier

Achilles Come Down by Gang of Youths

My Ordinary Life by The Living Tombstone

Stupid Intruders by The Vincent Black Shadow

HPD

Faint by Linkin Park

Art is Dead by Bo Burnham

Breathe by Dom Fera

Crazy=Genius by Panic! At the Disco

Gasoline by Halsey

ASPD

The Chattering Lack of Common Sense by Ghost and Pals

A Call to Arms by Bayside

Control by Halsey

Self-destruction by I Prevail

Self Medicated by Until I Wake

Bipolar 1

Witness by Mindless Self Indulgence

Echo by Crusher-P

Lights Out by Mindless Self Indulgence

I’ll Sleep When I’m Dead by Set It Off

I’m Not Okay by Weathers

[spooky-qrow]

Undiagnosing myself with BPD because the Quora experts believe that you cannot be borderline if you aren't constantly like 24/7 harming other people and if you can be gentle. Apparently I'm in denial and misdiagnosed. With a quick scroll of Quora BPD answers you too can become PD-free!

Honestly though these people are astounding, I know if there's ever a place for Cluster B misinfo and ableism my baby girl Quora is really it ♡

[hpdgirlfriend]

do you know any good resources to learn about HPD or would you be willing to talk about your experiences it a bit or something? totally okay if you'd like to decline one/both of these btw!

god i wish i knew :( the best thing i've got is this checklist but obviously being a checklist it doesn't go into much depth. there's so little information on hpd it's extremely frustrating but yeah i'd be willing to share depending on the specific questions!!! i feel obligated to say i'm not professionally diagnosed though + i have things like social anxiety as well that make my experience kinda different?

[bpdcodone]

A life without love for a BPD mfer is not a life worth living