#complex support needs

[sesamecracker]

🥛 01. )

complex high support needs autism.

(original) diagnosis of severe autism.

intellectual disability

🥛 02. )

moderate (severity) C-ADHD. continued regression of skills. learning disabilities. dyspraxia. EDS. CFS/ME. schizophrenic and mentally ill.

🥛 03. )

semiverbal & semiscribal

stutter. speech delay. speech impairements.

used to be considered nonverbal as a child

[sesamecrackers]

yes i struggle lots with temperature and regulation and how process heat and cold

i like sweet ish or bit salty or like savoury but really restricted with food, hard to describe

yesyesyes love lotssss love squishy ones and clicky ones and timer bubble stuff i like lots

sometimes kind of dont own any but had one before during violent dangerous meltdown at special ed when needed a lot of staff to supervise very properly

yes almost all time

yes visual schedules and explanations, visual board, aac, compression thing, nappies, sippy cups and more

yes i think i knwo what means i rock back forth all time or hit thighs or jump on my bed

yes LOTS and they affect stuff lots too

SESAME STREET :DDDDDDD

Yesyeysyeysyeysyeys lots of mlp toys, diy sesame street and mlp posters and sesame street shirts

i like the guy in extraordinary attorney woo that has spinterest of peng-soo

kind of both 🤔

LIKE STIMBOARDS

uhhhh not sure

sesame street has about 11 related shows and about 40 films / shorts!

complex high needs (⁠ ⁠◜⁠‿⁠◝⁠ ⁠)

not sure.. like soft

pastel!

yes lots lots lots

organised a LOT and familiar

Autistic ask game:

1 : Do high and/or low temperatures bother you?

2: Which flavours do you prefer?

3: Do you enjoy fidget toys,if so what kinds?

4: Do you enjoy weighted blankets? Do you own any?

5: Do you use ear defenders?

6: Do you use any other kinds of disability aids, besides just stim toys and/or ear defenders?

7: Do you body stim?

8: Do you have any comorbid conditions? If so,do they affect your autism,or vice versa?

9: what's your most favorite,or most recent special interest/s?

10: Do you collect merchandise of your special interests?

11: who are your favorite autistic character/s and/or autistic person or people? (Includes autistic headcanons,and suspected but currently undiagnosed people)

12: are you more sensory seeking,or sensory avoident,or do you experience both to varying degrees,at different times?

13: Do you enjoy using and/or creating stimboards?

14: Do you have any favorite autistic content creators?

15: tell me a fact about your special interests/stim toys/etc etc.

16: are you low support needs,medium support needs,medium to high,or high support needs?

17: what textures do you prefer?

18: which color/s do you prefer?

19: Do you rely on routines?

20: Do you prefer chaos/things to be sporadic,or for things to be more organized and familiar?

[cowboycannibalism]

one of the things that annoys me so bad right now is seeing letterboxd reviews about Lisa Frankenstein being like "she's such a horrible character", "those people didn't deserve to be killed" blah blah blah

SHUT UP

it's a horror romance!! a girl keeps a reanimated dead guy in her closet and falls in love with him! what did you think was going to happen? it's SUPPOSED to be fucked up and weird and that's part of its charm. quit being boring, let female characters (esp in horror) be messy and chaotic and morally gray.

[deadpoetsandlivinglegends]

Something something every time Charlie isn’t fighting to be the center of attention, he is always looking around to others to gauge their reactions and silently observing them all something something he is searching for connection, to fit in and be loved but he doesn’t know how to ask for love so instead he gains their attention by acting out in ways he knows they’ll notice and tries to pretend their attention and love are the same thing

[neurodivergent-mermaid]

I hate having many words inside of my brain and not having the ability to write it out in a way i like/makes sense/is what i mean.

If i could make all my lots of jumbled of words in my head make sense then, i would say alot of good things that are very *insert articulate word for what i feel in my head that i can't express*

[spacefaringamoeba]

I hate that I'm considered "high functioning". I barely qualify for any "level" of disability in my country and I will never get a disability income. Yes. I'm able to go to work. But I will not be able to hold it for more than a few months before getting burned out and having daily meltdowns. No, having 10 minutes extra work break won't help me. Neither will wearing headphones or carrying fidgets. I'm literally not able to work 40h a week without severe negative consequences... How do i fucking exist in this society!

[friezaglasiencold]

How did it feel to be a cyborg for a while?

Wasn’t a fan.

[borderlinedolly]

Things I Rarely See Talked About

Level 2/Medium Support Need Autistics

Level 3/High Support Need Autistics

Deaf and/or Blind Autistics

BIPOC Autistics

Nonverbal Autistics

Semiverbal Autistics

The Downsides of Getting a Diagnosis

Older People (30+) With Disorders Like DID, ASPD, BPD, Autism, Etc

[echolalialand]

as a person with comorbid cptsd and autism, the memories of my childhood all have one common thread: shame and humiliation.

[antlerkitty]

Being late diagnosed and higher support needs is such a uniquely torturous struggle. Know people who have had same experience and it's always along these specific lines:

People don't believe autism as bad as it is because autism was "missed" (often not but to people who mattered, was missed, due to often willful ignorance)

Do not fit in with late diagnosed communities (LrSN dominated) so end up feeling extremely out of place or even feeling imposter syndrome due to it.

(This one am assuming was always HrSN and not due to regression like some.) Growing up undiagnosed was incredibly traumatic and very often included lots of abuse and/or neglect. (Do not know single late diagnosed HrSN without significant dissociation, most I know have DID/OSDD-1)

Grieving over life everyone pushing you so hard to have, so hard you thought you could do it. But can't, because life always involve live on own, be successful and fully independent. And that not possible for HrSN folk. Lots of grief, lots of pain. Still fall into cycle often.

[firewolf111]

Projecting onto Roman time!

Janus: Are you okay?

Roman: I'm fine.

Janus: You know, for some reason, I do believe you.

Roman: *growing frustrated* Well, what do you want me to say?

Janus: The truth.

Roman: *chuckling* That's ironic coming from you.

Janus: *sighs* I didn't come here to fight, so if you could just-

Roman: Just what? Huh? You know what?! *throws hands up in the air* Fine. You want the truth?!

Janus: Yes. That isn't what I asked for.

Roman: The truth is that it doesn't matter whether or not I'm okay.

Janus: Yes, it does. I'm not sure why-

Roman: No, it doesn't. Don't you get it?! I have to be okay. I don't have a choice! I'm supposed to be their hero. Everyone thinks I'm so strong, well I'm not. I'm a weak coward. But the one thing being a coward has taught me is how to avoid my problems. How to just *snaps fingers* turn off my emotions. Place a glass screen between them and me. How to feel them without feeling them, like knowing something in the back of your mind without being aware of it

Janus: Because that sounds sooo healthy.

Roman: It's not. I know it's not. But I have no choice. I have to be their hero. I don't know how not to be. They never taught me how not to. It's all I ever was. It's all they ever expected from me. Whether they know it's what they expect or not, it has become my role. And if I don't do it, who will? Who will keep them safe? So what if it hurts? Life hurts. They hurt as well. They have their own problems, and I can help them with it. I have to. It's who I am.

Janus: *extremely concerned* Roman-

Roman: *continuing without notice* It's who I have to be. For them. I have to stay strong, even if I'm not. And I'm not. I'm really not. But I'm good at pretending. I saw they needed a hero, so I took that role. I didn't even realize I had taken the role at first. And now, now that I realize, it's my whole identity. It's the person I've become, the only value I have. It's all they know me as. And that's okay, because they need a hero.

Janus: That isn't okay. Listen-

Roman: I can be that hero. Their problems are worse, right? That's why they unintentionally forced me into this role. Because I dont have any major problems. So, who cares if I don't know how to fight for myself? I can fight for them. I'm their hero. I have to be.

Roman: *leaning on the wall, panting* It's who I am. It's my point of existence.

Janus: ... Oh, sweetheart. What have we done to you?

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

it’s okay to grieve yourself it’s okay to grieve the person you used to be it’s okay to grieve the person you once hoped you’d become it’s okay to grieve the person you can never be it’s okay to grieve the version of you that you thought you had to create it’s okay to grieve the version of you that you had to abandon to survive it’s okay to grieve the version of you that never got to grow up it’s okay to grieve the version of you that died with your childhood it’s okay to grieve any parts of yourself that you have lost, past present or future. It doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else. Please allow yourself the time and emotional space to grieve, and concurrently, please have grace for yourself. I cannot stress this enough.

[messiahzzz]

When I came across that "joke" from Tav to Quill and Z'rell's comment (plus Halsin), I had to take a minute to process what happened. Gale might be a bit silly and eccentric but he's the kindest, sweetest and most passionate character in that party. No wonder the poor man has deep insecurities to solve, so many people reduce him to an easy target! Ofc one of the side effects would be overconfidence and ambition as a defense mechanism. He's obv lonely; only Tara and Morena ever loved him for him.

his eccentric nature might be a part of it. he is loquacious, outgoing, and doesn’t see the point in hiding his enthusiasm. he is considered to be the weird one. naturally, wizards in general being seen as somewhat squishy and physically weak might also add to it.

personally, i really don’t like the implications of the (widely considered) autistic-coded character being the one who faces the most ridicule by far by other characters and fans (and larian) alike.

some might disagree with me on that, but i don’t find it funny by any means either. mostly it just makes me feel bad. “he deserves it. cocky, arrogant, hubris-ridden wizard needs to be taken down a peg” like he isn’t… y’know… already at his lowest. it also disregards the fact that much of his bravado is part of his carefully curated Great Wizard of Waterdeep™ persona that he has skillfully adopted to mask his general feeling of being defective. being fiercely proud of your skill and knowledge and being doubtful of having something truly worthwhile to offer are mindsets that can coexist. according to fandom, gale is either secret hubris incarnate that is only waiting to be unleashed upon the world or pure baby that can do no wrong. instead of a character that is just as flawed and traumatized as all the others, but no less deserving of genuine love.

to me, the constant ridicule just reads as further feeding into his deep-rooted insecurities and his belief that he (as gale, the person) isn’t someone who holds inherent worth. it really, really doesn’t sit well with me.

[artcinemas]

[serenpedac]

It sometimes bothers me that the only moment to let Tina or Verda know about the supernatural is in Book 2. For Yael, especially, this feels like the wrong time. Everything is still so new for her and her main experience with this new world was Murphy, which was very traumatic. For some, it might be the perfect moment to reach out to someone they trust, but Yael tends to draw inward at such times. To her, it seems better not to let either of them know, because she has experienced herself how dangerous it can be. Why pull them into that? (Why bother them with what she's been through? Because letting them know would also mean opening up about Murphy, which.. she's not yet ready for)

If it would be an option to tell them later, she'd be far more likely to do that, because she feels more comfortable with it, and also because she doesn't want to have to keep something like this from either of them.

I'd be interested in hearing other people's reasoning for what their detective does, if anyone feels like sharing? ^^

[thanatika]

people on that child support post are talking as if patho classic daniil is great with kids and it's pathologic 2 daniil that people are getting this negative idea of him from, which got me thinking...

daniil's main characterization of how he treats kids in patho 2 comes from artemy's POV of him, which is biased against daniil due to daniil making a really dickish first impression, and is also based off of unreliable narrator accounts:

first by some kids outside of rubin's house who lead artemy to believe that daniil refused to treat poisoned children when it was actually just dying dogs, which can be followed by artemy confronting daniil himself where he continues to misunderstand the situation and assumes daniil is calling children animals, until he finally visits the kids' warehouse and learns it was just the soul-and-a-halves' pets. which, obviously it would be a nice thing to save pets from dying, but he really ISN'T a veterinarian and there's a deadly plague starting. he's doing triage.

and then another early incident with the kid in the warehouse dying of sand pest, where notkin passes along a message telling artemy not to bother trying to save him that makes him sound very dismissive ("Don't waste your time on Patches, it's over for him"). reading between the lines though, it's pretty clear that he came to that conclusion not because he doesn't want to save people from the sand pest, but because this is a seemingly incurable disease with no medical cure, and at that point he probably hasn't had the chance to test the schmowders on himself so would have no reason to believe in their effectiveness, and assesses that loading patches up with drugs will just kill him. which, he's literally correct! whether you treat him with tinctures, pills, or a whole schmowder, patches dies that night. obviously trying to treat him or at least ease his suffering is a morally good dead, but you can also see the implied basis of daniil's actions, that every second is precious in the early stages of trying to prevent a widespread outbreak, so you shouldn't waste time on a patient who ultimately can't be saved. (which fits in really well not only with his arc in both games where he comes to the conclusion that the whole town is unsalvageable, but with the bigger emphasis on time management and manipulation that his remake has been described as having. hell, maybe from daniil's POV he knows for certain that patches will die due to whatever time manipulation that's going on with him, and that spending the time on that patient allows for a larger disaster to happen elsewhere). so, the situation is framed by notkin (understandably, because he's just a kid and that's his friend dying) and artemy (because he's honestly pretty petty about daniil) as just "the bachelor is an asshole and abandoned these kids" when it's more of a genuine ethical quandary.

he's also pretty rude and dismissive in how he talks about grace to artemy later on, but again, it's pretty clear that he's not just being a hater to a 15 year old for no reason, the point he's making is that she shouldn't be left in charge of a graveyard filled with potentially bio-hazardous corpses.

all that to say, the main canon info about how he treats children in patho 2 basically comes from the fact that a lot of kids end up disliking him, because he's extremely pragmatic to the point of being heartless, but still ultimately pretty understandable in what he's trying to do (stop a plague).

meanwhile when we do get to see his POV in the marble nest, i would say the way he treats children is pretty much consistent with how he talks to them in pathologic classic -- if anything, he's a bit nicer to them? he has some fed-up, yelling sort of dialogue options to the kids, but pretty much all of those are based on being upset that they're out breaking quarantine and putting themselves at risk of death. meanwhile other dialogue options make him come off very much willing to humor them and talk to them on their level. and when another adult is much harsher about the kids being irresponsible, he defends them, with no dialogue option to agree with corporal punishment:

meanwhile in pathologic classic, i do think that on the whole daniil is pretty nice to kids and willing to go out of his way to protect or help them (to the point of risking death, such as the late game sidequest where he can agree to go take on several soldiers to keep the father of two children from being wrongly executed). but he does also have some really unkind and spiteful dialogue options, like some of what he says to clara both in his own route and hers, and on the topic of corporal punishment...