#exclusionists and radfems is the same

[smilepilled]

reminder that my blog is not safe for:

queer exclusionists/separatists/"anti goodfaith" (what are you, a cop?)

people who say the same shit as reactionaries, radfems, eugenists, bioessentialists/gender essentialists, or that otherwise try to gatekeep how people label their existence

people who treat intersex people as broken or use the term "DSD" maliciously or ignorantly

people who are haters and filled to the brim with nothing but anger and mean-ness. you are not unique or special by choosing to be cruel, for it is a easy pick

people who are more worried about "winning a debate" or "being on the right side of discourse" — especially if it costs other people's wellbeings. you just suck

people who are anti-recovery and people who are anti-intellectualism (read: willfully ignorant on things and against educating oneself)

just in general hateful or bitter towards things they dont understand instead of being curious (willingly)

just please. better yourself. some of you are grown ass adults doing this. some of you are old enough to know better. so DO better!

[velvetvexations]

I've felt since about 2014 or so that a lot of the way we talk about privilege as a concept was a mistake.

One: while I fully understand the need to have an umbrella term for these things because they originate from the same place and sometimes overlap as more of a spectrum than discrete categories, it's a little bit confusing at best that we ALWAYS use the same term to describe advantages NO ONE should have, like the ability to buy your way into any college you want, AND the lack of DISADVANTAGES that no one should suffer, like being presumed dangerous just for walking down the street and potentially getting jumped or shot for it, AND the lack of daily annoyances that serve as a grating, constant reminder that you are Other, like "flesh tone" very conspicuously not even coming close to matching you or romance being presumed M/F by default everywhere. Yes, we need to talk about what all these things have in common, but we ALSO need to be able to talk about how they're different, and honestly, for the sake of outreach and ~optics~, I feel we've gotta be able to present the similarities and differences up front because I have met NO shortage of people who were super on board with trying to improve society somewhat but got really alienated from theory talk by the straight conflation of those categories, ESPECIALLY the latter two. Never mind the decision that the word for this should be something that most people first hear in the context of an extra hour of video games for good behavior or something along those lines.

Two: No category of privilege is granted universally to every member of a privileged group. Few if any men have all aspects of male privilege. In any lavender scare, NO ONE universally and automatically receives cishet privilege. It's even hard to find white people with all aspects of white privilege, and race as an oppressive class was INVENTED to make it easy to use visual markers to determine who's "in" and who's "out". It's also much easier to lose a lot of aspects of privilege than the language gives it credit for - sometimes, just NOT being enough of a bigot is enough to get you treated like a second class citizen.

Three: Every disprivileged group has some privilege over the next in some ways, AND is disprivileged under them in other ways, and the ways in which this manifests get REALLY chaotic once you start looking at the individual level rather than the group level because of the above. Treating "privilege" like a black and white thing that EVERYONE outside a specific highlighted group has makes futile attempts at "scorekeeping" and the bullshit infighting that comes with it almost inevitable. In fact, a lot of the time, the unshared aspects of closely related axes of oppression can intersect in ways that can't fully be dissected without also examining the axis that an exclusionist is trying to "beat" or disprove - for example, I'd go so far as to argue that because oppositional sexism runs so deep in society, every aspect of transandrophobia has a transmisogynistic flip side AND vice-versa; if we talked about privilege and gender in a way that DIDN'T make it so easy for people to think only one of the two can exist and naming the second is therefore a denial of the first, we'd probably be collectively a lot further along in dissecting both.

Four: Systems of privilege and disprivilege cannot be dismantled by treating the privileged as monsters; this only justifies and perpetuates the system by emphasizing the strength and power of the privileged vs. the hopeless, futile struggles of the oppressed, even when it DOESN'T result in "movements" where the oppressed fear losing their identity if they escape their oppression. In the very worst cases it ends up being every bit as classically bigoted as the ideas it calls out - note how many varieties of radfems arrive at a conclusion where they believe the SAME things about men and women as any manosphere redpill chud, they just think the power imbalance that privileges men is a BAD thing instead of a GOOD thing.

Every damned exclusionist cycle just makes me more and more sure of this. I feel like I've been screaming it into the void for over 10 years and yet no one but the teeny tiny choir has ever listened. At least I've seen more people starting to talk about point 1 specifically over this past year...?

Anon, I'll be honest, I love you but this is a bit too long and dense for me to process so I'm going to post this and put it in my #I just work here tag.

[corporatecoinings]

DRAGONQUEER/DRAGONPUNK

Emojicode : 🐲🌈🔥/ 🐉🌈🔥

LINK TO THE OFFICIAL DRAGONQUEER/DRAGONPUNK CARRD

A new label! Dragonqueer/dragonpunk (either name works, same thing!) is a queer stance about not being afraid to show how prideful you are about yourself, not being afraid to show yourself, or at least have a desire to want to express how you TRULY are and give the bird to the societal norm standards and those that hate you, existing to spite them; dragonqueer/dragonpunk beings can still live in caves (be closeted) too, however. A major aspect to dragonqueer/dragonpunk is also hoarding a shit ton of labels that describe yourself! Dragons love their hoards :) 

Due to history of dragons, they are seen as either evil and terrifying or benevolent and kind. Dragonqueer/dragonpunk aims to be both; be punk, be scary, be yourself, be unforgiving for who you are while also being a kind-hearted and loving being. There are dragons of all kind; western, easter, wyverns, wyrms, hydras, and so there is too in queer communities. Whichever kind of dragon you are is completely up to you, and you alone; you decide who you are. 

Dragonqueer/dragonpunk supports/believes…

LGBTQ+, MOGAI, LIOM, etc.

Xenogenders, neopronouns, etc.

Neoagabs/xenoagabs

Good-faith labels

Systems of all origins

Arissomei, desirdae, chronosians, aldernic, aldersex, allions, vesil, vior, xenonatured, eiment, etc.

Otherkin, therians, non-humans, alterhumans, etc.

Neurodivergent, mentally ill, disabled beings

Beings with munchausen's syndrome, factitious disorders, etc.

Hypersexuals 

Gender hoarders / gender collectors 

Multigender / polygender / etc.

Safe and anti-contact paraphiles (not acting on illegal shit??? This should make sense.. If its harmful. Dont act on it.)

Microlabels

Atypical dysphoria

PLUR

M-spec lesboys, turigirls, etc.

Contradictory labels

Systemarchy 

Pluralpunk/systempunk

Furries

Age/pet regressors

MAD pride

Reclaiming labels you can reclaim (queer, dyke, fag, freak, etc.)

Anti-psychiatry

Being endogenic/willogenic is not the same thing as being “transplural”

Educated self-diagnosis

Fiction affects reality

You can be trans without dysphoria

You can be a system without trauma

OC x canon is epic as long as its legal

Objectum and robosexuals

Supporting ex-cops, ex-gov, ex-military, ex-radqueers, ex-transids, etc. that have left their community and wish to recover

Abortion rights, womens rights, animal rights, etc.

Atheism

Kink at pride (when there are no bodily minors)

BDSM (as long as everyone consents and there are no bodily minors)

recovering/ex-religious beings

Consentual recovery for those that want it 

Supporting victims 

Dragonqueer/dragonpunk does NOT support/believe...

Harmful and pro-contact / neu-contact zoophiles, pedophiles, necrophiles, etc. (yet again if its harmful dont fucking do it)

Minors in nsfw communities, minors in kink, or having public kink where minors are around

That “all men should die” or “all women should die”

Harassing innocent cishets

Active radqueers and transids/transx

Terf, radfem, transmed, sysmed, etc. views

Harmful religion

Demonizing or stigmatizing disorders

Singlets in syscourse

“Superstraight”

Heavy political views, such as conservative and liberal

Proshippers, comshippers, darkshippers, etc. (how hard is it to say no illegal, abusive, etc. ships holy shit)

Lolicons and shotas

Racism or prejudice of ANY kind

Ableism

Forced recovery

Mental asylums

Exclusionists

Bigots

Dragonqueer/dragonpunk is neutral on...

Religion in general (dragonqueer/dragonpunk is inherently atheist)

catqueer

THIS IS THE OFFICIAL DRAGONQUEER/DRAGONPUNK. PEOPLE THAT WANT TO "RECLAIM" THIS LABEL WILL BE FACED WITH FIRE !!!

@ghosting-plural-userboxes thought you'd wanna see this, just comment if you want us to remove your tag from this post ^-^

[humunanunga]

Plurality, endogenesis and sysmedicalism.

Yeah no, I'm not done yet. Please bear with me for a word of caution.

So before making this post in reaction to seeing tulpa "systems" DNI, endo/endo-supporters DNI and non-traumagenic systems/supporters DNI across three fandom tags so far, I asked the systems I know if this was as Transmed But For Systems as it looked to an outsider. That was when I learned endo-exclusionists are called sysmeds.

Now, if you've been on Tumblr in the 2020s, you likely already know what plurality is. If you don't, it refers to an internal experience of living as multiple people who may take turns fronting– and together with whomever would be designated the "host," they are called a system. It used to be widely called split personality or multiple personality disorder, but as it stands currently, I don't think psychiatry yet recognizes a distinction between headmates, such as in plurality, and alters, such as in dissociative identity disorder (DID). The two can coexist, but not everyone with DID is plural, and not every plural has DID.

Which brings us to traumagenesis and endogenesis. Traumagenic systems or headmates, as the term suggests, have been caused by traumatic events, either acute or chronic, as is commonly the case with DID. Endogenesis, on the other hand, is a broad term for other causes. Tulpamancy, the deliberate formation of a headmate, is one example, but traumagenic systems can include endogenic headmates and vice-versa, and endogenic systems or headmates may also be caused by, for just one example, the same neurological processes that cause delusions or hallucinations. Which is to say, they're not making it up or following a trend, but the causes for endogenic plurality are more varied, and thus may simply not yet be as well-researched or as widely understood as another common cause.

So, how do you know whether someone's system is endogenic or traumagenic? Well, what if the systems themselves don't know if they're endo? What if a system who identifies as endo doesn't know they're traumagenic? How far would you be willing to invade someone's privacy to try to tell apart an endogenic system from a traumagenic system?

Before I continue, I myself am not plural, not to my knowledge. What I am is close to multiple plurals, both locally and across group chats. So I consulted them for this post:

And now that we've hopefully cleared up some misconceptions, some presumptions maybe, I'll get to the point.

I have been on Tumblr since early 2012, late 2011. Years before I knew I was trans, I was here through the prevalence of transmedicalism, and the damage exclusionism did, keeping far more trans people in the closet than were protected from radfems, by repeating the same excuses transphobic doctors give to deny resources.

Bigots don't mistreat plurals for why you're plural, they mistreat you for being plural. Whether you've been mistreated for your plurality is not the fault of other plurals.

People of Tumblr, do not do that shit again with sysmedicalism. Do not reenact 2010s Tumblr. You would not be protecting anyone if you did this, you would be acting as someone else other plurals need protection from.

[olderthannetfic]

A problem with situations like "Lesbian: Sexuality, gender, spirituality" is that you have two conflicting forces pulling the same direction. You can swap sexuality and gender with race, ethnicity, nationality and some other things as well.

Yeah it might be some cute innocent "This is who I am. :)" But supremacists and exclusionists use the exact same way of describing themselves as well if they're into some kinda spirituality.

It's not even isolated. Any kind of supremacists will have this idea that "Being X is more than just being a human, being X is a spiritual experience that people of other race/ethnicity/nationality can never experience." Anyone who isn't X is simply less than human, because you're missing the true spiritual essence.

Same with radfems/terfs. They'll use the exact same logic.

So maybe you see a "Lesbian gender/sexuality/spirituality" and she's just a completely normal person. OR you've just found a terf with the exact same labels, who uses it to either hide or openly broadcast how she thinks trans women need to be shot, trans men are misguided and brainwashed butches, and all men should be culled until only 10% of the world's population are men.

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[nightmaretour]

Since people are actually following me for some reason, I thought I should probably make some kind of introductory post I guess.

I'm Zero, I'm a 27 year old visibly disabled trans man with a facial difference living in the UK, and a survivor of meningoencephalitis, septicaemia/sepsis, and a resulting stroke as a teen. I have multifocal right hemisphere brain damage resulting in hemiplegia (including facial paralysis), epilepsy, and a whole host of other health issues. I cannot mobilise without an aid (currently crutch and mobility scooter!) and have to live in sheltered housing. I'm open to questions as long as you are respectful.

I post a lot about disability, cripplepunk stuff, trans rights, general LGBTQ+ rights, anticapitalism, etc. A fair amount of what I post is NOT suitable for minors, I guess I can't stop you from following me but I'd really prefer you didn't. My blog runs on a queue, so that I don't spam everyone's feed every time I spend a couple of hours browsing when I don't have the energy for anything else.

I have a cognitive disability, so you have to be a little patient with me sometimes, my sentences don't always make sense on the first go and I forget or misremember things sometimes. I appreciate it if you respectfully point out if I minced something. I can make my own judgements and form opinions just fine though, so fuck off if you're going to use it as an excuse to belittle and discredit me. Definitely don't just trust me on complex math though, I can barely read an analog clock.

Terfs/radfems, bigots of any kind, eugenics and genocide supporters or apologists, and radqueers/transID (ESPECIALLY "transabled") please interact so I can block you. Forced birthers/anti-choicers, my posts are not and have never been for you, fuck off. If you whine to me about cripplepunk and physical disability spaces being "exclusionist", I will block you. Same if you cannot be respectful about facial differences, strokes, brain damage, visible disabilities, etc, with a zero tolerance policy. I will also most likely make fun of any and all of the above on my blog :)

I am not a free reference for your whump fic, nor am I a subject for your disability fetish. I block able bodied whump writers and devotee blogs on sight. No exceptions. Writers wanting to ask RESPECTFUL disability questions are okay to do so (although I will not guarantee an answer and I am not all-knowing) but my disabilities are not a fetishistic throwaway trope. If you tag my serious/personal posts with fictional characters or things like "writing reference" I will block you.

🍉🇵🇸I believe in a free Palestine! 🇵🇸🍉

I will not argue with or tolerate genocide supporters or apologists, my blog is not a safe space for any kind. You are not welcome here.

If any of my image posts are missing image descriptions, please let me know! I do try to add them when I remember but my brain has a very limited capacity, and often things slip through the cracks and disappear. People who make image descriptions I love you, I will paste them into the original post. Please also let me know if you spot any other accessibility issues, such as text not being screen reader friendly.

I also have an art blog over at @disharm0nious ! There's not much on it so far, since I'm dealing with a lot health-wise right now. I do a lot of work with textiles, including screen printing and making my own cross stitch patterns.

(Pfp is by @reflexicon!)

My common tags because Tumblr's blog search function is dogshit (please ignore this post if you're seeing it in these tags):

[ahamkara-apologist]

🧱, 🧸, 📚 for your fellas from the muse ask game

YIPPEE ASK GAME TIME!! Going to do my two main OCs because if I did canon muses I'd be here a while.

[ 🧱 ] how would you describe your muses’ morality? what are their core values?

-Aeris: Aeris's grasp on morality is very black-and-white and troublingly dependent on following the rules that other people (that he respects) put down for him. I'd say that he's a good person at heart, and he wants desperately to be a good person, but he's very much a follow-the-leader sort of fellow, and his idea of morality is constructed entirely of what the people around him say it is. This isn't because he lacks a mind of his own, but is instead a byproduct of a lack of empathy + an inability to understand how to properly incorperate into society, leading to him mimicking others around him. He doesn't want to hurt people, he wants to help, but because most of the time the world outside the wilds is a very confusing place, he often ends up following others rather than his raw intuition. This is great if his mentors are good people! But it's also absolutely catastrophic if they aren't.

As for his core values- He'd say that his core values would be care and protection of Marcie, the Last City, and everyone within it at all costs. What he WON'T disclose, however, is the fact that his own curiosity/desire to understand the universe is just as strong as those values, and can sometimes eclipse it in very rare (or poor) circumstances. An Aeris with a question and a broken/slack leash is an Aeris who's going to wander off and get himself in trouble before long, with potentially fatal consequences.

-Marcie: Marcie's got a much stronger grasp on an actual moral code than Aeris does, and a much more human understanding of it as well. She's sternly cut from a 'do no harm take no shit' sort of cloth, but she's also not going to say no to bending or breaking those rules if need be to keep her loved ones safe. She's less likely than Aeris to do anything outright illegal, yes- and this is entirely because of the hunter/titan divide in thinking- but unlike Aeris, she's also quicker to come to more illegal lines of thinking than he would be- or that she'd like to admit. For example, if confronted with an unruly combatant who refuses to peacefully collaborate yet contains information necessary for her goals to progress, Marcie is much more likely to mentally jump to 'we need to torture the information out of them' as a solution much quicker than Aeris ever would, even if she'd never fully admit it. The difference between the two siblings is that Marcie would try a plethora of different options before she got to that point (unless she REALLY does not like the guy), whereas by the time Aeris comes to the conclusion that he needs to use torture, he'd already be at the point where he's completely fine acting on it.

Like...you know those fun tumblr blogs that you really enjoy following but who just CANNOT stop arguing with exclusionists and radfems with the passion of a thousand suns because they just can't let the bullshit they're spewing slide? Yeah. That's Marcie. She's also stubborn, proud, and unwilling to admit when she's wrong, which doesn't help matters. Aaaand she's also willing to buckle a bit if a very pretty lady is in the picture, which. Wouldn't we all, honestly.

Core values! Unlike Aeris, Marcie's core values extend past protection of the Last City to actual more fleshed-out, definable roles than just the very flat, nebulous role of 'protect the Last City (and the universe too ig)'. She sees being a guardian of the weak and vulnerable as her calling, yes, but her ACTUAL focus is on keeping her loved ones safe and healthy, and ensuring that as many people as possible can have that assurance too. Sure, she goes about that the same way a herding dog might (by worrying, nagging, and nipping where its needed), but I'd say keeping her family happy almost takes precedent over keeping the City safe. It's a very lucky thing that these two values go hand-in-hand

[ 🧸 ] does your muse keep anything sentimental? if so, what do they keep and why?

-Aeris: Aeris isn't one for keeping many possessions outside of weapons, but the ones he has are oftentimes extremely important to him. Most anything that Marcie or Eido give to him, for example, is deeply treasured because those are gifts from his little sisters, and it makes him feel loved. Likewise, anything that Misraaks gives him relating to House Light (like his bannercloth cape, or the pair of shock daggers he wears on his hip) is treated much more seriously because to him, that's a token of acceptance/a mark of his place in the world, and he does not take that sort of thing lightly. Outside of that, though, he's got his favorite weapons and that's it. Pre-first death, he had a little stuffed rabbit that meant the world to him, but his father took that from him when he was a preteen to get him to 'man up,' so it was gone for quite some time before he died.

Oh, wait, I nearly forgot- he's also got a necklace made out of Taniks's teeth that he wears pretty much wherever he goes. Do with that what you will.

-Marcie: Marcie LOOOVES cute little knick-knacks and memoirs of her travels- if you ever go to her and Aeris's shared apartment, you'll find that everything outside of his room is almost exclusively full of decorations and keepsakes that she put on display. She's got bookshelves just COVERED with all sorts of gifts that she's collected over the years of being a guardian/major Crucible fighter, several medals, little bits and bobs and pretty things that she found on her travels, gifts from Archie, etc. She tends to keep work life and home life somewhat separated, but she's also named a good chunk of her favorite guns, and hangs them up on the wall when they need to be retired, often with little plaques underneath detailing their names, their makes/models, and how long they've been in service. The Ace of Spades is the most treasured of these guns, as it technically belongs to her (she was the one who was actually close to Cayde; Aeris never got a grasp on his mannerisms and was thus leery of him even if Cayde genuinely liked him), but it's the only one out of her collection not displayed because it does more good work in Aeris's hands than hers. Crucible fighter or not, she's not as good with handcannons as Aeris is.

Her most prized possession, however, is the little half-rotten pocket journal that she and Aeris were rezzed with. It's the only remnant of their past life that either of them have, and even if it has barely anything of value in it from the few journal entries that survived the many years between their deaths and their resurrection, (just their names, the fact that they're siblings, and that their father was a whore and a scoundrel, according to previous Marcie's long-winded complaints), it's still something irreplaceable that she treasures deeply. She had it preserved via Cryptarchy technology and keeps the original copy in a double-bound plastic bookkeeper locked away in a Golden Age safe. This seems like it would be overkill, but it was in fact an insightful precaution, as that was the only way that it survived the Red War.

[ 📚 ] what books does your muse have on their bookshelf? what books would they like to have? if your muse isn’t an avid reader, is there anything they collect or might like to collect?

-Aeris: Aeris isn't much of a reader post-rez, though he was before he became a Guardian. When he did read, however, his bookshelves were full of survival manuals, how-to guides, odd fact books, and surgical/medical textbooks, with an emphasis on the anatomy, physiology, and biomechanics of living organisms. You know those big, glossy books with the detailed pictures and illustrations on every page, crammed in with some of the tiniest text known to man? Yeah. A huge part of this was because he was training to become a surgeon before everything went south, but it's also just because he is the very definition of 'curiosity killed the cat.' It's just that now that he's capable of coming back, he's got no need for textbooks.

Now, he just collects survival gear, guns, and various odd bits and bobs that he brings back on his travels, oftentimes entirely by accident. He doesn't really live in his apartment much, so it's just kind of become a dumping ground for all of his extra gear or trophies that he can't keep on his jumpship (which is much more organized on account of him never really moving out of it when he got an apartment proper). Like I said, he's a fellow of few possessions most of the time, but because he often comes up with things he needs on the fly, he's usually got quite a bit of random shit just lying around his room that he's going to use or trade for something or the other, like various bits of bones, hide, and scrap metal he scavenged while hunting in between missions, as well as the usual odd guardian tech strewn about in there.

-Marcie: Marcie's a big fan of reading during her downtime in the classic old-fashioned style, using actual paper books rather than her datapad (easier on her hands and eyes). Unlike Aeris, however, her bookshelf is comprised mainly of fluffy, fun fantasy stories, with the occasional abandoned craft book loitering around somewhere in the midst of all of it. She tends to like either things like Pern or the Inheritance Cycle (where the main character is bonded to a companion who sticks by them thick or thin), or REALLY bad pulp fiction erotica romance novels. Typically with werewolves in them. Actually, a lot with werewolves in them. This girl unironically has actual published A/B/O novels on her bookshelf, and they're one of her favorite things to read when she wants to wind down. Anything soft, cheesy, and full of lesbians/general pretty women getting swept off their feet into a loving, romantic relationship is her thing.

I've already gone over what she likes to collect, but mementos are a big thing! She likes anything that she can keep as a memory of someone she's met, much like how Saint holds on to all of his ribbons (she was inspired by him to do that, actually). The walls of her apartment and her many bookshelves are just crammed full with carefully-placed knick-knacks and memorabilia- a sharp contrast to her closets and her jumpship, which are both absolute disasters on account of them being the places where she just shoves everything she actually needs, but doesn't want to deal with at the moment.

Muse Ask Game

[bilesproblems]

While age splits do exist between mspec lesbians and exclusionists, let's not pretend exclus are "just stupid teens" please. Let's not make fun of "the baby queers" for exclusionism.

For one, there are baby queers within this community too. I just turned 18, 2 months ago. I've been a bi lesbian for a while even as a minor. I think I was 15 or 16 when I first learned I could be bi and a lesbian and I've been identifying as one ever since. When exclus opinions are excused and dismissed because "oh they're teens" it felt very wrong to me. It feels belittling to teens and refuses to actually deconstruct the bad opinion and instead use the age of the person with the bad opinion to say therefore the opinion is invalid. It's ageist and isolating to baby mspec lesbians. Additionally, being young is not an excuse. Being young doesn't make you incapable of critical thinking and those of us within the community who are young prove that. It's just more ageism to imply young people can't be accountable for their bad opinions or that young people are inherently more stupid.

For two, it ignores that mspec lesbian exclusionism is directly started from adult radfems in the 70s. Not only are some exclusionists adults, but the movement was started by adults, and it's those adults who's predatory influence poisons the minds of young lesbians.

That's all thanks. Please respect teens and be willing to deconstruct and disprove their bad opinions the same as you would with an adult's opinions. When you dismiss young exclus on the basis of being young, all that says to me and other young mspec lesbians is that you don't really respect us either

[felix-01000101]

Introduction post (DNI LIST AT VERY END)

Heya, you can call me Felix or Rye. I am a minor who reblogs stuff I think is neat, stands up for trans rights, and occasionally vents about my parents.

Pronouns page:

Feel free to send anything into my asks as long as it's not

Donations - they will be reblogged on @felix-donos

Hateful comments - your post will just be deleted and you will be blocked (unless I have a very juicy response to give)

Interests

Coding, AI (including ethics) and technology

Most fandoms (especially FNAF, The Wild Robot, BG3, Heartstopper, TSP and TCOAAL)

Music (anything really)

Identity

I have a LOT of labels I use for myself (Maybe I'll bring back the LGBallTs when I redo them). However I mostly use these:

Termcollector

Genderhoarder

Abrosexual

Aroace(spec)

Quoiromantic

Idemromantic

Platoweird

(Bi) Gaybian

Lesboy

Turigirl

Multimonogender

Abrogender

Transmasc

Transfem

Transneutral

Transxenine

Catgender/Cathoarder

Robogender

Angelgender

Kingender

Altersex/Bigenital*

I'm also alterhuman, a therian (mostly otherheart and otherlink) and otherkin (fictionflicker, cambikin and demihuman)

* (I used to also use salmacian as well, but considering the controversy, and me not liking the alternative label, that pretty much only leaves these)

Views

As you can probably guess, I am pro-contradictory labels, pro-MOGAI, and what is now dubbed being proqueer. I am also against terms such as "TMA/TME" and a hater of transmisandry

I am generally anti-discourse

As of recent, I am a traumaendo plurallet. If you don't like that, then this is your warning.

I am neutral on most topics, unless they pertain to the human rights/lives of others. (I.e I am anti-genocide, anti-war and against antisemitism)

I do not believe zionism is inherently bad (judging from the words of Jews themselves). I no longer share this view. However, I still have many questions related to Israel that if you're willing to DM me about, I can ask. I'm still anti-genocide though.

I am a neushipper. Whilst I have nothing against proshippers, darkships make me uncomfortable. I believe in SALS, have complex views on whether fiction affects reality, and do not support drawing NSFW of minors (yes, even fictional ones. Do it in your own corner but PLEASE keep it away from me and other minors). Above all, I ask that people tag their stuff with relevant trigger warnings, respect DNIS, and don't post darkships onto shorts-style platforms (since it's wayyy too easy for minors to find them there)

I am supportive of those with paraphillias (including if you are one of the big 3, as long as you are anti-contact ofc)

I do not support radical feminism, and strongly believe in equality FOR EVERYONE

Other blogs

@ryebread-07 - OC posts (not very active)

@neuship-zone - Shipping and multifandom posts

@felixventing - self explanatory

@felix-donos - self explanatory

DNI list is under the dashed line.

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DNI List

MAPs of any kind

Anti-recovery/pro-contact harmful paras

Racists

Antisemites

Bigots (including exclusionists of all kinds, but not including those who are anti-radqueer or anti-transID - see 'thin ice')

Radfems

Anti-therians and anti-otherkin

NSFW/kink blogs (I'm a minor)

(Pro-)self harm blogs (too triggering)

Suibait/toxic/pro-harassment/etc. (Basically, if you're the kinda person to bully people online or insult them very harshly, DNI. My mental health is poor enough)

Thin ice:

TMA/TME users (can like and send asks but not reblog)

Darkshippers (can like and reblog but don't DM/send asks unless requested)

Radqueers (can interact normally but I block freely)

TransID (can interact normally but I block freely)

Syscourse blogs (I don't really want to be involved)

Alright post over, enjoy these userboxes!

[plaguephile]

"ɢʀᴜɴɢᴇ ɪS ᴀ ʜɪᴘᴘɪᴇᴅ ʀᴏᴍᴀɴᴛɪᴄ ᴠᴇʀSɪᴏɴ ᴏF ᴘᴜɴᴋ."

… ambrose/scourge/sal ™ ┆he / it / rot / bro + non human / masculine terms please ┆ taken by my lovely bf irl <3

🦴 ★ demirose queer transmasc genderqueer

⸝ ★ . 5teen , 💬 ( sfw int only ) . ࣪ ˖

︵ AuDHD / ASPD / NPD / P-DID / fluxating paranoria / GAD 𖦹︎ !

(bolded means diagnosed, crossed out means suspected, and normal just means not an actual disorder just smth i felt like addng on lol)

' 🐾 . otherkin: golden retriever, german shepard, siberian husky, doberman, alien, shapeshifter, and cryptid

⟢ 🛰 ﹒ copinglink: sal fisher (sally face), sydney novak (i am not okay with this)

★ 🎱 . fictionkin: scourge (warrior cats), peridot (steven universe)

■ , 🦴 ! otherhearted: little brown bat, spotted hyena, white tail deer

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⚠︎ DNI: ⌞ pro-shipper, nsfw blog, anti-xenogender/neopronoun, TERF, radqueer, endo system/supporter (or any non traumagenic system/supporter), radfem, exclusionist, political blog, lgbtq discourse, zionist, wilbur soot/callmecarson/melanie martinez/supporter of any other outted abuser, believe in any form of cluster b personality disorder "abuse" ⌝

⚠︎ THIN ICE: ⌞ transid/x user (just dni if ur the harmful ones like transabled/race/age/etc), contradictory labels (good faith or not)/"gaybian"/"lesboy"/"bi-lesbian"/etc, religious blog, k-pop stan, DSMP fam, older than 18 ⌝

⚠︎ BYI: ⌞ i tend 2 come off as selfish / cold-hearted at times, i am also unempathetic and generally dont really put myself in other ppl's shoes when i cant relare 2 their experiences. i am a paranoid person and i experience hallucinations sometimes and i may post abt them if i feel like i have 2 do so. i use slurs that i reclaim ( faggot, tranny, retard, etc, etc ), i like some problematic medias ( like south park, i guess ). i can also come off as "dry" or "uniterested" but thats only bcz i just met u and i am getting to know u better ⌝

⚠︎ PII: ⌞ desirdae user, alterhuman/nonhuman, at leaat 13 to 17 years old, neurodivergent, smiling friends enjoyer, juggalo, LGBTQ+ or LGBTQ+ ally, or just like the same interests as i do ⌝

tagging system

# ☆ — the doberman growls : rants n talks

# ☆ — clawing at my cage : vents

# ☆ — bad dog! get back here with that post : reblogs, lol

# ☆ — the doberman is on the hunt : reblogged identities that i identify with

# ☆ — doggy drawings

"ɪᴍᴀɢɪɴᴇ ʙᴇɪɴɢ ɪɴ Sᴏᴍᴇᴏɴᴇ’S Sᴄᴇɴᴀʀɪᴏ ᴛʜᴇʏ ᴍᴀᴋᴇ ᴜᴘ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇɪʀ ᴍɪɴᴅ ᴀᴛ ɴɪɢʜᴛ"

( credits to my fav gal on the interweb 4 inspo the 4 this introduction :3 )

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guess what? i make userboxes for alterhumans! check out my inbox check to see if my requests are open and what is currently in drafts, being made, or in the queue!

[rjalker]

All hatred of mspec lesbians can be summed up by the following:

Historical revisionism

Victim blaming

Rape apologism

Gold star lesbianism/ "Men have cooties"

"I hate trans and especially nonbinary and ESPECIALLY multigender people"

"I'm following as lot of radfems but it's okay because uhhhhmhm....reasons!"

"I think women and nonbinary are the same gender"

"There are only two genders but I'll pretend I support nonbinary people so my friends don't leave me for being a bigot"

"I don't know literally anything about Queer or lesbian history that didn't come from literal radfem propaganda"

New additions:

Sex shaming

"I hate mspec women"

"Mspec women existing is a lesbomisic hatecrime because uhh...[all of the reasons above]"

Feel free to add on. Exclusionists will be reported, blocked, and mocked.

[mommyclaws]

look as a lesbian I don’t get why it’s so awful to just want lesbian spaces?? We as queer people all have different experiences and we can have smaller spaces while still embracing the whole community.

Lesbians go through different experiences than bi non-men do. That DOES NOT mean “we suffer more” or whatever because I hate the whole oppression olympics shit. We are not attracted to men neither sexually nor romantically, and that’s what makes us oppressed in this heteronormative world. We go through harassment, corrective rape, violence, and conversion “therapy” because we are homosexual. If my dad ever found out I was exclusively attracted to women I would get kicked out. Why is it suddenly so awful and “gatekeepy” to ask us to have our own spaces? We still have sapphic spaces! We even have bi spaces and pan spaces! Heck, I see gay non-women are allowed to have their own spaces!

It’s harmful to be treated as a monolith. I’m not attracted to men, and saying im an “exclusionist” for this is lesbophobic. I’m not evil for being exclusively attracted to non-men. I’m not evil for saying we should have our own spaces while we’d still have sapphic spaces!

Words have meanings, and the lesbian label is important to me, for all of its history and all of my struggles. I’m tired of us all being seen as “big mean lesbians who hate men” so so much. It reeks of misogyny to me.

I am heavily disappointed, and I ask everyone to please understand why bi lesbians are harmful.

I'm disappointed you've missed the point of my post. I was talking about the history of different lesbians and sapphics being excluded and hated in our community through generations. The conversation wasn't about bi lesbians specifically, it was about the butches, transfemmes, Pan/Bi, Aro/Ace, nonbinary, and countless other identities that were or ARE still considered not "valid" members of our community at point or another. I was pointing out how this "Bi Lesbian exclusion" is just a repeat of past mistakes and in the retrospective it is rooted in radfem/terf ideology that claims sapphics have to present and feel a certain way to be accepted. I didn’t say anywhere that being attracted to non-men is evil, I didn’t call anyone a “big mean lesbian”. You’re putting words into my mouth. That entire post was about defending sapphic’s right to attraction and expression.

Lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, non cis women and etc can all be oppressed, harassed, hate crimed, rejected by friends/family and other terrible things for their non heteronormative attraction.

Some people are failing to realize these exclusively “one identity spaces" they feel are being threatened don't actually exist in real life. Sure someone can have like, a "nonbinaries only" discord server or a meet up with friends who are all the the same identity. But a majority of queer spaces in real life? They don't have those rules because theres no way to separate queer identities neatly like that- There isn't a need to. You're going to find bisexuals and pansexuals and nonbinaries and trans people and all sorts of other identities at the same lesbian bar, the same sapphic support group, the same circle of friends.

So what exactly are these "spaces" that every other identity has and lesbians supposedly don't? Maybe ask why bisexuals, pansexuals, etc also being in a sapphic space feels so threatening to some in the first place? They have a right to be there as well. We are a community.

A label can be used and defined as whatever the owner of the label is comfortable with! "Lesbian" has always been an umbrella term. It can be a singular identity or it can describe any sapphic experience or it can do lots of things, labels have always been flexible in this way. Someone using the label differently than another person isn't harmful. It's expression.

[iforgotwhatmyuserwas]

Silly blog w some silly art idk dude

Info abt me heh

I'm Someone or Cipher both names are okay ^_^!!! I'm a silly artist who likes to draw what they like when I feel like to :3 (traditional art atm cuz I'm still not prepared for digital art yet :'] )

I'm a 5teen bigender transneutral aroace greyobjectum I go by she/he/chili pronouns !! NO THEY PLZ /neg

I'm a Wendy Testaburger and Herta fictionkin and a selfshipper of both (Herta is queerplatonic and Wendy is platonic :3 and both are nonsharing)

I'M THE #1 HERTA AND WENDY LOVER!!!! GET AWAY IF U LOVE THEM MORE THAN ME 😡😡😡😡😡 /srs

Main fandoms/main things I draw are the followings:

(note that first 5 are what I draw the most)

South park (mostly Wendy Testaburger!!)

Hsr (mostly Herta and THE Herta!!)

My ocs

Sewerslvt/Cynthoni ^_^!!!

Babymetal :D

Happy tree friends (mostly Nutty!!)

Winx club

Total drama (mostly Heather, Izzy and Lindsay)

Forsaken

Mandela catalouge (mostly evelin and sarah!!)

DNI!!! Don't interact in any type of form plz

Bigots (homophobes, transphobes, racists, ableists, misogynists, fatphobes, xenophobes, etc...)

TERFs and SWERFs, transphobic radfems and exclusionists

Pro contact

Harmful paras AND anti paras

Radqueers and harmful transids

Anti recovery

Anti good faith and anti contradictory labels (lesboys, gaybians, turigirls, mspec gays/lesbians, etc...)

Anti xenos, anti emojipronouns and anti neos (especially if u think they ruined the trans community)

Transmeds, truscums and transage mfs

If u think heterophobia, misandry, cisphobia and reverse racism are an actual thing

"Narcissistic" and "borderline" abuse truthers or shit like that (being an abuser is a CHOICE having a disorder isn't)

Darkshippers

Isnotreal supporters /Neutral mfs on the palestinian genocide (U CAN'T BE NEUTRAL ON A MASS GENOCIDE!!!!)

Mfs who define ppl w cluster B disorders "evil"

Mfs who use narcissist, sociopath/psychopath, autistic etc as an insult

Sysmeds

Pro AI art

Dsmp/Qsmp supporters (ppl who separate characters from the people are fine)

Pro-"life" mfs

Hoyoverse dickrider

Rcta as an aesthetic (transrace ppl are okay!!!!)

THIN ICE: Iwec. U have an high chance of being blocked

Hazbin hotel/helluva boss fans

12 and under (u shouldn't even be here bud)

Nsfw accs (u can reblog and like but plz don't follow me/don't comment on my posts)

THOSE genshin fanatics

20+

If u think radfem and terf are the same (congrats!! u fell for terf propaganda!!)

BOUNDARIES AND BYI!!!!

I have autism (diagnosed), ADHD (undiagnosed) and suspected ASPD

My disorders affect the way I act so plz be patient ^_^!!!

I can reclaim the slur fagg@t/fag !!

I might make kys jokes and joke w dark humor (not going too far ofc) plz tell me if it makes u uncomfortable ^_^

I might sound harsh when talking but most of the time I don't mean it :') I'm only intentionally harsher to bigots !!

Tell me the things that make u uncomfortable just in case when interacting in dms !! (mine is realstic eye imagery, music boxes)

I might make down bad jokes but u won't catch me talking about sex explicitally (also plz don't make any sex joke around me even if ur my close friend I'm a minor and really sex repulsed)

I'm a gore enjoyer also (tho hyperrealistic and real gore are a HUGE NO NO!!! )

I have some kind of social anxiety and I might not reply or see notifications due to this!!! Plz be patient -v-

PLZ USE TONE TAGS!!!! i can easily mistake something serious as sarcastic and viceversa

I'm up to debate as long as ur respectful !! :3 Beware tho I have reading comprehension issues so I might misinterpret some stuff plz be patient

Uhhh english isn't my 1st language and i might make some posts in italian (my native language) but probably making another blog about it if i don't end up procasinating yay

And that's it !! Sorry if it took u long to listen me yap but I hope u can enjoy my art !!! It means a lot to me :)

Anyways HERTA!!!!!

REMEMBER TO DO UR DAILY CLICKS.

[curseof-thefold]

PINNED POST FOR INFO AND SHIT

hi, i'm robin, i also go by jude or judie. i'm a 22 y/o from Romania with a Bachelor's Degree in Universal and Comparative Literature, with a minor in English Language, Culture and Literature from the University of Bucharest. i specialised in 20th century american literature, especially horror novels and their adaptations

i don't support censorship of any kind and in any circumstances. i don't believe in immoral art. all art is important and should be preserved. i believe the attitudes in fandom that lead to fights, harrasement and even real world harm, all over the perceived morality of the way some ppl choose to appreciate art is frankly disgusting and i abhor anybody who takes part in such behaviors

i'm a non-binary transneutral person and i use they/he/it/she pronouns. i'm also gray asexual and aromantic, my aromantic identity is very important for me and i talk about it often. i'm not as implicated in discourse as i used to be, but i support trans unity, the use of the term transandrophobia and its iterations (transmisandry, anti-transmasculinity etc), i don't support exclusionism and the presence of radical feminists in queer spaces as i view them as inherently hostile

i'm a feminist and personal pacifist although i believe violence is necessary and sometimes justified in class struggles and in the fight for human rights, i'm just not willing to ever harm another living being outside of self defence. i believe in collaborative effort and civic actions before any drastic action. i don't support people who make a mockery out of activism and treat it like a joke and i'm highly skeptical of people who are more interested in creating community infighting rather than advocate for their communities. i also don't believe in the idea of unique opression, i believe it's impossible for a form of opression to only ever be directed towards some groups and never others. some might call those other groups "collateral damage" but i believe that that it's unfair to the people who deal with those struggles

i reject the idea that the feminist fight is women vs men as it is a reductive, useless and childish understanding of feminism. the actual fight is everyone vs patriarchy, and patriarchy =/= men, but the toxic mysogynistic, sexist, classist, amatocisheteronormative system that hurts everyone regardless of assigned sex, coercively assigned sex or self identified gender

i hold a special place in my heart for the transmasculine community as i used to be part of it. i might be using most regular pronouns online, but irl i use exclusively masculine pronouns and i'm often lumped in with their community. many of their struggles are also mine and the ones i don't share i still intimately understand. that being said i don't allow intercommunity fighting, any trans masc/man who badmouths trans fems/women will be swiftly blocked, this goes for any queer on queer slander

i'm professionally diagnosed with ADHD, severe depression, OCD and BPD, i will not tolerate any villanizing of mental illnesses, regardless of circumstances. yes, this even goes for the other personality disorders from the B Cluster (Narcissistic, Anti-Social and Histrionic), and all the disorders under the Schizofrenia umbrella

DNI/DO NOT INTERACT

please remember that first and foremost DNI lists and respecting them are a courtesy and not a right. they are part of an unwritten set of rules created to help everyone have a safer and more pleasurable internet experience. this code is nowadays either misused or completely disregarded. i value this code and respect it, i ask others to do me the same courtesy

if u read what i explained above you will understand the reasons behind this list, the things i didn't mention above will be explained

minors (i reblog NSFW)

zionists (as a pacifist i obv don't support genocides)

anti-shippers/anti-fiction

exclusionists

pro contact radqueers (not implicated in this discourse so i won't add more)

radfems

ppl against the term transandrophobia

ppl against transunity

ppl who endorse terms like "narcissistic abuse" "bpd abuse" misuse psychopath, generally use mental disorders to describe abuse or abusers that have not been recognized as such by themselves or a medical authority

modern day self described marxists or leninists who don't come from a post-communist country (they have a tendency to be very disrespectful towards the struggles of the ussr and ussr-adjacent countries from the 20th century)

pro-russia, pro-putin (do i have to explain)

pro-censorship

natalists (i find them to be extremely classist and a tad eugenicists as a group)

find me on ao3 if u like bad fanfic

curseofthefold

https://archiveofourown.org/users/curseofthefold

[eva-does-their-best]

You can tell I woke up pissed off. I'm just so tired of all this performative discourse.

They will try to tell you what you can and cannot identify as, what it means and what you experience WITHOUT being you!!!

They will scream their lungs out at a transfem who was afab but do you ever see them care about a cis woman who was amab? Nah. Why? Because all these exclusionists are just "trans exceptionalists".

They want their cute uwu club to remain perfect, they want it to be their own personal friend group, they are sooo sooo special, so obviously they will go full fascist mode the moment anything new to them appears, the moment anything appears that goes against the widdle rules that the cis imposed over trans people, and that these exclusionists happily follow.

They will also imitate terfs and transphobes to a t, with their worry about the purity of someone's transness or cisness, their dumbass worry about intruders to their gender sanctum. Their vileness and separatism. Is it any surprise that so many became radfems and lesbian separatists when they already were practicing fascism? Can anyone really deny their fascist tendencies after the bifobia, aphobia and transandrophobia waves?

And now telling people what kind of opression they face or don't, putting shoehorned theory over personal experience bah. Pathetic. Anyone who tells my bigender friend that fae doesn't experience transmisoginy or transandrophobia the same way any other transfem and transmasc does, anyone who shits on aroallo cishet man Andy, anyone who denies or minimizes the opression sufferes by aces or bisexuals can. go. fuck. a. sea. urchin.

Everyone else, keep being who you are and if you wanna get freaky with your gender and sexuality to piss these people off go ahead, I applaud you.

(This post applies to both perisex and intersex people. I love all of you and you can do whatever you want forever, be whoever you want forever.).

[cardentist]

As a nonbinary/genderfluid biromantic, demiromantic asexual, literally every part of my gender identity and sexuality has been subject to the same "you could EASILY pass as cishet, so can you REALLY say you experience oppression when you could simply CHOOSE not to" and "you're not REALLY oppressed for being XYZ, you're only oppressed when people mistake you as cis fem/trans fem/gay/lesbian/any other identity we think is ACTUALLY important." My existence in online queer spaces has been hounded constantly by people trying to tell me what my lived experiences are and what they mean, shouting me down about how I can't speak about Insert Issue/Topic Here because sure maybe I'm queer (and to some, I don't even have the right to call myself that) but I'm at the bottom of the Who Is Oppressed More Hierarchy, I am only Oppressed in the way that sometimes I experience what they deem to be a different group's oppression. Not even my oppression is my own! I am too much of an "aberration" to find community and a place to speak amongst the general populace, and I'm too privileged to have a voice in the queer community, even about things that affect me.

And now, I'm watching that same rhetoric being used against transmen and transmascs. I remember when people on this site started really exploring queer headcanons for characters, everyone cheering "let's make X character gay! Y character is trans! Z character is a lesbian!" but if you dared to suggest "can Q character be ace?" you'd be met with "... that's boring." I remember how quickly ace exclusion devolved from "aces are boring" to "god, aces are annoying" to "when you think about it, aces aren't even really oppressed, so they aren't queer, so they should just shut up." And then it wasn't just aces, it was bi folks. And then it was enbies too. And now. Here we are.

This is the only site where people will blog about how "Gender is a sandbox! It's fucky! Men can be women, and women can be men! I'm a boygirl kind of girlboy! There are genders and sexualities in all sorts of shrimp colors you can dream of!" but in the same breath, they'll still act weird about he/him lesbians. They'll still claim that ALL masculinity is toxic. They'll still say that men are boring and annoying and-- Oh? You think that's kind of hurtful? You want to use this as an opportunity to talk about your own lived experiences and vent your frustrations courteously and privately on your own blog? Why do you have to make everything about you?! You're lower down the Who Is More Oppressed ladder because, wHeN yOu tHinK aBouT iT, no man can be oppressed for being a man! Even trans men! So you and anybody even vaguely masc aligned should just shut up and stay out of the conversation and let the queers who experience REAL bigotry talk!

... They could at least say something new instead of reusing the same rhetoric they've used for aces and aros and bi/pan folk and enbies and masc/butch lesbians and countless other queer identities.

All that to say, as someone who has been subject to all this for every part of my identity, I stand with you. Trans Unity! Queer Unity!

Context: [Link 1, Link 2]

I know Exactly what you're talking about !

I was around in inclusionist spaces 10 years ago at this point, before I'd fully crystalized what I Had Going On.

I Remember it being pointed out that ace exclusionists were stealing talking points from radfems directly, up to and including ripping off entire posts and just swapping out "trans women" with "asexuals."

I Remember people warning each other that normalizing these kinds of talking points, convincing people that that Mindset is a valid one, would then make it easy to swap out the Target of said mindset.

and it Has happened, over and over and over again. people are Always looking for the marginalized people that nobody wants to stand up for. that people don't understand, that people don't see as Needing support, that people already have negative feelings about even if they don't recognize Why.

it'll only ever stop when people examine the talking points Themselves and throw them out. when people are willing to stand in solidarity with people Regardless of whether they understand them or not.

if someone is trying to convince you that class of people As A Whole are undeserving of support, are lesser than, shouldn't have their voices heard or considered, Question It ! when they hold people up in Comparison to say that their pain is Lesser and therefore doesn't Matter, Question It !!