#i heard about this from a trans woman who said she might have been the woman that the councillor was referring to

[dangerliesbeforeyou]

ok cos i doubt any non-brit is gonna have heard about this, but there's a councillor who's claiming she had small talk about the broken hand dryer with a trans woman in a toilet and told her that she was going to 'wipe her hands (dry) on her penis'... and this was published... in an actual newspaper (if u can even call the daily mail a newspaper lol...) and also written it in a letter about 'safeguarding women' to an mp and like...

at no point does this woman think that maybe mAYBE she misheard this woman cos who the fuck would say they're gonna wipe their hands on their dick, even as a threat (as the councillor believed it was) like ??? terfs please use your fucking brains for once in your goddamn lives challenge jfc lol

[violet-snail-sfw]

The first time I saw a trans woman was in porn. I was pretty young then, in early middle school I think. My first thoughts about trans women only existed in a sexual context, since that was the only place I saw us mentioned

The next time I saw trans people mentioned was a TV show presumably about trans people and transitioning. I didn't watch it, only saw the description because even as a kid I had already internalized the idea that it was taboo and I would get in trouble if my parents walked in and I was watching it

Eventually I saw enough TV and cop shows to see an episode with the dead trans hooker trope. It further reinforced the building idea that trans women were something else, separate from "normal" people and always on the outskirts of society

And then Caitlyn Jenner came out. At my Catholic middle school there were few kind things said about her and plenty of nasty comments, but this was the first time I saw trans people being publicly talked about

In high school my views on trans people started to fracture. On one hand, I was being pushed the idea that gender was about what's in your pants, that if you've got a dick your a man and there's nothing that can be done about it. On the other hand, early high school me had stumbled across some gender change erotica and quickly became obsessed with it. While it wasn't great representation, it was still pretty positive about transitioning. The people in those stories were always happier afterwards

I struggled to reconcile what parts of society were saying about trans people with my daydreaming about what I'd do if I woke up the next morning as a girl. Eventually I decided that it was just a fetish. I just thought it was hot, there was no way I could be trans because I was just a normal person. I wasn't weird or a spectacle for others to gawk at, I was just a person

Around that time I also met a trans person in passing for the first time. One of the trans guys at my high school was in one of the musicals that I went to because some of my friends were also in them. When I was talking to my friends about it after someone mentioned the trans guy and that he was trans. I wasn't really sure what to think so I kinda just didn't think about it. Thinking back, there were a few trans guys at my high school but I don't think there was a single out trans woman

Eventually in college I actually met some trans and nonbinary people. In some classes we introduced ourselves on the first day with names and pronouns which was my first exposure to people using pronouns other than just he/him and she/her. I had a few classes with trans and nonbinary people, including a survey of transgender studies class I took in my last semester. I had plenty of excuses for why I was taking it (I needed a few more credits to graduate. It still had room open. It fit with my other classes. It seemed interesting. I'm trying to be a good ally.)

Around this time as well I found some trans creators online like ContraPoints and Philosophy Tube (whom I had watched before she came out as trans). I was weirdly excited and interested when Odyssey Eurobeat came out as trans and I went to go listen to some of her music right after I heard. I was starting to have examples of trans people just being people. Not just porn stars or public spectacles, but people

Later I met and befriended a few trans women, one of whom was extremely open about her transness and happened to share a video which started the initial steps of my egg cracking and figuring out who I am now

If I had actually known any trans women, if the world had been kinder to trans people, if representation of trans women as people existed and was well known, I might have been able to realize who I was sooner. I would have been able to exist as myself for more than a tiny fragment of my life so far

Representation matters, both in media and in daily life. Trans people being out and open about who they are made it possible for me to realize that about myself. Please never stop being who you are

[krvrawr]

‘ Little ’ Accident In Meeting Room, Oops !

König x Trans Male! Reader

A / N ; this fic is so long istg, it took me days to write but still have it 🫵 and again reader is pre - everything cause it gives me gender euphoria as a pre-T guy 💕 — 4️⃣

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IN SMUT ; afab anatomy (for reader), public space (meeting room), handjob (lil bit) , riding , pwp , piv and cockwarming .

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DO NOT INTERACT WITH THIS ONE IF U R A CIS WOMAN, FEM ALIGNED, SHE/HER AND SHE/THEY ETC.

( see our other works, pls. if u dont dni, u r getting blocked. on sight. pls have it stated somewhere in bio, pinned that u r not one fem aligned. )

You had to go to a meeting, but you arrived late and there were no more seats available in the meeting room, which didn't surprise you. When you saw König sigh and pat his lap instructing you to sit there, you felt like your invisible tail was wagging happily. After the meeting is done and the room empty, you try to stand up, but you feel his hand grabbing your thigh, stopping you from getting up.

“Bitte (Please)...don't stand up, I have a...problem" He mutters as you feel something poking you. “What problem?” You asked him slightly confused, feeling something poking you but unsure what it is.

“I...um... have what you noticed, a boner” He slightly blushed and looked away as he almost whispered the last part. When you heard him say that, an imaginary light bulb immediately appeared on your head as you realised that's why you felt something poking you. You looked at him, “Now?” a question could be heard in your voice. “Well, yes... it happens around you." His blush appeared more as he avoided eye contact. You looked at him with surprised face as those words left your colonel's mouth, “I make you horny?” you said in surprised tone. "Nein (No), you don't make me horny. It's just... you're very attractive and I have a strong reaction to that." He cleared his throat, trying to sound less flustered. “Really?” Your eyes widen as you look at his eyes, who are looking away.

"Ja (Yes), really." His eyes look at you now, taking a deep breath as his heart races. “What do you like about me?” You asked him curious, titling your head a bit. "Well, your beauty... your eyes, they captivate me. And your confidence, it's quite alluring. Plus, you're quite skilled in... these matters." He blushed again, clearly not used to discussing such things. You raised an eyebrow, “What matters?” you asked him innocently, well knowing what he was referring to but you wanted to hear him say it.

He gulped, “You know, intimate matters. I think you're quite experienced and skilled in those." his cheeks flushed even deeper as he stutters through his answer. “What makes you think that?” You questioned him as you looked into his eyes. "Well, you're not shy about expressing your desires and taking the lead... and you seem quite knowledgeable about what you're doing." He cleared his throat again explaining, trying to focus on something else besides his arousal. You softly hummed in response as you turned around on his lap, him facing you and not your back anymore. “And you want my help?” You asked him with raised eyebrow as your hands went on his shoulders. "Ja, if you're willing to help me. I... I've never been with someone like you, and I think it could be... enlightening." He swallowed hard, his heart pounding against his chest as he anticipates what might happen next. ”Someone like me would mean?” You asked him slightly confused at that, you gazed into his eyes with neutral expression. "You're... you're confident, experienced, and quite skilled in these matters. And you're a trans guy." He shifted slightly in his seat, his hands gripping the armrests tightly as his arousal became increasingly apparent. You felt his shifting as you looked at him, your eyebrows narrowing a bit, “What does me being a trans guy have to do with that?” you questioned him in light stern tone.

“Well, it's not common knowledge and it shows that you're comfortable with your body and what you enjoy. That can be quite.. alluring.” He glanced down at their laps, his face flushed with a mix of embarrassment and desire. I looked at him, my heart fluttering as I heard him speaking. “So, would you be willing to help me?” He asked, his voice barely above a whisper as he looked at you with pleading eyes. “Yeah big boy.” You replied to him smiling as your hands, unbutton and unzip his pants. “Oh, Gott (God)...” He groaned softly as he felt your hands working on his pants, his breath hitched in anticipation as you pulled down his pants along aside with his boxers. Revealing his hard throbbing cock leaked pre-cum, my hand slowly stroked his cock. “Oh, fuck” He gasped, arching his back slightly as he let out a soft moan of pleasure. His hips begin to grind against your hand subconsciously, seeking more contact. “Such a needy boy.” I told him as my thumb went over his tip. “Scheiße (Fuck)..” He whimpered, his head falling back against the seat as he lost himself in pleasure. His cock throbbed harder in your grasp, leaking more pre-cum as you gently and teasingly went over his tip, smiling as at the sight. You felt yourself getting wetter as your other hand went to rub your cunt through pants. “Bitte more” He begged, his voice shaky, his hips still moving against your hand, his need for release growing stronger. You hummed slowly as your hand left his cock and went to unbutton and unzip your pants, “Are you going to..?” He trailed off as his voice cracks, his eyes followed your every movement.

“Just don't worry.” You said to him as you kissed his neck under his sniper hood, making him sigh softly. You pulled down your pants along with boxers onto the floor, revealing your wet cunt and you kissed his neck more. Your hand led his cock to your cunt, you grinded your cunt against his tip, “Scheiße you're so wet” He gasped, his body shuddering at you grind against him. His cock twitched, desperate to penetrate the warmth it finds, “I know and it's all for you.” You exclaimed, detaching your lips from his neck to kiss his cheek through his sniper hood as you grinded more on his cocks tip. “Then bitte take me inside you” He murmured, his hips bucking forward slightly as he tries to push his cock into your wetness. His eyes are half-closed, lost in the moment, “Be patient big boy” you cooed at him. “And don't buck your hips to be inside of me, okay?” You ordered him as you grinded your cunt more on his cocks tip. “Just please..” He whimpered, his voice trembling with need as he tried to control his hips, doing his best to follow your instructions. Sweat beads along his forehead as he struggled to keep himself under control. “You will get my cunt, don't worry” You smiled at him, reassuring him, “I can feel you getting tighter” he gasped. His body shivered with anticipation, his cock throbbed against your folds and desperate for entry. Slight tears begin to form in the corners of his eyes as he tries to hold back his moans, you kept teasing him with grinding as your cunt was getting more wet.

“Bitte, I can't take it anymore” He whimpered, his hips giving a jerking motion as he tried to force himself into your warmth. His fingers dig into the chair beneath him, leaving tiny indents in the fabric, “Uh uh” You said as you moved your cunt away from his tip. “What did I say? No jerking your hips up.” You reminded him, “Do it one more time and you won't be inside of my cunt, understood?” You looked at him straight in the eyes, “Ja, I understand” He grunted in frustration, forcing himself to stay still as you grinded your cunt against his cocks tip once more. His entire body trembled with anticipation, his muscles tense from the effort of holding back, you kissed his cheek as you smiled at him lovingly. “More.. I can't take it anymore” He groaned, his voice strained as he felt the intense pleasure building up inside him, his cock throbbed harder against your tight folds, desperate for release. You slowly slid onto his cock, gasping at his size inside of you, “Remember no bucking your hips up.” You reminded him again, looking at him, “Ja, I remember.” His voice shakes slightly, his eyes squeezed shut as he tries to maintain control, his hands clenching into fists at his sides, knuckles white from the effort not to move. “Good boy” You praised him as you tried to take most of him in you, and after some time you slid all the way down on him and cockwarmed him. “Fuck, you feel so good” He whispered, his body shuddering as he feels you completely enveloping him, his cock throbbed inside you and left no room for doubt that he's fully aroused. You kissed him through his mask as you continued to cockwarm him, he panted as he felt blush appearing on his cheeks from the small action.

“You're so big inside of me.” You panted as you pulled away and looked at him. “You're incredible” He said in almost a whisper voice as his hands finally found their way to your hips, holding you gently but firmly as he tried to maintain control. “You too, you're such a good boy for not moving up and letting me cockwarm you” You told him, smiling as you took his hand and slid it under your shirt letting him touch your tit, “How do you feel doing this with a trans guy?”. “I don't care” He managed between breaths, his heart racing while his fingers brushed against your sensitive nipple. Which sent shivers down your spine and let out a moan as he focused on feeling you up, “You're all that matters to me right now. You enjoy this, don't you?” He asked you, his voice thick with desire, his fingers moved to trace circles around your other nipple and teased it gently, “I can tell you do.”. “I do.” You smirked as you started to move your hips, “Oh fuck” He groaned, his mouth opening slightly as he felt you ride him, his breathing became labored and his cock pulsing slightly within you, “I want you so bad.”. Your hips moved on him more faster as your hands grabbed onto his shoulders to keep yourself stable, “Bitte!” he whimpered, his voice almost pleading. His fingers dig into your hips, urging you to move faster as his cock throbbed in time with your hips, “Fuck you feel so good.”. “Please what?” You asked him, slowing down, “Please don't stop” he panted, his body trembled slightly from the sensations you're providing, his cock twitched, ready to erupt inside you, “Im close, I need you to keep going.”

You started to go faster, moving more against him as you held his shoulders more firmly, “Oh Scheiße, ja!” he cried out, his body tensing up as his cock throbs harder against your tight walls, desperate for release, “I'm gonna cum”. “Ohhh cum for me big boy” You said to him as you went faster and deeper on his cock, “Unh, unh..” he groaned, his back arching as he felt the familiar tingling sensation spreading through his body. His cock twitched, ready to shoot his load, you kissed his neck under his sniper hood, making somewhat hickeys as you grinded your body more faster and roughly against his cock. “Scheiße, I'm cumming” He muttered, his cock jerking violently inside of you, he let out a high pitched moan as his seed spurted out, painting your walls with his release, “Fuck, you did that to me.”. You moaned as you felt him cumming in you, you sat all the way down on his cock, releasing all over his cock and cockwarming him. “Fuck, you're so tight” He panted as his hips jerked up slightly against yours, his cock twitched a bit more, still partially hard inside you, “Did you cum too?”. “Yeah” You breathed out, “You did such a good job big boy” You praised him as you kissed his cheek while still cockwarming him, he relaxed into your embrace, his cock slowly softening inside of you, “It's only fair..”. You hummed in response, laying your head on his shoulder, resting a bit, “We should probably clean up.” he said, voice somewhat muffled by his sniper hoodie, he gently pushes you off him, his cock slipping out of you with a soft squelch, “Yeah, probably should.” you agreed with him.

[coochiequeens]

A young female student was violently beaten by a trans-identified male in the hallway of an Oregon public school.

The shocking incident occurred at Hazelbrook Middle School in the Tigard Tualatin School District, which is right outside of Portland, Oregon.

The brutal beatdown captured on video shows the trans-identified student, a biological male, throwing multiple blows to the female student's head after he violently grabbed her hair, yanked her back and forth, then knocked her down flat in the school hallway.

As the girl lay on the ground, he viscously grabbed her by the hair, dragging the girl across the ground before violently assaulting her further.

"I didn't do anything! I didn't do anything!" the victim can be heard pleading to the trans attacker, according to the video.

"Touch me again, b-tch," the trans student threatened before walking away.

The female student stands up and walks over to the person filming the incident in tears and says, "I can't breathe."

The victim's mother posted about her daughter's "horrific" attack on social media, demanding answers from the school and threatening legal action against the trans attacker.

"Yesterday my daughter was attacked at school by a biological male student dressed as a girl. I cannot even put into words my anger at the situation after watching this horrific video nor my distraught knowing I can't do anything because I will ultimately, end up in jail. To the school- Where were the supervisors? Why wasn't anyone present in the hallways? I don't want excuses, I want answers. Of course, the coward that he is fled after putting hands on her," the mother said.

"HIS name is, [omitted] and as of right now the police cannot find him. We WILL be pressing charges. I want everyone to see this video. I want everyone to share this video. Assaulting someone is never ok BUT a boy/man should NEVER lay hands on a girl/woman and that's on the parents for not raising a decent human being. Clearly, [omitted] isn't a human of good values or morals," she continued.

"In fact, he doesn't seem like a good human being at all. He is known for being a bully and has done this to several girls. He is clearly, targeting females. [Omitted], if you see this just know we are coming for you and we will not stop until you are punished in the court of law to the furthest extent. You will NOT get away with this," the mother said.

The Tualatin Police Department said on X that they are aware of the incident but "because it involves juveniles, we are unable to comment further."

After video of the incident began to circulate on social media, Hazelbrook Middle School made their X account private.

It's unclear what led up to the attack but many have speculated that it might have been planned given that the incident was captured on video. It was later revealed that the trans-identified student has a history of violence against other female students.

A second video emerged on Thursday showing the trans-identified male brutally beat two other female students in a separate attack.

"This was certainly planned given multiple people were filming. All involved should be suspended and he should be charged with assault as a male," said Riley Gaines, a women's rights activist who uploaded a video of the incident to X.

The debate against allowing trans-identified males to invade female-only spaces has been a hot topic across the United States over the past few years. Supporters of the transgender policies say that they "save trans kids' lives," while critics say that allowing men into women's bathrooms and changing rooms is a safety concern.

Parents across the country have taken this issue up at school board meetings, expressing concerns about the potential of sexual assault which occurred in Louden County, Virginia, when two female students were raped by a male pretending to be a female in the girl's bathroom.

Ben Edtl, a parent of a student at Hazelbrook Middle School, sent photos to The Post Millennial that show LGBTQ propaganda and indoctrination occurring inside the school. 

[moondal514]

🪳 for sv perhaps? 👀 and any other AUs u really like!

bug me for fic recs

Thanks for the ask <3. I’ll be honest, it is hard for me to know what counts as an au for SV given the nature of canon and Shen Yuan’s unreliable narration is such that practically anything can plausibly be canon 😂, but I did my best and I hope you enjoy these

🪳 Recommend a great AU!

Celestial Afterglow by elanor_pam/ @elanorpam

Shang Qinghua, also known as Airplane Shooting Towards the Sky, stared flatly at what had once been a field boasting near sect-level Feng Shui alignment, and the drowned, bloated remains of the Sun and Moon Dew Flower cuttings that had sprouted within it. Their plan was now quite literally a wash.

If only he could consult Cucumber Bro on how to save Cucumber Bro! But in the absence of Cucumber Bro, he could but rely on the one plot coupon the infamous Peerless Cucumber had ever applauded.

Canon-divergence au. Um…I’ll be honest idk how to describe this fic, it’s wildly ridiculous but in a way that’s incredibly fitting for the entire vibe of SV and it made me laugh so hard I literally cried

walk through walls into your heart by kitschlet

Fifteen years ago, definitely cishet man Shen Yuan transmigrated into Shen Qingqiu, the female villain of reverse harem novel Proud Immortal Demon Way, and never looked back. Now happily lesbian-married, Shen Qingqiu gets caught in a PIDW plot that makes her actually confront what she wants from her gender and her relationship.

Bingqiu genderbend au. Wherein a wifeplot forces Shen Yuan to contend with the trans implications of the fact that she loves being a woman and it’s a very fun time

demons don't write what they know by ataratah/ @ataratah

As a demoness, Liu Mingyan doesn’t have a lot of first-hand experience with romance. This wouldn’t be a problem if she weren’t in the process of composing a romantic epic for the ages. Luckily, local human gremlin Sha Hualing is here to help.

Purely for the sake of good writing, of course.

Human-demon role-reversal au. Lovely fic about Liu Mingyan’s journey to becoming a published writer (which of course features practice kissing with Sha Hualing, very necessary)

cover me with your green mantle by lavenderandrue/ @lavender-and-rue

There’s a legend about this place. Shen Yuan has heard it a hundred times, a thousand, in different permutations depending on the teller. In some versions, a demon lord with horns and fangs and glowing red eyes roams the wilds, stealing pretty young women from their beds for some nefarious purpose. In others, a powerful fae prince leads the Wild Hunt on moonless nights; those who hear the baying of their hounds may be tempted to join them, never to be seen again. Still others tell of a local man stolen by the fae many years ago for his famed beauty, who is still occasionally spotted leading lost souls out of the forest.

Whoever he is, Shen Yuan thinks he must be lonely.

Ballad of Tam Lin au. This fic is a great example of that lovely flavor of BinggeYuan where Shen Yuan is just so bamboozled by Bing-ge that he ignores all the concerning shit about him and sets about domesticating him and it works and is massively entertaining to read

In Blissful Rush Did Meet by Asymptotical

In a slightly different situation, Tianlang-jun would have been thrilled to play the part of the pregnant lover doted on by the stoic noble that knocked them up.

It's less fun while he thinks the doting might not happen.

TianXi fix-it via mpreg au. Wherein Tianlang-jun being the one to get pregnant instead of Su Xiyan prevents them from falling into the Old Palace Master’s trap

Primal Urges by stranglerfig

A mortal illness infects Cang Qiong Mountain Sect. Pandemonium ensues.

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“We are cultivators,” Mu Qingfang pronounced gravely, “we are not ruled by our primal urges.”

“But shizun,” said one of his beta disciples, his voice nasally with wax plugs up his nose, cotton mask over his mouth. “Liu shibo has stolen the whole peak’s clean linens!”

Omegaverse au. Prob one of the few gen omegaverse au’s in existence 😂 but it’s so funny and so good

[boreal-sea]

hiii so english isn't my first language and i'm learning more about gender and trans stuff and if i might be trans or something (i've been told i sound agender?? but that feels wrong), and something that confuses me, so i'm asking around abt it… "woman" used to simply denote afab, right? like a body type of ppl with a biological (not surgical) vagina & estrogen puberty. like a female dog. ppl say that it reduces women to their genitals, but what about with other animals? like female cat, female horse, etc, just bc we say "oh she's a girl" or "oh i have a male dog" doesn't mean we're saying they're only their genitals in that case, right…? a bitch is just a female dog, that's why it's a misogynistic word. misogyny is based on how ppl see someone without a penis as lesser, bc they don't have the power to forcibly penetrate and feel genital pleasure for it, they can't impregnate, they're "just a hole" etc. like so much of misogyny is just body-specific. the misogyny transfems experience seems terrible but also conditional? bc if they're found out to be amab they're treated as creepy men, so they then stop experiencing misogyny, they just face usually homophobia. meanwhile bio women (and transmascs who don't transition) have no exit door to the misogyny unless they transition and pass perfectly as male or something, and historically that wasn't an option. to me man & woman have always been neutral body types until i came across trans stuff, and i think the idea of gendered brains sounds sexist af. like gender seems like bullshit, i see me being a woman as just like being a female cat, i don't have ~womanly~ vibes in my brain, i was just born female and that's the least important thing about me, but male society made it weird. why should gender continue to be a thing? what does gender actually mean, if sexism was to be eradicated? is it bad if i view my womanhood as just a body type? most cis people i've talked to view their "gender" like this, as just a body type, like any other animal. they don't "feel" like one, they just have the body and aren't dysphoric about it. they might not always like it, but they don't have dysphoria about it, so they just… are. is that transphobic? i've heard mixed thoughts about it from trans ppl & activists, i'm just curious. feel free to ignore this lol ;;

If the term woman does not feel right for you, but your body being female feels fine, that's ok!! There are many genders that are not man or woman: agender, gender neutral, and nonbinary are options. You could also just say "I do not have a gender, please just use female". That's ok to use for yourself. However, most people do not like to be called "female" or "male" in English. It is considered dehumanizing to call someone male or female if they are a person, because as you said, it treats them like an animal. So we just don't do it.

In English, "woman" is a gender. "Woman" is not attached to the female sex. If a person identifies as a woman, then she is a woman, even if she is not female. We usually say "cis woman" for a woman who was assigned female at birth (afab), and "trans woman" for a woman who was assigned male at birth (amab). We do not say "biologically female".

For example, I am afab, but I am not a woman. I am a trans man, and I am nonbinary. Meanwhile my friend from college, she IS a woman, even though she is amab. She is a trans woman.

As for misogyny: what you described as misogyny is actually sexism. Sexism is based on sex, misogyny is based on gender. They are separate.

Trans women experience both misogyny and sexism, and it is not "conditional". A trans woman does not stop experiencing misogyny if she is discovered to be a trans woman. That is not how this works. She will continue to face misogyny, and it will be misogyny mixed with transphobia against trans women. This is called transmisogyny.

"Being treated like creepy men" is a major part of transmisogyny. It is hatred towards trans women. When a trans woman is called a "creepy man", she is being misgendered (which is transphobia) and treated like a sexual deviant even though she is not. She is experiencing this misogyny because she is a trans woman. If you hate a person for being a woman, that is misogyny.

We don't say "bio women". What you mean is a "cis woman". Yes, cis women also experience misogyny, and they cannot escape it - but neither can trans women.

"Man" and "Woman" are not body types, they are genders. When you say "body type", you are meaning someone's sex, but body types can be changed. A trans woman can have a vagina and breasts, just like a cis woman. A trans man can have a penis and a flat chest, just like a cis man. There are surgeries for all of this, and hormones trans people can take to change their sex from male to female, or from female to male.

There is currently mixed science about the idea of gendered brains. You can find scientific research that supports the idea brains have gender, and you can find scientific research that supports the idea that brains do NOT have gender. Right now, no one knows. But it is not something we get to have an opinion about, it is something science must learn.

The idea of gender is a social construct, just like sex. The idea of man and woman was invented by society. I agree that it is bullshit to assign qualities to man and woman. Women do not have to be nice, men do not have to be aggressive. These are called gender roles, and they are indeed bad. Trans people agree that gender roles are bad, and we are loudly yelling that no one should have to act a certain way just because they are a man or a woman. I want to free gender from gender roles, so genders do not have assigned roles, and so anyone can do anything they want.

If we got rid of sexism, that would be great, but that would not make genders disappear. There would still be people who identify with "woman" or "man" - it would be their own personal feeling of what that means to them. Maybe you do not have "womanly" feelings inside your head, but maybe someone else does! It is not your right to tell her she cannot be a woman.

Many people have very strong feelings about their gender. It is ok if you do not, and it is ok if you don't understand people who like their gender! But you have to let other people live freely. If a cis woman wants to be a woman, let her. If a trans woman wants to be a woman, let her.

A cis woman fits the body she has. She doesn't have to think about her body or her sex or her gender - she may never think about it at all!! Her body doesn't give her a big feeling. It is boring. She may say "I am a woman, and I have a body that was assigned female at birth, and I have breasts and a vagina and a uterus, and all of that feels correct to me". That is what it means to "feel like a woman" for a woman who is cisgender - it doesn't feel like much!! It's not a big feeling, it's just "Yeah, all of this matches, and I don't have to think about it".

Meanwhile, a trans man might say "I was told I am a woman, but that does not sound right to me. I have a body with breasts and a vagina and a uterus, and that feels wrong, too. I do not fit this body, and I am not a woman." That can be dysphoria, and that is how some trans people feel. Many trans people think about their body and their sex and their gender a lot because those things do not match, so it causes discomfort all the time.

Imagine you go buy a pair of shoes at the store. You put them on, and they fit perfectly. You go home, and wear the shoes every day. You probably do not think about your shoes all day long; you probably don't even feel them on your feet. You don't notice your shoes at all, because they fit right and are comfortable. They do what they need to do; they are boring.

When a cis woman says she doesn't feel much about her body, that means her body fits like a good pair of shoes.

Now imagine you are given a pair of shoes, and they do not fit right. They are too tight, but you are told you have to wear them anyway. All day long, your feet hurt. Your toes are being pinched and the shoes are giving you blisters all over your feet. You think about your shoes and how much they make your feet hurt all day long, because you cannot stop thinking about them. The pain is still there even when you get home and take the shoes off. And you dread that tomorrow, you have to put those bad shoes back on and walk around, again and again.

That is how gender and the body can feel for a trans person. It is constantly on their mind, it is something they pay attention to all the time because it does not fit right.

[magicrainbowkitties]

I might be biased because I'm transmasc and it's somewhat The Goal for me to "look like a man," but it's high time we put a stop to "you look like a man" as an insult towards women. Not just trans women, but cis women too. Most often I hear/see it used by women against other women, usually some gender crit weirdos with an unhealthy obsession with other people's genitalia, and I find it imperative that we wrest any and all power away from such creepy, horrible people. And so, here's my dissection of the phrase.

First of all, masculine-presenting women exist. Some are so masc-presenting that they do in fact get gendered as men in everyday speech, to dismay or pleasure depending on the woman you're dealing with. But. What exactly does spitting "you look like a man" at her do? Congratulations, you have eyes and understand that this woman is gender-nonconforming. What now, asshole? All you've done is either state the obvious or said some bullshit she's heard a billion times before.

Second, some women are simply born with features we collectively decided are "masculine" traits. I know plenty of tall, muscular cis women. I've met cis women with facial hair, with big hands, with broad shoulders. How in the fuck do these features and more suddenly disqualify them from womanhood? And to tell such a woman she "looks like a man" is to join in a chorus of bullying she's been experiencing for a long fuckin time (and in many cases, since she was a child) over something she literally has no control over. But it wouldn't help if she just "decided" to be a man, would it, because now they don't know what they want and need to learn to "accept her womanhood," even though you never did when they said they were.

But this leans into my third point, which gets at the core of the problem:

Why is "looking like a man" a bad thing?

Outside of trans people and misgendering, I mean. Because that's just a weapon for getting at a specific aspect of that type of womanhood. However, when it's said to a trans woman, or a cis woman with traditionally masculine traits, it's usually "you ARE a man." Not "you LOOK LIKE a man."

And the only conclusion I can draw, from both my experience and others, is that this is just a long, drawn out way to call people ugly. Because often in these terfy circles, you will find some of the most vile, disgusting things said about men and their bodies. I mean... They get gross about trans women, sure, but remember... They think trans women ARE men. Monster creepy men with horrible delusions, sure, but still men. And then they discuss cis men as if they're all either sex pests, monsters, or weak-willed idiots with no place in the world.

Now I will not discount the fact that many gender crits/terfs are recruited after severe trauma of several stripes inflicted by men, and that men are encouraged in our society to treat women as objects and tools rather than thinking people with their own needs and feelings, thus causing a feedback loop of neglect and abuse that leaves everyone miserable. Not to mention, most people saying shit like "not all men" when you're talking about women's issues probably don't actually care, they just want you to stop talking.

All of this is true. HOWEVER. It comes to a point where you stop criticizing specific men for their behavior, or society at large for making men that do awful things, and you start mocking men for their appearances, disabilities, weight, body parts, ect. That's just not ok.

To anyone who's been told you "look like a man" to make you feel small and horrible:

You are not ugly. Features that society has decided are grossly masculine are not ugly. Being a feminine person with masculine features does not mean you have failed to perform femininity.

You are gorgeous.

And don't let someone that believes looking like a man is the worst thing one could possibly do tell you otherwise.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for being mad at my best friend for crushing on this girl?

I know the title sounds bad, but hear me out. Also, this happened two years ago, but I just remembered it and idk how to feel about the way I felt back then.

So, my best friend at the time will be called D (then 17F) is a trans girl and I am nonbinary. She was already out at the time and I was not.

There was this girl in our grade, who I’ll call L. L had some political views that reminded me of radfems and transmeds. L was also a lesbian. L was very heavily transphobic against nonbinary people and she heavily defended the gender binary as much as she could, like all the time. She made fun of nonbinary people a lot and it hurt me a lot, because in the previous year (before she was open about those views), she and I almost became friends and I had had a crush on her.

When she showed that transphobic side of hers, my feelings disappeared quickly because I was very hurt by that. Obviously, L didn’t know that I’m nonbinary but it still hurt.

D and I at first were both very against all the things L was saying, but over time D and L ended up sitting together in art class. While I got to sit alone (for context: I hate sitting alone in art class because it was one of the only classes where I had friends (aka D) and i already had to sit alone in most other subjects and I was very lonely). I got pretty jealous of D spending time with L while I was alone.

I want to point out that D chose of her own free will to sit next to L, the teacher did not make her do that.

I however felt bad about being jealous, so i didn’t say anything to D except that I was unhappy to sit alone in general, but I don’t think she understood what I meant.

Eventually, I heard from D that L had talked bad about nonbinary people again (she apparently called us stupid and confused). But D also said that L had defended D against some people who were misgendering her. I wasn’t surprised by that bc L viewed D as a “real trans person”. On that note, L also said at one point that she supported trans people, but nonbinary people don’t count as trans to her.

D brought this up to me and seemed to agree with L and I was so shocked by that that I didn’t know what to say.

Eventually, D confessed to me that she had a crush on L and might even be falling in love. I tried to be a good friend to D and tried to support her externally, but internally I felt really hurt that D would feel like that about L when L indirectly insulted me all the time. Obviously; L wasn’t attacking me personally, but it still felt shitty as hell. But I also know that D can’t control her feelings. In the time that D was crushing on L, she changed quite a bit. One time she even misgendered me in the comment section of my own post and called my by my deadname in a private text convo between us even tho she knows that I hate that.

Eventually, that topic of “super straights” appeared on tiktok and L defended that a lot and was very vocal and supportive about how trans women and cis women are not the same and vice versa with trans men. And how no straight cis man would ever want to be with a trans woman and stuff like that. D was active on tiktok at the time too, on the other side of that argument obviously. This cause D to distance herself from L and she seemed comfortable from me. I did try to comfort her, but internally I couldn’t help but be happy that she finally stopped liking L and I admittedly also wasn’t surprised by L having those views and I didn’t really feel bad that D had to learn of that side of L like that.

So AITA? I think I should’ve been more sensible of D’s feelings, but she also wasn’t very sensible of mine, so idk

What are these acronyms?

[overleftdown]

hi :3 so ik you've said farleigh probably leans into his visible queerness as a way to take control of the way in which hes othered, which leads me to a question. how dyou think his journey of realizing hes queer wouldve gone? like what wouldve been his awakening, is he fully cis, how dyou think hed describe his own queerness if asked? i wanna know your thoughts :0

HEADCANONS HEADCANONS HEADCANONS YIPEE. this post is, obviously, mostly conjecture and extrospection.

archie's audition material was a character having a phone conversation with his mother. in this phone call, the character is describing different sexual encounters with men specifically. assuming this applies to farleigh as a character (considering farleigh is queer and emerald believed this monologue piece was a good reference for an actor for farleigh), i think that queerness is a casual subject between farleigh and frederica.

HOWEVER, queerness is then boiled down to sex. when elspeth is very obnoxiously discussing queerness, she's also referring to queer sex. what we can infer from this movie is that the cattons tend to condense intimacy into sex without any genuine emotion. they have emotions and experience emotional relationships, but they're sort of shrouded in small talk, gossip, transactional dynamics, and other forms of avoidance. this is why oliver's use of genuine emotional vulnerability was so impactful with the cattons.

so, we sort of have this condensed version of queerness in which we view it as exclusively sexual. this adheres to straightness as well. when felix is talking about farleigh's sexcapades with teachers, he uses terminology that would imply these are specifically male/male dynamics. this further complicates farleigh's queerness. his attraction to men is not only perceived as strictly sexual but is also now seen as deviant. a possible parallel to this would be how the cattons see venetia's sexuality. a queer person and a woman, their inability to escape rampant sexualization.

i can see farleigh having the traditional "oh shit, i like men" realization, and all the discomfort and stress that comes with it. i also think that it would be valid to imagine that farleigh just... didn't say anything about it. like, clearly the cattons and his parents knew or found out that oh shit, he likes men. but if queerness is to be strictly a sexual or experimental endeavor, then why have any serious conversation about it at all? archie says that his parents doted on him in a way, but at the same time, they were neglectful. when he wasn't left to his own devices, he was being dragged along to dinner parties with overly mature conversation. all of this leads me to infer that maybe farleigh learned to see his own queerness as a casual affair. homophobia exists and he would've felt and heard that prejudice throughout his life, which might've resulted in an internalized feeling of... perversion?

as for gender identity, i think farleigh would have a slightly ambiguous approach. maybe nothing that people would consider trans, but definitely a less-traditional gender expression. with farleigh's mom being the only real connection he has to the world he's currently existing in, i think he might feel a need to emulate her in some way. i can picture farleigh sneaking into her room to try on her lipstick, perfumes, bath robes, high heels. you feel me? archie described frederica as someone who was probably a model in the past, who reflected the same eccentric style and glam as the rest of the cattons. i can sort of see her being like an older venetia. farleigh, as a queer person, might see femininity as both armor and a tool. in the same way that farleigh seems to treat the other ways in which he is different, i think he would amplify the showstopping "exotic" uniqueness of his queerness while hiding how it truly effects his identity.

i think farleigh's expression of his queerness is similar to everything else he does; "toeing the line," while still indulgent. his relationship with authority figures (teachers) is one of those things that seems like an unhealthy result of internalized homophobia and poor self-esteem in regard to sexuality. not to mention the power dynamic. he's in a position of lesser privilege within most english upper-class academic spaces. i'm getting off track.

i don't know what else to say since all of this is, again, conjecture. take all of this as you will, finn.

[cosmiccoincidence]

on that last post, prev and prev prev mentioned in the tags that while op was right, it’s also kind of an anglocentric thing.

which made me think of my mom’s friend.

She’s from Turkey, english is her second language. When she learned english, she literally learned ‘dude’ as a gender neutral term of address. She calls anyone dude if she’s trying to be friendly.

little old ladies who stop to chat at the supermaket? dude. cashiers asking about her day? dude. neighbor out walking his dog? dude. me, a person she is 100% certain is a woman? dude.

and she’s not doing it to be subversive, or to make men and women more equal or whatever reasons people who have english as a first language might. she does it because she heard other people around her doing it and thought, okay. this is a non-formal term of address in english, and people use it when they’re being Friendly. I’m a friendly person, I want to make friends, I’m going to call people dude a lot. (not her Exact words on it, but this is the gist of it)

this worked out pretty good for her. she’s a very sweet person, so she makes friends with people pretty easy. if anyone ever found her calling them dude off-putting, they must have kept quiet. through roughly 26 years of living here no one said a word.

Up until she went to a drag show on her birthday. She was wearing a little ‘birthday girl’ necklace and such, so when one of the queens was canvassing the crowd asking them how they were enjoying the show ect ect, she asked her how old she was now. She said “46, dude! :D” and the queen was like. “did you just call me a dude? sweetheart that’s not very nice. i’m all woman”

and the whole venue laughed. my mom’s friend was absolutely Mortified.

now, i’m not saying the queen was wrong here. she can and should correct people misgendering her. 100%. especially in front of so many people, you check that shit.

but later as she’s telling the story to me and my mom, it’s not just that she was feeling bad because she got laughed at by 100 people for not getting her english quite right, its that she wasn’t trying to be rude and had basically No Idea that saying it might offend. she was like “dude isn’t for girls? have i been making women uncomfortable this Whole Time???”

and it was like. maybe. a lot of women don’t really care these days. more trans woman do than don’t though, because many people do see it as gendered, but it stings less for cis woman to be lumped in with men.

but how was she supposed to know that if she could spend a quarter century in an english speaking country and manage to have it never get brought up?

[via-rant]

Obrumbratio Scintillae

Chapter 5 -

Leo stormed out of the tent, Nico following close behind.

"Leo, what's wrong?"

"We're watching our leader turn against us, that's what!"

"They hurt you. You passed out. He's protecting us."

" 'Protecting us'?! What?! Like Agnus?!" Leo yelled and Nico glared. Agnus is a guy they trusted. They became friends and he used them, framed them for drug use.

"That's different." Nico said, sounding like he was going to cry.

"Oh, it's different! It's always different!" Leo yelled and Nico glared harder. He didn't know what that meant but he could tell he heard it a lot. Maybe he said it a lot. And he did. He's trusted over and over and over and they all ended up with him heartbroken. And he had that same feeling with Luke now. He's not ignoring it again.

"We can. Trust him." Leo had smoke coming from his arms but neither noticed.

"No! You can trust him! How am I supposed to trust a guy who used kids?! Percy deserved it but other ones?!"

"He saved my life! He just saved yours!"

"He probably only did it because he felt like he needed to!"

"He's been taking care of us!"

"Just like everyone else here! You think we're special?!"

"Woah woah woah boys!" Faith said running to them. She didn't hear anything they said except the last few sentences. And she saw the smoke coming from Leo. His arms, legs, hair. She heard commotion over here with swords and came over as fast as she could when she heard them arguing. She took a breath.

"Nico? Why don't you go see Luke? I need to talk with Leo." Nico stormed off to the tent wiping his tears and kicking rocks on the way. Faith looked back at Leo and sat in front of him.

"What?" He asked holding back tears. She pat the spot in front of her and he rolled his eyes but did what she said in an angrier way, knees to his chest, picking at the grass next to him.

"What's wrong?"

"Nothing."

"Bullshit."

"Nothing!" He yelled and she sat quietly in concern. She waited until he was calmed down just a bit. The smoke clearing with each piece of grass he ripped out of the ground.

"You know I'd never hurt you. Right? You can talk to me." She said and it was a few seconds before Leo sighed.

"I met dad." He said and Faiths eyes widened.

"Oh! When?"

"In my dream." She smiled.

"Was I right?" And he laughed.

"Yeah you were right. It's 'Hephy'." He used finger quotes and frowned, wiping his tears and she frowned with him. She debated asking about the smoke but decided against it. Focus on helping him relax.

"What happened?"

"He watched. My entire life he watched and did nothing." He hugged his legs tighter. "And now Luke is leaving and you guys saw the smoke and I might have just ruined mine and Nicos friendship."

"No. No. You guys had an arguement. That happens sometimes. Friends have arguements. You just need to apologize and make up for it." She assured and he wiped his tears. Then she thought about the other things.

"And the smoke?"

"I... I don't have any control over it. If I get too worked up about anything it just comes out and I hate it. I always end up hurting someone."

"So you just... don't use it?"

"What if I lose control again?"

"Leo, it's better to use it more. The more you use it, the more practice you have with it. Learn to control it so you don't hurt the good people when you do use it."

"How?"

"I don't have any experience with powers but I can try."

"Maybe look in your archives and books. Boring, boring books."

"You read books."

"Fantasy books, ma'am. With action and adventure. Not text books." He said and she rolled her eyes with a smile. Especially at ma'am. Being Trans was really hard here. People respected her but only when they knew it was her. Anyone who didn't know her just immediately thought she was a guy. Short hair (all the woman had to cut their hair short due to the lack of supplies they had) taller, more muscular than a woman. She didn't have any satisfaction of any HRT or surgeries due to her family kicking her out as soon as she said those words, so her voice sounded "manly" too. When she told Luke he gave her immense support and loved her very much. She cried that night.

She shook her head knowing she was getting off topic. Then thought about Luke. About what Leo said about him.

"One more thing Leo." She asked and he

"What do you mean by Luke is leaving?" He told her what happened since he woke up and she stared in heartbreak. "I'll uh... I'll talk to him and we can come up with something." She said when he finished explaining.

"But, for now, why don't you go to bed? It's late and we're all tired. We'll talk in the morning okay?" She asked and he nodded before hugging her. Which surprised her. He didn't let anyone else but Nico touch him unless they needed to. He trusted her. She smiled and hugged back. They lasted for about a minute before he left for bed and she walked to the tent.

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Nico went back to the tent trying to calm himself down but the tears just kept coming. He closed his eyes and imagined he was with Bianca. Maybe at a beach.

"Nico?" Luke asked in concern. No. He was with Luke. "What happened?" He asked and Nico hugged him for comfort. He did that a lot. Luke or Leo or Faith whoever is closest to him. He just asks for comfort and they gladly give it to him. Luke hugged back and started rubbing his head.

"Me and Leo had a fight."

"About what?"

"He doesn't trust you. I just don't get it. You saved us. And you're trying to protect us, why doesn't he get that?!" He started shaking and his breathing was getting faster and he couldn't stop crying.

"Nico? Nico, it's okay. I'm right here. Breathe. In... and out. In... and out." He followed his instructions and was sitting next to him, leaning his head on his arm in a few minutes. He was too small to reach his shoulder. Kronos groaned in his head and mumbled cursesat Luke.

"Nico, he doesn't have to trust me. He can do whatever he wants."

"I know I just..."

"You want us to be friends?"

"Yeah..." Luke loved how sweet he was. No matter what shit the others said about them they always proved them wrong. Another reason to leave.

"Nico, you can't change peoples minds about some things. You can't force him to trust me. And honestly I don't blame him. I wouldn't if I learned someone I loved hurt other people before. What stops them from doing it again? Besides when I go back to Camp they'll probably kick my butt. And guess what? I deserve it. Immensly." He said sadly and looked at Percy. Nico was half asleep on him. He had a long day today with the worrying and the arguing and the panic attack. So Luke took this time to talk to Percy.

"I'm really sorry. I don't think I can convince you guys to trust me again, I just... I want you to know that I..."

Don't say it.

"I was... wrong." Percy was about to say something when someone walked into the tent and they looked over. Faith looked at Luke with a weird expression. She looked hurt.

"We need to talk."

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I know you guys have been waiting I am working on it don't worry!! Also yes, Faith is Trans! We don't have enough Trans girls and I want to show my appreciation for them! They're all gorgeous and smart and funny and I love you all!! Here you guys go!!

@moa-broke-me @yonemurishiroku @pjo-hoo-toa-freakazoid @potatoman-taterdude @the-demigod-slytherclaw @im-always-lost-in-a-book @stillcarmine @art-randomness @cryptic-ember

[crossdreamers]

Not all women menstruate. This is a fact. So why do women have to be defined by it?

Sara Rose Gibbs has published a very interesting thread over at Twitter on how she, as a non-menstruating cis woman was attacked by transphobes for daring to say the obvious: Not all women menstruate.

She writes:

I’ll never forget the first time I accidentally waded into a discussion on trans issues. It was a few years ago, I hadn’t really encountered the transphobic crowd before. Someone posted complaining about the term “people who menstruate” to describe, well, people who menstruate. 

The poster wanted to call them WOMEN. Embarrassingly, I knew very little about trans identities. So I wasn’t thinking about trans men or non-binary folks who might still have periods when I said I didn’t understand the problem with the term.

Not all women menstruate

I was thinking of myself - a cis woman who’s infertile. I thought it was both logical & inclusive to say “people who menstruate” because not all women do - & it can be very painful when people assume things about your reproductive system when it simply doesn’t work.

What followed completely shocked me. Suddenly my mentions were full of people screaming at me - awful things designed to cause maximum hurt. They called me a handmaiden, told me I was erasing women. One woman told me I was “divorced from my womanhood”.

Learning about transgender exclusion

So I looked into why they were saying these things. And that’s when I started to follow trans folks on here, watch trans YouTubers, start reading articles etc. I felt embarrassed that I hadn’t known what the discussion was about but also the bullying had been so intense, full on, cruel & personal that it left me in tears for days. And I’m a Jewish person on the internet. I thought I’d heard it all. I felt instinctively that it was important to defend whoever those nasty bullies were targeting. 

So trans people didn’t galvanise me into action, not initially. It was the transphobes. I may not have known anything about gender identity or transitioning - but I sure as fuck knew bullying when I saw it. And I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels that way. 

Follow up to thread

Just a follow up as this gained a lot more traction than I thought! The purpose wasn’t to centre myself (and I’m so so sorry if I came off that way) just to illustrate how the bullying mentality of that horrible movement is creating more trans allies than enemies.

Bit more context because it’s relevant - I think this was specifically in regards to some sort of workplace initiative for accommodations for people who menstruate. My point was if that survey had just gone out to women, that could have been distressing to people like me  as opposed to telling people that if you menstruate and want to feed back via this survey thing (if I’m remembering right) you can opt in, rather than have salt rubbed in the wound if it doesn’t apply to you or being left out if it does but you’re not a woman. Seems thoughtful.

Full thread here.

On how transphobes invalidate cis women

Note the way nearly all transphobes, to the right or to the left, insists on reducing a woman’s identity to bodily functions. This was the way traditionalists kept women under control in the 19th and 20th century. Women were nurturing life-givers, for sure, but they were also emotionally unstable, intellectually weak and unfit for positions of power, all because of their bodies. 

For some 200 years feminists have tried to get out of this body trap and show how women are the equals of men in any part of life.  But now, because of irrational transphobia, there are even women who try to reduce the worth of women to a fully functioning uterus, all in attempt to keep trans women out.  We see that this narrative also invalidates many cis women. This is truly sad.

Illustration by marzacz.

[drbased]

'The Collective Giving Up' of Feminism

Part 1.

I've heard of radfems complain that feminism is 'couple's therapy for straight women' and in the middle of a huge rant last night a lot of things clicked into place for me: we're currently in the middle of a mass exodus from feminism. The hope of the first wave may have been primarily political, but from the second-wave onwards the focus has been on the personal, the psychological, the emotional. The desire to improve society, or improve men, has had an undercurrent of 'if we can do this, then men and women can finally live together in harmony. We just have to hope that men are merely ignorant of our suffering, and once they are made Aware, once they realise that recognition of women's humanity will not crumble society they will begrudgingly pick up the mop and bucket, a small smile forming on their faces.'

But as time has gone on, as women have gained even more rights and freedom, men have responded with increasing levels of ridiculousness. Not only that, but average man seems to be crummier than ever; he doesn't keep himself well-groomed, he's not skilled in the art of a trade, he can't do DIY, he doesn't want to court you with fine dining and lavish gifts - he expects your relationship to be 'equal' without doing an equal share of the work. You're still a hyper-feminine angel, he's more basic than ever. The romance books of stoic hunky protectors were all a blatant lie.

After this most recent wave of male backlash (gamergate, trumpism), the response has been by the majority of women to simply... give up on feminism entirely. We will never re-habilitate men, so what's the point in all of it?

So, let's go through the different responses of the 'Collective Giving Up':

Mainstream Feminism: Mainstream feminism has effectively re-branded. Now, its primary goal is not real feminist action, but a last sliver of hope that if we de-fang feminism enough, then men might calm down. But this is not for any long-term strategy; it's the equivalent of a woman talking softly and backing down when her abusive husband has a tantrum. Its other, more insidious goal has been to 're-educate' women who wish to use feminism as a liberation tool - a way of soothing angry women by ensuring them that they don't have to do anything or care about women (including themselves) to be feminist - and that's the most feminist thing of all! Especially because it means you get to keep buying things - isn't capitalism great!? But most importantly, mainstream feminist women are incredibly embarrassed and scared of their chosen position; feminism has been put on a spotlight for the past decade, and with men constantly laughing at sexist air conditioners and mansplaining, these scared women, with no social structures to turn to to ensure them that their criticisms are right, have been put on the back foot. Made incredibly insecure and fearful for the few freedoms we have, feminists have back-pedalled.

Trans-activism: Trans-activism has been the final nail in the coffin, a perfect excuse to backpedal without having to deal with cognitive dissonence; if 'gender' is the problem, then you never have to have that stupid air-conditioner argument ever again. phew.

BDSM acceptance: I've said before about what BDSM offers women, and I will try my best to sum it up here. BDSM offers the following to women: 1. recontextualisation of rape and abuse under a symbolic framework, where a new narrative can be reconstructed that it's mutually enjoyed and a demonstration of man's natural, animalistic desire; 2. a simplicity whereby the woman never has to worry if she wanted sex, or wanted to orgasm, or is even attracted to her partner, because she essentially exists in a storybook setting where both partners play pre-destined roles; 3. a situation where the man seems to be willing to reciprocate sexually the way she's always wanted him to - he will dress well, curate an atmosphere, show her full-blooded sexual desire, focus on her orgasm, buy her toys, surprise her etc.; 4. In the case of female domination/pegging, it means she finally gets a semblance of equality through supposed 'role-reversal' and she gets to feel safe from sexual violence whilst never questioning why penetration and submissiveness seem to be inexoriably linked. In other words, BDSM allows an illusion of mutuality, allowing women to believe that male sexual violence was never a problem all along, and if they just roll with it, then all will be well.

Porn/'sex work' acceptance: I originally put this together with BDSM acceptance, because both of them posit the same fundamental idea: that male sexual violence was never a problem all along, and that if women just roll with it, then all will be well. Porn/'sex work' in particular have a particular nasty undertone because they fit neatly into the madonna/whore framework. Modern feminism, dripping with postmodernism, wants to believe that 1. we can successfully remove the stigma and connotations from certain things and 2. that doing so fixes the problem of those things. Supporting porn and 'sex work' allows the typically more privilged feminist to pay lipservice to breaking down the madonna/whore framework whilst simultaneously indulging in it, safe in the knowledge that she's the one who's not participating in those professions and experiencing the horrors that come with them. To really illustrate the point, the fact that viewing porn is considered to not 'count' as cheating, demonstrates the essential dehumanisation of the people involved. But ultimately, all this is window-dressing for the real reason porn has been accepted: men have not only continued to watch porn but they have escalated it - so if you want to secure your chance at a relationship, you have to give up on feminism.

Femininity acceptance: this one is also pretty obvious, but I also want to draw attention to the fact that whilst femininity rituals have gone up, male grooming has gone down. Men don't wear suits regularly in public anymore. There has been a recent growth in some men participating in certain appearance-based self-harming such as cosmetic surgery, but overall the scales couldn't be any more tipped. In many ways this is part of the collective apology - the extra energy put in by the abused women to prove that she was never in any danger of leaving him.

[angie-daydreams]

My opinion on labels

I don't think labels are really necessary, I don't understand why we should put everything a name and divide people in different groups. At the end of the day we are all humans.

When I was a little girl, in biology class they taught us about reproduction. I thought that two women could have a baby together and I didn't doubt my reasoning. Each person can like whoever and if a woman and a man can have a baby, why wouldn't two women be able to have it? It was obvious that I didn't know a thing about the human body, but even though no one had mentioned same sex relationships to me, I saw them like something normal.

This changed when I learned the word 'gay', that was included in my vocabulary some time after that. The first time I heard it was one time my mom said it. She was talking with her friend about the crowd of a concert they had gone to. When I asked her what 'gay' meant, she told me that a gay person was a boy with female friends and I accepted that definition. But if being gay isn't bad or shameful, why hide the meaning from me? Why didn't she tell me that a gay person is a man that feels attracted to other men?

I forgot the word completely until I heard it from my friends. The thing was that they had the correct definition and I did not, so when I shared proudly with them the meaning I had for the word 'gay', everyone looked at me as if I was mad. But the one who gave me the worst glance was my friend, who was the only boy in a group entirely made up of girls. And I didn't understand (nor in that moment, nor nowadays) why my mother hadn't told me what 'gay' was.

Later, I started to learn about other labels (trans, lesbian, bisexual...) each of them more and more specific and even though, at first, I didn't understand what 'trans' meant, my mother did explain it. It might have been because I was older, I don't know. I don't understand why parents don't explain these labels to their kids when they are little (at the end of the day they are part of our daily life), as if they are scared their kids would turn gay because they know what it means or would change their gender because they know the definition of 'trans'.

But, in my opinion, this labels aren't necessary. There isn't a name for people who like dogs or a name for people who hate ice cream. Why put labels depending who we love or if we feel sexual or romantic attraction? I think it only creates hate, diferentiates people and makes the LGBT+ community look as something strange when we are just people. We should all be capable of being ourselves without caring of what others think or understand about it.

Sorry if this is a little messy or not clear, I tried my best. It also might be that I'm not really sure about my sexual orientation haha

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We are having Jazz Au thoughts today

let's settle with some timeline, for everyone's sanity lol

this one is discussed with @lilspacewolfie as well!

in this weird universe every jazz club would have their own painted singers. so whoever's walking around with a painted face they must be a renowned club owner or singers. the musicians are all masked to their own style of mask/club. the more elaborate their masks and face paint, the more popular / expensive / important they are. The setting is around 70s-80s era ( i mix them up anyway, you can fit them in whichever era that you like be in 20s-30s or so, im basing mine from noir films possibly )

Copia for the sake of this story being linear is a MtF.

The main Plot : Terzo falling in love with Secondo's new singer. Secondo is wary, thinking that Terzo is going to swoop Copia away from his club only to find out Copia was reciprocating Terzo's feelings.

Copia is taller than Terzo, about a foot or so. Terzo's head rests perfectly around Copia's booba's height ( this is important because i say so)

here comes a series of What Ifs : i like this one because you can literally just choose which one you vibe to.

Secondo met Copia while he was walking behind a diner, he heard Copia sang and he looked for who the owner of that voice could be? fastforwardd he found out its Copia who's washing the dishes at the back of some restaurant/diner what have you. He offered Copia a job, a new and better job thatwouldl pay much better. Copia also told him about her situation, to which Secondo helps her by hooking her up with a surgeon that agrees to gave her top surgeries and other gender conforming surgeries. ''I'll make a star out of you.'' and he really did. Over time Secondo grows affectionate of her, and Copia enjoys his soft gestures of love because he makes her feel like a woman. - Which leads to currently where Terzo comes to the picture.

2. Terzo knows Copia before the transition takes place. The two of them had been together for a long time. After a while Terzo introduces Copia to Secondo. ''Brother didnt you said you wanted a singer?'' he said. ''I want a woman'' Secondo bantered back. ''She is'' Terzo replied. - This brings back to the part where Secondo sponsors Copia with the surgeries. This part of the story shows Terzo taking care of Copia, him watching Copia going through all the changes, being supportive of her and they ended up where they are now.

Copia works in Secondo's club as their inhouse singer together with the band. But what you said, didn't Copia had a baby? as per an anon asking about it?

The baby's name is Dante ( Dante evolved from Plushia from another AU) but yes anons calls the baby Plushia. also i just imagine the baby is just soft and cute so Copia nicknames his Plushia.

lets go through where did the baby comes from first: 1. The baby was from a previous marriage. Copia was wed with someone else and after telling the wife that he is trans, they are divorced and Copia gets the baby (surprisingly, he was sure he couldnt get it but fate favours him) 2. The baby was from his late sister who might have died , so he decided to take the baby as his own.

Does Secondo / Terzo knows about the baby?

Secondo : Going with the first What If , Secondo getting to know Copia more will learn about the baby. He sometimes does came over to take care of the baby as well (copia being surprised how good he is with babies). The moment Secondo learns that his brother is taking interest with Copia, he intentionally brings up the fact that Copia has a son just to see his reaction. Would he be serious about Copia? or was it just a fling? He's glad that Terzo decided to take it seriously.

Terzo :

Terzo taking care of the baby since before the transition as if it was their own after all.

Terzo learning about the baby after he came home with Copia one night. He is surprised but he ends up growing fond of the child. He would try to help Copia as much as he can with the baby, as if they've been living together.

Lets talk about the Ghouls a bit

The ghouls has no elemental powers in this au, however theyre not exactly human either. They are definitely creatures from a different place that shares the same space as the humans. Often known for their musical abilities and superhuman strengths, which makes them useful and handy.

Each club has their own set of ghouls that either stayed or come and go. Most of the time they do stayed to one club/premises. They wore masks that they dont take off unless by the owners of the place, their boss basically.

oh there are ghouls fight clubs btw, Ghoul Fights are often done in the basement of the clubs (diff clubs each week or so). These are just places where people come to bet on their fav ghoul to fight, also earning the club to earn some extra cash. The winning ghouls also gets a bit of their share as well.

Ghouls are mostly active when the sun sets and will rest when the sun rises. You dont see them in the morning. Nobody really knows where they rest/live.

thats all for now! Im sure in the future I will add more so this post will definitely be updated from time to time.

[curieklei]

hiii so english isn't my first language and i'm learning more about gender and trans stuff and if i might be trans or something (i've been told i sound agender?? but that feels wrong), and something that confuses me, so i'm asking around abt it… "woman" used to simply denote afab, right? like a body type of ppl with a biological (not surgical) vagina & estrogen puberty. like a female dog. ppl say that it reduces women to their genitals, but what about with other animals? like female cat, female horse, etc, just bc we say "oh she's a girl" or "oh i have a male dog" doesn't mean we're saying they're only their genitals in that case, right…? a bitch is just a female dog, that's why it's a misogynistic word. misogyny is based on how ppl see someone without a penis as lesser, bc they don't have the power to forcibly penetrate and feel genital pleasure for it, they can't impregnate, they're "just a hole" etc. like so much of misogyny is just body-specific. the misogyny transfems experience seems terrible but also conditional? bc if they're found out to be amab they're treated as creepy men, so they then stop experiencing misogyny, they just face usually homophobia. meanwhile bio women (and transmascs who don't transition) have no exit door to the misogyny unless they transition and pass perfectly as male or something, and historically that wasn't an option. to me man & woman have always been neutral body types until i came across trans stuff, and i think the idea of gendered brains sounds sexist af. like gender seems like bullshit, i see me being a woman as just like being a female cat, i don't have ~womanly~ vibes in my brain, i was just born female and that's the least important thing about me, but male society made it weird. why should gender continue to be a thing? what does gender actually mean, if sexism was to be eradicated? is it bad if i view my womanhood as just a body type? most cis people i've talked to view their "gender" like this, as just a body type, like any other animal. they don't "feel" like one, they just have the body and aren't dysphoric about it. they might not always like it, but they don't have dysphoria about it, so they just… are. is that transphobic? i've heard mixed thoughts about it from trans ppl & activists, i'm just curious. feel free to ignore this lol ;;

Edit: A person in the replies has informed me that those may be are terf talking points disguised as questions to avoid suspicion so take this anon with a grain of salt. I'm keeping this post just in case anon is genuinely curious or something.

From what I see, reducing the societal importance of biological sex is indeed what's slowly happening, but it's definitely not in the same stage everywhere. It takes years for a person to unlearn something they were told their whole life, it takes generations for biological sex to lose importance.

I'll go over your questions:

Why should gender continue to be a thing?

I think you meant biological sex here. It's important to keep a little bit of it for medical purposes. Also imo it's possible for a culture to give it importance without ending up with a system that makes people feel awful sometimes.

What does gender actually mean, if sexism is to be eradicated?

I guess it'll just be a trait of a person in a similar way skin color is a trait of someone's body but like, with way more dimensions. It's kinda hard to put rules around this. Maybe it's just an answer to the question "What am I?".

Is it bad I view my womanhood as just a body type?

Lol do what you want it's your womanhood, your body and your you. There's nothing bad here and you're free to decide for yourself.

Is [not feeling much gender about your body] transphobic?

Doesn't feel transphobic to me, but anyone reading this is free to give their own take on this and the rest of what you said.

Idk what else to say so thanks for the ask and have a safe self discovery journey! Feel free to dm me or send another ask if you want to talk or me to add something to this.