#men issues

[bitchfitch]

I need to draw men being obnoxious to their partners and getting In The Way right now immediately.

[thereiscode]

[tslauracena]

It's weekend who's down for some naughty fun 🥵💦💧🍆🍑👅💋🔞

[bishy437]

oh, please don’t go!

i’ll eat you up i love you so!

[watmalik]

THE SPECTACULAR SPIDER-MEN (2024) #6

They should be boyfriends?

[hamoodmood]

[skyyb0und]

“Cherik is canon” i say into the microphone. the crowd boos. i sigh and begin to walk off stage. "they’re right" a voice says, i turn and there he is. James McAvoy.

[trans-androgyne]

“Women and non-binary people” stop. Do you mean people with marginalized genders? Do you mean gender-oppressed people? Then say that. Stop refusing to recognize the very much gendered oppression of other trans people. There’s not some chasm of difference between how our oppressors treat a very masc non-binary person and a more binary trans man. I’m also non-binary and very much oppressed for my gender but because I’m transmasculine I could never feel comfortable in a space that marketed itself like that. Tell me what the real harm is of letting gender-oppressed mascs into spaces discussing gender oppression is. Because the consequence of not doing so is denying them space for their experiences just because of their gender identity. Do better.

[disgracefulthings]

Shen Qingqiu, handing Yue Qingyuan a baby: Hold this

Yue Qingyuan: Of course, Xiao-Jiu. Who is this?

Shen Qingqiu: This is Shen Yuan, our child. I gave birth to him. You will take responsibility

Yue Qingyuan: Of course. I will make preparations for our wedding ASAP

Shen Qingqiu: Good.

Qi Qingqi: I don't remember Shen Qingqiu being pregnant?

Mu Qingfang: I believe that our shixiong just grabbed some random orphan to baby trap Yue Qingyuan with

[genderqueerdykes]

now more than ever it's blatantly obvious that people go out of their way to erase trans men from communities and queer history. it's always been happening, but it's way easier to watch it in real time now thanks to the internet and social media. we are watching people basically gloating that they misgender trans men and don't see them as men. we are now watching people kick trans men out of queer spaces because they are often "femme and them" or "nonbinary and woman" support groups, conflating nonbinary identities with womanhood, and denying trans men or transmasc nonbinary people places to go. many of them get told that their presence would "scare" the lesbians, women and enbies because they have trauma.

where do the trans men with trauma go, though? we can't go anywhere. when i was struggling with domestic violence that ended up destroying my right leg, i was denied shelter in queer spaces and even women's spaces even though i have F on license. domestic violence shelters especially will turn trans men away if we pass. even if we partially identify as women, we can't go in because 'our voices are deep and scary and we're loud and aggressive and threatening and might prey on the defenseless scared women'

finding transmasc support groups is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. i've seen numerous organizations across the US have transfemme support groups, nonbinary/genderqueer support groups, and then nothing for transmascs. where the hell do we go when they won't let us go anywhere?

we try to exist online and they try to erase us from here, too. bickering and arguing about how we're not real men, sending trans men death and sexual assault threats, acting like they're saviors for kicking out the "dangerous ugly men" from the queer community, as if we don't belong to it at all.

i refuse to be erased. i refuse to sit in silence while people tell me my problems don't matter because now i "have male privilege". I don't. once people find out what my legal name is they view me as a woman. strangers however view me as a cis man and will deny me help, either through programs, or because i'm a "strong young man, i should be able to pick myself up by my boot straps." i'm not white. i'm not abled.

i'm proud to be a trans man and i will be here to fight for other trans men's rights to have a platform to speak, and spaces to occupy. i will not rest until trans men & mascs have safe places to be and meet other trans men.

trans men are queer. we belong here. we are taking up the space we rightfully deserve and we are not leaving.

[b-skvll]

[girlfromhvn]

how i need him suit n all ~

[hamoodmood]

[greatsnakestintin]

why he sit like that.

[trans-androgyne]

Something left out of conversations about trans oppression is that times change quickly and the way trans men and trans women are treated today is very different than how they were treated 100, 50, or even 20 years ago.

Maybe 50 years ago a trans woman could practically never get a legal job or housing if people knew they were trans, but today there are plenty of trans women who hold down jobs and homes just fine. As much as conservatives are trying to change this, they can no longer be legally arrested for wearing women's clothing either. And in 1950 maybe trans men and mascs were out of the public eye besides the occasional freakshows and shocking newspaper articles but by now we're heavily fearmongered about by conservatives in a way that genuinely influences policy and trans rights. When the book coining transmisogyny was written in 2007 claiming transmascs were never ridiculed for their masculinity, there was practically no representation of transmascs in media whether positive or negative, and that is very much no longer the case now in 2024 where there are books and documentaries calling us delusional little autistic girls.

Knowing trans history is important, but if you only ever evaluate trans community dynamics through the experiences of historical trans people, your transfeminism will forever be outdated.

[ladylylla]

okay logurt nation… y’all got me