#mono-normativity

[polyamzeal]

do u have any advice on how to deal with and work through internalised monogamy-standards and like related jealousy and selfesteem issues? i also take recs for literature or something if it's too much.

thanks, i appreciate ya <3

I did a small polyam book recommendation list recently.

Unlearning internalized behaviors and beliefs is always hard and never happens overnight. It takes time and even long after you will slip up from time to time. Have patience and be gentle with yourself.

I honestly don't know if it works for everyone so take with a lot of salt. But to me a lot of mono-normativity and jealousy stems from toxic competition. The inverse of this is constructive cooperation. For example if a partner shows an interest in someone else you might feel like that person will 'steal' away your partner but instead try thinking about how that person might be a fun person to work together with to plan a gift for your partner. Or even from a more parallel sense maybe that person would be interested in going with your partner to that event that you really didn't want to go anyways. Look for ways to realize that a potential "enemy" could actually be a helpful ally that you can get along with.

[trasho-pando2011]

I feel like I'm doing way too many whiteboards but I'm just making a lot cuz some asshole keeps ruining them

anyway, I made a new whiteboard, dm me if u wanna join

[autuboho]

"Humans are not inherently polygamous, it's a learned behavior, not a biological imperative. Cheating is a choice, not a natural instinct know this and know peace."

If that’s not amatonormative or a shade of it then I don’t know what is.

[onemashedbraincell]

since apparently it’s Valentine’s Day, system appreciation post!

You’re valid if you’re endogenic

2. You’re valid if you’re traumagenic.

3. You’re valid if you’re mixed origins. 4. You’re valid if you don’t know or care about your system origins. 5. You’re valid if you are a median. 6. You’re valid if you are polyfragmented. 7. You’re valid if you’re mostly blurry. 8. You’re valid if your parts are clear and distinct. 9. You’re valid if you don’t experience co-consciousness. 10. You’re valid if you experience co-consciousness. 11. You’re valid if you experience co-fronting. 12. You’re valid if you don’t experience co-fronting. 13. You’re valid if you hate being a system. 14. You’re valid if you love being a system. 15. You’re valid if you don’t know how to feel about being a system. 16. You’re valid if your trauma doesn’t fit the ‘typical norm’ or expected experience. 17. You’re valid if you have factives/fictives/fucktives/songtives, etc 18. You’re valid if you have hundreds of thousands of headmates. 19. You’re valid if you only have a few headmates. 20. You’re valid if you are looking for final fusion. 21. You’re valid if you are looking for functional multiplicity. 22. You’re valid if you’re a tulpa. 23. You’re valid if you’re an introject who doesn’t want to be like their source. 24. You’re valid if you’re an Introject who does want to be like their source. 25. You’re valid if your system isn’t very active. 26. You’re valid if your system is extremely active. 27. You’re valid if you have a core. 28. You’re valid if you don’t have a core. 29. You’re valid if you have a host. 30. You’re valid if you’re hostless. 31. You’re valid if you have a headspace. 32. You’re valid if you don’t have a headspace. 33. You’re valid if you have a relationship with another headmate. 34. You’re valid if you’re a bodily minor OR adult system. 35. You’re valid if you don’t like some/all of your headmates. 36. You’re valid if you love all your headmates. 37. You’re valid if you’re a disordered system. 38. You’re valid if you’re a non-disordered system. 39. You’re valid if you’re introject heavy. 40. You’re valid if you’re brain-made heavy. 41. You’re valid if you’re non-human heavy. 42. You’re valid if you’re covert. 43. You’re valid if you’re overt. 45. You’re valid if you’re an age regressor. 46. You’re valid if you’re a pet regressor. 47. You’re valid if you don’t identify with the body. 48. You’re valid if you do identify with the body. 49. You’re valid for feeling angry about those who hurt you. 50. You’re valid if you have a lot of control over your system. 51. You’re valid if you experience little to no control over your system. 52. You’re valid if your system structure is complex. 54. You’re valid if your system structure is simple. 55. You’re valid if you’re mono conscious. 56. You’re valid if you’re biconscious or triconscious. 57. You’re valid no matter your conscious term. 58. You’re valid if you want labels about your experiences. 59. You’re valid if you don’t want labels for your experiences. 60. You’re valid for having source trauma. 61. You’re valid for not having source trauma. 62. You’re valid for having alters split due to other alters either negatively or positively. 63. You are valid if you split for no reason, or a reason you can’t identify. 64. You’re valid for being different from the norm. 65. It’s okay to be wrong about your identity. Even if you aren’t plural, it’s what fit you at the time. Identity shifts. We’re always learning about ourselves. You made a mistake is all, you’re not a monster for making a mistake.

I could go on and on for days, but I think you get the jist.

YOU ARE VALID. NO MATTER YOUR EXPERIENCE. YOUR EXPERIENCES ARE REAL. YOU DONT NEED TO FIT INTO THE CONFINED BOX OF REQUIREMENTS TO BE CONSIDERED PLURAL.

Happy Valentines Days, everyone. <3

[lovethisfatcryptid]

I love you polyamory. I love you relationship anarchy. I love you queer platonic relationships. I love you relationships that can't be defined by any known relationship structure. I love you relationships outside of hetero-mono-normativity.

[alpaca-clouds]

Romance in Fantasy Worlds. Or: WHYYY?!

Lazy Worldbuild Rant Number 2: Why the actual fuck do all fantasy worlds and almost all cultures in them copy-paste most attitudes towards sex and romance from the real world?

Don't get me wrong. I kinda know why. Because a) nobody IRL questions it, and b) nobody really wants to question it. So even those few fantasy authors that do realize that the mono- and heteronormative attitude humans these days have towards sex are not "natural" (in as far anything a human does ever can be, obviously), they would rather not challenge it. Besides, most fantasy books tend to be based in this romanticized idea of what the European middle ages looked like - obviously focusing on nobles or at least special people, rather than peasants.

But by all the gods, it irks me so much. Especially as mono- and heteronormativity also always imply some version of patriarchy existing in the world. After all, matriarchal societies tend to not have mononormativity, and are also way less likely to be heteronormative.

As some who have read me talk about this before know: I am irked by the drow worldbuilding in DnD a lot, but the one thing I will give that stuff credit for is, that it realized that in this matriarchal culture mono-hetero-normativity does not make any sense whatsoever and hence did away with it.

But really, though, there would be so many interesting ways to explore romance and sexuality in fantasy books.

Have a culture, in which romance is very strictly seperated from sex. Like, romance only exists for rasing kids, but it is basically assumed that those kids will always result from casual things outside of that bound, and people are superstitious if a heterosexual couple would actually conceive the kids together. It taints the kids, they say!

Have a culture in which romance really does not exist as a concept and everyone just does it with everyone with the kids just growing up in their village, where every adult will care for every child. The concept of "mother" and "father" does not exist. (This was fairly common for early humans, from all we know.)

Have a culture in which men and women live apart, only coming together for sexual encounters once in a full moon. Children will be raised by the women until a certain age, when the boys go live with the men.

Heck, have a culture in which the general belief is, that men and women should not touch one another, outside of specific rituals for conception. Outside of this homoromanticism is normalized, but heteroromanticism is seen as scandalous.

Recently I get fairly annoying especially when it comes to fantasy worlds of sort, that are basically stone age societies, meaning mainly hunter-gatherers. There is little evidence to suggest that hunter-gatherers do the entire "monogamous marriage" thing, outside of maybe a few exceptions. And yet, out of the couple of stone age or quasi stone age settings I know, most of them do monogamy at the very least, if not heteronormativity as well.

I mean, come on now. Read some actual anthropology people.

And that is without going into the fact that once we get to other fantasy species - or even scifi stuff - it is so boring to mainly get species that do two genders all the time.

*sighs* *looks at his Ursula K. LeGuin collection* Oh, Ursula, why were you the one who understood this? And why is everyone else struggling with it so much? Q-Q

[not-terezi-pyrope]

Progressives when people around them are complying with monogamous romantic norms: "All bodies are beautiful ☺️ Nobody should be discriminated against for who or how they love ☺️ Rights for minorities ☺️ Fat liberation ☺️"

Progressives (and everyone else) when they're reminded polyamorous people exist: "Fatty! Smelly stinky fatty! Weird! Weird clothes! Bad makeup! Board games (nerd!). You're ugly. You're ugly and nobody normal would love you which is why I don't have to care that you're getting more love and affection than me. Did I mention that you're fat? Also you're probably a liberal"

Like, we get it, you're insecure, but that doesn't actually mean you're allowed to insult and stigmatise people (and uncritically invoke other bigotries!) to feel better just because you think your mono friends will let you get away with it. The leftism really does leave people's bodies I swear.

This is the number one way I hear monogamous people talk about polyamory, even in leftist and queer spaces. Can assure you that there are multiple posts to this affect being gleefully passed around lgbtq tumblr circles right now.

[starscatteredsky]

Fallen angelkin tips please?

tips for a fallen angel

pt: tips for a fallen angel end pt

wear a blanket or towel over your shoulders to feel like your wings

do dark, demonic, broken, or angelic makeup looks

dress in silvers and blacks, or other colours that reminds you of your angelself

learn about angel numbers, and if any reflect yourself

if you have/had an angelic symbol, maybe practice drawing it inverted/upside down/ backwards, or another way that reflects your fall

allow yourself to rebel against rules or societal norms you deem unjust

perhaps make a halo as gear! you could paint it black, crack it, or otherwise augment it to reflect your fall

use dark/morbid/‘gothic’/angelic/etc themed neopronouns!

hope these help!! - mono

[tagedeszorns]

This video really shows how I would feel if I'm standing next to the major WH40K characters like a Marine for example

I'm a short Asian young woman and I'm considered short even though it's the standard average height

I just think short people would feel so small in WH40K

As a german/dutch who inherited none of the "TALL!"-genes of both these people I can relate to the guy in this video.

In 40k shorter people are the norm - the nutrition-situation isn't that great and health and safety are not main priorities. So about 99% of the Galaxy's human population is average sized, because they are workers on agri-worlds (agri-worlds are the Imperium's bread baskets and they are horrible mono-culture places where nothing grows except one kind of grain, genetically engineered to withstand all pesticides. It's Monsanto-hell. Why they are not using insects for protein, is beyond me, though. Maybe too effective and logical) or factory-workers on industrial planets with 16 hour workdays.

If you are lucky enough to be born into a higher caste, you may grow to your full height, though.

The fighting forces may not get better but at least a bit more food (Planetary Defense Force are at the low end of this. They are just the local army and have very mediocre equipment and training).

But most people in 40k never see any of the TALL guys and gals in their entire lifes. Astartes are incredibly rare and the only opportunity to see one, may be on holovid or propaganda-posters. Or if a Chaos Warband decides your planet looks plunder-worthy or like a strategical advantage. But you won't be happy to see them.

What makes you feel small though is the whole architectural situation. All the towering spires, hives and cathedrals are built to impress and are about ten times the height of our cathedrals today.

Life in the Imperium of Man is no fun, at all. So it's not surprising Cultists of the Chaos Gods or the Tyranids' Gene Stealers have it easy to establish footholds. Everything seems better than what the Imperium offers. This may be right or wrong.

[melissa-titanium]

i probably look fucking crazy but. "kicked out of the nowhere" ln au .

SERA IF YOU SEE THIS HI MY FRIEND THANKUOU FOR LISTENING TO MY RAMBLE <3

both of them are like. late teenage years in this one. dw im not being weird about it i hate when aus do this shit for the sole purpose of making it romantic/weird. id say 15-16

six ; i think bcos shes taller and shit she couldn't exactly. wear the raincoat anymore. so somewhere along the line she and mono picked it apart and turned it into something else on her outfit -- pants? shirt? i dont know, but that's why her shorts are yellow. she kept her hair short like it is in canon because growing it out is uncomfortable and way too warm for her comfort. also sensory shit from having hair against the back of her neck. after leaving the nowhere she wears a big ass hoodie. it's more efficient than a raincoat because raincoats are LOUD AS HELL.!!!!!!! but still has a similar feeling to her raincoat AND has pockets :) crocs are. well. crocs. if you know me you know. i actually dont think they would be all that efficient when it comes to walking around but . idk. i think she would just carry them around for the purpose of walking around more safely if the ground is hard or something she's just as quiet as she usually is. over the years of living in the nowhere i think six has actually gone on to be the more physically adept of the two. we obviously know she's way faster than him, but his time in canon implies he's got more physical strength in his arms than her. i think this changes over time -- the reason she's so sickly & weak at the start of the game (not even fast enough to catch up to mono really!) is bcos of her lack of confidence and how long she spent in the cabin. the longer she stays with mono honing her skills she goes back to kicking ass. after a while, she can lift hammers with much more ease than mono can and she probably pokes fun at him for it. HOWEVER, he eventually gets that growth spurt which allows him to run faster thsn her (long legs. holy shit hes gangly) and he pokes fun at her for being short.

mono ; longer hair. he's got No Nutrients so his hair grows real slow so hes basically never cut it. he likes it longer bcos . opposite of six! he is Always Cold. like naturally cold but its still uncomfortable. SERA I SAID THIS 2 U ALSO but i think he's a walking relic. his only exposure to people, real people, is people on tvs. considering the sounds and general theme of all the stuff in the pale city/ads and stuff, i think its safe to say he only has reference of the real world from like. western 60's-90's. both him and six i imagine have severely poor language comprehension and grammar but if he DOES talk he probably talks like a kid trying to imitate their businessman father from the 70's. and as such; he dresses like his wardrobe is a time capsule. his outfits r still dark and cover his limbs but he looks like a total dork. fucking overalls and shit LOL. i don't have any ideas for face coverings at the moment but maybe he wears sunglasses & a face mask if he sees it necessary? i very genuinely feel like he'd be fine without face coverings. most people would think he's a cosplayer, seeing as he's kind of sickly looking (basement dweller appearance) with like eye contacts or some shit. idk

also funny thing id like 2 mention. their genders are Strange. when you live in the nowhere, "society" isnt exactly "pushing gender norms" onto you. chat what the fuck is a he/him? i only know Running From Monsters . in my previous notes for what they'd be like in the real world (seen below) i think this would be a very funny thing 2 explore . someone refers to six as maam and she completely ignores them (doesnt know what that means. six internal monologue voice All i am is Six so freaking call me Six) ((they're still little kids at heart i dont think they'd like to swear))

more notes here

[trulyradicalactivist]

srry if you dont want us interacting. we're anti radqueer and anti transid but sometimes we think joining the rq and transid community seems fun.

we've seen it from the outside, and we've seen some rqs enable abusive behavior so we've been repulsed by it... but idk lately im kind of just looking at it and like. im just like okay well it cant be that bad.

i just dont want to identify with a term thats associated with harmful ideology. what is even the true definition of radqueer ??!! like, a even updated definition..? theres got to be.

idk why i feel so attracted to the rq and transid community today. we're usually so repulsed but. yet again idk. i personally even want to experiment with transids.

like now im just thinking about it its just like. when i think of identity. im just like "who the fuck cares". i have anarchist views and want to uplift and support others completely while being against anything abusive and unhealthy and is the radqueer community really like that? i mean, are we just seeing it from the outside?

if we join the radqueer and transid community will others turn on us? could we identify with transids ??? we just dont want to identify with anything that means supporting ableism, abuse, etc. thats all we want but maybe we're just looking at the bad parts of the radqueer and transid community

auughghhhhh i dont iknow i dont knowwww 😭

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Answers are under the cut.

“i just dont want to identify with a term thats associated with harmful ideology. what is even the true definition of radqueer ??!! like, a even updated definition..? theres got to be.”

There is an updated definition. Actually, there are many. Radqueer, after it's initial coining, had a recoin, and many have made things like pre and post radqueer to go along with it. However, the general basis of radqueers ideology is “live and let live”, which speaks for itself. All people, nonpeople, people-ish creatures, and so on, are all equal and accepted as non-normative as they are.

According to https://radqueeredu.carrd.co/#meaning , the definition of radqueer is: “Radqueer, often broken down to Radical Queerness, is a blanket term that covers a list of ideologies while technically being an ideology in itself. While there is seemingly a lot of debate surrounding the label itself and its exact meaning, it is generally agreed that the basis of the radqueer ideology is acceptance of all queer identities to a radical extent. This includes accepting and supporting controversial queer identities such as; mspec monos (ex: bi/pan/omni lesbians/gays), overlapping or contradictory labels(ex: lesboys/turigirls), trans-identities including non-gendertransids (ex: transrace, transage, etc.), paraphilias and parasexualities. The ideology also includes support for non-queer related subjects such as; non-traumagenic systems, freedom in fiction (ex: pro/com/darkship,dark fiction, etc.), non-humanism (ex: therians, otherkins, etc.), bodily autonomy. Generally speaking, and to sum this all up, radqueer means "live and let live" to it's fullest extent in terms of personal identity! Due to this radical acceptance, there has been a decently sized community built around this ideology and different branches of it, known as the Radqueer Community.”

Here is (to my knowledge) the original coining post of the term Radqueer. https://archive.ph/jiYnS . Unfortunately, I am currently unable to find the flag and coining post for the New Radqueer flag and term, but if I find it, I will reblog this post with it.

“like now im just thinking about it its just like. when i think of identity. im just like "who the fuck cares". i have anarchist views and want to uplift and support others completely while being against anything abusive and unhealthy and is the radqueer community really like that? i mean, are we just seeing it from the outside?”

That ideology is the basis of radqueer itself. As I stated before, it is live and let live. It is based upon an anarchist view of identity and how it affects society as a whole. Conabuse (consensual abuse) is a thing in the community, but one could compare that to kink within pride. A foundational item that we must accept as simply the way of nature when identity is put up for self interpretation. In short, it is just the way life goes. Where there is identity there is the identity between partners, whether romantic, platonic, or simply transactional. As it is stated in the name, it is completely consensual.

“if we join the radqueer and transid community will others turn on us? could we identify with transids ??? we just dont want to identify with anything that means supporting ableism, abuse, etc. thats all we want but maybe we're just looking at the bad parts of the radqueer and transid community”

In truth? Maybe. People are cruel and can turn on one another for simple things. That shouldn't stop you. The Radqueer Community fights against ableism, sexism, transphobia, bigotry of all kinds. We fight for identity, for self reflection, for the equality of all people. It is a community of kindness. Yes, I concede, we have had our fair share of bad apples, but I have never seen that rot slip into the core of what we have. We all understand one thing. It is to fight for freedom for all. I will say, anti-radqueers lie. They lie often. It is common I see stereotypes and misinformation spread around like factual statements. You want the truth? Ask the community yourself and see what you find. Do not rely on a third party for your opinions.

My belief? I love the radqueer community. I do my volunteer work in its name and I take pride and joy in my transidentites. From those who are Transracial, to ones who are Objectum, to TransHarmed/TransHarmful identifers, to the Conabuse partakers, to those who are Necros, to those who are simply far from the norm in their own unlabeled ways, we all deserve the joy of being able to identify how it is we please. With no harm done to us or those around us, we are as entitled to joy as all others.

I wish you well. Have a lovely day.

[torimidori2-blog]

I'm poly, and I keep getting people who don't understand what the difference between polyamory, open relationships, and cheating, so let this be an educational moment for all the mono people out there.

Polyamorous is when someone is attracted to or in a relationship with more than one person at the same time. This is all with consent from everyone involved. A group of poly people who are dating are called a polycule. Just like regular monogamous relationships, poly relationships can consist of romantic, platonic, sensual, and sexual attraction, and can even be done with people who are aspec (on the ace spectrum).

An open relationship is when someone is attracted to more than one person, but the person who you're dating isn't attracted to the people you date. For example: if the relationship started of monogamous, and you decide you want to open the relationship in order to cater to a specific need that your current partner can't provide, that means you and your partner can see other people outside of your relationship with consent from your partner. Just like poly people, this can also be done between people who are aspec and you could have different reasons for wanting another separate relationship, whether you need a sensual, sexual, romantic, or platonic/queer platonic relationship. In my opinion, I think open relationships should be a last resort after communicating with your partner enough to where you both realize that your relationship needs aren't being met, but you still care enough about each other to still want to be together.

Cheating is when someone in a committed relationship sees other people without consent from their significant other(s). The reason why cheating is bad, is not because they're dating someone else, it's because you trusted them to not break the boundaries of the relationship by seeing other people, and they did anyway.

Even if you're in a poly relationship, you can cheat because if you didn't trust your partners enough to tell them that you're interested in seeing someone else and it breaks their boundaries and makes them feel violated and uncomfortable, that's cheating. It's also a danger to the polycule because they don't know the person you brought in and they weren't aware of you bringing them in. Why would you not tell your cule who you're dating when they're usually comfortable with letting more people in? For all we know, they could hurt the cule, or hurt you, or they could be hiding something themselves.

Someone who tells you that their actually poly after they got caught cheating is a blazing red flag. Cances are, they're just trying to find a valid excuse to cheat and get away with it. Someone who tells you that they want to open a relationship before sorting out the issues in their current relationship is a blazing red flag. Especially if you have a solution to the problems that you're facing, and it could've been solved through negotiating with your partner.

To be honest, as a poly person, I don't understand why cheating is a thing. For one, it could be because being monogamous is the societal norm, and seeing other people is a means of trying to secretly bypass that norm, but I don't think thats the case seeing that there is a whole cheating culture that proudly says that they like to cheat and gloat about how many people they play on a constant basis. It could be the fact that people just think that emotions are a game to be played with, or it could be some sort of insecurity that they have with the relationship they started before they decided to cheat. But fr, can someone tell me the reason why people cheat? I don't understand, and I need a real valid answer. Not some "They were boring and I don't like them anymore." because you can either do one of two things there, break up with them, or talk to them about how you feel and tell them what you want from them moving forward.

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Monosexual Trans* Pride Flag

Mono- attracted to one gender; monoromantic or monosexual.

Trans*: transgender, transsex, transvestic, transnominal, transpronominal...

Genderqueer Monosexual Pride Flag

Genderqueer: umbrella term for non-normative, non-assimilationist, non-cis, and non-straight gender identities, experiences, expressions, presentations, and related.

Nonbinary Mono- Pride Flag

Non-binary: umbrella term for identities outside the gender binary; someone whose gender is beyond strict man/woman binary; non-aptobinary; not exclusively nor integrally male or female all the time; binaryn't (not binary); non-dual; non-dichotomous; neither masculine or feminine.

[cursecuelebre]

All About Mania, Roman and Etruscan/Roman Goddess of Sprits and the Dead

Attributes

Ghosts

Death

Spirits

Nightmares

Madness

Chaos

The Night/Darkness

Dreams

Symbols

Woolen dolls called monioe

The fig hand

Poppies

Graveyards

Bones

Offerings

Garlic

Poppies

Coins

Prayers/funeral rites

Graveyard dirt

Water

Death work

Shadow work

Tarot:

Death

Judgement

General Informantion

Mania is a Roman goddess but originally she came from Etruscans who thought of her being the mother of spirits or the Manes, the beloved dead or divine dead. These can be the penates and lares she is considered to be a goddess of life and death. The name derives from the proto-indo-European word “To think”, she is link to madness and lunacy, the ancients believed that if one is mad they have been touched by the divine. She along with Mantus ruled the underworld in Etruscan mythology, called the mother or grandmother to Manes and as well to the Lares. Before the empire of Rome when Italy was divided the Etruscans would sacrifice young boys to appease Mania to ward off any evil spirits however when Rome unified the country they disbanded that practice but kept some of the Etruscan traditions with theirs replace the sacrifice with garlic and poppies, though she seems to be not so great but reminder that she is the goddess of all spirits the good, the bad, and the ugly and what happened with the sacrifices was more to do with societal norms unfortunately. She protects households from dangerous spirits one of them is when the new moon that is closest to Nov 1 all entryways are closed and shut with garlic hanging at the frame along with woolen dolls and poppies also her image to scare off spirits like how the Gorgon was used in Greek culture. It was said that manes would kidnap young children and bring havoc. One of these protective measures is the hand gesture called Mono Fig or Fig hand, this gesture is protective against the evil eye but also evil spirits, it’s a closed fist with the thumb between your forefinger and middle finger. This gesture symbolises the woman’s vulva which signifies life and fertility of both men and women.

In mythology she was a nymph called Lara, she was the daughter of the river God Almo. She told Juno about Jupiter’s infidelity and as punishment he ripped out her tongue and sending her to be the nymph of marshy waters and ruler of the speechless realm, Mercury was her escort but he ended falling in love with her and she bore the first spirits called Lares. She is also known as Muta or Dea Tactia (Dumb Goddess) which is quite mean in my opinion. As Mania Genita she was offered sacrifices of a dog to not bring unfortunate luck or death upon a good family member. She is considered to be the Mother of the dead and souls in her realm that became her children. Today she is called Mania della Notte (Mania of the Night) where she wanders the streets at night giving people dreams and nightmares, she is deemed as a bogeyman in Tuscany.

For me she reminds me a bit of Hekate and Presphone as she is share quite few similarities between the two goddesses. If you work with Presphone or Hekate you may like to worship or to work with Mania as well.

[alicepooryorick]

So just pondering here but I feel like a big reason why gen Z at large has phrases like "ok Boomer" and use "millenial" as an insult is because, as a hyper fragmented generation, we don't have an identity beyond our generation. Our generation had the perfect social queues to guide us to be permanently online, leading to us finding those we are the MOST alike, leading us to mostly only talk to those who are exactly like us. This, therefore of course, led to the death of mono culture. There is no central cultural icon the vast majority of gen Z is into the same way millenials had Harry Potter and Gen X had friends or Micheal Jackson. All we really have is the upbringing within these cultural norms we all faced. That post 9/11 surveillance spike, that early day internet access that was right as it became useable but before it was truely enforced. The only thing I share with my fellow generation is just that, our socialization. So we cling to that. In an age of hyper individualization, all we have to link us together is our generation's name. That is our tribe. That is our one sense of belonging, especially for white generation Z whom don't even really have a culture to fall back on.

[amadholes-lostre]

Another Wednesday/Wenclair idea because I hate myself- The 5th Ostrace

My brain keeps spewing ideas but refuses to let me write a story lol. The idea is that there is a new Ostrace (using my BNHA au term) category to be generalized.

And that being aliens.

It kinda make sense: nonhumans that can't exactly accustom to norm society, so they will fit into Ostrace society (there're many reason why, especially one big reason).

The idea that multiple alien states contacted humanity before the main series so that the characters could be used to them. The alien states, other than what our countries do for diplomacy like cultural centers and participating in local events, also do student exchange program, including sending some to Nevermore.

(I already have this idea other with other franchises, using my original alien races in doing so, like Harry Potter (got this fic idea since 2013) and The Prom.)

Being nonhumans (some don't even look remotely as one), it will be difficult for the exchange students to fit in. However, another reason why they will be categorized as the 5th Ostrace- well, other than some being vastly different in appearance (one of the race, Rín [not actually the race name] is just a rubber forehead human with only pointy ears) is due them being considered mono-sex races (a homosexual species if you will).

Unlike humans and vast majority of animals being gonochorism, the alien races are mono-sex (think Asari from Mass Effect, which what inspired me [either positive or negative]), though ironically the majority will be classified as semi-monosex. Because of that, depending on the species and culture, gender is not as rigid compared to humans, especially Western cultures.

I don't really know else to write ther next one (I feel like I need to finish what my last paragraph left out lol) but I want to talk about the three alien races, or more like the three countries. There're three alien countries (two states having multiple different races) that come in contact. I don't actually have proper names for them (except the United Planetary Democracy, but that because they never bother with a singular name like the UAE), I do have their type of governmen. The three are: the United Kingdom (not actually accurate since kingdom is gender-neutral in the language, also ghere is a good reasonwhy it's called that), the UPD, and the Empire (in their defense, it's not the proper terminology [think Japan, though that isn't good either], so they wasn't as prepared for the backlash lol).

Okay, enough of that, time to talk about three alien races/countries:

So, first up is the Rín (singular is Rin), who makes up the UK. The UK is one of the states that made up of multiple races, and that because they all originated from the same planet. Rín isn't even a proper race but actually a genus (think Homo like humans). There's some races that aren't even in the same taxonomic family or class, and you piss off a lot of other people off for it. One of the races who made up like 70-80% are - I calling them Idorín for now (I never properly name almost any this, but I did categorize this mentally). Idorín are the most human-like with only superficial details being pointy ears, more colorful anime-like hairs, and having light-blue blood. Internally, their anatomy is a bit more avian (they're still viviparity). This is due to having airsac along lungs, a bit more lighter bones (through more richer with carbon). The average height is 6'3.5, though this depends on the... subsex(lol)? They're also semi-monosex, one being Ovumsere (they give birth; make up 60%), and Polisere (they... provide gametes?; make up 35%)(there are true mono-sex, though very rare; 5%). Anatomically, they're not very different other than heights (only three inches: Ovumsere av. 6'3 and Polisere av. 6'6), voice (only a bit), and genitals (lol). They're very culture diverse, average lifespan of 160 years (now 350 thanks to gene therapy). Also, there're humans in the UK before even contacting Earth (though their population doesn't even make a percentage).

The second race are So'lenas (ironically the name only name I actually come up a decade before), and another ironic twist runs the UPD. The country that has a very vague name is actually the only one that has one species (lol, lmao even). They're human-like, though not like Idorín. They kind of filled up the Blue-Skinned Soace Babe tropes, though not that much (their nose is actually sensory organ like a whale melon, they actually breathe either through their mouth or a blowhole atop their back). Their skin range either teal, light to dark blue, and purple. Their skin is a bit reptilian, though softer, and resemble more like that over your knuckles. They have freckle-like bioluminescence called 'his'kiri (meaning "star-kiss", another named for So'lena is His'lena, "Star-Person"), crest and tendril-like atop their head, semi-aquatic being (though depends on their culture of how they utilize it) which allows them to hold their breath 10-45 minutes (they look very voluptuous because of this), and give live birth (they do have breasts). They have a paddle-line tail that them swim more effectively and digitigrade legs. They're true mono-sex beings, with an average height of 6'4 and a lifespan of 300 years. Because of this, they have very loose gender roles, viewing it more like how queer women view butch and femme identity. Do of the planet (actually a satellite) they hail from (being very hot and humid), many of their culture clothing have lose clothes and transparent garments; it will be common to see their breasts (some fashion are even similar to ancient Minoan)(it also helps they've petite breasts and is not as sexualized compared to many human cultures).

The third race are Rahros ('hr' pronounce like Spanish J but with more vibration, also the full name is Ahnta'Sarnu'Rahros), and they're the majority of the Empire. Their government is a semi-constitution theocratic monarchy. The Empire and UK have a huge rivalry, almost Cold War political environment (think England-France rivalry). The race is the least human (being bipedal with a slight hunchback and 4 limbs their only resemblance), being archosauroform, though resembling more to crocodilians than to avians Most of their body are either in scute or soft scales. Though they have an upper and lower mouth, they have a pair of mandible that helps them push large food down their mouth. Their tongue is more like butterflys' (proboscis), and they can't move their mouth sideways (many of their cuisine are bite sides). They have tendrils- sometimes referred as dread or braid- growing from their head that resemble hair, shaping either smooth circle or overlapping scale oval, ranging half-an-inch to 1½ inches in thickness, and being made of keratin- it can be trimmed without hurting them (think like horse hoof trimming). They have three digit fingers and two opposing thumb in each hand. Their legs are digitigrade so they prefer to wear sandals and a small, vestigal tail. Their body shape is athletic and lean. The average height is 6'7.5, with ovumsere 6'6, while polisere are 6'9. (I have an idea Rahros character who's 8'4, 500 pound beef cake. Their dorm is in the 1st because they accidentally collapsed through the second floor. Somehow, they got their ass kick by Wednesday, fought and lost to the Hyde, and enjoys fighting Enid werewolf form). Their ovumsere/polisere ratio is similar to Idorín, though they give birth through oviparity: 45 days for the embryonic development and 8 months for incubation. Their scute colors range from light (similar to blond) to dark brown, bluish black (similar to alligators), and light sky blue. Their average lifespan is 146 years, though to 320 after gene therapy.

(Congratulations to the local lesbian, especially to Yoko and Divina.)

(Rín mocked polisere Rahros for having similar genitals to males, and Rahros fucking hate it.)

(One thing I trying to do is make their culture [each species has hundreds of different cultures and ethnicity] seem as different than our own, especially due to their sex and gender. One thing is that they having communal bathing and multiple relative family units living in the same housing [some Idorín/Rín culture/planet/satellite has segregated sex but this is due of excluding males from public space]).

I don't really have a plot, not compare to the Harry Potter one, however I do have some ideas.

My idea is the two children of my two OC have (ironicall, i based them on Wednesdayand Enid) are a couple, one being an Idorin (ovumsere) and anorher a So'lena. Even though both characters can't get either the other one pregnant (this isn't star trek/star wars), they use genetic engineering, so each child will have one percent of the other parent's genes. The two children are some of the main protagonists in the fic- the other are Wednesday and Enid - following their staying at Nevermore. Some conflict I think of is the Idorin OC having an identity crisis- she basically a clone of their mother and trying to explore who they are (and being short, only 5'8). The So'lena child doesn't have this problem since an average So'lena gain 95% from their mother. However, the So'lena OC too has one, of be it having an ethnic/species identity crisis- they rarely interacted with their own species that wasn't their own So'lena mother (they both lived their Idorin mother maternal family, the housing having around 100 people in it [it helps the family are a noble dynasty]).

Another idea is about how all three (or multiple) species are, either though physically and biologically different from one another and to humans, still share some common traits. One is how all 4 love to gossip and talk shit behind their back. I want Wednesday, who was excited about meeting them, disappointed how asinine, unambitious, and unimaginable they're, being so similar to humans. The Idorin OC will point out how idiotic and problematic she sounded, especially if she had said that to another Idorin.

Probably another idea is Nevermore nonalien characters exploring the aliens culture. One idea is Yoko trying to learn So'lena lingua franca, helps that I based the language on Japanese and Hawaiian (syllabary characters, no third person pronouns, a mixed of particle and grammatical case, subject-object-verb sentence, etc). Divina enjoying swimming with So'lena due of having aquatic body-type, though they will complain about the cold (their thermoregulation is meant to dissipate heat as quickly as possible). Enid will enjoy listening to one of the Rin races (having a more feline appearance) song genre, sounding similar to K-pop and J-pop (genre name in English will be Songstress Motet), though she will be shock just how dark and gruesome some of the lyrics are (think Yoru ni Kakeru).

I don't have much else to add, but this is a good amount, I think.