#learn to love yourself

[milkoomi]

be your own valentine. ᥫ᭡

with valentine’s day just around the corner, it’s important to show yourself love even when this holiday may be your least favorite. self love is the most important kind of love! at the end of the day, we only have ourselves and it’s important to show yourself unconditional and genuine love.

let’s begin …

୨ৎ — self love is vital

let’s start this discussion on why loving yourself is important!

1. it helps your mental health

mental health is greatly impacted by how we feel about ourselves. if we don’t love ourselves, our mental health declines, but when we do love ourselves it feels like we’re healing different parts of ourselves!

this is where self care comes in. taking care of yourself is one of the best ways to show yourself love!

skin care + basic hygiene

journaling

meditate/breathing exercises

partaking in hobbies that make you happy

unplugging from social media

2. it shows you respect yourself

self respect and self love go hand in hand. when you respect yourself, you love yourself! setting boundaries and upholding to your own personal beliefs is a wonderful way of loving yourself. taking the time and energy to respect your needs and yourself as a person shows how much you love yourself!

THE ART OF SELF RESPECT

3. loving yourself makes it easier to love others

rupaul’s most famous quote is, “if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?” and i stand by that!

once you learn to love yourself, you learn to love others in an entirely new way! you figure out what exactly it is you need for yourself and what you should expect when it comes to loving someone else; setting those standards for your future relationships!

୨ৎ — take yourself on dates

solo dates are a wonderful thing to do for yourself! especially with valentine’s day coming up, you should treat yourself to something special!

solo date ideas…

watch a movie at the movie theatre

bookstore date

take yourself to your favorite café with a nice book

treat yourself to brunch or a nice dinner

take yourself on a shopping spree

treat yourself to get your hair/nails done

go to a museum

have an at-home spa day

bake yourself some treats while having a movie marathon

୨ৎ — write yourself a love letter

since valentine’s day is this friday, you have 5 days to write yourself love letters! write one for each day and by the time valentine’s day comes up, read them all and remind yourself how much you love yourself!

you can write yourself a poem or write a letter about your favorite qualities of yourself! i know a lot of us have dreamed about receiving a love letter, so let your fantasies become a reality by writing yourself that long-awaited letter!

୨ৎ — create a gift basket for yourself

receiving a valentine is one of the biggest things a lot of people look forward to on valentine’s day! so take this time to create a little gift basket for yourself!

treat yourself to all your favorite goodies or maybe some things that you need or really want for yourself!

a new journal

skincare products

your favorite candies/sweet treats

include a love letter or a sweet little card

a cozy blanket or socks

new little trinkets

final notes —

allow self love to flow into your field of energy this valentine’s day! this holiday isn’t just about spreading love to others, it’s also about showing yourself love too! remember: you deserve love just as much, if not more, than everyone else!

with lots of love, faustina 🌷

[lavendeerlesbian]

If you needed a reason to say "drop the T" today, here it is.

[ruminate88]

You’re not always as special to some people as they were to you. It’s just how it is.

[selflovewarrior]

something good to start your day! by selflovewarrior on tumblr

[cotton-kiwi-smoothie]

I was watching New Girl earlier and I got this random scene Idea for TFoBS. I'm really debating on whether or not I should post it bc it is a character spoiler but whatever, it's too heart heavy to not put this out on the Internet. So I jotted it down in Obsidian. It may not end up in the fic.

For context Commander Pahina is a pro LGBTQ Christian that has internalized homophobia. And most of the time he's very composed. (He's supposed to be implied to be Bisexual)

Also happy pride month to those who may not be confident in your identity due your upbringing. And to queer people in general.

[gingerbreadheartxcx]

some melanie martinez body positivity quotes for anyone who might need to hear them right now. <3

“your body is imperfectly perfect, everyone wants what the other ones working.” - Orange Juice, K-12

“wanna know something I learned about bodies? they don’t define us, we aren’t our bodies. they’re just temporary. I know it seems impossible, but you can’t expect shallow people to love you, they don’t even have the capacity to understand how amazing you are. and, we all have to learn how to love ourselves without the approval of others.” - Melanie as Crybaby — K-12

“we all take our bodies for granted, we forget how often we’ve fallen, or gotten sick, and through it all, our bodies helped itself. It is a magical meat suit that is completely unique to each one of us. no one in the world has your vessel; it has kept you safe, it has helped you heal, and it is the only thing you’ll have left in your older years. remember, that society at a large spits out unrealistic beauty standards and efforts to profit off of other people’s insecurities. look in the mirror, and learn to fall in love with every inch of you.” Miss Victoria - Interlude between Lunchbox Friends and Orange Juice at the K-12 tour.

[thehandsomedevil88]

What if I said that you spend too much time worrying about relationships and not enough time enjoying being single?

[ani-radio]

Been seeing this trend and was immediately in love and I just HAD to do it with these two!! :) <3 (:

With Al being canonically aroace, this just fitted them so well. I love Alastor to death and so does my OC, Aniela.

Fun to do this! 😁

I swear, their height difference is killing me! 😂😅

[hammbunee]

ig im just gonna have to look up to michelle obama or something as my strong fem role model bc i do NOT wanna end up like any of these mfs in my family

[rainyfestivalsweets]

11/10/23

Just wondering what will happen if I keep up my every other day walk 'n jogging practice.

Where do you think that will take me in 6 months?

4 workouts solid of every other day.

[inmyperfectworld]

Self-Love is the BEST love. 🩷

[noname00z]

I wish I could claw my skin and feel it shred

I wish for that feeling in my stomach to go

I wish my heart would stop being this heavy

I can’t even cry

Only I can scream

My throat is dry and my nights are low

Will this feeling ever stop?

Will i ever be normal again?

Could I be fixed?

Is it too late?

[ruminate88]

When you’ve been the family caretaker soooo long, you don’t know how to “be your own person”. So long your identity was in others. Not everyone understands how lost you are. How easily you hide yourself in one-sided relationships with toxic people because you don’t have to find yourself. You just focus on the other person.

I found myself marrying a really nice guy which is GREAT accept idk who I am and for the first time, I don’t wanna be “him.” I don’t wanna be like him… I wanna be my own. I know what hobbies I have…. That’s not a “true identity” though.

[theanonymousninja247]

This One’s For The Boys

For my guys, my dudes, my broskis, my mates, my pals, and most importantly, my friends

The Sunshine Boys: those who are so good it's kinda hard to believe they actually exist. Not a mean bone in their body. Always got something nice to say. Works quietly in the background, but is always there for you. Smiles are literally blinding; so full of sunshine goodness and light. Honestly just makes your heart warm to see them again. Life is better simply because they light up every single life they touch, and just like the sun, you desperately miss the warmth of their soul and wholesome character when they are gone. Also somehow also a living golden retriever???

The Cinnamon Roll Boys: boys too sweet and wholesome for this world. May or may not give you a cavity. Always spending time in the kitchen thinking about what new masterpieces they want to create. Secret quiet confidence. A real classic gentleman. The type of boy your momma would love, and your siblings want to be their brother. Strong desire to squish face cheeks because they've got that strong baby energy.  Always there with a smile, a hug and a warm plate of homemade cookies. Compassionate to the max, they just wanna share that goodness with everybody. Always makes you feel welcome and part of the family. Best Friend Material hands down, so he will tease. You have been warned. 

The Adventure Boys: Makes everything seem like a grand adventure. Excitedly grabs your hand with a reckless grin, bright eyes and pulls you into whatever form of mischief they're currently up to. Karaoke jam sessions in the car, late-night food runs, stickers and memorabilia of every trip. Doesn't take pictures as much as they probably should because they're always too caught up in the moment. A little reckless, making your heart race just a little, but heart of gold because they just want to experience the world with you. Every adventure becomes a fond memory with soft but often exasperated smiles. 

The Grass Boys: Quiet soft boys who feel more comfortable out in the sun or up in a tree somewhere. Fantastic listener, wicked observant, probably a closet nerd, but is an engaging story teller once you get to know him. Messy hair always up in a baseball cap with golden skin that's been kissed from adventures out in the sun all day. Has fingers and shoes stained with something he's working on. The handyman, knows oodles of random facts and probably could fix anything if you give enough time and a little bit of duct tape. Dad  in training. Not afraid to take the lead when needed to, but always going to make sure your voice has been included. 100% would be the type to dance in the rain with you. 

The Fire Boys: Boys with boisterous voices and quick tongues whose passions blaze within their hearts. Intense and a little in your face, but they just can't hold back how much they feel. Never afraid to stand up for what they believes in and is loyal almost to a fault. Will fight you and for you. Stubborn and doesn't back down, always wanting to find justice for the world because just wants to make it better. Sometimes anger runs away from him, and worlds may burn a little, but there will be nowhere safer than in the warmth of this boy's hug. 

To all the boys, I'm sorry that we live in a world where your thoughts and feelings have been dismissed and made trivial. 

You are important. You are needed. Your influence is making a difference and the world needs more goodness like you. 

From a girl who sees you, is proud of your efforts and loves you from a distance for the wonderful person that you are. 

[lunelfy]

Let it have its way ✿

Let a person blossom in its own way and its own time.

Love is a spectrum, there is not, as it were, nice love, a nasty love. Spiritual love, and material love. Mature affection on the one hand, and infatuation on the other. These are all forms of the same energy. You have to take it and let it grow where you find it. If you find that only one of these forms exist in you, if at least you will water it, the rest of the plant will blossom as well ♥

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[miss-whatshername]

Going to the gym in a slim fitting tee for the first time ever. No baggy shirt today. Can we say confidence?