#the aphobe one lol

[vroomian]

idk what the anon was on and why they feel the need to attack you for your stance?? like dude relax, it's not your life and nobody was attacked or hurt

i have the same feeling on sex as you (fellow aroace lol), bc like ew body fluids and why should i let anything enter my Body that way ever??

also yeah crushes and the obsession with romantic love etc seems Exhausting™

so thanks for sharing your thoughts that articulate mine perfectly <3

Right???? I wish my problems were all that self inflicted lol. Plus they were a total hypocrite like ‘aphobes don’t like ace people because they talk about sex like it’s gross’. By their own logic homophobia is totally okay because gay people talk about straight sex like it’s gross! Like no homie it’s because the ‘phobes are whiny little babies who can’t handle other people having different wants and needs!! Stay in your lane!

I hope that anon in particular knows their takes are rancid and they should talk to actual queer people before they try to educate people lol.

Aroace unite!! We can take over while the allos are busy sucking face (🤢). All the fluids and weirdness of sex makes it impossible to take seriously. It’s an inherently stupid and undignified process!! Sorry not sorry!!

I was 3/4th though a book and then a romance plot kicked in and immediately lost interest 😭 why is everything romance. Where my cool world building girlies at!! Where are my prachetts!!

I like romance when it’s funny or when it s fucked up. Characters who are just so weird about each other are the best <3

[magnus-rhymes-with-swagness]

OKAY who wants to hear about why i think nimona challenges amatonormativity? you do! 🫵

one of the main ways this is accomplished is through ballister and ambrosius’s relationship. it’s arguable that it doesn’t necessarily fit the traditional model of romance - not only are they a queer interracial couple, and not only is their relationship ambiguous in the book, but there are certain instances, especially in the movie, that subvert traditional ideas of romance and friendship.

one instance that really stands out to me is when the director asks ambrosius what’s on his mind and he goes on his imagined rant about how arm-chopping isn’t a love language - you know the one. when he mentions ballister, he refers to him as “the man i love, my best friend.” and not just one or the other, but both! the man i love, and my best friend. he places equal emphasis on both the romantic and platonic aspects of the relationship, valuing ballister in both a romantic context and a platonic context without treating either one as more important than the other.

and even moments such as the first “i love you” and the kiss manage to subvert tradition. both of these things are generally seen as a pretty big deal, especially in fiction - if the characters are kissing or saying “i love you,” it’s usually a moment in which everything changes. a line is drawn, dividing the story into after and now. sometimes it’s dramatic and climactic, with fireworks and a swell of music, but even when it isn’t it’s still seen as a turning point of sorts. now it’s official, now it’s real. but this isn’t the case in nimona. both moments are certainly significant - they do a good job of showcasing the character development and where ballister and ambrosius are on their respective journeys, and are certainly important in terms of representation - but neither one follows the path that most fictional romance does.

another way in which nimona challenges amatonormativity would be the emphasis on friendship! in the tavern scene (in the movie) when ambrosius suggests killing nimona, ballister disagrees and says “she’s my friend.” ambrosius replies with “aren’t i more than that?”, implying he’s more important than a friend - thus upholding amatonormative ideas. ballister becomes angry at that and leaves - challenging this idea and prioritizing his platonic relationship with nimona over his romantic one with ambrosius, as nimona is the one he wants to defend.

additionally, a big part of this scene is the way ballister deliberately rejects institute values while ambrosius unintentionally upholds them. and because the story challenges homophobia and transphobia (and other forms of bigotry) through the lens of the institute, it would make sense for it to challenge amatonormativity too! it’s something that’s become incredibly normalized, to the point that lots of people don’t even know it exists, and this is reminiscent of the institute brainwashing, especially when it comes to ambrosius - he’s been manipulated his whole life and probably genuinely doesn’t understand the level to which he’s internalized institute beliefs.

ballister prioritizes nimona many times, actually. when he tells ambrosius she’s “smart, kind, and quite sophisticated,” when he’s overjoyed to see her again at the end, when he refuses to kill her and saves her instead. over and over, he proves how much he cares about her, even when this involves directly going against what ambrosius wants - which, of course, is really what the institute wants. a core tenant of amatonormativity is the false notion that romantic relationships are more important or valuable than other types of relationships, but ballister actively goes against this!

to conclude, as a story that at its core is about identity and challenging societal beliefs, nimona defies expectations and traditional ideas of what it should or shouldn’t be. it’s possible that amatonormativity wasn’t what the creators had in mind, but the story still manages to challenge it with grace and elegance. just like its main character, nimona refuses to conform to what others want it to be.

[oatmealcrisp-freak]

"shipping saiki is aphobic because he's aroace!"

stares at you with my demiromantic asexual in a committed relationship eyes then looks at the camera like im in the office

[princsstwilightsparkl]

saying "if aroace people can date, then can lesbians date men?" is absolutely aphobic narrative btw!

[aro-culture-is]

Fandom aro culture is being too afraid to talk about your aspec headcanons because the vast majority don't like that and you'll be either ignored or receive hate

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[pinbones]

It really is crazy how everyone but aces seem to be completely over this site's history of ace discourse. Even some of its biggest and shittiest aphobes are still popular bloggers on here, acting like they didn't get a ton of followers by bashing queers they thought were beneath them, and hell a lot of them still act like that to this day

Out of everyone who acted horrible during ace discourse, which was 90% of tumblr users and every tumblr funnyman btw, the one I remember hating the fucking most was one user who had an uwu trustworthy artist aesthetic and posted a lot of hateful bullshit about how aces are both indoctrinated fools and culpable liars. She told an asexual to their face that aces don't experience sexual abuse or corrective rape. To a survivor of corrective rape. And then called them a lesbophobe for saying they were raped. (If you're wondering, she was applauded for this and no one thought it was cruel or strange -- that's how bad this shit was. You would see extremely popular posts on your dash all the time just blatantly sharing disinformation about how depression drugs was what caused asexuality or why the SAM model encouraged violent homophobia or that Hitler and Thatcher were asexual or how asexuals want people to die of AIDS. Telling an ace to their face that getting raped was insignificant and that they're homophobic for talking about it was literally normal discourse.)

This same user then added aro and ace flags to her dumbass pride picrew so she could crosspost the link into our tags for more attention.

Because we were always too cringy to respect but too genuinely harmless to actually matter by their own admission. Like a stuffed target dummy you could practice fagbashing on and then put away when it wasn't cool and trendy anymore.

[aroaessidhe]

2023 reads // twitter thread

In My Dreams

romcom novella

when the nature reserve she works at goes into lockdown due to dangerous fugitives in the area, an ace woman is stuck for two weeks with the childhood friend she was in love with as a teenager

[boneless-mika]

If you ever have the instinct to make a useless addition to a post that you know will be received badly? Possibly because you're aware that you're about to say something nobody should or perhaps it would cause an argument with one of your closest friends?

Somebody said something incredibly foolish and inconsiderate in your favorite fandom tag and you just get an itching to tell them to stop it but you know it would not change their mind?

May I recommend this epic new technique called "pretend you never saw the post". I have been utilizing this technique for years and I truly believe that with enough practice you, too, can stop saying things you shouldn't

[fxggotclown]

i cant wait until its like five years in the future and the people saying horrific things are pretending they didnt say them just like w ace discourse ^_^

[darkaviarymc]

I'm not trying to call anyone out, I'm not mad at anyone, I'm literally just venting in the tags...

[kargaroc]

tumblr is so scary showing you posts someone made years ago, like I saw a post from an artist I like saying some bs that I won't specify; and I was like ???? then check the date and it said 2016

[22degreehalo]

I know twitter discourse is terrible but I am actually arguing with someone online for one of the first times in my life and I legitimately and sincerely just got told that the MC of Loveless is a terrible panphobic sex-shamer because when she finally realised that sexual attraction exists she said aloud “This has to be a fucking joke!” out of bewilderment and frustration.

[confused-canid]

"B-b-but what if ur not actually aro!! What if u just haven't met the right person yet?? Ur still young 🥺"

Than I'll stop using the aro label. I'll realize that I was incorrect and go on with my life. No one's changed my mind yet though. I haven't met that "special someone 🥺🥺🥺🥺" "yet" so I don't care about this entirely hypothetical person.

Aphobes are stupid ngl. Realizing that this label doesn't fit me (which it will almost definitely still fit me as I get older) isn't going to be some world shattering event. I'll move on, I'll accept my mistake. Lol

I'm not ace, but this post wasn't about being aroallo so go wild, I se you aroaces and aces, y'all r cool so you can tag it as ace and aroace

[xxtc-96xx]

i dunno if you saw or heard about it, but there was a dumb aphobic poll on here recently and i just wanna say that all the of the OG 'Two family (mewt, newt, and huet) being aroace is such a power move. aphobes are nothing in the face of the most powerful psychic types in the world (and huey).

People still try to throw possible ships at them lol if I said they were gay no one would try to throw straight ships at them but when you say someone is aroace for some reason they don’t believe you XD

[caninekin-culture-is]

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[trans-androgyne]

It feels like such a small thing go focus on but remembering the “transmisandrist transfem flag”… it’s all literally just a cycle.

There was a genuine flag made back in 2021 on Twitter which was “anti-mlm/wlw solidarity / gay-hating lesbian” because this same type of person was mad that the ocean gay and achillean flags exist.

(and were strangely updet that both of those flags they hated were made by and included transmascs. A lot of bashing on “only whiny insecure transmascs like or use these so they’re garbage for us Real Gays” which I still see around)

And before that it was “panphobic lgbt pride flags” And before that there were plenty of “aphobic lgbt pride flags” and entire joke pride flag blogs mocking the concepts of things like Xenogenders or Neopronouns.

It’s all just one big bullshit cycle and they bury it once they move on and ignore everyone going “none of what you said what true and you hurt me?” with “lol old discourse”. It’s getting harder and harder to forget and forgive. I don’t know if I will either.

(I’m literally not on Testosterone so anyone weird towards you for your post will have to blame my Estrogen)

It’s exhausting. Something desperately needs to change in the online queer community but I don’t know how.